#it's not the kids it's the adults in charge and our gov making me feel ill
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nectardaddy · 22 days ago
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teacher rant
american education system is ass what the hell??? they didn't learn how to properly write in all their years of elementary school so when they get to 5th grade they don't know anything but we give them a standardized test????? they don't know how to brainstorm, to plan, how to organize, or how to edit AT ALL! BUT THAT'S SOMEHOW MY FAULT THEY CAN'T WRITE??? IT FALLS BACK ON ME????
I will never understand.... these fucks either haven't been in a classroom in decades or at all what the absolute fuck??? 30 minutes a day of writing and I'm supposed to make a miracle make it make sense
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cksmart-world · 2 years ago
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 SMART BOMB
The Completely Unnecessary News Analysis
By Christopher Smart
July 18, 2023
GUV OF LUV: BE NICE YOU IMBECILES
You want good news, well here it comes: Utah Gov. Spencer Cox made national headlines by saying on network TV that people need to start fighting nicer. For real. As the brand new chairman of the National Governor's Association, our guv is putting heads together at Stanford and Dartmouth to get a handle on toxic animosity. Research shows that when public figures talk nicer, people in general aren't so gnarly. This comes as the U.S. House of Representatives looks more and more like the cage at an MMA smackdown, which, in turn, has made the country look... well, like an MMA smackdown. As part of his “Fight Nicer” campaign, Cox wants immature adults and children alike not to be like Trump 'cause he's nasty and doesn't fight nice. And, get this Wilson, the Utah guv said he hopes the Big Orange Felon doesn't get the Republican nomination because he's a bad influence on Republicans and their kids who might think nastiness is normal. Cox prefers Ron DeSantis for president but said he needs to ask the Florida governor to be a bit nicer. During a news conference in May, Mr. Cox called members of Congress “imbeciles” for not fighting nice and being unable to pass legislation. Then he had to apologize for being nasty and calling them “imbeciles.” Oops.
GO BIG OR HIT THE ROAD — IT'S ONLY TAXPAYER MONEY
Hey Wilson, remember a while back when you joked that the best thing about the gondola for Little Cottonwood Canyon is that you could get good and stoned on the ride up to Snowbird and Alta. Well, the braintrust at UDOT just gave the thumbs up to the $550 million Rube Goldberg proposal and we're fairly sure they weren't stoned when they made the decision — although they could have been. Of course, the boys over at UDOT didn't feel any pressure from Utah's tourist industry or the State Travel Council. No, no — this is no gimmick it only looks like a ruse to draw more tourists. And really, who in L.A. or Dallas or Miami wouldn't want to ride the world's longest gondola to the Greatest Snow on Earth. It's all about packaging, Wilson. This isn't some kind of nature sustainability thing where, as custodians, we protect the mountains to serve as a respite from our urban craziness. Wake up, this is about an industry that provides jobs and tax dollars and is in keeping with state leaders mantra of grow, grow, grow and bigger is better. Sure, naysayers contend that buses would be less costly and more efficient. But who wants to read about a bus in a big ad in Ski Magazine or on giant electronic signs in major airports when you could see the world's longest gondola. And besides, it's only taxpayer money.
VOTE FOR ME, I'VE BEEN INDICTED
Yes, the circus is still in town and God knows when it will leave. It's the Greatest Show On Earth — Donald Trump fronting criminal charges as a campaign strategy. David Copperfield step aside. “I'm an innocent man,” he tells MAGA crowds at rallies and anyone else who will listen. “They're coming after me to get to you. I'm your retribution.” It's working — between March and June he raked in $35 million. The twice impeached and twice indicted Don “The-Count-of-Monte-Cristo” Trump has vowed to destroy the Deep State, drain the swamp — again, and get the Bidens. “This is the final battle,” he sings out. “Either they win or we win.” Sorry Wilson, no jugglers, or tigers or acrobats but there are plenty of clowns. Trump has been indicted in connection with hush money payments to a porn star and the mishandling of classified documents. Criminal charges could also come for election interference in Georgia and for the Jan. 6 attempted coup. All good things if you're a misunderstood grifter who just got a new marketing strategy to win back the White House and avoid prison by pardoning yourself. He's Napoleon, Moses and Pretty Boy Floyd all rolled into one, shooting the moon to Make America Great Again. No Wilson, you just can't make this stuff up.
Post script — That's going to do it for another week in Hot Lake City where the staff here at Smart Bomb keeps track of Barbie so you don't have to. News flash —there are new concerns raised by Texas Republican Sen. Ted Cruz from the new Barbie movie that America's favorite doll could be a communist agent. For those who have wondered whether Barbie is in on a honey-pot plot to squeeze state secrets out of Ken it's not much of a surprise — she's always wearing pink. Meanwhile House Speaker Kevin McCarthy had this to say: “Our men and women in the military can't defend themselves if they are trained in woke. We don't want Disneyland training our military.” Trained in woke. OMG! To keep our country even safer, Republicans included in the defense budget amendments to get rid of diversity, equity and inclusion (DEI) training, stop reimbursing expenses related to abortion services and bar healthcare covering hormone treatments and surgeries for transgender individuals. Semper Fi. Remember the Maine. Damn the torpedos and full speed ahead. Barbie seems to be every where. Burger King has introduced the “Pink Burger” with pink sauce and “Ken Potatoes.” For real. Its only available in Brazil for now — but look for Barbie Burgers coming to a BK near you soon.
Well Wilson, Barbie is bigger than ever and controversial, too. She could be a communist and she's probably woke, too. It's enough to make your head spin. That's why Spencer Cox's “Be Reverent” campaign is such a breath of fresh air. Why don't you and the guys in the band take us out with a little something for the “Guv of Luv”:
Love is but a song we sing Fear's the way we die You can make the mountains ring Or make the angels cry Though the bird is on the wing And you may not know why Come on, people now Smile on your brother Everybody get together Try to love one another right now Some may come and some may go He will surely pass When the one that left us here Returns for us at last We are but a moment's sunlight Fading in the grass Come on, people now Smile on your brother Everybody get together Try to love one another right now If you hear the song I sing You will understand, listen You hold the key to love and fear All in your trembling hand Just one key unlocks them both It's there at your command Come on, people now Smile on your brother Everybody get together Try to love one another right now (Come On People — The Youngbloods)
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sinners0prayer · 7 years ago
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lmao you know i love negan but i feel i can bring forth my salt to you so i just gotta say I agree that something went wrong with negan, and it was them doing the typical tv show thing of having to make each villain bigger and badder. Except...negan was never more evil than the governor. the gov is objectively the WORST kind of bad guy in the comics and they (thankfully) toned him down in the show
First of all salt is a welcome addition to any meal. 
Second, I can’t really pinpoint what went wrong. I was always fine with the changes, making him more evil, like that was fine. But all the ways they went about it, while still trying to point us towards his fate in the comics, it’s like, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. 
Either you make Negan a villain unable to be redeemed, or you give him just enough to redeem him. And I’m sorry, Negan’s little chitchat with Gabriel didn’t tug on the mercy strings for me. (Don’t get me wrong, I want Jail Cell Negan like right NOW, but I want it to make sense) 
I’m just VERY confused at what they’re doing. If Chandler is leaving the show, and they kill Carl, I just don’t see HOW IT’S POSSIBLE Rick would still spare Negan. I’m not even a Carl stan but Carl is really the point of this show, in my opinion. (Rick is the heart and soul but anyway) Carl is what this world is about, saving it for the kids. Carl is Rick’s everything. (Or he should be) I really don’t see how Carl could die, and Rick wouldn’t go fucking berserk. 
I’m just so confused at what they’re planning here. It’s chaos, and I’m hoping that’s the point, like the “how is the gang gonna get out of this jam” sort of thing. Because otherwise there’s a cleanup on Aisle 8 and I’m not picking it up. 
IM SO TIRED OF DARYL. That was unrelated but needed to be screamed. 
The below is what I wish would happen
If I was in charge of this thing, I would have laid out Negan and the war VERY carefully. Season 8 would end with Negan in the cell, we’d have the two year time jump, things would look grand and we’d have the Whisperers introduced subtly. 
Season 9 and 10 would be it. Season 9 would be fast paced, covering Negan’s redemption arc, the whisperers, and from there I’d probably change things because this show is gonna be wrapped up in a bow at the end of season 10.
After the whisperers, I’d probably have a lot of communication developed between the main crew and towns and maybe even states. We didn’t lead people on for 10 years for nothing. Season 10 would be about rebuilding, about characters creating lives. 
Season 10/Series Finale:
It’s like at least four years after the war. Negan lives on the outskirts of a town, Maggie is still leader of Hilltop, Carol and Ezekiel rule the Kingdom (yes, Ezekiel is still alive bitch! Shiva would have been too but whatever), and Rick and Michonne ‘rule’ Alexandria, but not really because Rick is done with that shit! But Michonne is still a queen so. 
Anyway Judith is like 6 or something, Carl is an adult living at Hilltop with Enid, she’s pregnant. Rick and Michonne are in bliss. Judith is going to school. 
And we see conflict, but it’s all ordinary life conflict, like broken horse and buggies, or bad crops, things bad enough to cause worry, but you know theyre gonna figure this shit out!
It ends with the main cast getting together in a way and talking, but not too hokey. Reminiscing. Over their voices we see clips of their life, Negan is chopping wood outside his house, alone, LITTLE HERSHEL IS RUNNING AROUND HILLTOP, all sorts of hopeful “Look where we got” things. But it’s not as cheesy as it sounds, somehow. 
Anyway here is my rough draft vision its dumb, I dont write for TV, but you get the gist
Series Finale Final Scenes: Title: New Life
Final Scene A. 
[Rick, Michonne, Carl, Maggie, Carol, and Daryl sit around a bonfire in Alexandria]
Maggie: I saw Negan today. Out in Concord ... it’s strange. I don’t feel that anger anymore. I don’t really feel anything. I guess I’ve moved on. -- It all seems so barbaric now. 
Michonne: It does. 
Maggie: And unfair. Sometimes I wonder why my daddy had to have that happen to him, when in only a few years, we’d be a little more civilized. 
Rick: It was the world then. No rhyme or reason for it. It just was. 
Maggie: But we fought, so that they [kids] didn’t have to deal with it like we did. 
Rick: It just took us a little longer than I would have liked. [Rick looks at Carl]
Carl: That’s not anything you could have helped. I’m proud to have helped make this world what it is now. It wasn’t your fault any of it happened. We all had to do what we felt was right. It didn’t work out for everybody. 
Maggie: No it didn’t. And he gets to live out the rest of his life in a peace he knows he doesn’t deserve. He can hold on to that pain. Not me. Not anymore. 
Rick: Glenn would be proud of you. 
Maggie: Yes, he would be. [soft smile]
Carol: Sometimes I think, Sophia should be here to see this. But the more I go back, the more I think about everything that’s happened...is it wrong that I’m glad she didn’t have to go through it?
Michonne: No. I feel the same way. 
Carol: It’s painful, isn’t it?
Michonne: Very. But we made it here so that no one else has to know our pain. Or Sophia’s, or Andre’s. 
Carl: And Andrea, Hershel, Dale...Tyreese, Abraham, Sasha. Glenn. No one else has to feel that. 
Maggie: Or Beth’s.
Rick: Or Shane’s. 
Daryl: The world didn’t make monsters out of us. 
Rick: No. But it tried. 
Carol: ...It did. At times. 
Rick: But we came back. Because we can always come back. We’re not too far gone. 
Maggie: And we never will be.
Final Scene B
Scene transition, Rick and Michonne walk home. 
Michonne: Do you ever feel like you could have done more? Looking back?
Rick: All the time. 
Michonne: Well, we could’ve done worse. [smirk]
Rick: We did alright, all things considered. [returned smirk]
[flirting ensues]
Michonne: You made one good decision, at the very least. 
Rick: What’s that?
Michonne: Us. 
Rick: Oh, I didn’t decide that. That just happened. 
Michonne: Mmhmm. 
Rick smiles. 
Michonne smiles, closes her eyes and looks away. 
Rick: What?
Michonne: I’ll just never get tired of that. 
Rick: What?
Michonne: Your elusive smile. 
Rick: Well, the feeling goes both ways. You’re the only reason I’m here. 
Michonne: Not the only reason. 
Rick: No, you are. I would have given up without you. 
Michonne: Well, in that case, I’m really glad you let me into the prison. 
Rick: Feels like a lifetime ago, doesn’t it? 
Michonne: Yeah. We’re in a new life now. -- I’m going to walk Carl to the gate, I have to give him that basket. 
Rick: Right, I’ll see you inside then. 
Final Scene C
Scene transition. Rick is in their bedroom, he gets ready for bed, and lies in the bed, waiting for Michonne to come back. 
The camera is at a birds eye view, on Rick’s face. His eyes go back and forth like he’s thinking and envisioning things, remembering. It zooms out, slowly. Rick smiles. Camera stops as it gets past the ceiling. The scene is reminiscent of the first episode. Rick is awake now, but in a better world. Zooming out, but he’s not trapped.
A voice, right before fading to black. 
Hey you. Dumbass. Yeah, you in the tank. Cozy in there?
End Series.
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gordonwilliamsweb · 5 years ago
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The Challenges Of Keeping Young Adults Safe During The Pandemic
Last month, after California Gov. Gavin Newsom ordered most of the state’s residents to stay home, I found myself under virtual house arrest with an uncomfortably large number of Gen Zers.
Somehow I had accumulated four of my children’s friends over the preceding months. I suppose some parents more hard-nosed than I would have sent them packing, but I didn’t have the heart — especially in the case of my daughter’s college roommate, who couldn’t get back to her family in Vietnam.
So, I had to convince six bored and frustrated 18- to 21-year-olds that, yes, they too could catch the coronavirus ― that they needed to stop meeting their friends, wipe down everything they brought into the house and wash their hands more frequently than they had ever imagined.
The first two weeks were nerve-wracking. I cringed every time I heard the front door open or close, and when any of the kids returned home, I grilled them remorselessly.
The day after a house meeting in which I laid down the law, I found my son, Oliver, 21, inside his cramped music studio in the back of the house with a kid I’d never seen before. And that night, I saw one of our extra-familial housemates in a car parked out front, sharing a mind-altering substance with a young man who used to visit in the pre-pandemic era.
If I’ve been neurotically vigilant, it’s because the stakes are high: I’ve got asthma and Oliver has rheumatoid arthritis, making us potentially more vulnerable to the ravages of the virus.
But even as I play the role of enforcer, I recognize that these kids are as anxious and worried as I am.
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My daughter, Caroline, 18, is filled with sadness and despair, feelings she had largely overcome after going away to college last fall. She recently started doing telephone sessions with her old therapist. Oliver has begun therapy — remotely, for now ― after dismissing it as pointless for the past several years.
A study released this month by Mental Health America, an advocacy and direct service organization in Alexandria, Virginia, shows that people under age 25 are the most severely affected by a rise in anxiety and depression linked to social isolation and the fear of contracting COVID-19.
That is not surprising, even though the virus has proved far deadlier for seniors. Mental health problems were already rising sharply among teens and young adults before the pandemic. Now their futures are on hold, they can’t be with their friends, their college campuses are shuttered, their jobs are evaporating — and a scary virus makes some wonder if they even want those jobs.
Paul Gionfriddo, Mental Health America’s CEO, says parents should be attentive even to subtle changes in their kids’ behavior or routine. “Understand that the first symptoms are not usually external ones,” Gionfriddo says. “Maybe their sleep patterns change, or they’re eating less, or maybe they are distracted.”
If your teens or young adults are in distress, they can screen themselves for anxiety or depression by visiting www.mhascreening.org. They will get a customized result along with resources that include reading material, videos and referrals to treatment or online communities.
The Child Mind Institute (www.childmind.org or 212-308-3118) offers a range of resources, including counseling sessions by phone. If your young person needs emotional support, or just to vent to an empathetic peer, they can call a “warmline.” For a list of numbers by state, check www.warmline.org.
Caroline’s case is probably typical of college kids. She moved back home from San Francisco last month after her university urged students to leave the dorms. Her stuff is stranded up there, and we have no idea when we’ll be able to reclaim it. Meanwhile, she has been planning to share an off-campus apartment starting in August with four of her friends from the dorm. We can get attractive terms if we sign the lease by April 30 ― but what if school doesn’t reopen in the fall?
For Oliver, who’s been living with me all along, the big challenges are a lack of autonomy, a need for money and cabin fever. Those stressors got the best of him recently, and he started doing sorties for a food delivery service. Of course, it makes me crazy with worry every time he goes out, and when he returns home I’m in his face: “Did you wear a mask and gloves? Did you keep your distance? Wash your hands!”
But what can I do, short of chaining him to the water heater? And if going out — and getting some cash in his pocket ― makes him feel better, that can’t be all bad (unless he catches the virus).
If your kid dares to work outside the house, and you dare let him, several industries are hiring — particularly grocery stores, pharmacies and home delivery and food services. Child care for parents who have to work is also in demand, so your fearless teen might want to ask around the neighborhood.
Volunteering ― again, if they dare — is another good way for young people to feel independent and useful. In every community, there are vulnerable seniors who need somebody to shop for them or deliver meals to their homes. You can use www.nextdoor.com, a local networking app, to find out if any neighbors need help.
Food banks are in great need of volunteers right now. To find a food bank near you, go to www.feedingamerica.org. Blood donations are also needed. Older teens and young adults can arrange to donate by contacting the American Red Cross (www.redcross.org). For a list of creative ways to help, check out Youth Service America (www.ysa.org).
While the kids are inside the house, which in my case is still most of the time, put them to work. “Anxiety loves idle time, and when we don’t have a lot to do, our brain starts thinking the worst thoughts,” says Yesenia Marroquin, a psychologist at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.
I’ve harnessed the able bodies of my young charges for household chores. A few weekends ago, I decreed a spring cleaning. They organized themselves with surprising alacrity to weed the backyard, sweep and mop the floors, clean the stove and haul out volumes of trash.
Considering the circumstances, the house is looking pretty darn good these days.
This KHN story first published on California Healthline, a service of the California Health Care Foundation.
The Challenges Of Keeping Young Adults Safe During The Pandemic published first on https://nootropicspowdersupplier.tumblr.com/
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stephenmccull · 5 years ago
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The Challenges Of Keeping Young Adults Safe During The Pandemic
Last month, after California Gov. Gavin Newsom ordered most of the state’s residents to stay home, I found myself under virtual house arrest with an uncomfortably large number of Gen Zers.
Somehow I had accumulated four of my children’s friends over the preceding months. I suppose some parents more hard-nosed than I would have sent them packing, but I didn’t have the heart — especially in the case of my daughter’s college roommate, who couldn’t get back to her family in Vietnam.
So, I had to convince six bored and frustrated 18- to 21-year-olds that, yes, they too could catch the coronavirus ― that they needed to stop meeting their friends, wipe down everything they brought into the house and wash their hands more frequently than they had ever imagined.
The first two weeks were nerve-wracking. I cringed every time I heard the front door open or close, and when any of the kids returned home, I grilled them remorselessly.
The day after a house meeting in which I laid down the law, I found my son, Oliver, 21, inside his cramped music studio in the back of the house with a kid I’d never seen before. And that night, I saw one of our extra-familial housemates in a car parked out front, sharing a mind-altering substance with a young man who used to visit in the pre-pandemic era.
If I’ve been neurotically vigilant, it’s because the stakes are high: I’ve got asthma and Oliver has rheumatoid arthritis, making us potentially more vulnerable to the ravages of the virus.
But even as I play the role of enforcer, I recognize that these kids are as anxious and worried as I am.
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My daughter, Caroline, 18, is filled with sadness and despair, feelings she had largely overcome after going away to college last fall. She recently started doing telephone sessions with her old therapist. Oliver has begun therapy — remotely, for now ― after dismissing it as pointless for the past several years.
A study released this month by Mental Health America, an advocacy and direct service organization in Alexandria, Virginia, shows that people under age 25 are the most severely affected by a rise in anxiety and depression linked to social isolation and the fear of contracting COVID-19.
That is not surprising, even though the virus has proved far deadlier for seniors. Mental health problems were already rising sharply among teens and young adults before the pandemic. Now their futures are on hold, they can’t be with their friends, their college campuses are shuttered, their jobs are evaporating — and a scary virus makes some wonder if they even want those jobs.
Paul Gionfriddo, Mental Health America’s CEO, says parents should be attentive even to subtle changes in their kids’ behavior or routine. “Understand that the first symptoms are not usually external ones,” Gionfriddo says. “Maybe their sleep patterns change, or they’re eating less, or maybe they are distracted.”
If your teens or young adults are in distress, they can screen themselves for anxiety or depression by visiting www.mhascreening.org. They will get a customized result along with resources that include reading material, videos and referrals to treatment or online communities.
The Child Mind Institute (www.childmind.org or 212-308-3118) offers a range of resources, including counseling sessions by phone. If your young person needs emotional support, or just to vent to an empathetic peer, they can call a “warmline.” For a list of numbers by state, check www.warmline.org.
Caroline’s case is probably typical of college kids. She moved back home from San Francisco last month after her university urged students to leave the dorms. Her stuff is stranded up there, and we have no idea when we’ll be able to reclaim it. Meanwhile, she has been planning to share an off-campus apartment starting in August with four of her friends from the dorm. We can get attractive terms if we sign the lease by April 30 ― but what if school doesn’t reopen in the fall?
For Oliver, who’s been living with me all along, the big challenges are a lack of autonomy, a need for money and cabin fever. Those stressors got the best of him recently, and he started doing sorties for a food delivery service. Of course, it makes me crazy with worry every time he goes out, and when he returns home I’m in his face: “Did you wear a mask and gloves? Did you keep your distance? Wash your hands!”
But what can I do, short of chaining him to the water heater? And if going out — and getting some cash in his pocket ― makes him feel better, that can’t be all bad (unless he catches the virus).
If your kid dares to work outside the house, and you dare let him, several industries are hiring — particularly grocery stores, pharmacies and home delivery and food services. Child care for parents who have to work is also in demand, so your fearless teen might want to ask around the neighborhood.
Volunteering ― again, if they dare — is another good way for young people to feel independent and useful. In every community, there are vulnerable seniors who need somebody to shop for them or deliver meals to their homes. You can use www.nextdoor.com, a local networking app, to find out if any neighbors need help.
Food banks are in great need of volunteers right now. To find a food bank near you, go to www.feedingamerica.org. Blood donations are also needed. Older teens and young adults can arrange to donate by contacting the American Red Cross (www.redcross.org). For a list of creative ways to help, check out Youth Service America (www.ysa.org).
While the kids are inside the house, which in my case is still most of the time, put them to work. “Anxiety loves idle time, and when we don’t have a lot to do, our brain starts thinking the worst thoughts,” says Yesenia Marroquin, a psychologist at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.
I’ve harnessed the able bodies of my young charges for household chores. A few weekends ago, I decreed a spring cleaning. They organized themselves with surprising alacrity to weed the backyard, sweep and mop the floors, clean the stove and haul out volumes of trash.
Considering the circumstances, the house is looking pretty darn good these days.
This KHN story first published on California Healthline, a service of the California Health Care Foundation.
The Challenges Of Keeping Young Adults Safe During The Pandemic published first on https://smartdrinkingweb.weebly.com/
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dinafbrownil · 5 years ago
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The Challenges Of Keeping Young Adults Safe During The Pandemic
Last month, after California Gov. Gavin Newsom ordered most of the state’s residents to stay home, I found myself under virtual house arrest with an uncomfortably large number of Gen Zers.
Somehow I had accumulated four of my children’s friends over the preceding months. I suppose some parents more hard-nosed than I would have sent them packing, but I didn’t have the heart — especially in the case of my daughter’s college roommate, who couldn’t get back to her family in Vietnam.
So, I had to convince six bored and frustrated 18- to 21-year-olds that, yes, they too could catch the coronavirus ― that they needed to stop meeting their friends, wipe down everything they brought into the house and wash their hands more frequently than they had ever imagined.
The first two weeks were nerve-wracking. I cringed every time I heard the front door open or close, and when any of the kids returned home, I grilled them remorselessly.
The day after a house meeting in which I laid down the law, I found my son, Oliver, 21, inside his cramped music studio in the back of the house with a kid I’d never seen before. And that night, I saw one of our extra-familial housemates in a car parked out front, sharing a mind-altering substance with a young man who used to visit in the pre-pandemic era.
If I’ve been neurotically vigilant, it’s because the stakes are high: I’ve got asthma and Oliver has rheumatoid arthritis, making us potentially more vulnerable to the ravages of the virus.
But even as I play the role of enforcer, I recognize that these kids are as anxious and worried as I am.
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My daughter, Caroline, 18, is filled with sadness and despair, feelings she had largely overcome after going away to college last fall. She recently started doing telephone sessions with her old therapist. Oliver has begun therapy — remotely, for now ― after dismissing it as pointless for the past several years.
A study released this month by Mental Health America, an advocacy and direct service organization in Alexandria, Virginia, shows that people under age 25 are the most severely affected by a rise in anxiety and depression linked to social isolation and the fear of contracting COVID-19.
That is not surprising, even though the virus has proved far deadlier for seniors. Mental health problems were already rising sharply among teens and young adults before the pandemic. Now their futures are on hold, they can’t be with their friends, their college campuses are shuttered, their jobs are evaporating — and a scary virus makes some wonder if they even want those jobs.
Paul Gionfriddo, Mental Health America’s CEO, says parents should be attentive even to subtle changes in their kids’ behavior or routine. “Understand that the first symptoms are not usually external ones,” Gionfriddo says. “Maybe their sleep patterns change, or they’re eating less, or maybe they are distracted.”
If your teens or young adults are in distress, they can screen themselves for anxiety or depression by visiting www.mhascreening.org. They will get a customized result along with resources that include reading material, videos and referrals to treatment or online communities.
The Child Mind Institute (www.childmind.org or 212-308-3118) offers a range of resources, including counseling sessions by phone. If your young person needs emotional support, or just to vent to an empathetic peer, they can call a “warmline.” For a list of numbers by state, check www.warmline.org.
Caroline’s case is probably typical of college kids. She moved back home from San Francisco last month after her university urged students to leave the dorms. Her stuff is stranded up there, and we have no idea when we’ll be able to reclaim it. Meanwhile, she has been planning to share an off-campus apartment starting in August with four of her friends from the dorm. We can get attractive terms if we sign the lease by April 30 ― but what if school doesn’t reopen in the fall?
For Oliver, who’s been living with me all along, the big challenges are a lack of autonomy, a need for money and cabin fever. Those stressors got the best of him recently, and he started doing sorties for a food delivery service. Of course, it makes me crazy with worry every time he goes out, and when he returns home I’m in his face: “Did you wear a mask and gloves? Did you keep your distance? Wash your hands!”
But what can I do, short of chaining him to the water heater? And if going out — and getting some cash in his pocket ― makes him feel better, that can’t be all bad (unless he catches the virus).
If your kid dares to work outside the house, and you dare let him, several industries are hiring — particularly grocery stores, pharmacies and home delivery and food services. Child care for parents who have to work is also in demand, so your fearless teen might want to ask around the neighborhood.
Volunteering ― again, if they dare — is another good way for young people to feel independent and useful. In every community, there are vulnerable seniors who need somebody to shop for them or deliver meals to their homes. You can use www.nextdoor.com, a local networking app, to find out if any neighbors need help.
Food banks are in great need of volunteers right now. To find a food bank near you, go to www.feedingamerica.org. Blood donations are also needed. Older teens and young adults can arrange to donate by contacting the American Red Cross (www.redcross.org). For a list of creative ways to help, check out Youth Service America (www.ysa.org).
While the kids are inside the house, which in my case is still most of the time, put them to work. “Anxiety loves idle time, and when we don’t have a lot to do, our brain starts thinking the worst thoughts,” says Yesenia Marroquin, a psychologist at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.
I’ve harnessed the able bodies of my young charges for household chores. A few weekends ago, I decreed a spring cleaning. They organized themselves with surprising alacrity to weed the backyard, sweep and mop the floors, clean the stove and haul out volumes of trash.
Considering the circumstances, the house is looking pretty darn good these days.
This KHN story first published on California Healthline, a service of the California Health Care Foundation.
from Updates By Dina https://khn.org/news/the-challenges-of-keeping-young-adults-safe-during-the-pandemic/
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