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terresdebrume · 5 months ago

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I have trouble figuring out what I want. This isn't new, I'd been thinking of getting a tattoo since I was twelve and only did it when I was 21. I still don't feel the obvious "want" people seem to experience even with respect to transitioning, yet that desire hasn't moved since I came out as trans 8 years ago

So, yesterday, just because the time where I can start trying is kinda getting there fast, I decided to take a "Am I ready to have a baby" quiz, and I have to admit I was quite miffed that if you answer questions about your life with "I like my life right now" the test immediately goes to "you're not ready"

Idk, am I missing something about wanting children? I was fine with my arm without tattoo, that doesn't mean I regret mine. I don't understand why a person enjoying their life without children is apparently a sign they shouldn't have any... Are we meant to be miserable adults until we procreate?

Absolutely baffling reasoning.

#Matt has a life #Hidden somewhere #Anyway... yeah.#still reflecting on that subject #other sticky point: people keep asking me what my criteria for a donor would be an I'm like... I largely don't care?#I'm gonna be alone with that baby #if the donor is healthy it doesn't matter to me what my child looks like #idk maybe I'll find out something different if/when I reach that part of the process but like. I'm fine with a Khmer donor #I'm fine with a white or black or east asian donor #.... although i guess if the child comes out looking too different there's a risk people might think I'm not the parent #would that bother me? mmh #not sure #i mean maybe in the long run but i figure smart people will figure it out through our interactions #and people in the streets don't count #anyway #my family is mixed #my sister is quite pasty but all our cousins are biracial with black fathers so it's not like a non white child would be the only poc #in our family #which would be my only jard line #if we were all pasty white I'd specifically look for white donors #... although i suppose of we're going in that direction it would pay to look at white/black/biracial donors so that the kid can have #more of the family look #instead of being the only part asian child #reflexion to continue

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