#like am i suddenly a big meanie exclusionist because I don't want people im my house?

[gnometa233]

Bi lesbian discourse highlights everything that's wrong with the lGBT+ community. The idea that labels and comfort are more important than people. The idea that "infighting" is what destroys the community and not the literal disrespect. The idea that gatekeeping and exclusivity are inherently bad despite them being morally neutral concepts that are necessary for people to have their own spaces. There's so many dumb ass "bi lesbian arguments" that can be debunked in 5 seconds. Watch.

"But someone might have a connection to both labels!!" get over it. Grieve for what you once were and move on. Don't shape a label in order to fit YOUR feelings. Next.

"Lesbian was an inclusive label!!" Because people were biphobic and didn't understand you could be attracted to men and women so they were just shoved under one name. Bisexual women fought to be recognized as their own distinct sexuality with their own distinct wants and needs. In addition some things we did in the past are best left behind. If we were forever doing things because "people in the past did them", we would have never gotten past the stone age. Next

"Some people don't know their sexuality and go back and forth on the labels!!" Okay, here's three great labels for you to identify with while you figure yourself out: Sapphic, Queer, and Questioning. Next.

"But they're not actually harming anyone!!" Muddying down the meaning of lesbian to yet another "vague label where we can insert men into it" IS in fact harmful, and if you can't see why, you're short sighted and ignorant. Your actions do not exist in a vacuum. Also again, if you need a label, see the previous point. Next.

"Queer people are allowed to express themselves!!" no one said they weren't. I'm sorry there are some limits to the way you express yourself but you should take it up with god and cope. Find something else. Next.

"Stop fighting because you're doing the homophobe's work!!!" Classic "whataboutism" and we can fight against bi lesbians and homophobes at the same time. No one's appeasing the bigots, we're doing this because IT HURTS LESBIANS. Not everything is some super secret conspiracy theory where lgbt+ people turn against each other for the bigots. Sometimes, you're just an asshole and wrong.

Sometimes, things shouldn't be a free for all where you can do what you want. I'm not gonna suddenly redefine what a cat is because I wanted a dog. no amount of me calling a cat a dog will turn that cat into a dog, or convince other people I actually own a dog. I just gotta take my cat and love it for what it is.

this discourse has created hell