#married a filipina woman

[spiderb00]

ever since i sent that ask a couple weeks ago about sophia being a great kisser i haven’t stopped thinking abt it.. pls can we get something similar like a first kiss between sophia and yn (famout or not) 🙏

Hi anon! I understand you, I think we all think a lot about Sophia.

Well, I decided to do this like in the Fam Out universe, 'cause I think I'll spend a while without writing new things for them both (And also bc I love them both in the Dream Academy timeline), so I'm here dropping some crumbs to try to make up for the missing time.

Sophia and Yn kissed on the second date, they were both so nervous it was a bit messy.

Yn and Sophia spent the whole night trying to find a good time to get closer and finally do what they wanted so much.

But it was only when Yn left Sophia at home that the two relaxed and finally created the perfect mood.

Yn had taken Sophia for a picnic, they watched the sunset, laughing all afternoon until the sun finally disappeared and gave way to the moon. When Yn parked the car just before where the Dream Academy girls' dorm room was, they exchanged glances, Yn's desire consumed her inside, while Sophia didn't know what to do to stop the feeling that was inside her.

"I had fun tonight." Sophia was the first to speak, the Filipina's eyes wandering between Yn's eyes and lips.

"Me too. Everywhere is fun when I'm with you." Yn spoke tilting her head back on the bench, noticing the look Sophia was giving her.

"Don't look at me like that." Yn spoke, cutting the silence that had settled in the car.

"Why?" Sophia asked, getting closer to Yn.

Their eyes were full of desire, they both longed for that moment, the moment when their lips would touch and they would feel love flow from within them.

"Because it reminds me how much I want to kiss you." Yn said, lifting her head slightly from the back of the seat.

Seeing Yn's head tilted slightly to the right side, Sophia approached, getting close almost as if asking permission, making Yn finally close the space between the girls' mouths.

Tilting her head to the left, Sophia deepened the kiss, the two feeling a cloud of peace around them, the love grated in their chests seemed about to explode, showing the amount of beautiful feelings stored inside. If that were a cartoon, flowers and hearts would be scattered all over the car, filling the air and making everything colorful and full of life, because that was how the two girls felt.

Even with the shortness of breath beginning to be present in the kiss, the two girls wanted to stay together, giving each other kisses on each other's lips as they tried to catch their breath. As she walked away, Sophia was panting and her nose was red, she looked beautiful and Yn could tell that she had just come out of a freezer if she didn't know why the Filipino girl was so red.

Yn on the other hand, looked like a mess. The girl's hair was slightly messed up by Sophia's hands, and her lips were totally stained with Sophia's lip gloss.

Laughing a little at the visual mess that Yn was, Sophia gave the girl one more peck before sitting properly in the car seat.

"What's wrong?" Yn asked.

"Nothing, it's just that you look very disturbed." Sophia said, a passionate smile on her face. Anyone who saw them inside the car could see the love exuding from inside the vehicle.

"Don't blame me, I just kissed the most beautiful woman in the world." Yn said, making Sophia laugh and pat her.

"Are you going to call me tomorrow?" Sophia asked, her lower lip between her teeth as she waited for Yn's answer.

"Anything you want, Miss Laforteza." Yn said, making Sophia roll her eyes and open the car door.

"It's better to be." Sophia said, getting out of the car taking one last look at the street, before putting her head in again, grabbing you by the collar of your shirt and giving you one more kiss on your lips, before finally heading towards the Dream Academy building.

"I'm going to marry her." You said, leaning back on the bench as you waited for the Filipina to enter the dormitory safe and sound.

[hotvintagepoll]

Propaganda

Marpessa Dawn (Black Orpheus)—She's like. fairy tale princess etheral pretty. truly eurydice realness. AND she's a singer AND she's a dancer. she used to be a governess/nightclub dancer, which isn't hot per say i just thought it was an interesting job combination. If you want to hear her sing just look up the Black Orpheus soundtrack

Marilyn Monroe (How to Marry a Millionaire, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, Some Like It Hot)— Ngl I thought you all were lying about sexual attraction until I saw Marilyn Monroe in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes

This is round 5 of the tournament. All other polls in this bracket can be found here. Please reblog with further support of your beloved hot sexy vintage woman.

[additional propaganda submitted under the cut.]

Marilyn Monroe:

She's amazing!!! A classic bombshell, as well as a strong women who overcame so many obstacles. She also advocated for others, like Ella Fitzgerald.

That fucking saxophone that cuts in whenever she appears on screen in Some Like it Hot

I mean, it's Marilyn Monroe. She's adorable. She's gorgeous. She funny. She's the total package

She's the original American sex symbol, an iconic beautiful woman with eyes you could get lost in, legs for days, gorgeous hair, and a cute tummy. Her voice! Just listen to her voice!!!!!

She is considered one of THE sex symbols of the 1960s and one of the greatest actresses of all time! She HAS to be on this list!

no vintage movie woman is more iconically hot

People are most familiar with pictures of her in the white dress or the Happy Birthday Mr President one, but imo she is at her most beautiful and looks most comfortable when she is photographed by women like Eve Arnold

It’s Marilyn Monroe. If Aphrodite was an actual person, she’d be Marilyn. Do I really need to say more?

What can I say that hasn't been said? Marilyn's legacy is so much bigger than she was in life. She's a defining symbol of 50s and 60s Hollywood sex and it's obvious why. She was absolutely stunning and the camera loved her.

Marpessa Dawn:

Marpessa Dawn was an filipina/african american who became well known as an actress, singer and dancer in France. She is most famous for her role in 'Black Orpheus' in which she played Eurydice. It's difficult to find a picture where she and her husband, the actor Eric Vander, aren't kissing or hugging or laughing together, they are incredibly cute (and hot).

basically everyone and their mother will agree that marpessa dawn was one of THEE og vintage black women working in cinema (even if it was mostly in french cinema! the cross language barrier slay). mostly did her work in french cinema, and her smile in black orpheus is literally like the sun breaking over the sea

[izzabela]

thinking of price married to a filipina woman.

just a small morsel, a little sampaguita next to a towering tree called john (he calls her his flower though).

except the little flower whipped the 141s cap'n in shape (perks when someone can out-stubborn the most stubborn).

probably so many cultural differences, especially when it comes to food (though, with how well-traveled john is, i don't think its too bad of a difference).

john's in line for sure, and he's not so much of a "captain" when his flower scolds him for leaving his clothes on the ground (she doesn't pick it up either, one look and he'll get it all cleaned up- vacuuming that spot up too for safe measure)

like, gaz, soap, and ghost are definitely watching in silent awe at how... behaved? obedient? john is around her.

even got his vulgar language under control.

it'll probably go down along the lines of soap, ghost, and gaz getting invited over under invitation of their captain.

they're inside, and they meet her, a little thing that looks like she couldn't hurt a little gnat.

then, probably as you're all eating, john is all relaxed when he lets a string of curses out. he stops, and he can feel your cutting gaze on him.

next thing the three men know, their captain is dragged into their shared bedroom, and they can hear the "alrigh' flower, i apologize" or "please flower, no' in front o' the boys..."

when he comes out, his boys are stifling a laugh

"enough of 'at, you muppets" he snarls, but his shoulder is (lightly) smacked by her.

my first, real, COD write-in

pls interact if you'd like to see more of sampaguita and price!

[sirensea14]

Ship ship ship shit art--i mean, ship art!

I was doing an el filibusterismo assignment when i randomly got my ass to draw Maria Sirena and Benedict Inkwell💀 (yes, thats their spanish colonial era names XD)

Maybe drop in a some lore,

Maria Sirena De La Mar y Noche

-a beautiful yet cautious and fierce Filipina woman, she doesnt trust any of the Spaniards nor any other nationalities who come to Las Filipinas. She is also known as Maria Sirena. She has a beautiful singing voice and some colorful talents. She often spend late nights to do art. Her family has been in good contact with the town's Kura Paroko (parish priest), though, she dislikes him especially whenever she catches him staring at her. One day, a group of American friends spot her on a warm afternoon and they try to befriend her. Especially that man with a blue three-piece suit, a red bow tie and a fedora hat... (Also, if you know the story of either Maria Clara or Juli in El Fili, yk whats gonna happen to Maria Sirena, except she has a good ending compared to the aforementioned two characters)

Benedict Inkwell

-a famous artist in America who draws portraits of people in black paint and a white canvas. He also does inky portraits and pencil portraits. He didnt plan to go to Las Filipinas but his friends, Boris Connor, and his wife--which is also a friend-- Alice Connor (nee Angel) convinced him. They also tagged along the twin brothers Carlos and Manuel Blanco, and Manuel's girlfriend, Cala Maria Lithos. Benedict is often teased by his friends by calling him his famous nickname "Bendy" because he gets a lot of troubles as a child

Other characters

Boris Connor - Benedict's childhood friend and best friend. He is a married wolf. He is a Jack of all trades, meaning he can do any work and any occupation (Like Bert frlm Mary Poppins) and is also a Magician. He likes playing the Clarinet. American.

Alice Connor nee Angel - Boris' beautiful singing wife. Also a childhood friend of Benedict. She can play the piano and cooks very well. She is very friendly and open minded. American.

Carlos Jose Diego Blanco y Fernandez - the older twin brother. He likes collecting old stuff, especially vintage plates and cups. He is very good at wielding guns. Spanish. He is part of the Guardia Civil, to serve and protect the people--like his (retired) grandfather.

Manuel Alejandro Francisco Blanco y Fernandez - The younger twin brother. Also has a hobby of collecting vintage dishes like his brother. Spanish. He has a girlfriend. Good at wielding guns too, especially the sniper rifles. He is part of the Guardia Civil, to serve and protect the people--like his (retired) grandfather.

Cala Maria Lithos - A famous singer and Maxwell's girlfriend. Greek. She has strong eyes (idk how to put mataray into english lol) which sometimes makes people assume she is a bossy and rude person. But after her fame and people got to know her, her eyes became a part of her charm.

(i dont understand why spanish names gotta be so long ;-;)

Also note: all of the characters' powers here; bendy's ink manipulation, siren's mermaid tail and soul manipulation abilities, cuphead and mugman's fingerguns, cala's gorgon stare, are all REMOVED. Nobody has powers here, only guns, gunpowder, fire, knives and voices.

[[Theres a possibility they may be humanized but im not really dedicated to this lol]]

Here's the noli one (old ver)

[xraysandgammarays]

Maria Clara Reimagined: A Quiet Strength Misunderstood

My Hot Take:

I find it both unfair and unjust that we often portray Maria Clara from Jose Rizal’s Noli Me Tangere and El Filibusterismo as weak, submissive, and unworthy of being seen as a representative figure for Filipinas. This perspective dismisses the strength and resilience she showed in fighting her battles, albeit in her own quiet and unconventional ways.

Let us begin by acknowledging that Maria Clara’s form of resistance was not about loud defiance or outward rebellion but rather about challenging expectations and societal norms in deeply personal and impactful ways. She didn’t just conform to the rigid standards that were placed on Filipina women during her time. Instead, she forged her own path- unfortunately, at great personal cost.

A Fight Against Expectations

Consider the pressures she faced: Maria Clara was expected by society, her family, and her father to follow a conventional role as a wife and mother. Yet, she made a conscious decision to reject these expectations. When she found out that she just lost the love of her life, she walked away from wealth, social status, and familial ties. This wasn’t a mere act of personal heartbreak—it was a rejection of material gains, social ambition, and the compromises that many women were expected to make just to fit into their predetermined roles. How many of us can truly say we would make such a self-sacrificial choice?

She refused the authority of her real father, Padre Damaso, who sought to marry her off to Linares, prioritizing power and status over her own happiness and autonomy. Her rejection of this decision was not just a personal choice—it was a defiance of patriarchal norms that sought to control a woman’s destiny.

Sacrificing for Family and Honor

Maria Clara also chose to protect her family. How many of us today could make a decision that places family loyalty and sacrifice above personal convenience? In our modern context, we see many Filipinos and Filipinas making similar sacrifices, leaving the comforts of home to work abroad just to support their loved ones. These individuals endure hardships to ensure their families have a better future. Maria Clara’s sacrifice, in a historical sense, mirrors this loyalty and commitment.

She showed us a different kind of bravery—subtle but equally significant. Maria Clara’s choices highlighted the strength that lies in prioritizing love, loyalty, and personal sacrifice, rather than seeking self-interest or social approval.

A Call for Empathy and Recognition

I understand that judging a woman from the 19th century by our 21st-century standards might seem tempting. But we must not erase the significance of her struggles and choices by labeling her as weak or submissive. Instead, we should celebrate the strength she displayed in navigating a world filled with oppressive social expectations, familial pressures, and patriarchal norms. Maria Clara fought battles in the only way she could—with quiet resilience, inner strength, and an unwavering commitment to her heart’s choices.

Let us recognize that strength isn’t always about loud resistance or public defiance; sometimes, it’s in the quiet decisions that demand deep personal sacrifice and inner courage. Maria Clara deserves to be seen not just as a symbol of weakness but as a representative of resilience, sacrifice, and the unyielding spirit of a woman who made tough choices according to her circumstances.

In celebrating Maria Clara’s journey, we should also remember that every Filipina, past and present, carries a similar inner strength—fighting battles in their own way, making sacrifices, and ultimately shaping their lives with resilience, dignity, and love. Let’s give Maria Clara the credit she truly deserves—not just as a fictional character but as a symbol of all the Filipinas who stand strong, silently powerful, and committed to their families and communities, even when it means personal hardship.

[captaintoddpstewartus]

How did the topic come up of your wife fucking other men? Did you bring up? If so what was her initial reaction? Or did she bring it up with you? How long after you met did she fuck other men? Btw your wife is hot, lucky man 😊

I got some really great advice from another blog. If you aren't following her, you should. She is beautiful, sexy, and lives the life I wanted in a woman. I was in a very bad place with the loss of my wife. I wanted to commit suicide and here comes along @lisa-i-am who was very down to earth and spent time replying to my messages. We became great friends and because of her friend Joy, she was able to help guide me on finding love again. I knew what I wanted. I visited the dating sites for Asian women. Be careful there, a lot of scammers. I was honest in my profile of what I wanted. I didn't say in my profile I was looking for a woman who likes fucking other men. I did say I wanted a woman who didn't mind lots of attention and wouldn't mind being a trophy wife. I kind of stole that from Joy's husband who found Joy through a dating site. It took me awhile to find Emz. The Philippines is very catholic. Lots of girls exchanging sex to survive but not interested in letting themselves be shared after marriage.

Emz and I hit it off. She was skeptical at first about me wanting a wife who dresses very sexy. She learned quickly it was true. I told Emz how I came to the dating site. I told her about @lisa-i-am and her friend Joy who is a very hot Filipina. I was very honest with her. I told her how Lisa saved me from my deep depression and gave me the will to live again. I told her about Lisa's lifestyle and shared her blog with her. She was intrigued when I told her how much I wanted her to fuck other men. She was skeptical at first. She told me she thought I was testing her. When she saw how hard my cock would get while we talked about it, she started to believe. When I asked her to fuck someone from the club she did. She was hot about it. She did it even though she thought I would fuck her and leave. When she saw how much I loved it and how much I loved fucking her after another guy, it made her start to believe. It made her want it more. She didn't go all out crazy at the beginning at least not until we got married. I think she wanted to make sure I was serious.

After we got married, she would start fucking guys when I asked her to. We mostly did the hotel bar thing like Lisa suggested. Sometimes a regular bar. Eventually she started wanting to fuck more and asking to do it. I love it when she asks. It's a lot hotter for me. I don't ask to fuck other women except I did tell her if I had a chance to fuck Lisa I wanted to. To my surprise, she let me go to Lisa's huge meet and greet event in Vegas. I took my wife to meet Lisa. She didn't go to the event because it was males only. We had a great dinner with Lisa and her husband. Emz has fucked Mr. C who is Lisa's husband. She really loves his cock. Emz is really good friends with Lisa now and she has developed a friendship with Joy given their Filipino background. Emz has given me the okay to fuck Joy if given the chance. It looks like it might happen. We all were supposed to get together this past fall but Lisa had some health issues she was dealing with. We are all hoping to get together this spring.

Emz is growing all the time with this lifestyle. Kind of like watching Lisa grow over the years. With what I do for work we can't be overt about it. She likes to keep herself mysterious anyway. Thanks man, I'm very lucky to have her.

[doctormastertardis]

Personal share:

My neighbor (who is a white, German American guy) is married to a native "Filipina" woman who was raised in a remote province in the Philippines as I was... and it's so refreshing to see his 6 year old "American" kids think differently from their (brainwashed/programmed) peers.

Like, for example, if you offer them candy or any sort of dessert, they would ask "does it have high fructose corn syrup?"

And me, being the daughter and grand-daughter of TRIBAL teachers in the Philippines, I asked her back: "what IS fructose corn syrup?" (I know what it is fyi, I'm just trying to engage).... to which she replied, "it's fake sugar and bad for your body." And they are the same way with television shows and books they're exposed to. And they are only 6. They remind me of how I was raised by my mom and grandma.

Most Americans like to downplay knowledge/wisdom (and when Americans do hype up "learning," it's usually in the name of EGO, i.e. "I'm better than you cause I'm educated")... And yall can excuse the shit and say, "because most Americans are in poverty" but my mom and dad literally lived in poverty in the Philippines? My dad was a squatter/homeless man in the Philippines before he became a custodian/chef for the US Navy. He was born in 1933 and my mom in 1944.... My mom was raised by a single mom of 10 kids IN THE MOUNTAINS where there were no libraries or easy access to food... My dad was literally a "war baby". He witnessed World War 2 at age 10.

Yet they both raised me in a household where we were exposed to the most complex and inter-cultural sorts of science, history, art, etc. AND IT NOT BECAUSE OF PRIVILEGE (I went to an "international school" in PI as a child around RICH European, Chinese, and Korean settlers) . My mom made sure to tell us everyday how poor they were growing up (she and my dad worked hard to save up US$89 a year to pay our tuition fee every year in the 90s).... but the reason why I am the way I am today is because they CHOSE to EXPOSE US to different cultures and knowledges due to the hardships they themselves faced growing up.

But most Americans OF ALL COLOR always TAKE THE EASY WAY OUT. And honestly, when my family moved to California when I was 13 (I am 38 now), I saw just how insecure and willfully stupid American kids are. That's why American public school is, to this day, the breeding ground for WILLFUL IGNORANCE. American kids GROW UP TO BE BULLIES.

And I'm not saying this in a condescending manner. I am saying this because it's in COLONIAL cultures like America that BREEDS the type of thinking that "critical thinking" is bad and "being a hard worker" is good.

[khodorkovskaya]

17.05.23

long time no post!

lots of interesting things happened, i went to lugano for a work trip and it was lots of fun! i stayed with this american lady who told me about her life and how she used to live in dubai and she was in love with this man but he was married and didn't want to have kids with her but then he cheated on her with a filipina woman and they had a baby right away! and now she's 50 with no kids and she feels like she wasted her youth on this dubai guy. what a life huh?

i spent the day walking around the city looking for potential clients for our business and it was v productive. i didn't do any touristy things tho like i didn't visit any landmarks or like museums and stuff. but yeah, it was lots of fun! i snuck into 2 family offices and wow idk about you guys but ive never been to a family office before. like it's a whole parallel world. there are all these rich families with money they don't know what to do with. my my...

on the train i talked to my zurich friend a lot and his greek girlfriend-not-girlfriend broke up with him. and like. idk what he's doing wasting his time like that. like he has so much potential but his head is just empty yknow. like he's so intelligent but at the same time so god damn stupid! talking to him is frustrating bc i just wanna be like dude get your shit together. but oh well, we're all stupid in our own different ways. his time will come and i think that in a couple of years he's gonna be a 10 and i honestly can't wait to meet the man he's gonna become!

other than that, yesterday i stayed over at my parents' place and we watched kung fu panda 3 and it was so good! i had such a good time and i love my parents so much!

what's new with you guys? pls send me asks or messages, i wanna know everything!

[andreasphilippineslitblog]

Five Interesting Nonfiction Books

Malaya: Essays on Freedom by Cinelle Barnes

As an undocumented teenager living in New York, her journey of self-discovery was just beginning. Because she couldn’t get a driver’s license or file taxes, Cinelle worked as a cleaning lady and a nanny and took other odd jobs—and learned to look over her shoulder, hoping she wouldn’t get caught. When she falls in love and marries a white man from the South, Cinelle finds herself trying to adjust to the thorny underbelly of “southern hospitality” while dealing with being a new mother, an immigrant affected by PTSD, and a woman with a brown body in a profoundly white world. From her immigration to the United States, to navigating a broken legal system, to balancing assimilation and a sense of self, Cinelle comes to rely on her resilience and her faith in the human spirit to survive and come of age all over again. Lyrical, emotionally driven, and told through stories both lived and overheard, Cinelle’s intensely personal, yet universal, exploration of race, class, and identity redefines what it means to be a woman—and an American—in a divided country. (goodreads.com)

2. Lola's House: Filipino Women Living with War by M. Evelina Galang

During World War II more than one thousand Filipinas were kidnapped by the Imperial Japanese Army. Lolas’ House tells the stories of sixteen surviving Filipino “comfort women.”

M. Evelina Galang enters into the lives of the women at Lolas’ House, a community center in metro Manila. She accompanies them to the sites of their abduction and protests with them at the gates of the Japanese embassy. Each woman gives her testimony, and even though the women relive their horror at each telling, they offer their stories so that no woman anywhere should suffer wartime rape and torture.

Lolas’ House is a book of testimony, but it is also a book of witness, of survival, and of the female body. Intensely personal and globally political, it is the legacy of Lolas’ House to the world. (goodreads.com)

3. Empire of Care: Nurses and Migration in Filipino American History by Catherine Ceniza Choy

In western countries, including the United States, foreign-trained nurses constitute a crucial labor supply. Far and away the largest number of these nurses come from the Philippines. Why is it that a developing nation with a comparatively greater need for trained medical professionals sends so many of its nurses to work in wealthier countries? Catherine Ceniza Choy engages this question through an examination of the unique relationship between the professionalization of nursing and the twentieth-century migration of Filipinos to the United States. The first book-length study of the history of Filipino nurses in the United States, Empire of Care brings to the fore the complicated connections among nursing, American colonialism, and the racialization of Filipinos . Choy conducted extensive interviews with Filipino nurses in New York City and spoke with leading Filipino nurses across the United States. She combines their perspectives with various others—including those of Philippine and American government and health officials—to demonstrate how the desire of Filipino nurses to migrate abroad cannot be reduced to economic logic, but must instead be understood as a fundamentally transnational process. She argues that the origins of Filipino nurse migrations do not lie in the Philippines' independence in 1946 or the relaxation of U.S. immigration rules in 1965, but rather in the creation of an Americanized hospital training system during the period of early-twentieth-century colonial rule. Choy challenges celebratory narratives regarding professional migrants’ mobility by analyzing the scapegoating of Filipino nurses during difficult political times, the absence of professional solidarity between Filipino and American nurses, and the exploitation of foreign-trained nurses through temporary work visas. She shows how the culture of American imperialism persists today, continuing to shape the reception of Filipino nurses in the United States. (goodreads.com)

4. Monsoon Mansion by Cinelle Barnes

Told with a lyrical, almost-dreamlike voice as intoxicating as the moonflowers and orchids that inhabit this world, Monsoon Mansion is a harrowing yet triumphant coming-of-age memoir exploring the dark, troubled waters of a family's rise and fall from grace in the Philippines. It would take a young warrior to survive it. Cinelle Barnes was barely three years old when her family moved into Mansion Royale, a stately ten-bedroom home in the Philippines. Filled with her mother's opulent social aspirations and the gloriously excessive evidence of her father's self-made success, it was a girl's storybook playland. But when a monsoon hits, her father leaves, and her mother's terrible lover takes the reins, Cinelle's fantastical childhood turns toward tyranny she could never have imagined. Formerly a home worthy of magazines and lavish parties, Mansion Royale becomes a dangerous shell of the splendid palace it had once been. In this remarkable ode to survival, Cinelle creates something magical out of her truth--underscored by her complicated relationship with her mother. Through a tangle of tragedy and betrayal emerges a revelatory journey of perseverance and strength, of grit and beauty, and of coming to terms with the price of family--and what it takes to grow up. (seattle.bibliocommons.com)

5. Somewhere in the Middle: A journey to the Philippines in search of roots, belonging, and identity by Deborah Francisco Douglas

Half Filipino but raised in an American household, Deborah Francisco Douglas had always longed to know more about her Filipino heritage. So when a thick government-issued envelope arrived at her door announcing her assignment to the Philippines as a Peace Corps Volunteer, she snatched the opportunity and set out on a journey of self-discovery, travel, and adventure. Arriving in the mountain town of Baguio City, Philippines, she was introduced to a life of obnoxious roosters, bucket baths, and kids shouting her name every time she walked down the street. Despite her attempts to get involved in the community, her desire for belonging and identity did not materialize as quickly as planned. Realizing that “Filipino time” means nothing ever happens in a hurry, Deborah braces for the journey ahead, hoping to find answers, and above all, to find herself. Filled with warmth and humor, Somewhere in the Middle captures the simple joy found in ordinary moments and in the people we share our lives with, shedding new light on what it truly means to find the place where you belong. Whether you’re hoping to unearth your own cultural roots, volunteer abroad, or find your next travel adventure, this memoir offers inspiration for all those yearning to discover who they are and where they belong in the world. (goodreads.com)

[eldritchmochi]

there are a LOT of non-white cultures who refer to people not literally related to them with familial terms; a lot of the time its a sign of respect andor camaraderie. the older Filipina women at the store i worked at years ago were "the aunties" collectively, because yes they were older women and thats respectful in their and my culture, but also they acted like aunties, making sure the younger staff were fed and lovingly scolding us for not dressing for the weather, etc.

also like, using familial terms for people is *very* common in old guard queerness. i grew up in a queer family and have a distinct memory of a third grade "draw your family" project including my "uncles" (moms best friend and his boyfriend) as well as my "aunt" (my mom and step dad's girlfriend). this would have been 2001. this was the language i grew up with because this is the language that was safe. if i, a third grader, had mentioned that my uncle was gay, or that my parents were in a triad with another woman, cps would have been called and me and my younger sibling would have been removed from the house for "safety". however, they were still family and still deserved, in my young mind, to be included in my project

i had a coworker at my last job who used similar subtle, guarded language to talk about her partners, plural. she used "husband" and "partner" as well as "he" and "they" fairly interchangeably, which in modern queerness, isnt necessarily A Big Deal, but having grown up with this language use, and using it myself for my relationships, it was not hard to pick up that she was talking about multiple people. she was in her mid 40s and has been active in queer and poly communities her entire adult life, since the early 2000s

my girlfriend's boyfriend has a daughter. with strangers, i refer to her as my neice, because she is a young child and the three of them live in a more conservative part of the state, and the last thing i want is cps called. if anyone asks, i am her step mom's family, because this is the language of safety. it has pretty much always been used in queer relationships, and it is still very much used in non monogamous circles, because it is the language of safety

further, its the language of closeness, of care and respect. the people i use familial words for fondly, with a singular exception, are not people related to me. theyre people who are my family because ive chosen them to be my family, and i use "family" and familial words because.... there arent other, commonly understood words for the kind of depth of relationship i have with these people. like yeah i can use qpp for my wife, who i married to legally designate them as family, but like, i dont want to have to also endlessly explain the term. i could use it for my girlfriend also, but again .. id have to explain. i could go thru the long link of the why i call my sibling my sibling (moms ex girlfriend's kid, who i kept in the divorce), but i could just. call them my sibling

queerness is built on queering "normal" relationships, and using familial words has been the standard since forever, for many many reasons. its still a standard used for many folks, for many many reasons, in and out of queer relationships. if you think its weird and icky, perhaps go touch grass

Every now and then some discourse pops up around a queer ship consisting of a pair of fictional characters who are not blood related, but refer to themselves as "brothers" or "sisters," or are in some way, according to the fandom, "sibling-coded."

Every time I see that discourse, all I can think about are the very real queer men I once knew, who, before their deaths, lived their lives posing as "stepbrothers." The only way to avoid suspicion for being two older unmarried men living together in a rural conservative area was to pretend they were from the same family, even though the truth was that they were lovers.

They were never out in life. Their relationship was a strict secret to nearly everyone. They never knew that I knew, and sometimes it fucks me up inside that they never got to come out to me. It fucks me up that they had to hide behind a fake "brotherly" relationship for their own safety. It fucks me up to look at a gravestone that reads "beloved brother" and know what it really means, and what it could have said if they'd lived under different circumstances.

In another world, they could have been husbands, but they never had the opportunity. The world will remember them as brothers, because, even in death, that is what was safest.

The freedom to declare queer love openly is something that not everyone has. And I think more people could stand to remember that.

[theorist-influencer-untitled]

10.3.24 Thursday-Morning Crime...

9:08 am

Still,have windblow...

There are some things to say ... But I already took my sleeping tablet.... I somehow feel the effect...

My last post entry yesterday, I hope for something good today... But it was reversed this early morning,they took away my access on my internal tool,which is weird for me... Plus,I sensed some weird bahaviour.

1:06 pm

Still,have windblow...

Done,eating lunchie... Hmmm.... I need to sleep again.

Awhile ago,I posted about "there are some things to say"... Another weird encounter with an unknown creature that a woman there after I passed her by when I came out from the CR ( comfort room or rest room ). She just suddenly mentioned "Alindog"... I said fuck! Coz I feel that she said that on purpose coz I will be able to hear it when I passed her by... Alindog it is a well-known funeral home here. I don't know if their group is traitor??? But it sounds like when she said the word "Alindog" it really feels it is really for me... I just said twice fuck! FUCK!!!

Yesterday,they took away my salesforce now,they took away my disneystreaming Okta, Nice, Baymax and my help-center... What the fuck???

I got a message Single Sign On Error! Hey! What's up??? I told Ms Anj is it double meaning??? She said just wait it is not double-meaning. It just happened sometimes...

During our one hour break, I went to Karaoke room and met there Ace who is part of JP Morgan. I just sing 3 songs before going back to the room. I sang Mama Mia, Thanks For The Music and Please Be Good To Me. I felt good,in a way....

No,available bf for me, I need someone who can treat me like a "Princess" and do "bring & fetch" and someone who will say good things about me... My ideal bf... Someone has a CAR! Someone who will bring me pillow and someone who can always hug me....

3:59 pm

Still,have windblow...

It is weird, I couldn't sleep smoothly after lunchie... Still,have windblow...

I need to keep a job and I need money.... I feel there is an obstacle on me again and again in Call Center....I'm thinking where would I fit in? Will I go back to Manila again? Are they hatin' me there in Teleperformance Molino coz of someone took away my access... Or should I just give a song?

Last night,while walkin' going to the building of TP Molino, I accidentally saw a "Ferrari". I checked the car logo it was a horse... Then, I was thinking where is the owner??? Then, I saw a girl in TP wearing a "Ferrari Jacket"...

I really wanna end-up with someone who can speak English but I'm not in hurry....

But for now, I need to keep a job coz I badly need money angels... I need to pay my loans and creditz and I'm really a Roman Catholic / Muslim.

I hope people are mature in Teleperformance Molino... I mean getting a bf who has car to assist me,it doesn't mean we need to get married right away? Why, don't we just start a relationship and talk... I hope he can assist me on money these days....

Whew! They don't like me Garret hahaha What am I gonna do?

5:03 pm

Still,have windblow...

My mind is pre-occupied of so many things plus the thing about my cousin-white on my Aunt Ten2x or Tin2x... Hmm...

What is the "entangle thing".... ( nangga-galaitih ako sa Entangle Thing nila )... I hate it when he got married that is as well a Filipina...

I feel so frustrated here... I want growth... I hate being compared....

But I still need to stretch to lessen my pelvic pain...

5:17 pm

Garret is getting older....One Garret here is still single???

5:18 pm

I need money and salary and job... I feel shit! I wanna buy Starbucks everyday... I feel self-pity... I want vanities.. Losing my future on my timeline again and again... No glow at all...

5:25 pm

Should I get my breast implants Garret?

Can I have my vanity? They don't like me but I'm working...

I'm still chubby Garret?

7:50 pm

Hmm.... My bracelet is missing... hahaha Just like my Snoopy ring... It is a health bracelet.... Hmm...

Probably it fell down in the bathroom in Teleperformance Molino.... I don't know...

[sammygems]

if y'all will allow me, let me just ramble about Miss Universe (yes the beauty pageant)

first, because this is my first time posting about a beauty pageant on my tumblr, let me just say that there is stuff to criticize when it comes to beauty pageants and i fully support people criticizing them. fuck child beauty pageants in particular.

however, i love Miss Universe & like Miss World to some degree. and i will be rambling about Miss Universe today.

so like, i'm really looking forward to Miss Universe this year (2024), especially because of the rule changes from last year (2023) and this year.

last year they finally removed the rules against married women and mothers competing (which have been in place since 1957), and we ended up getting Camila Avella from Colombia, Michelle Cohn from Guatemala, & Lorena Santen from Switzerland.

while there haven't been rules against LGBT+ women competing for a long time now, 2023 probably had the most openly LGBT+ women competing at once, with Rikkie Kollé from the Netherlands & Marina Machete from Portugal being the joint-2nd trans women to compete (after Ángela Ponce from Spain, who competed in 2018). plus there was also Michelle Dee from the Philippines who is bi (tho she is not the first bi woman to compete or even the first Filipina bi woman to compete).

there was also Jane Dipika Garrett from Nepal who is one of the first plus-size women to compete (though it could depend on what you consider to be "plus-size" as to who was the first).

Pakistan also debuted with Erica Robin, and her and Lujane Yacoub from Bahrain both wore burkinis during the swimsuit round.

Marina Machete for Portugal, Erica Robin of Pakistan, & Jane Dipika Garrett of Nepal were all in the Top 20, becoming the first trans woman, first woman who wore a burkini, and first plus size woman to be a finalist, and Camila Avella of Colombia placed in the Top 5, becoming the first mother & married woman to be in the Top 20, Top 10, and Top 5.

and now for 2024, the age limit of 18 to 28 (with minor exceptions) has been lifted entirely, with the age requirements just being 18 and older. there's also been so many confirmed countries to be returning after absents ranging from 1 year to 6 decades, plus there's been so many confirmed debuting countries! i'm truly so excited to for Miss Universe this year! so far only 19 or 20 contestants (as of when i'm writing this) have been confirmed to be competing, but there's at least 35 confirmed dates of national pageants with 6 being within the next 2 weeks!

[hotvintagepoll]

Propaganda

Marpessa Dawn (Black Orpheus)—She's like. fairy tale princess etheral pretty. truly eurydice realness. AND she's a singer AND she's a dancer. she used to be a governess/nightclub dancer, which isn't hot per say i just thought it was an interesting job combination. If you want to hear her sing just look up the Black Orpheus soundtrack

Margaret Lindsay (Frisco Kid, The House of the Seven Gables, Scarlet Street)—she was born in Dubuque, Iowa, then moved to England to make her stage debut. She framed herself as a British actress and moved back to America to try Hollywood, then starred with James Cagney in a bunch of movies. She was in the Ellery Queen movie series and The House of the Seven Gables. She never married (I suspect lesbian stuff) but lived with her sisters. She dated Cesar Romero and Liberace (I told you. Lesbian stuff.) Please include the pic of her in the tie [included above]

This is round 3 of the tournament. All other polls in this bracket can be found here. Please reblog with further support of your beloved hot sexy vintage woman.

[additional propaganda submitted under the cut.]

Margaret Lindsay:

Marpessa Dawn:

Marpessa Dawn was an filipina/african american who became well known as an actress, singer and dancer in France. She is most famous for her role in 'Black Orpheus' in which she played Eurydice. It's difficult to find a picture where she and her husband, the actor Eric Vander, aren't kissing or hugging or laughing together, they are incredibly cute (and hot).

basically everyone and their mother will agree that marpessa dawn was one of THEE og vintage black women working in cinema (even if it was mostly in french cinema! the cross language barrier slay). mostly did her work in french cinema, and her smile in black orpheus is literally like the sun breaking over the sea

[dontukumi]

Dead Stars

"Dead Stars" is a short story published in 1925 by Paz Marquez Benitez, set in the Philippines during the American colonial period (1898-1946). This era was marked by significant social changes, just like westernization where the introduction of American ideals and lifestyles, impacting social norms and expectations. Another thing is women gained some educational opportunities but remained largely confined to domestic roles. Societal pressure emphasized marriage and family for women, lastly is social class, a rigid class system existed, with wealthy Filipinos often adopting Westernized customs to distinguish themselves.

Alfredo Salazar Represents the upper class and their adoption of Western values. His initial passion for Julia reflects a more romantic ideal, but societal expectations (marrying Esperanza) and a desire for stability take precedence. Another character in the story is Julia, she represents a woman caught between tradition and change. She values Alfredo's initial romanticism but ultimately conforms to societal expectations for marriage within her class and lastly is Esperanza she represents the traditional role of a Filipina wife; submissive and expected to fulfill domestic duties.

Marriages are seen as a way to maintain or elevate social standing. Alfredo chooses Esperanza, who aligns with his class, over Julia. While Julia exhibits some independence, societal pressure ultimately leads her to a loveless marriage. Esperanza represents the limitations placed on women. Alfredo's initial passion fades as societal pressures and practicality take hold. The "dead stars" symbolize lost ideals and the disillusionment with societal expectations.

"Dead Stars" utilizes a love triangle to explore the complex social dynamics of the Philippines during American colonization. Through the characters' choices, the way I critique the story emphasizes on social class and traditional gender roles that stifle individual happiness and romantic love.

[fuyu-fuyu]

Isabella Evangelista

She's a soul that was stuck in a mirror but everyone know/see her as a white lady

She died at the age of 20

Her parents died from being burned alive in their working place so she's with her uncle who's abusive to her

She's a smart, polite and a helpful woman

She likes everything that's around her except her uncle

Basically a Filipina

Before she died she only remembered the mirror that came from her parents and that's how she got sucked in the mirror, watching everyone whoever placed the mirror on their walls

She's always alone and whenever she suck someone in the mirror she's asked them if they could be friends. If not then she'll take them out of the mirror

After her death, her body buried on her uncle's backyard and after a few months her uncle got arrested on drug addiction

She wasn't really married yet but she loves white dresses

Not interested on love life but if something changed her thought about it then she'll be interested

[digestsbymarianpurpleink]

Moy Ya Lim Yao v. CID, 41 SCRA 292

Topic: Acquisition of Citizenship [Citizenship of a Foreign Woman Who Marries a Filipino] Commonwealth Act No. 473 (Revised Naturalization Law)

Doctrine

Alien woman who marries a Filipino citizen ipso facto becomes a Filipina provided she is not disqualified to be a citizen of the Philippines under section 4 of Commonwealth Act 473.’

An alien woman married to an alien who is subsequently naturalized here follows the Philippine citizenship of her husband the moment he takes his oath as Filipino citizen, provided that she does not suffer from any of the disqualifications under said Section 4.

C.A 473 Revised Naturalization Law Sec. 15

Sec. 15. Effect of the naturalization on wife and children. - Any woman who is now or may hereafter be married to a citizen of the Philippines, and who might herself be lawfully naturalized shall be deemed a citizen of the Philippines. Minor children of persons naturalized under this law who have been born in-the Philippines shall be considered citizens thereof.

A foreign-born minor child, if dwelling in the Philippines at the time of the naturalization of the parent, shall automatically become a Philippine citizen, and a foreign-born minor child, who is not in the Philippines at the time the parent is naturalized, shall be deemed a Philippine citizen only during his minority, unless he begins to reside permanently in the Philippines when still a minor, in which case, he will continue to be a Philippine citizen even after becoming of age.

A child born outside of the Philippines after, the naturalization of his parent, shall be considered a Philippine citizen, unless within one year after reaching the age of majority, he. fails to register himself as a Philippine citizen at the American Consulate of the country where he resides, and to take the necessary oath of allegiance.

SUPER SUMMARY

Lau Yuen Yeung, a Chinese National from Hong Kong, went to the Philippines in March of 1961 to visit her great grand uncle, and was permitted to stay for a month. After repeated extension, Lau was permitted to stay until February of 1962. A month before her date of departure, Lau contracted marriage with Moy Ya Lim Yao alias Edilberto Aguinaldo Lim, a Filipino Citizen. The Commission on Immigration ordered the arrest of Lau Yuen Yeung and deporatation, hence this petition for injunction filed by Lau’s Filipino husband contending that such order may not be executed for Lau has acquired Filipino citizenship following her marriage to a Filipino citizen. Is the contention of the petitioner correct?

HELD: Speaking through Justice Barredo, the Court ruled in the affirmative. Under Section 15 of Commonwealth Act 473, an alien woman marrying a Filipino, native-born or naturalized, becomes ipso facto a Filipina provided she is not disqualified to be a citizen of the Philippines under Section 4 of the same law. The Court permanently enjoined CIR  from causing the arrest and deportation and the confiscation of the bond of appellant Lau Yuen Yeung, who is hereby declared to have become a Filipino citizen from and by virtue of her marriage to her co-appellant Moy Ya Lim Yao. 

FACTS

On February 8, 1961, Lau Yuen Yeung applied for a passport visa to enter the Philippines as a non-immigrant. In the interrogation made in connection with her application for a temporary visitor’s visa to enter the Philippines, she stated that she was a Chinese residing at Kowloon, Hongkong, and that she desired to take a pleasure trip to the Philippines to visit her great (grand) Uncle Lau Ching Ping for a period of one month. She was permitted to come into the Philippines on March 13, 1961, and was permitted to stay for a period of one month which would expire on April 13, 1961. 

On the date of her arrival, Asher Y, Cheng filed a bond in the amount of P1,000.00 to undertake, among others, that said Lau Yuen Yeung would actually depart from the Philippines on or before the expiration of her authorized period of stay in this country or within the period as in his discretion the Commissioner of Immigration or his authorized representative might properly allow. After repeated extensions, petitioner Lau Yuen Yeung was allowed to stay in the Philippines up to February 13, 1962. 

On January 25, 1962, she contracted marriage with Moy Ya Lim Yao alias Edilberto Aguinaldo Lim an alleged Filipino citizen. Because of the contemplated action of respondent to confiscate her bond and order her arrest and immediate deportation, after the expiration of her authorized stay, she brought this action for injunction with preliminary injunction. 

At the hearing which took place one and a half years after her arrival, it was admitted that petitioner Lau Yuen Yeung could not write either English or Tagalog. Except for a few words, she could not speak either English or Tagalog. She could not name any Filipino neighbor, with a Filipino name except one, Rosa. She did not know the names of her brothers-in-law, or sisters-in-law.’

Note: If there is a list of Supreme Court decisions with the greatest number of cases cited, I believe this case is at the top 10. In determining whether an alien who marries a Filipino ipso facto acquires Filipino citizenship, Justice Barredo deemed it proper to discuss first what “who might herself be lawfully naturalized” means. In the pursuit of settling once and for all the purpose and meaning of Sec. 15 of Commonwealth Act 473 or Revised Naturalization Law, Justice Barredo traced and scrutinized decisions and judicial opinions relevant to the construction of “‘who might herself be lawfully naturalized’ within the context of American laws and jurisprudence, to which a great number of Philippine laws are heavily patterned from.

“Who might herself be lawfully naturalized” - following American jurisprudence, it shall mean: She is required to prove only that she may herself be lawfully naturalized, i.e., that she is not one of the disqualified persons enumerated in Section 4 of the law, in order to establish her citizenship status as a fact. 

(Side note: It is as if Justice Barredo has been waiting for a case like this. Not only did he cite a number of cases, but he also mentioned the ponente of each case and explained its merits and why he does not agree with their conclusion.) 

Summary of some of the prevailing cases cited by J. Barredo:

Ly Giok Ha, et al. v. Galang, et al., L-31332, Mar. 13, 1966 [TN: the first case in which Section 15 of the Naturalization Law, Commonwealth Act 473, underwent judicial construction]

Marriage to a male Filipino does not vest Philippine citizenship to his foreign wife, unless she ‘herself may be lawfully naturalized,’ and that ‘this limitation of Section 15 excludes, from the benefits of naturalization by marriage, those disqualified from being naturalized as citizens of the Philippines under Section 4 of said Commonwealth Act No. 473.’ In other words, disqualification for any of the causes enumerated in Section 4 of the Act is the decisive factor that defeats the right of the foreign wife of a Philippine citizen to acquire Philippine citizenship.

By constitutional and legal precepts, an alien woman who marries a Filipino citizen, does not by the mere fact of marriage — automatically become a Filipino citizen.’’ 

Reason: she must possess all the qualifications and none of the disqualifications for naturalization.

Chay v. Galang, L-19977, Oct. 30, 1964)

If she has all the qualifications and none of the disqualifications for Philippine citizenship she becomes a Filipino, PROVIDED, that she is able to prove these facts in a proper proceeding. If she is unqualified (lacks qualifications) or disqualified (possesses disqualifications), she cannot be considered a Filipino citizen. This is so even if by virtue of said diverse citizenship, the husband and the wife will not be able to live together. This apparent subversion of family solidarity, and the consequent violation of the duty to live together, according to the Supreme Court, are irrelevant to the issue of citizenship — an issue which concerns only the right of a sovereign state to determine what aliens can remain within its territory and under what conditions, they can stay therein.

Choy King Tee v. Emilio L. Galang (Application to the wife of a naturalized Filipino)

While it is true that under Sec. 15 of the Naturalization Law, “any woman who is now or may hereafter be married to a citizen of the Philippines shall be deemed a citizen of the Philippines,’’ still the law requires that she might herself be lawfully naturalized implying that she must first prove that she has all the qualifications and none of the disqualifications for naturalization. This rule is in line with the national policy of selective admission to Philippine citizenship, which after all, is a privilege granted only to those who are found worthy thereof, and not indiscriminately to anybody at all on the basis alone of marriage to a man who is a citizen of the Philippines, irrespective of moral character, ideological beliefs, and identification with Filipino customs and traditions.

In Re: Petition to Declare Zita Ngo Burca to Possess All the Qualifications and None of the Disqualifications for Naturalization L-24252, Jan. 30, 1967 [TN: When Justice Barredo discussed the merits of the Burca case, the latter still has a pending resolution, but used it anyway]

An alien woman who marries a Filipino to be deemed a Filipina, she has to apply for naturalization in accordance with the procedure prescribed by the Revised Naturalization Law and prove in said naturalization proceeding not only that she has all the qualifications and none of the disqualifications provided in the law but also that she has complied with all the formalities required thereby like any other applicant for naturalization. 

[Note: Moy Ya case abandoned the ruling in Burca.] 

ISSUE/S

Whether or not an alien woman who marries a Filipino citizen ipso facto becomes a Filipina.

Whether or not an alien woman who marries a Filipino must apply for a naturalization judicial proceeding in order to be deemed as a Filipina. 

RULING

[Seemed like Justice Barredo got carried away in scrutinizing relevant American and Philippine jurisprudence, and construing the intention of the legislature in creating the Act. 2927 and CA 437 that he no longer discussed the opinion of the Court as to the arrest and deportation of Lau. Hence, I included the fallo of the case which essentially contains the final words of the Court regarding the validity of Lau’s acquisition of Filipino citizenship.]

The Court ruled in the AFFIRMATIVE.

Section 15 of the Naturalization Law has been taken directly, copied and adopted from its American counterpart. To be more accurate, said provision is nothing less than a reenactment of the American provision. It is in the best interest of all concerned that Section 15 of the Naturalization Law be given effect in the same way as it was understood and construed when the phrase “who may be lawfully naturalized,” found in the American statute from which it was borrowed and copied verbatim, was applied by the American courts and administrative authorities.

Thus, under Section 15 of Commonwealth Act 473, an alien woman marrying a Filipino, native-born or naturalized, becomes ipso facto a Filipina provided she is not disqualified to be a citizen of the Philippines under Section 4 of the same law. Likewise, an alien woman married to an alien who is subsequently naturalized here follows the Philippine citizenship of her husband the moment he takes his oath as Filipino citizen, provided that she does not suffer from any of the disqualifications under said Section 4.

The Court ruled in the NEGATIVE. 

In construing the provision of the United States statutes from which our law has been copied,  the American courts have held that the alien wife does not acquire American citizenship by choice but by operation of law. “In the Revised Statutes the words ‘and taken’ are omitted. The effect of this statute is that every alien woman who marries a citizen of the United States becomes perforce a citizen herself, without the formality of naturalization, and regardless of her wish in that respect.”

Moreover, section 16 of Commonwealth Act 473, as may be seen, is a parallel provision to Section 15, If the widow of an applicant for naturalization as Filipino, who dies during the proceedings, is not required to go through a naturalization proceeding, in order to be considered as a Filipino citizen hereof, it should follow that the wife of a living Filipino cannot be denied the same privilege. This is plain common sense and there is absolutely no evidence that the Legislature intended to treat them differently.

FALLO

IN VIEW OF ALL THE FOREGOING, the judgment of the Court a quo dismissing appellants’ petition for injunction is hereby reversed and the Commissioner of Immigration and/or his authorized representative is permanently enjoined from causing the arrest and deportation and the confiscation of the bond of appellant Lau Yuen Yeung, who is hereby declared to have become a Filipino citizen from and by virtue of her marriage to her co-appellant Moy Ya Lim Yao alias Edilberto Aguinaldo Lim, a Filipino citizen on January 25, 1962. No costs.