#it's so repetitive that anytime anyone in a fic tarts to get overwhelmed i just know some asshole is gonna pop out of the woodwork

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i am so fucking sick of angst writers alllllllways doing the "hes having a panic attack! quick!" "hey bufdy come breathe with me.in, out, in put, good job! wow! keep brewthing!" bullshit.

as someone who has had panic attacks as long as i can remember--NO ONE FUCKING DOES THIS.

if people came up and started crowding me and trying to force me to breathe i would probably just punch them square in the jaw. and i wouldnt even feel bad about it. becausd back the fuck off.

You cannot stop a panic attack. period. you can not fend it off. you have to let it run its course.

the person will often be trying to breathe deep on their own as soon as they notice their vision going back anyway. panic attacks cause nausea. most people take deep breaths when nauseous.

and guess what? fainting during a panic attack isnt uncommon or bad, either. in fact, it can be inevitable.

stop trying to push this psych ward sanitized 'coping'that actually doesnt help. show a real panic attack.

a panic attack that lasts minutes. that doesnt just 'wear off'and then everything is fine. that can't be fixed with just some yoga breathing exercises. give me fainting, throwing up, anger, fear, shame. give me numbness and lack of blood pressure and give me REALISTIC REACTIONS.

again, ive had hundred of panic attacks. the only one where anyone tried to help me was last week in front of my boss that caused me to throw up. she didnt do anything for me, she just sat at her desk working as i sat on the floor in the office and tried to stay present. she asked me if i needed anything and when i said no she left it at that. when i said i had to lay down she said ok, do what you need. when i started to gag she asked if i needed help leaving the room. that was the extent of the help i was given. no one cleaned up my vomit for me. no one came and crowded me or touched me. and it was the best response ive ever gotten for a panic attack.

99% of the time though, no one even knows one occured.even if people witness you have one. they often jduge you LONG before they try to help.