#like for me adulthood comes with independence (emphasis on the financial) because for me i don't think i'll be able to

[mishkakagehishka]

I'm being forced to visit my abusive grandma to deal with my childhood traumas and grow up as person(already ended crying and visiting the clinic because of that) so with that said

What is it to be an adult for you ? One of the expectations is for me to be able to become an adult since I will be 23 when I get back so...

I think you shouldn't need to confront your trauma Like That to grow up as a person tbh i'm no psychologist but it feels counterproductive. Abusive people should be put behind you, not at your side. Stay safe, and stay strong, bestie, i'll be keeping you in my thoughts🫂

As for me, being an adult is a subjective thing. I'm not sure? I think "responsibility". Having more of them, and being okay-ish at keeping the strings together. -ish, i emphasise. Nobody can keep all the strings together, but trying your best is part of it. You gain a bit more independence, but you end up losing a lot of that freedom you gain to responsibilities. But i'd still say adulthood comes with additional freedoms. I hope the expectations placed on you aren't some shit like "get a (good) job" or "become fully independent, financially and otherwise" bc for me that's awfully individualist and might not be feasible for every adult (like, a disabled adult might not be able to keep a job that is exhausting, whatever "exhausting" might mean to them - could be the medical profession known for a lot of overtime and sleepless nights, could be an office job where you have to stare at screens that cause eyestrain for too long etc etc).

But i think it does include some independency. Dependant on the person. YMMV. I think i'd leave it up to the individual to define, beyond the biological "maturity/end of puberty" or sociological "minor/adult" divide

[friendsresilience]

Generation why

From Brisbane News

(Issue 737)

This is an extract from a magazine that is about the new generation of children called “Generation why” and how they can deal with depression. This can be done with the Fun Friends program developed by Dr Paula Barrett.

“What do most parents want for their children? Do they dream of their son one day joining the ranks of our greatest Olympians? Are they desperate for their daughter to follow in Anna Bligh’s footsteps arid lead our state? There are, no doubt, mums and dads who harbour such grand ambitions, but I’d wager that most parents, if asked “What do you want for your kids?” would reply, “I just want them to be happy.”

Happiness: it’s the holy grail of the “Me” generation, and while we want it for ourselves, we want it even more for our children. Yet, all too often, anxiety and depression stand between our kids and the dreams we hold for them.

John Dalgleish is the manager of strategy and research at Kids Helpline, the national telephone and online counselling service for children and young people. A Queensland initiative that has been operating since 1991. Kids Helpline is a useful barometer of the issues most concerning young Australians.

“We conduct around 60,000 online or telephone counselling sessions a year,” says John. “And the clear trend is that we are now dealing with a very different mix of problems than three or four years ago. Questions are becoming extremely complex and all link back to higher levels of anxiety and depression.”

Mental health counts for 5500 calls a year, and each about 11 children (4000 a year) call reporting suicidal thoughts — that’s an astonishing 45 per cent increase since 2006.

Bullying is huge, particularly among 12- to 14-year-olds, says John, its impact compounded by technology — that is, bullying by mobile, text or internet.

“We’re finding there’s a higher correlation between thoughts of suicide and cyber bullying than there is between [ordinary] bullying and suicide,” reports John. “When you are bullied on the internet, there’s a potential audience of millions of people, and technology also means the bullying can follow you anywhere; you can t escape it.”

Kids Helpline is expecting calls to spike in the next 12 months as the full impact of the global financial crisis is felt, and that’s not to mention the climate-related doom and gloom we hear about every day.

It’s enough to make a parent feel helpless and overwhelmed, but the good news is that resilience can be taught, a negative glass-half-empty child (or adult, for that matter) can learn to see lite more positively and, with early intervention, it is possible to “vaccinate” a child (metaphorically, of course) against anxiety and the subsequent increased likelihood of depression.

Luckily for Brisbane parents, Dr Paula Barrett, an internationally-recognised expert in this area of child psychology, lives right here in our city. (…) adjunct professor at the University of Queensland’s School of Education, Dr Barrett is a diminutive Portuguese powerhouse whose work is making children around the world happier.

She says early across-the-board intervention – as opposed to selectively targeting only high-risk children – is crucial.

“If you don’t intervene. children predisposed to anxiety will most likely experience very strong anxiety in late adolescence or early adulthood,” she says. “And there’s a high probability that they may develop depression as well. The earlier you intervene, the more resilient the child is going to be to future negative life events.”

The intervention comes in the form of simple, fun programs she has developed in which children learn social and emotional skills to deal with difficult or challenging situations in life.

“With the Fun Friends program for little kids,” Dr Barrett says, “they learn how to think in positive ways, to relax and be the boss of their emotions. They start learning to set goals for themselves and how to have empathy for other people.”

There is talk of “red” thinking and “green” thinking and selecting healthy role models. In adolescence. the emphasis is on choosing positive friends who bring out the best in you.

When delivered across a whole school, the power of peer-to-peer learning kicks in and even confident, apparently resilient children will benefit.

While there have always been anxious children, Dr Barrett says, the factors protecting us against mental illness have weakened in the last two generations.

Strong, extended family or community support networks are absent from many children’s lives, rates of sleep and exercise have decreased (“exercise promotes neuroplasticity — if you want your brain to grow, you have to move,” she says) and poor nutrition is affecting physical and mental health.

Financial stresses on parents also mean that levels of strong, unconditional attachment. promoted by the full-time care of babies in their first year by a parent or grandparent, are under pressure. On this point Dr Barrett is cautious – “I don’t want mothers to feel guilty,” she says – but she welcomes the federal government’s moves towards a maternity leave scheme.

Other factors that put children’s mental health at risk include daily pressures on families; an inescapable media culture that focuses on bad news; and temperament: one child in five is born more sensitive than others and more vulnerable to depression. Also, our predominantly Anglo-Saxon culture does not allow children to be children for very long, Dr Barrett says.

“A child who’s five in Australia can be expected to behave like a ten year old in Portugal or Norway, and that’s pretty stressful for that child.”

Around the world, from Hong Kong to Holland, Finland and Norway, the Friends program has been introduced in schools. In British Columbia, Canada, the first children to have done the three stages of Friends (in preschool, primary and high school) are graduating. “After testing for social and emotional skills, those kids have triple the level [of skills] of kids who never had any intervention,” says Dr Barrett.

Here, a small but growing number of both state and independent schools is also addressing social and emotional learning via the Friends program.

Tina Pond, a year 6 teacher at All Hallows’ Middle School, says that school staff members noticed girls in years five, six and seven could tend to become anxious, nervous or worried about things, and decided to introduce Friends in 2007.

“The Friends program is useful in giving the girls strategies to cope with things,” Tina says. “And it’s really valuable having the whole class participate because it develops a common language between the students. We can talk about our red thoughts and our green thoughts and they all know what that means. There’s no other program that I know of that is this child centred.”

In a world where the needs of child so often overlooked. that’s good to know. (…)

Dr Barrett’s tips for happy kids ENCOURAGE. AT LEAST nine hours’ sleep a night and plenty of exercise to promote the release feel-good endorphins. LIMIT YOUR CHILDREN’S EXPOSURE to negative media influences. Focusing tragedies and disaster can reinforce negative thinking.\ IF YOU DON’T LIVE NEAR FAMILY, work on developing a supportive network of friends and community. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS – children can only sit still and pay attention for so long. END YOUR DAY WITH A STORY together.(…)”

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On Monday, the state’s grid operator, the Electric Reliability Council of Texas (ERCOT), issued a plea for help. The grid was once again running short on power and to avoid blackouts, the state’s least understood, most hated entity needed Texans to once again curtail their electricity usage. As ERCOT explained, some 11,000 megawatts—enough to power more than two million homes—had inexplicably tripped off-line just as the heat of summer started to set in across the state.

ERCOT vice president Woody Rickerson said in a statement that it wasn’t immediately clear why so many generating plants had “forced outages,” meaning they needed unplanned repairs, and then noted that “this is unusual for this early in the summer season.” What’s not unusual is the number of high-profile flops by the Texas power grid this year. The prospect of running low on electricity comes just four months after the grid failed during February’s winter storm, cutting off power to more than 4.8 million homes and leading to the deaths of at least two hundred people (and by some counts as many as seven hundred). And it comes just after Governor Greg Abbott signed into law several bills that will supposedly address that crisis. But the reforms, while important, seem to be based on the assumption that the February freeze-out was a onetime event. Major aspects of the legislation, such as protecting power plants against extreme cold, do not address summer shortages. So here we are, just a few months later, struggling once again to keep the lights and the A/C on, with the hottest part of the summer still two months away. Once again we must ask: What is wrong with the Texas grid?

Put simply, our electric system can’t deliver the power we need when we need it most. Fixing that fatal flaw is going to be extremely difficult, and our politicians don’t do difficult. They prefer to rush to safe havens like Fox News to scapegoat renewable energy sources, or distract us with calls for a GoFundMe border wall. What bills they actually pass are little more than Band-Aids to address their past mistakes. Meanwhile, other states that endured freezing temperatures managed to keep electricity flowing, in part because their systems, in one form or another, put an emphasis on reliability. They may have higher prices, but they don’t have to burn the furniture to stay alive when temperatures plunge.

Make no mistake, the state of the power grid is a political failure of major proportions. The danger that extreme cold posed to the grid was first presented to lawmakers in 2011, in a 357-page report by federal regulators. Yet lawmakers didn’t mandate any of the changes because they didn’t want to interfere in the markets or discomfit any campaign contributors. Similarly, state leaders have refused to require generating reserves in case of emergency, choosing to let private actors alone set the demands for generating capacity. Our state leaders’ devotion to purported free-market “solutions” borders on religious fervor. 

Except when it doesn’t. In February, as the cold set in and power plants started going off-line, wholesale power prices were supposed to spike to their maximum of $9,000 per megawatt-hour. (On a typical day, they are usually less than $30.) But the system didn’t work the way it was designed to. Prices plateaued at about $2,000 per megawatt-hour. So the Texas Public Utility Commission, which oversees ERCOT and the power sector in general, stepped in and essentially reset the price at $9,000. Then it kept it there for some 32 hours after the crisis had subsided and generation had returned to normal.

The PUC’s action was deliberate. “We knew at the time we were making a bit of a financial mess,” Arthur D’Andrea, then-chairman of the PUC, told Bank of America investors in a private call just weeks after the crisis. (Several hours after Texas Monthly revealed the call, Abbott forced out D’Andrea.) That “bit of a financial mess” was actually a $16 billion liability that floated around for months as our elected officials at the Legislature argued over what to do about it. The independent market monitor, a Washington, D.C.–based firm called Potomac Energy, which is supposed to settle these sorts of issues, recommended that the overcharges be clawed backed from generators and traders. But lawmakers decided that rather than following their own market rules, they would stick us, the ratepayers, with most of the bill. The state will issue bonds that will be used to reimburse retail electric providers, co-ops, and municipal utilities, and they in turn will add a surcharge on consumers’ bills. Lawmakers were quick to point out that the charge to each of us will be minimal—a few dollars a month for as long as thirty years. Upon reaching adulthood, my unborn granddaughter will pay for the bad decisions someone made long before she took her first breath. 

Nothing our lawmakers are billing us for, however, will prevent more blackouts. They have once again left us at the mercy of a failed system, as they have every legislative session since 2011, when they were warned that a crisis like February’s could happen. And we’ve experienced close calls during several winters and summers since then. In fact, 2011 was much like 2021—a winter freeze that crippled generation followed by a blistering summer of surging demand. But that summer, the need to curtail power usage didn’t appear until August.

We have what’s called an energy-only market, which basically means power producers get paid only for energy they put into the grid. No one gets paid for having power on standby just in case. There’s no backup. Market participants—the power plant owners, energy traders, and electric retailers—shrug at the lack of a safety net. In an energy-only market, blackouts happen, they argue. But Texans don’t see it that way. A University of Houston survey of Texas residents in May found that 52 percent believe our current laws are insufficient to address grid failures. Other deregulated states at least have some reserve generation, often known as a capacity market, which keeps some plants online for emergencies. Texas has some of the slimmest margins for excess generation in the country, which is why we had another near-crisis this week.  

We have several options for fixing the problem. We could create a capacity market, which would maintain additional generation when needed. It’s expensive, but imagine if we were paying for future reliability rather than past mistakes from failed leadership. We could also restructure the market to create more direct incentives for consumers and businesses to use less electricity in times when generation is in short supply. Many large manufacturers already engage in this process, known as demand response. We could expand and create better incentives. Or we could come up with some combination of these ideas.

Unfortunately, our history shows us that we won’t. Our lawmakers were in session for 140 days and couldn’t bother to address many of the structural issues that plague the reliability of the grid. This week, Governor Abbott was asked about the threat of blackouts during a press conference on his plan to build a crowdfunded wall near the Texas-Mexico border. He tried to deflect the question, saying that his critics were “the same people who called me a Neanderthal when I opened Texas one hundred percent.” The grid, he said, was in “better today than it’s ever been.”

The consequences of this persistent foot-dragging and denial could be severe. For the second time in four months, Texas is making national headlines about its unreliable power supply. Businesses thinking of coming here may reconsider. Do they want to invest billions in a factory or a corporate campus in a state that can’t keep the lights on? By once again failing to address the obvious flaws in our power grid, our lawmakers didn’t just turn their backs on the people of Texas. They may have left the Texas Miracle in the dark.

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