#like white woman would see my alopecia and be like ''that's a balding man!!!'' but generally POC understood that it was a Thing
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something I've noticed in the course of my transition (ftm) is that people of color are generally much more able to see butch/masculine traits as female than do their white counterparts. like I still get "ma'am"d by black folks before they hear my voice and course-correct (I don't mind or care) while white women will and have confronted me multiple times in women's restrooms just based on sight alone. there is something to be said here, it's a very telling phenomenon.
#the town i live in is 60-40 black-white and the gendering that happens is very dependent on the people around#this was also true even before hormones#like white woman would see my alopecia and be like ''that's a balding man!!!'' but generally POC understood that it was a Thing#i was also only ever accused of using a fake ID by white cops whereas the 1 black cop understood the concept of a haircut#idk
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Imagine you are reading something and it ends like this?? Can a writer do this to people? Can a writer survive writing like this? And more importantly what is this?? Read along and hey follow along... time to take the brakes off of story telling and introduce the first of many in the "UNTITLED FOR NOW" series...
Untitled for now begins with three characters: Teapot, Treyein and then we have Jug. The opening scene features a cry for help from Teapot and a sad confession of guilt from Treyein... and we start to examine the characters beginning with Jug.
Teapot – Hey Jug? You busy
Jug – Never too busy for you
Teapot – Thank You for your kind words
Can you come over, I would rather talk to you about this face to face.
Jug – GPS says 25 minutes, see you about 2000hrs
Jug has no idea what he is about to walk into and that does not matter because in his world his friend of 22 years needs him and has prioritized her over all things.
Meanwhile Teapot was fuming.. IVE HAD ENOUGH, the jokes, the innaprorpiate touching has to stop, enough is enough and she must escalate things before she finds herself in Wednesday’s episode of SVU.
Text message from Treyein comes in, Teapot begins to read it..
Treyein – look tea, I have decided to check myself into a rehab facility, I recognize in myself that I have demons in my past I must let go of or I will never manifest into the beautiful person I am inside. I hope this move inspires you to somehow take your leap towards greatness. You have so much to offer the World and I truly will pray nightly that you live in your gift.
Teapot – My life will never be the same because of you – you have literally taken my (knock, knock, knock) throws phone on the bed.
Teapot – opens door and greets Jug with a hug
Jug – well hello, nice to see you too, you look nice, nails done I see you tea... pot!! knowing damn well I love the white tip nails..… wait!!! what is this??? some sort of setup???. Are you about to tell me we are dating? What did I walk into.. you sittin around lookin all good..... smellin like YSL and lookin even better than you smell. Look, three letters woman!!! I DO
Teapot – laughing and smiling, no no no no no, we are not dating
Jug – sigh of relief and disappointment, don’t act like if I didn’t really try and holla you wouldn’t oblige
Teapot – shrugs, grabs Jugs hand… more serious now – come in, lets talk things right now for me are….. tear drop
Jug – hugs her closely, sweetheart what is wrong? What is going on? Jug silences his phone, takes off his shoes and hurry’s back to teapot.. grabs her face – look at me? I’m in the moment completely with you – talk to me.
Teapot – I need some time, just be here with me, tell me how you are doing? I will tell you I just need some time to gather myself…
Jug – Well look it doesn’t really matter how I am doing.. Please, you cannot hold this inside of you it is going to drive you down a dark road
Teapot – I know I know I know… just please you go first.
Jug for the first time in his life was asked how he was doing? Jugs mind instantly drifted to where it all started for Jug...
It was hot outside and Jug had to walk home from two a days football practice – now Jug lived below the hill and practice was above the hill so Jug started his journey towards the bottom. His feet draggin.. head down.. he all dirty with the long day face going on…sweaty.. smellin like last weeks practice…whoooo Jug was hurtin that day..… not even halfway into the walk a voice yells out of one of the homes:
Voice: Hey N WORD!!!! Get outta my neighborhood..
Naw I’m just playin, the Voice didnt say that..
Not even halfway into the walk a voice can be heard saying..
Voice: Whats up g? And there she was.. Teapot!!
Teapot goes outside with her wifle ball bat and says you hungry I got some pringles inside.
Jug: with all the life brought back into his body from that statement, Yes I am.
Jug went inside and banged some pepperoni pizza pringles and enjoyed some good conversation. That day 22 years ago jumpstarted an unbelievable friendship that stands stronger each day that passes. Jug was introduced to an entire different world on that day he had never seen a two parent home, food in the pantry and refrigerator, candles smelling all good, a garage, Jugs life changed that day. Jug would have to eventually walk down that hill and go to his home but Jug was completely in that moment wit tea and Jug was and has proven to be forever grateful for the value meeting teapot has brought to his life. Jug provided entertainment and Jug is good at it, you know the sober guy that’s loving life, the only one on the dancefloor, singing and talking the loudest like hey look at me. That is Jug, the go to guy for anything you trying to do good or bad because Jug has lived. Jug travels the country for fun, he has made a living by traveling to countries and providing some of the most epic memories in travel history. You look at Jug and just automatically get inspired ladies love him, businesses respect his word and opinions. Jug has the President’s personal number and thats him -- the only person that can make the impossible possible – it is so important to have those people in your life that can connect with every age group and just find a common ground between different parties. You just have to see this man to believe this man.
Growing up Jug went to the community academy that required Jug to spend 7 days at the academy and he would go home for a total of 16 hours and after the 16 hours Jug would head back to the academy to finish out his next 7 days he did this for 6 years in lieu of elementary school. Well in year three at the academy Jug was minding his own business and Jug went home for his 16 hour leave period and Jugs mom pops Jug in the back of the head like “wtf” Jug?
Jug: Momma what
Jugs Momma: Boy you been cutting your hair?
Jug: no momma
This continues for two continuous weeks and Jug is completely clueless because when Jug looks in the mirror all he sees is a billion dollar smile that he would sell his self short on if he grins... the dreamy eyes authors make up words to describe. “Let’s call it hazel”
Jug was winning, fresh lineup, clothes was bummy but hey they all wore the same uniform, so LG.. F is the problem.
Jug strolls into his momma house on summer leave that next week, and Jug momma put the paws on Jug. You know the whoopen where you gotta go find the belt and you gotta find the one momma talking about or you gonna get hit wit the wrong belt and told to go find the other one…
when yo momma say “go get the belt” vs. “go get MY belt” the difference and the tone in those two statements are completely different and has two different sides of the type of ass that gets whipped.
When you get “the belt” only a little bit of ass is getting tore up so you good… when momma says get “MY BELT” well that my friend is all the ass.
That’s one of them beat downs that go like...
Boy (pop) didn’t (pop) I (pop) tell (pop) you (pop) to (pop) stop (pop) cutting (pop) yo (pop) hair (pop)
Huh? (Pop)
Get done you got snot bubbles, had two socks on now one of them outside underneath the car the other in the freezer stuck to the ice tray like its been there for a week.. yeah that type of life
Well a couple days later Jug was in his room iceing his buns when he hears his mothers voice scream out for him under his breath you know what Jug is saying so insert something you’d be saying in lieu of my sentence.
Jug gets up and goes in the other room and his Momma looks at him as if he were a newborn with all the love and desire a mother does and says to Jug. I scheduled you a doctors appointment I have been talking to some people and they say I should …. Jug interrupts his Mom…
Jug: who is they Mom because if you are about to say what I think you are about to say then I need to meet them immediately.
Jugs Momma: Well what do you think I am about to say
Jug: Well, with all due respect momma - - I think you about to say …. Takes a deep breath and
That …
That umm…
Jugs Momma: say it son, you can tell me
Jug: you sure?
Jugs momma: yes son, you can say whatever it is you are thinking
Jug: I was going to say that I think you are about to say that “they” told you to stop beating my @ and like I been tellin yo xxxx xxx I ain’t been cutting my fxxxx hair, shoot”
Jugs momma: yes son its called alopecia.. wait a second Boy who you talkin.. you know what. Go get the belt…
Jug: sighs and drops his dobber and starts that stroll to the belt room and just as he takes a step momma gone say
Jugs momma: you ain’t gotta go get the belt but you better watch yo mouth, don’t know who you think you in here talkin to like that.. done lost yo mind.. clearly.
Think you talkin to boy.. I…
See when momma told Jug “boy … I” Jug was always curious to know – You’ll what? But Jug is a smart person… Jug takes his Loss… later in life someone told Jug the same phrase .. “boy…I” and Jug being the curious character he is.. Jug said it.. you’ll what? And to Jugs surprise Jug got muffed in the face and Jug would go on to never be curious again about what boy I… means.. because if someone tells you “Boy….I”
That means they are going to muff you.. so take your L.. or say “Boy..I” back to them and get ready for a muffing contest because boy I means nothing more than Boy I will muff you..in the face..
Jugs Momma: Yes son, in grown peoples words that is what I’m saying to you, and "they" is just people that gossip.
Jug: I don’t know momma, I don’t like gossip
Jugs Momma: not like that gossip, boy, shut up, you going to the doctor so go get ready.
School years begins Jug is bald, and Jug gets clowned every single day and Jug laughed along, soaked in the attention and listened to what the kids were saying. Laughed louder than the other kids, complementing the very kids that were talking so bad about him and Jug had no choice because Jug couldn’t fight and Jug was lost, confused. Jug knew why they were talking about him but didn’t know how to make it stop so Jug took L’s day in and day out until one day… The King of all Joke makers connected with Jug on a “I’m too great of a jokster to waste time talkin bout yo globe head self” type level...and that Jokster looked at Jug and Jug looked back and it was like the torch was passed to Jug.. and in that moment Jugs mouth opened and said one of the most legendary bars in the history of joke telling.
Jug: If you don’t get yo old…..
.. now “if you don’t get yo old” is the perfect setup however it is tricky to pull off but if you pull it off you are elevated to a different tier of joke telling…and Jug did it...
Jug was invicible from that day forward.. everyone loved Jug and Jug loved everyone.. For years the very kids that talked reckless to Jug was in the laugh of a joke (blink of an eye -- get it?? Laugh of a joke?? No?) Jugs biggest support system.
Jug transformed that day into a legend, and in that moment Jug knew it was his life’s gift to spread love joy and happiness all over the world and that led to him winning a unanimous decision presidential election.. Yeah..He was not even on the ticket, everyone in the country wrote his name on the ballot..the most unqualified candidate in the history of life ...thats a whole nother story....
Jug has just been asked the most important question in his life, no one has ever asked Jug how he is doing? Jug has made a living by connecting with people and for the very first time in his life Jug must complete one of the most important steps in overcoming and that is answering one very important question.
Teapot – Jug, you okay you kinda went to another place for like 14 minutes, I have literally been calling your name… it was like you were not even here at all – I mean one of the first things that you said to me was that you are in the moment with me… I know that look Jug, I’ve never seen it on you… but Jug!! I know that look.. what is it..???
Jug – tears begin to form
Teapot – NO!! NO!! NO!! No Jug, you do not get to cry your way out of this one… Now open your mouth .. use your words and you get in this moment with me… and you tell me what is going on…
Jug – wipes them tears away that almost dropped, drops his head and unleashes this:
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Ok so. September is Alopecia Awareness month. I am finally in a place where I can fully share my story about this. This is going to be long.
Anyways, I've never shared these photos before because they are really hard for me to look at. As a woman, a lot of our feminity comes from our hair. Society doesn't care if a man goes bald, it's expected and common. It's not the same for a woman. Even if you cut your hair short, assholes have something to say about it.
I've had thin fine hair since I was a kid. I remember being in 6th grade and my classmates calling me "baldy" for a time before they started calling me "grandma" (but that's a different topic 🙄) I remember in 7th grade, I cut it short and hearing the kids walking behind me in the hall ask eachother if I was a girl or boy. I remember being in drama club that same year and got permission to wear a hair piece because when we were at elementary schools doing little sample performances and classroom visits, a kid looked me dead in the eye and asked "And why are YOU wearing a dress??!" So yeah. This shit started early and had a huge impact on my self esteem.
I started wearing hair toppers (a hairpiece that only covers the top of your head, they clip on) in my early 20s. I got my first full wig when I was probably 25, so I've been wearing them 10 years now. I got to a point where I was tired of all the hair pieces and started to get my real hair bleached and toned as white/silver as we could get it so it camouflaged my loss. After quite a while of doing this, I was going to go back to the toppers because I wanted my hair darker again, so my stylist started putting some low lights in it slowly. After this visit, I took a photo of it when I got home to see what the color looked like in natural light. The first photo I posted was that photo. My heart sank and I knew it was time to shave it. (Ps. It was in no fault of my stylist whatsoever, she's phenomenal at her craft and did exactly what I asked!) I had joked about shaving it for years because it's such a chore and is so expensive to hide. I messaged a few friends and asked if they'd shave it for me, and they did later that night. I sobbed the whole time. It was a mixture of feeling like I was losing my identity and feminity mixed with the relief of just having it gone so I didn't have to fight with and look at it anymore. That was 2 years ago now, and in retrospect, one of the best decisions I've ever made.
The following two photos are what it looks like when I tried to grow it out to a pixi cut. So here's your proof that your hair DOES NOT grow back thicker. Serums, Rogaine and vitamins do not help my type of Alopecia.
The 4th photo was for a friend's project and was one of the first times I've really put it out so publicly before now. I've talked about it here and there, but wasn't ready to show anything. I'm finally at acceptance and peace with it, and if sharing this helps even one person then that's amazing.
I just want you to know that you're not alone, you're not ugly, you're not less than. I'm here if anyone would like to talk about it.
I'm not going to lie and say I'm completely over it, because I'm not. I mean just today I posted a selfie with a new wig lol But now the wigs are more for fun than they are a camouflage. I've been making myself go out more with just my shaved head, and it's helped me feel better about it. I'm the only one that cares about it, no one has ever said anything bad or mean about it. That shit was all in my head. We are our own worst critics. I wish we could see ourselves through the eyes of others.
I'm not posting this for attention or for complements or for anyone to tell me I'm brave etc etc. I'm posting this for Awareness because Alopecia in women isn't talked about very openly and it should be. The more we talk about things, the more things are understood and accepted. In turn making it not so shameful and embarrassing for the people struggling.
Thank you for reading if you got this far!
#alopecia#alopecia awareness#alopecia awareness month#awareness#female hairloss#hairloss#bald women#bald woman#bald
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Do Women Have Hair Miniaturization I'll Tell You
When men thin and bald, their human hair bundles follicles often go through a process called "miniaturization." This means that those same follicles have, over time and with age, become negatively affected by DHT, androgens, waxy build up, or other inhibitors. The result is that over each shortened hair cycle, the shed hair that is replaced becomes less substantial. To put it plainly, what you get is thinner, finer hair each time so that eventually the hair becomes very fine or sickly looking until eventually it is either like peach fuzz or totally bald. There is a misconception that women typically will not suffer this same fate. While it's becoming more and more acceptable that women too have genetic or androgen driven thinning or androgenic alopecia, people are less apt to believe that women also have miniaturization. Although this is the standard misconception, it often is just not true.
Women can and do have miniaturization and this process is becoming more and more common place. There are many theories as to why and how this happens. I will cover discuss this topic in the following article.
Women And Androgenic Alopecia And AGA. The Same Cause, But Sometimes A Different Presentation: Women have AGA or genetic thinning for the same reasons that men do. Some of us are just predisposed to becoming more sensitive to the androgens on our scalp as we age. This is becoming more and more common though although the cause for this is highly debated. Some think that, as we are evolving, we are become more and more sensitive to androgens. Some think that it has to do with preservatives or hormones in our food. And others think that this is stress related.
No matter what the cause, treatment can be tricky, because, despite what some may claim, there is no way to get rid of every drop of DHT on your scalp on a repetitive basis. Your body wave hair will continue to produce it (and many people with this type of androgenic alopecia produce low or normal amounts) and, if you do nothing, your scalp will continue to be overly sensitive to it. The result is that first you will have hair loss or shedding, but second, on down the road, you will likely experience some thinner, finer hair growing back.
Often, a woman will not have the same degree of her regrowth coming in as peach fuzz or eventually balding as the way that a man would (although this does sometimes happen.) Often, it absolutely does come in thinner, but the cosmetic results is often seeing more part line or more scalp or even an over all thinning and loss of volume. Sometimes, you'll notice areas like the temples, top, and crown a bit more than other areas.
Some women see miniaturization on a diffuse level so that no one area looks much worse than another, but the over all effect is noticeable because the individual hairs are more thin. So you will see limp, flyaway hair that has a tendency to look or become oily because the individual strands are more fine and are much more easily weighed down.
How Do I Know If My Regrowth Has Miniaturized?: You probably have some indication that this is happening or could potentially happen or you would not have researched this topic. Often, seeing more scalp and noticing less coverage is the first clue that something may be going on.
The next thing that you can do is to pluck out a healthy, thick, fat hair (try getting this from the bottom, in the back, because this area is less affected by androgens.) Now place that brazilian hair on a very light or white surface so that you can easily see it. Now, find some typical looking regrowth and pluck that hair as well. Compare the two, by appearance, side by side. Is one hair thicker? Does the root look any different? (Often a hair effected by androgens will either have a sebum plug or a root that is much smaller and less noticeable than the one on the healthy hair.)
Next, grab the hair from the back first, hold it between your thumb and first finger and flick it up and watch it come down. It should come down quickly and decisively because it should have some weight to it. Repeat the process with the hair that you suspect is thinner. Some of these will flutter like a feather and take longer to come down because they are less weighty. It's almost as if they are hollow inside.
Treatment: It's important that you nip this in the bud as soon as you can because with each new regrowth cycle the problem is going to get worse and is going to get harder and harder to reverse. The first step in this is to treat the scalp. People with AGA often have a tight scalp with lots of inflammation because of their sensitivity. So, your goal is to reduce the inflammation and to relax the scalp.
Next, you'll want to tackle the androgens. Many people will try to eliminate them, but as I said, it's almost impossible to do this for the long term. They just keep being produced. It's better to try to lessen them realistically and then to try to reduce the sensitivity.
Finally, you want to stimulate regrowth as best as you can and you want to make sure that the methods that you chose are both aggressive but gentle on your scalp because the last thing you need is more inflammation.
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Is Typically There An Undesired Hair Loss Product For Women?
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