#like I think at the end of Ted Lasso instead of reuniting w his dad Jamie should have had his dad's dick eaten by dogs

[grandwretch]

sometimes the way ppl talk about mental trauma im relation to namwha or xianxia novels or whatever makes me so mad bc like. essentially what they are talking about is the difference in the way our culture portrays trauma differently and which ways we see as good vs bad reactions to trauma and like. ultimately they end up judging a piece of media bc they wanna be like "well China is Wrong about men's mental health" and I'm just like bestie how the fuck are you going to change that by bitching about a webcomic secondly I agree w you when it comes to Real Life but ALSO can we even be sure that we're right just because our viewpoints line up w the culture we were both raised in

moreover I LIKE that Chinese media lets trauma victims (of both genders but it does happen to men more) be imperfect victims without being punished. like I LIKE that someone who was abused gets to completely demolish the lives of the people who hurt them without having to learn a lesson about how revenge is bad, actually. I love that there are so many stories of people who don't have to learn how to be the bigger person in front of their abusers. EVEN THE WOMEN.

Western media could learn a little more of that.