#it's such a big hurdle to go over. fear of people's judgement is a paralyzing feeling

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Thinking about Honami pushing away Leo/need in the main story but then growing to be the leader of Leo/need who protects what's important to them and leads the feelings in their performances

Thinking about how Honami was selfish by rejecting Leo/need out of fear of being hated in the main story but now her aim in music is supporting Leo/need and their dreams wholeheartedly

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To Be A Great Leader, You Must be a Great Decision Maker | I'm Not Mad At You

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To Be A Great Leader, You Must be a Great Decision Maker | I'm Not Mad At You

You are going to make thousands of decisions in your career – good ones, bad ones, and even some really bad ones. Yet, as a business leader, making a decision is better than making no decision at all. Accepting the inevitability of imperfection is critical at the executive level. To decide is bold, powerful, and transformative. Making decisions puts you on the path toward finding a solution.

Are You Wrestling with A Decision?

Many people come to us at I’M NOT MAD AT YOU Consulting when they are facing serious questions that will have an impact on the future of their company. We know that every decision, even the “little” ones, can make a very big difference to you. Sometimes it helps to work with a third-party who can offer an unbiased and honest opinion when you need it the most.

Decisions made within an organization have broad implications that extend beyond the effect they have on the company itself. Employers and employees also have a stake in the outcome. Together, the three components comprise what we call, “The Triad.” The best decisions serve the benefit of not only the company, but the employer and the employees as well. The trick is uncovering the company’s greatest assets and to make decisions that will foster them.

Among our many tools, I’M NOT MAD YOU consultants use Wheels Assessment Training (W.A.T.) to help reveal the resources that should be maximized in order to serve “The Triad” most effectively. In private, confidential sessions, we are able to assess the challenges of your organization and recommend solutions based on the stated concerns and talents of your team members. In doing so, we help you take control of the decision-making process to confidently move your business forward.

5 Common Decision Making Challenges

Don’t let these five decision-making challenges slow you down. Call in consultants with experience navigating these obstacles and empowering your upper management to arrive at better decisions faster.

Fear of making a mistake.

Business leaders may fear the consequences of a wrong decision. “Don’t be afraid of making a mistake. The fear will paralyze you,” says I’M NOT MAD AT YOU Founder Stacey Bullman. “You want to minimize the risk of making the wrong choice, but not every decision can or should be deliberated at length. Sometimes the real damage occurs because the choice wasn’t made quickly enough.”

Swift decision making frees managers to address other problem areas, including the fallout from poor choices made in the past. You don’t want to shoot from the hip to make snap judgements, but rather, you need to learn a process that allows you to make critical decisions thoughtfully and efficiently.

Too many cooks in the kitchen.   

Personality conflicts come into play when there are too many partners, board members, or executives involved in the decision-making process. Each of us has a preferred method of working and communicating, varying greatly by energy level, pacing, and attitude. Some people tend to dominate the process with quick thinking and forceful tones. Others attempt to influence others to encourage more cohesive group decisions. Add to the mix “enablers” and “skeptics”- and it’s easy to see how important decisions can linger indefinitely.

Calling in a third party can put a spotlight on all these disparate personality types to help you build more effective teams. I’M NOT MAD AT YOU consultants use a variety of methods to gauge how emotions and behavioral responses may be interfering with your team’s decision-making abilities.

Failure to follow up.

Sticking with the decision is just as important as making it in the first place. Business leaders are sometimes so relieved to have made a decision, they just want to forget it and move on. But what they really need to be doing is monitoring the situation to determine if the results are as they hoped.  Emergencies happen and long-term goals are missed when opportunities to make follow-up decisions are squandered.  I’M NOT MAD AT YOU consultants ensure that you follow up on decisions made with the right systems for monitoring and the right metrics in place.

Lack of resources

Very few enterprises have the in-house resources necessary to take on major challenges that arise long-term. Just look at all the small businesses that fail within the first five years. There are many situations where your resources are simply lacking. Not every small company is equipped with a business planner to help the company scale up. Maybe you need more reliable market analysis, or to fine tune your presentation skills, or just need to learn how to track your bottom line.

Outsourcing some of these challenges to a third-party business consultant with practical experience in these areas can help you make even complicated decisions with greater insight than you have available on your team.

Inability to loosen the reins

By their very nature, the best consultants are invasive. As a client, you have to give-in to the idea of turning over accountability to someone else. The decision to hire a consultant is the easy part. The hard part is committing to the decision to shift your mindset and allow another party to hold you and your business truly accountable. You have to trust in your partner and trust in the process. Rest assured, when you cross over this threshold, the results will be remarkable. 

I’M NOT MAD AT YOU Helps Business Leaders Overcome Decision Making Hurdles

At I’M NOT MAD AT YOU, we help people make the tough decisions that make companies better. We invite you to make an important decision right now: choose a new path for your business. The ride will be exhilarating, illuminating, and dynamic, and it may also leave you feeling exposed, vulnerable, and even defensive. But you will learn new tools to overcome decision-making challenges that impact your business.   Contact us to get the ball rolling.

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Youth Stop AIDS Event

University College London; 27/02/17; 6pm

We hear from three individuals living with HIV and how this affects their lives.  Our host reminds us there is still ignorance about how HIV is spread (toilet seats, kissing, etc) and reminds us of the ways the disease is in fact transmitted:

Sexual fluids; blood, breast milk, shared needles

The virus cannot last long outside of the human body.

Each speaker in the room told their personal story in two parts.

A young lady named Becky, 22, sends us a video message from South  Africa, as UK immigration has some problem letting her travel here.  She speaks about living with HIV since birth, but insists ‘HIV does not determine me’. She has a message for the campaign; ‘we must show to the world the change we want to see on this issue – take your will and be determined’.

Next to speak and fortunately with us physically is Horcelie, also 22 and from England, while her family originate from the Democratic Republic of Congo.  At around the age of ten, Horcelie was told by her mother she must take medication daily and a few years later, when she began asking questions, was told by a doctor she had HIV.  Her mother continued to keep this from their fellow DRC community here in Britain; so when Horcelie would break out in a skin rash sometimes from the medication, her mother would dismiss it.

Horcelie identifies this as part of the problem for the DRC; a subject that is not discussed and therefore people remain ignorant.

Next we heard from Alex, a 27 year old from Norfolk who had moved down to London when he was younger.  While feeling excited by the city, he had also fallen into some dangerous behaviour when he hit the club scene rather too hard.

Eventually Alex was able to pick himself up and get control of his life.  He started keeping fit and being healthy but found his weight loss was severe and sickness common.  He took the HIV test and it came back positive.

Alex struggled with telling his family to begin with, despite all the support they had given him over the years.  The stigma of HIV still runs so deep in society and especially in perceptions of how one contracts it and Alex had become inflected in the manner many make judgements about; ‘fear of rejection is paralyzing’.  Fortunately his family are not like this.

Krishen, 30, is from South  Africa. He grew up as a gay man with a great paranoia about HIV infection, living in the country with the world’s highest infection rate.  A feeling of ‘doom’ pervades the county.  Is spoken word and poetry form, Krishen tells us about contracting the disease, living with it ‘as man and wife till death do us part’.  His dignity shines through.

Horcelie returns to the stage and tells us about her experience of South Africa, when she volunteered to teach in that country. While taking feedback from the students, she noticed many spoke of ‘knowing someone’ with HIV (in fact it often turned out they themselves had it).  ‘I gave a speech telling them I was born with HIV’ she tells us, which was taken well but created quite a heavy atmosphere; one girl in particular was cool about it though, saying ‘my uncle has it’, so no big deal 

On returning to the UK, Horcelie decided to educate the DRC community here; she stood in a beauty contest (Miss DRC) and made a video speech telling her story. ‘I found lots of fear in my community’ she tells us; some people died of that fear when they contracted HIV and would not tell anyone, so never got help.

While learning to cope with this life, Alex became an activist in a roundabout way when he was selected to appear on the Channel 4 programme First Dates.  During the application process, he was asked about his health and disclosed his status.  This was considered ‘too risky’ to the programme makers and they attempted to drop him. Alex knew it was against the law (Equality Act 2010) to have him removed from the show over his health, so he fought the decision and appeared on the programme (although his date was a bit of a disappointment).

Alex found he ‘rather liked arguing about HIV stuff’ and has since campaigned for the Terrence Higgins Trust and on the PrEP drug for HIV prevention (‘the NHS helped save me’).

Krishen talks again on his continuing learning to live with HIV, managing problems like other people’s ignorance and travel restrictions, among other hurdles.  Sharing his story has made him an activist and he reminds us ‘there is always an ‘I’ in HIV’.  He calls for a constant remembrance of those we have lost.

Lastly, our chair comes back in to remind us of some important facts and how to take the campaign forward to eradicate new infections by 2030:

Young     people are disproportionately affected by HIV

HIV     is no longer a death sentence

2.1     million people were infected in 2015

‘Complacency is a killer’ and we need serious political will to finish the job.  However the UK government is not pulling their weight in recent times, with DIFD having missed the last two international HIV/AIDS conferences.  Part of the campaign includes calling the government to carry out a DIFD-wide stock take and review their approach to HIV/AIDS.

‘We need your voices too’ so please get involved, including on the upcoming day of action.  For more information and how you can get involved, go to the Youth Stop AIDS website.

 Links:

Youth Stop AIDS: http://youthstopaids.org/

PrEP: https://www.aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/prevention/reduce-your-risk/pre-exposure-prophylaxis/index.html

 http://www.whatisprep.org/

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To Be A Great Leader, You Must be a Great Decision Maker | I'm Not Mad At You

New Post has been published on http://personalcoachingcenter.com/to-be-a-great-leader-you-must-be-a-great-decision-maker-im-not-mad-at-you/

To Be A Great Leader, You Must be a Great Decision Maker | I'm Not Mad At You

You are going to make thousands of decisions in your career – good ones, bad ones, and even some really bad ones. Yet, as a business leader, making a decision is better than making no decision at all. Accepting the inevitability of imperfection is critical at the executive level. To decide is bold, powerful, and transformative. Making decisions puts you on the path toward finding a solution.

Are You Wrestling with A Decision?

Many people come to us at I’M NOT MAD AT YOU Consulting when they are facing serious questions that will have an impact on the future of their company. We know that every decision, even the “little” ones, can make a very big difference to you. Sometimes it helps to work with a third-party who can offer an unbiased and honest opinion when you need it the most.

Decisions made within an organization have broad implications that extend beyond the effect they have on the company itself. Employers and employees also have a stake in the outcome. Together, the three components comprise what we call, “The Triad.” The best decisions serve the benefit of not only the company, but the employer and the employees as well. The trick is uncovering the company’s greatest assets and to make decisions that will foster them.

Among our many tools, I’M NOT MAD YOU consultants use Wheels Assessment Training (W.A.T.) to help reveal the resources that should be maximized in order to serve “The Triad” most effectively. In private, confidential sessions, we are able to assess the challenges of your organization and recommend solutions based on the stated concerns and talents of your team members. In doing so, we help you take control of the decision-making process to confidently move your business forward.

5 Common Decision Making Challenges

Don’t let these five decision-making challenges slow you down. Call in consultants with experience navigating these obstacles and empowering your upper management to arrive at better decisions faster.

Fear of making a mistake.

Business leaders may fear the consequences of a wrong decision. “Don’t be afraid of making a mistake. The fear will paralyze you,” says I’M NOT MAD AT YOU Founder Stacey Bullman. “You want to minimize the risk of making the wrong choice, but not every decision can or should be deliberated at length. Sometimes the real damage occurs because the choice wasn’t made quickly enough.”

Swift decision making frees managers to address other problem areas, including the fallout from poor choices made in the past. You don’t want to shoot from the hip to make snap judgements, but rather, you need to learn a process that allows you to make critical decisions thoughtfully and efficiently.

Too many cooks in the kitchen.   

Personality conflicts come into play when there are too many partners, board members, or executives involved in the decision-making process. Each of us has a preferred method of working and communicating, varying greatly by energy level, pacing, and attitude. Some people tend to dominate the process with quick thinking and forceful tones. Others attempt to influence others to encourage more cohesive group decisions. Add to the mix “enablers” and “skeptics”- and it’s easy to see how important decisions can linger indefinitely.

Calling in a third party can put a spotlight on all these disparate personality types to help you build more effective teams. I’M NOT MAD AT YOU consultants use a variety of methods to gauge how emotions and behavioral responses may be interfering with your team’s decision-making abilities.

Failure to follow up.

Sticking with the decision is just as important as making it in the first place. Business leaders are sometimes so relieved to have made a decision, they just want to forget it and move on. But what they really need to be doing is monitoring the situation to determine if the results are as they hoped.  Emergencies happen and long-term goals are missed when opportunities to make follow-up decisions are squandered.  I’M NOT MAD AT YOU consultants ensure that you follow up on decisions made with the right systems for monitoring and the right metrics in place.

Lack of resources

Very few enterprises have the in-house resources necessary to take on major challenges that arise long-term. Just look at all the small businesses that fail within the first five years. There are many situations where your resources are simply lacking. Not every small company is equipped with a business planner to help the company scale up. Maybe you need more reliable market analysis, or to fine tune your presentation skills, or just need to learn how to track your bottom line.

Outsourcing some of these challenges to a third-party business consultant with practical experience in these areas can help you make even complicated decisions with greater insight than you have available on your team.

Inability to loosen the reins

By their very nature, the best consultants are invasive. As a client, you have to give-in to the idea of turning over accountability to someone else. The decision to hire a consultant is the easy part. The hard part is committing to the decision to shift your mindset and allow another party to hold you and your business truly accountable. You have to trust in your partner and trust in the process. Rest assured, when you cross over this threshold, the results will be remarkable. 

I’M NOT MAD AT YOU Helps Business Leaders Overcome Decision Making Hurdles

At I’M NOT MAD AT YOU, we help people make the tough decisions that make companies better. We invite you to make an important decision right now: choose a new path for your business. The ride will be exhilarating, illuminating, and dynamic, and it may also leave you feeling exposed, vulnerable, and even defensive. But you will learn new tools to overcome decision-making challenges that impact your business.   Contact us to get the ball rolling.

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