#it's always against transwomen too. like lesbians are under attack

[compulsiveobsessing]

terfs are so fucking annoying with how subtle they try to be, even though once you learn the dogwhistles theyre readily apparent

'not a radfem, just a fed up lesbian' already a red flag and then boom, a couple posts into the blog there is blatant transphobia

[americanpsycho1991]

Once again i’d like to remind any “anti-terf” people that all you have to do to be considered a “terf” is to say that women should have the right to choose their own sexual partners.  The person whose url I blocked out is guilty of nothing more than being a lesbian and saying she doesn’t appreciate being harassed for not being sexually interested in males.  She said to please stop calling all lesbians TERFs just for being lesbians.  You can see what happened.

(the same person made both these posts).  In the second post, “transphobic genital preference discourse” and saying they “agree with trans women on the matter” means they think lesbians should be obligated to fuck transwomen (males) on the basis of validating their gender identity.  Women are not allowed sexual autonomy according to trans activism.  this is rape culture and hate speech against lesbians.

Notice they don’t say they agree with trans people on the matter, they say trans women. This is because there is no horde of transmen sending bombardments of sexually violent threats towards gay men for not sleeping with them.  Transmen don’t harass straight women for not dating them.  This is because transmen are female, and socialized female, and thus are not raised within a society which imparts upon them a sense of narcissistic sexual entitlement to the bodies of those of the opposite sex.  Transwomen are male, and were socialized male, and while plenty of transwomen are perfectly understanding that not everyone will be interested in them due to their sex (much like men), many of them are outraged that female homosexuality exists, and have decided that it’s a human rights offence.  You’ll also note that transwomen don’t harass straight men about their sexual preferences.  This is because males are socialized to believe that female bodies are their property, not male bodies, and of course because straight males aren’t as easy to bully and harass.  Seriously, when was the last time you saw someone call a straight man a violent transphobe for not “including transwomen” in his “genital preferences”?

Speaking against this makes you a violent transphobe, apparently.  Saying homosexuality exists on the basis of sex rather than gender makes you violent.  Saying that gendered socialization exists (the foundation and most basic principle of even the most watered-down feminism) the makes you violent, because it makes transwomen feel “invalidated.”  Anything that makes transwomen feel invalidated, regardless of how factually accurate or relevant to women’s rights it is -- saying that sexual dimorphism exists, saying that it’s a male privilege to never have to worry about abortion rights or menstruation stigma, saying that gender is an oppressive social construct rather than an innate identity, saying that sexuality is based on sex rather than an internal sense of gender, saying women have the right to basic sexual autonomy -- is now considered hate speech.

Where are trans men in all of this?  I can’t speak for their opinions, but I can see how they are treated.  Like all females in trans activism, they are thrown under the bus to benefit males.  They cannot discuss their female socialization because it is violence to imply that transwomen were socialized male.  They cannot discuss their sex-based issues like objectification, abortion, and menstruation because it is violence to imply that transwomen have any form of male privilege.  Transmen are told that they are privileged, entitled males, and they are told to shut up.  Ironically, feminists who make an effort to create female spaces and include transmen in them are called “trans-exclusionary.” This is because male trans people are the only people considered important in trans activism.  If you exclude transwomen, you are considered hateful.  Transmen pay the price for this male supremacy; like women, they are silenced and placed second to male issues.

Only according to male supremacist socialization is sexual rejection considered an act of bigotry or violence.  You see it with MRAs, you see it with the “friendzone,” and curiously, you see it in trans activism.

Other things you see a lot of in trans activism is males telling females to shut up about our bodies.  We cannot talk about abortion because it is “exclusionary.”  So is menstruation.  Discussing gendered socialization is of course out of the question.  Talking about vulvas or vaginas is considered disgusting; I’ve seen trans activists describe female anatomy as a “nightmarish lump of flesh” and of course, famously, the “pussily cavity.”  Speaking ill of male anatomy, or even so much as saying “it’s fine, but I’m not interested” can get you rape threats for a month.

I’ve spoken against the rampant misogyny and silencing of women’s rights in trans activism before, but the person whose url I blocked out is guilty of nothing more than being a lesbian and wanting to be allowed to choose the sex of her own partners.  If you think this makes her, or anyone else, a bigot or a transphobe, you are part of the problem.

You are a rape apologist.  You are a homophobe.  You are a misogynist.  There is no getting around those facts.  I don’t care how much pomo, faux-academic verbiage you try to dress it up in; saying females do not have the right to discuss the oppression we face because of our sex is misogyny.  Telling gay people to “critically examine” their “exclusionary genital fetish” is literally conversion therapy, and it is disgustingly homophobic.

Both transmen and transwomen can have a place in the struggle for human rights, but to elevate transwomen at the expense of all females; to co-opt our spaces and silence us, to threaten us with rape and physical violence just for wanting the freedom to choose our sexual partners; is unacceptable.  It is not trans rights, because it throws transmen under the bus along with all other females.  It is not feminism, in fact it is the very opposite.  It is pure male supremacy.

Anyone who speaks up against this is demonized; anyone who so much as points out “hey we’re calling an awful lot of lesbians TERFs just for being lesbians” is now a TERF.  Anyone who thinks we need female-only spaces is a TERF (again, you can include transmen as much as you like, but as soon as you say “this space isn’t really relevant to transwomen” you’re “trans-exclusionary”).  Anyone who thinks sex-based oppression is real is a TERF.  Anyone who believes in basic biology is a TERF.  Anyone who thinks women deserve sexual autonomy is a TERF.  Any female who posts about her own body is a TERF (“don’t talk about your period or your vulva, it could be alienating to transwomen”).  Any lesbian is a TERF.  But people aren’t that stupid.  Eventually people come to realize that many of the people called TERFs are trans themselves, or have done nothing other than be born homosexual, or are simply advocating for female rights.

This has to stop.  The witch-hunting has to stop.  You need to realize that “terf” is not just applied to transphobes, but to anyone who falls behind the ever-unreachable expectations of trans activism, or who simply dares to disagree.  “Terfs” aren’t the ones out there murdering trans people; that’s men.  “Terfs” aren’t the ones forcing vulnerable trans people into prostitution; that’s men.  So why is so much of trans activism dedicated to “fighting” against the apparently lethal wave of evil terf attacks? (you should read that link but I”m putting a MAJOR warning for sexual violence)

Because women make easier targets than the entire system of patriarchy.

Because it’s easy to get misogynists on your side when the target is “women who speak up.”

Because it’s always easy to hate women.  It’s always easy to hate lesbians.

Don’t be a fucking dumbass.  If you mean transphobe, say transphobe.  Stop using “terf” because all you’re doing is enabling the kind of vile misogynistic harassment in the link above.  Those are the people you’re aligning yourself with, like it or not.  Those are your new allies.  Don’t question anything they say, or you’ll be the next target.  Stopped idolizing a transwoman because it turned out they were a rapist?  You’re a TERF now, you’re about to get a hundred messages asking you why you HATE TRANS WOMEN and telling you to choke to death in the most graphic, sexually violent way possible.  Express distaste at examples like women being kicked out of a women’s shelter because they expressed discomfort with the sexually predatory behavior of a transwoman?  You’ll get the same response.  Reblog a meme from someone who’s committed one of these sins?  You’re one of them now.  If you don’t block them on every social media and publicly denounce them, you’re guilty too.  Don’t ask any questions.  Don’t talk about your issues.  Don’t talk about your body.  It’s progressive, trust me!