#it's just so obviously disproportionate

[seawitchkaraoke]

Thank you! I mean, I have complained about Brennan because his play style genuinely bothers me. (Although the more he's played the better I think he's gotten! I hope he continues to improve!) So I wasn't exactly your target audience. But it's still nice to see someone point out that he's about 10x worse than the non-cis white men who get complained about constantly. He creates cool characters. But he hogs the spotlight like no one's other actual player I've watched/heard

I mean you're free to dislike his playstyle as long as you're not like. A hater about it (like half the time the issue with ppl disliking things is they'll go on positive posts about that person and complain there instead of making their own posts, or worse, project on to the other players and say they totally must secretely hate this too like they're not adults and friends and professionals who would talk to each other if smth bothered them)

I don't mind Brennan's playstyle but he absolutely does have a main character vibe especially in his earlier player campaigns - which makes sense bc he's not actually super experienced as a player bc he's a forever DM and that's a pretty normal thing for new players to do (even if it feels super weird to call him new but as he said himself he doesn't get to play that often).

And I do agree he gets more balanced the more he plays (though again as long as everyone at the table is having fun, I really don't mind ppl "hogging" the spotlight, especially since these are all ppl who are in the actual play scene and get to play a lot, they'll all get their moments at some point. And Brennan usually facilitating those moments as DM sure deserves to get some himself)

Either way it's really the double standart for me. Like. You truly cannot be mad at Emily every time she makes a cool move or makes a powerful character and at Ally every time they take a wild swing and then have nothing but love for Brennan as Nikhil or Evan Kelmp. Like that's just an obvious double standart (and Brennan himself would absolutely throw hands with you for being mean to his friends)

[leeblissy]

*by this I just mean those who currently are or have previously been in LAIOS' adventuring party, not your favorite OVERALL character! please feel free to put your favorite of all time in the tags! also I'm keeping the poll sp*iler free for those who just wanna watch the anime so I KNOW I've missed party members!

[roman-roy-apologist]

yeah ok i get it you don’t think transandrophobia exists but you do realize that it’s still bad to be shitty to transmascs right? you get that right?

[iamacolor]

lmaoo since a recent documentary revealed that the far right was very popular with young voters in france on tiktok or reels and that some young women had voted for them because their main candidate was "handsome, and they saw a lot of cool vids of him" so to attract more people to the left now more and more people (mainly from various fandoms like kpop but they're also trying to rally the swifties) are making video edits (fancam style) of leftist mps - some of them literally have kpop song as bgm. we're all going mad but if kpop fandom marketing technics are the way to fight fascists then so be it I guess!

some more examples (because I can only put one video in a post on tumblr) here here here here and here

[izzyspussy]

we went over the 14yr long torture session in my last therapy visit actually, and i told her that toward the end i was fantasizing about and then actively considering walking into traffic because if i got catastrophically injured then they would have to treat my pain. and she told me that's not an uncommon thing for people to do. that she has heard that many times before.

like think about that. we are so moralistic about drug use and have politicized a particular type of medicine so much, and doctors are so uncompassionate toward and even suspicious of patients who are in pain because of it, that it's NOT UNCOMMON for people who are otherwise not suicidal to start completely genuinely longing to get hit by a fucking car just for the chance to be oh so graciously provided the absolute bare fucking minimum of care.

think about how many different things have pain as a symptom. how many things have pain as the only symptom the patient is aware of. how many of them are life or death crises. heart attacks. blood clots. strokes. bleeding ulcers. those are just what i can think of off the top of my fucking head, AND I'M NOT A FUCKING DOCTOR.

what i had, for example, feels exactly like appendicitis. and they left it for fourteen years because my only symptom was excruciating pain and i didn't fit their stupid little (completely unsupported by evidence, btw) diagnostic mnemonic. if it had been appendicitis, or anything else as immediately deadly that "just" hurts, i would have fucking died the same night i got sent home from the emergency room with "medical" "advice" to take some tylenol and rest - for the first time, that is. out of dozens. how many people do die that way?

because addicts are Bad. and because doctors are too arrogant and biased to practice medicine on the basis of evidence and informed consent when the profit model and conservative propaganda make it soooo easy to stay in the good old days of paternalism instead.

[jewishbarbies]

really weird to me the way ppl who identify themselves as feminists act about female celebs. like, I saw so many women outright bashing florence pugh because she was dating an older man they considered ugly and acting like it was some attack on them, because then they couldn’t fuck her and she wasn’t dating a woman. there’s women right now hating on sydney sweeney for “being a pair of boobs” as if she intentionally signs up for roles expecting to be treated like nothing but breasts by the director, and it’s not people in charge making creative decisions to purposely turn her into Just Boobs. like. how are y’all feminists if this is how you treat women and view these situations? I don’t understand.

[bravevolunteer]

michael before realizing he's gay putting up like. one or two posters of A Woman ( who? idk. does he even know. she's a woman so clearly he's heterosexual ) and going ah yes my job here as a straight teenage boy is done meanwhile he has SO MANY BAND/MOVIE/WHATEVER POSTERS WITH GUYS HE THINKS ARE HOT ON THEM. but clearly that doesn't mean anything. they're just normal interests. Obviously.

[secondwhisper]

"Transmasculine people who claim to be adversely affected by sexism are bioessentialists cloaked in progressive language, discrimination on the basis of ""biological sex"" isn't real!"

Oh right, sorry. I forgot that sexism in medical research means that endometriosis, ME/CFS, migraines, post-concussive syndrome, Raynaud's phenomenon, and so many other conditions are only understudied in women. Of course endometriosis For Men™, ME/CFS For Men™, migraines For Men™, post-concussive syndrome For Men™, Raynaud's phenomenon For Men™, etc., are all well-funded fields of research and totally understood. Medical research cares only about the gender of an individual patient, not the association of a condition with people of a certain gender. Patriarchal devaluation of women's health, women's illnesses being treated as fundamentally hysteric, and (peri)cissexist reductions of any individual to the reproductive system(s) they were born with clearly only affect people whose gender is woman, nobody else.

Wilfully ignorant motherfuckers.

[seraphim-soulmate]

oct 29, 2024

weird day for me a little bit, and all because of a minor issue, which feels silly.

started off ok! was supposed to go grocery shopping in the morning but didn't do that bcs I was spending time researching something I enjoyed (trying to do more things that make me happy), and I was looking forward to my physical therapy session very much! it went really well, but at the end she'd gone a bit over time (which I didn't know) and I wanted to know how thick her yoga mat was, so she went over and told me the brand and I measured it by comparing it with my finger to measure later, but I guess I was taking too much time doing that and so she very politely told me that she was running late already and that she'd like to be able to get off work on time. Which is a totally reasonable request! but it just made me feel really shitty for some reason. It's hard to say what I was feeling and why, I will reflect on this now.

I think in part it's the "oh shit I fucked up" feeling (guilt??) of having to be redirected. Also feeling like I was being rushed and just not appreciating that bcs I was leaving anyways but she told me to leave before I could show her that I was leaving. Realizing something about this situation and my reaction read as "RSD" to me, so I looked it up and indeed. I felt very self conscious and guilty for doing something I felt I had done wrong, but my emotional reaction and duration of that feeling was disproportionate to the event itself. It took me until 8pm (PT ended at 3pm) having a positive interaction with my roommate to turn that around.

But also the interaction with my roommate was interesting bcs it did not start off positively. I had finished a jar of jam that was in the fridge, and it only occurred to me after finishing it that it might not be considered a condiment by some and therefore not a shared item, but instead my roommate's personal jam. So I asked her, and she confirmed it was indeed her personal jam, and either bcs the tone of her voice or just my residual feelings from my interaction with my physical therapist, I felt like I had once again fucked up. But not as bad as with my physical therapist bcs I was going to buy more jam tomorrow anyways, so not a huge deal. Then I realize, "shit. I was only planning on buying 1 jar of jam to replace the one I finished, but now I'll have to buy 2 jars bcs my roommate will want her own personal jar. but I don't eat jam regularly, and I don't know anyone who eats jam regularly enough that having 2 of the same flavors would make sense" etc. etc. etc.

But! instead of continuing to spiral and feel like a shit human being for being rude and inconsiderate and finishing my roommates jam, and who knows maybe she has that jam every day and it's her favorite jam but I just never noticed it move or change in volume since I've been here so I incorrectly assumed it had been abandoned and helped myself to it, and what kind of horrible careless person does that, etc etc etc.

INSTEAD of continuing down that line of thought, I sent her a message being like, "hey, would you be interested in sharing jam or would you prefer your own jar? I never manage to finish mine so it'd be really helpful for me, but I also totally get why someone would prefer to have their own" and guess what. guess fucking what. she's ALSO bad at finishing jams and she's more than happy to share jam with me! And now I'm very happy that I was brave and authentic to myself and my weird thought spirals and that it panned out positively for me!!! And now I can feel closer to my roommate as we share jars of jam! Wahoooieee!

[thehours2002]

obviously i love barbra because she is barbra but i also have a soft spot for her because she is in a similar category as hillary clinton and taylor swift of women who receive wildly disproportionate criticism by virtue of their ambition which exceeds the heights to which women are supposed to be able to ascend under patriarchy

[chaserofstarsandtheabyss]

Mother stop calling me your “biological daughter” challenge and using that to explain why you’re so upset at trans women competing in sports (impossible)

[musical-chick-13]

Well...it's been a good run for...every ship left involving a woman in this poll. o7

[lavender-femme]

got my flu shot and updated covid vaccine today and tell me why I let that woman put the covid shot in my dominant arm. I have so many regrets 😭

[applecherry108]

I found my old (privated) YouTube videos that I made in high school.

How in gods name did no one ever realize I was autistic. 😭😭😂

Update: I have video fucking evidence from March 17 2009, nearly EXACTLY 14 YEARS AGO, of my dumb adhd ass forgetting what I was saying mid sentence. 🤦��♀️ I am naming objects. I had to pick up the last object I literally put down and name it again in order to fucking remember what I was saying. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ HOW. HOW DID NO ONE KNOW. 😩

[iamyouknow-yours]

School will only be fully accessible when instead of accusing kids who are absent all the time of faking it, teachers are taught to ask what's wrong and listen.

They'll only be fully accessible when they don't start at 7:50 in the morning and end at 15:00. Teenagers simply do not work well with that sleep schedule. All teenagers. But obviously the disabled kids are going to suffer more with that schedule.

School will only be accessible when you can go to the bathroom without asking for permission.

When you aren't cut off from the online content because your parent can't pay the bill (this was during covid, in my final year as well the bitches).

When menstrual products are available to every student - without having to ask for them.

When nutritious school lunches are provided, for free.

When you can eat when you are hungry and not in set times they give you.

When teachers and kids are taught about their sensory needs, and given tools to help eg headphones, quiet fidgets.

When you aren't taught to base your self worth on your academic achievement (that's not really an accessibility thing, but I can say it damaged the neurodivergent people I know more than the neurotypicals).

When you are given feedback, instead of a grade. And then given another chance. And another. And another.

Because the current system taught me to memorise things, in order to be Good and doing a Good Job and not for the joy of learning, not to better myself, but because that is where all my self worth comes from. And it taught me that if I make a mistake or fail at something, then I am a failure. It didn't teach me to try again. It didn't teach me to ask for help. It didn't teach me how to problem solve. It taught me how to freeze when faced with a problem, instead of brainstorming.

And the further away I get from having been in the school system, the more convinced I get that it's traumatic for each and every kid who goes through it, including the neurotypical abled ones.

I mean for fucks sake you don't get taught how to live in the real world.

You get taught how to be a shell of yourself who never questions authority and can't think for yourself and then whoops you're 18, move out, go to university and figure out what you want to do for the rest of your life. What?????? That's an insane plan.

I took a 3 year long gap year and it was the best thing I ever did. I was so burnt out after school. I spent those 3 years getting diagnosed with all my shit, getting help for it, learning about myself, and RESTING. Learning how to manage my own time. Learning how to listen to my body about when it's hungry or needs to pee or whatever.

When I say “school should be disability accessible”, I don’t just mean we need handicap rails and EAs. Kids should be able to miss a day without failing out of school. You shouldn’t be dismissed from clubs because your attendance record is “spotty” (true story). I once missed an entire week of school because of a terrible, unending migraine. I was expected to keep up with my studies despite the blinding pain that came with working on my computer. When I heard my teachers say that you couldn’t miss exams, I asked what I would have to do to be excused from them. Their response? “Either get a doctor’s note an hour before the exam or death of an immediate family member.”

I cannot express how rigid this expectation was. First of all, with my condition, I wouldn’t have enough warning about my sickness to go to the doctor and request a note. For many people, this is exceptionally difficult, especially with the current shortage of medical professionals. Next, it ignores the fact that my schedule may not line with theirs because of my medical needs. Once, I had to visit a hospital a province away (which I was on the waiting list of for over a year) on the same day as an exam. I begged my mother not to take me because I was so nervous that I would be marked as an automatic fail. I was lucky enough to make it work, but that’s only because of my spectacular support system consisting of family members and wonderful doctors.

Disabilities aren’t always about needing a bus that can accommodate wheelchairs. It’s already difficult enough for many of us to maintain school attendance without the harsh punishments involved for skipping a day. We need to be able to miss school without being punished. Only than can you claim that the school is “accessible”

[newlowbattery]

Wow really thought I was gonna finally have a birthday where I didn't end up crying. So much for that.