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ballsballsbowls · 3 months ago

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Happy 40th birthday, B! I'm so glad you get to celebrate the big four-zero today. Any wishes for turning forty today? I bet you're so happy to be 40 now.

Thanks, Word!

My wishes for my birthday are as follows:

I wish to not feel the way I felt when I told my mother that she had the wrong candles out again for a very long time. (My mother is not losing it any more than she was six months ago, but she admitted later that she hadn't gotten a decent night's sleep in over a week, which should explain what isn't explained by there being 3 kids and we all struggle with everyone's ages honestly).

I wish my mother picked a different day to tell me her stepmother (whom I haven't seen since I was about 12 years old and haven't spoken to since I was 18 or 19) died in March.

#stop b think of the children #there's not even an interesting story or anything as to why we didn't talk #mom's dad remarried in his late 60s to a widow with her own grown kids/grandkids #They met and got married in FL close to her family and I only recall meeting her a handful of times #and she outlived her second husband by like 25 years #my family wasn't even mentioned in the obituary and nobody contacted us about the death!#I'm sure this is actually not an uncommon situation anymore with retirement communities and whatnot #but growing up in Appalachia where your grandparents often live pretty close? It was pretty wack honestly

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