#it's not an inherently bad thing. masking. it's a neutral tool for communication oftentimes enforced through ridicule and/or violence | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

quietwingsinthesky · 9 days ago

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Wait I just assumed you were ace because you had an ace pfp for forever and now that you don't I am realizing that maybe I made an incorrect assumption and should just ask.

I also thought you were aro from something you said or other and that I think was on firmer ground but maybe I'll double check that too.

My point is, aspec check?

(Because it is generally polite in these situations to answer the question as well, I'm aro, aplatonic, allosexual and allofamilial, but you probably already know that because I never shut up about it)

I do miss my ace flag... but the people voted for lesbian leonardo da vinci and i am nothing if not a vessel for the people. (also it was funny) (also probably going to swap back to ace flag again eventually when i have the time to edit another pic.)

anyway. yeah! I tend to just default to saying I'm somewhere on the aroace spectrum, cause getting into the granular details of it just sort of gets confusing even for myself, let alone whoever I'd try to explain it to. At the end of the day, all I'm really trying to explain is that there's a disconnect between me and societal expectations/ideals/desires of sex and romance. 'There's Something Weird Going On In There' with a vague gesture towards the aspec to try to explain it, if that makes sense.

#i tend to conceptualize my relationship to sexuality and romance in the same way i do interacting with the world autistic #in that there is a disconnect. and whether i like it or not the disconnect will fall to me to reach across most of the time #now the good part of that is that i do find learning about sexuality and implementing what i've learned a fun endeavor #in sort of the same way a puzzle game is fun. it's interesting to see how i can communicate these things especially in writing #but that doesn't remove from the fact that. there's a lot of masking happening all the time.#it's not an inherently bad thing. masking. it's a neutral tool for communication oftentimes enforced through ridicule and/or violence #but it itself is neutral in my eyes. it just also takes a lot of work and energy to do.#that feels overly complicated i think i'm just saying im aroace but ive studied this shit or at least watched a few youtube videos on it-#ask #not to say that such a thing is a requirement. i'm just fairly neutral in my responses to the suggestion of sex or romance #at least in fantasy/fiction/the hypothetical so it allows me wiggleroom to fuck around. if that makes sense.

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