#literally we're all neurodivergent but it doesn't always overlap well

[deadcrow-donteat]

i was talking with my mom about the wierdness that is trying to communicate in our house , and i was like "we're all neurodivergent in slightly different fonts" and she said smth ab fonts that i didn't hear and didn't understand her trying to explain so i just went "i dunno what you're talking about. but i'm comic sans."

[kafus]

as an autistic person and also as someone with DID that started forming before i could even speak proper sentences, i find my experience with DID to be remarkably similar to my autism in a lot of ways, actually. i mean it's a differentiated aspect of my brain that has been irremovable from me during core developmental years so that makes sense. i developed as a person with DID, i did not acquire it later. and on my personal healing journey with years of therapy now, i've found that "healing" does not mean removal of my DID, but adjusting it to be... well. healthier. treating the trauma/PTSD and lessening dissociative barriers so that they don't disrupt my life, but not the erasure of parts or generally having a differently wired, dissociative brain.

a lot of other people with DID chase after "functional multiplicity" instead of "final fusion" (using these terms as shorthand, in actuality the two are way more similar than most people give them credit for or can even be interchangeable depending on the person) or will say that even when you recover from DID you are never not a person with DID and you can always split again in the future, and the latter is a pretty widely accepted way of thinking about being a pwDID, so it's a little odd to me that discussion of how DID overlaps with neurodivergent experiences doesn't come up more often if we're all (or mostly) on the same page about it being like, a thing that does not change 100% at it's core even with years of therapy and healing

DID is by literal definition not a neurodivergency and i'm not claiming it is but i think it's useful to evaluate where it's similar and understand why that is

a discussion i'm really fascinated by is viewing DID formed in infancy or around there through a similar lens as neurodivergency, but i always hesitate to talk about it because i feel like even other people who are neurodivergent or have DID could easily take things the wrong way or aren't educated enough on their own conditions to properly discuss it with the nuance it deserves. but it really does interest me