#maybe it'll always be kinda shitty and reductive

[bananonbinary]

not to start discourse but i’ve been thinking about the term “trans-misogyny exempt” because like... we dont have other words for that for other forms of oppression? and i dont think i’m even criticising the term here, as much as....i really wish we DID have those terms? but it’s complicated, because i think “tme” basically just became shorthand for “is not a trans woman” which is basically pointless as new terms go.

but this only came up because i was trying to talk about groups that are affected by anti-male sentiment, who are notably NOT all male themselves! but since there isnt an inclusive word for that group, people angrily assumed i was trying to declare everyone on the list male. so it really is worth having terms to discuss “people who have been targeted for this, regardless of how they personally identify,” turning the discussion from something the victim is that drew the aggression, to something the perpetrator does based on their own assumptions about the victim.

again tho, it seems like tme has only been around a short while and already is just a binary “is or is not a trans woman (or an nonbinary person, but like, one i secretly think is basically a trans woman)” which defeats the fucking point and starts weird arguments about whether someone could have “really” experienced transmisogyny, or if it was ~secretly~ a different misplaced form of bigotry that better aligns with the accuser’s perception of the victim’s Real Identity(tm).

i guess the conclusion here is that it’s a good idea for a term, really wish we had it for like, general misogyny and shit so i wouldnt have to be reductive or awkwardly exclude people every time i tried to talk about sexism, but tumblr discourse is fucking stupid and ruins everything and i hope people are doing good things with the term far away from here.