#me just stubbornly NOT inventing a tag for the valentino pregnancy extended ask-reply universe srry

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bub has barely been born in the au and yet something that i keep coming back to about geriatric vale mpreg is how older pregnancies fundamentally it changes the trajectory of your life. of course, any person having a child at any age changes your life. but when you're older, especially older than what is typical, it means you hit different milestones at different ages. my parents were 36 & 38 when i was born so they were in their forties when i was starting school whilst other parents were in their twenties. my mum's sister married at 19, kid at 21 meaning by the time she was in her fifties she was well into empty nest + grandkids era. for vale, this will so radically change where he is at. so many of his same age peers will have had kids, maybe they're teens. and he's there with a newborn. he's older but doesn't know if he's wiser and he thought he was going to slow down and now he has this whole new person that he never expected. he thought the possibility of this was behind him and yet here they are. of course, irl vale is going through the same sort of things yet you can't tell me there isn't a stark difference between actually carrying a child and watching someone else carry a child. i am taking this waaaayyyyy to seriously for a tumblr au but i guess it's just hitting close to home in a weird way? idk, i was just always the baby in an 'old' family. also! this wouldn't be the same for marc because he's younger. depending on when this happens timelines wise he might still be in his twenties which is far more socially expected. and that's not even getting into the interpersonal complications between the two of them. okay i'm gonna stop now because this is starting to get weirdlu invested but i am weirdly invested in this au! the hold it has on me!

yeah i'll be honest, i have sort of the opposite gut reaction from vale's irl "don't have kids too young" thing based on his parents, who he thinks fucked up. My parents also had me late (buddies!) and describe similar very weird situations at play groups and school, and also my closest set of grandparents had my mother late and for me this means people are ill and dying allllll the time and I Hate It. I have a total intellectual support for holding off having babies, focusing on your career, being utterly sure you're ready-- and a total personal horror of having babies late and then making your kids watch you start dying or getting quite ill in their teens. Personal trauma <3 <3 Which I am now tackling repeatedly For Fun in vale geriatric mpreg au I guess lmaoooo.

I won't fly to close to the sun (dealing with ppl's irl families in the rpf storyworld haha) but I do think about vale and luca having their kids at about the same time, and the way ppl joke that they're mentally closer to the same age and also sort of in the same stage of life, despite vale being old enough to nearly be luca's father. Interesting! For mpreg universe vale, this is yeah thrown into starker relief. He's not going to groups or anything and he's getting extremely private prenatal care and checkups after the fact, but he maybe does the math once or twice and he'll be about to turn 60 when the kids turn 18, and that's whew. He deletes that number from his head and doesn't think about it again for like 3 years. Marc (a pretty average parenthood age, but the father, and thus actually could have skated by being older. but isn't. at all) also refuses to think about it! Possibly even more militantly than Vale!