#meanwhile they are the only one's who've reacted this badly
Explore tagged Tumblr posts
Text
rant incoming, see prev post (transphobia tw)
#i didn't want to add on to the prev post but yeah that kinda hit home#i came out as trans to my parents about 2 months ago#i was so scared to tell them for years exactly because of what prev post was talking about#i had no idea how they'd react#and then when i finally told me they said they needed time#which sure i understand that#and the first week they still talked about it but in this way that felt like i was the cause of all their suffering#and why would i do something like that to them?#and you're not really going to mutilate yourself are you (meaning medically transition)?#and you can't expect us to use different pronouns for you that's ridiculous#and how dare you even think about changing your name etc#and they say it's because they're worried about me#because what would other people think? what would the family say?#and surely no one will ever fall in love with you if you're trans#they think I'm purposefully setting myself up to be isolated from society forever#meanwhile they are the only one's who've reacted this badly#so that was all said the first week so naturally after that i was scared to bring it up again#and they haven't really talked about either since then#except for the way my mom keeps suggesting i dress more feminine and keeps buying me clothing from the female section#and send me pictures of girls with pixie cuts when i told her i wanted to change my hairstyle a bit#and during Christmas dinner my grandma brought up someone who I don't know who came out as trans#and spoke about how that person's mother or grandmother had reacted badly#and my mom was defending the transphobic person in that story#while i was sitting right there!!#meanwhile my aunt and grandma (who don't know I'm trans) where definding the trans person#and i just urgh like i know it's not easy for them but they just make me feel so guilty like I'm somehow ruining their lives#and i feel stupid for wanting that unconditional love and support from my parents#like they'll say they love me but it feels so hollow when they won't even acknowledge this major part of me#and i really just don't know how to feel about it all#vince talks
5 notes
·
View notes