#it's 3am i'm allowed to be weird but i think that when it comes down to it im a good dog yknow

[howldean]

in my heart of hearts i feel that i am a floppy-eared mutt of a man

[scary-lasagna]

I LOVED THE VAMPIRE POST SMM. So like would Liu, EJ, BEN and Jeff let their vampire s/o bite them and drink their blood?

Homicidal Liu

Liu is squeamish when it comes to blood due to his past trauma of obvious reasons.

And even with a high pain tolerance, he wouldn't voluntarily allow himself to be bitten.

Many risks come with the first bite; An artery could be sliced, blood infection, too much blood loss, you hate the way his blood tastes so therefore you will hate him forever.

That last one was just Liu's imgaination running wild, but all together it's pretty risky.

He might offer a test bite, not a full chomp, but a little nibble on his arm to see how it feels. A pinprick was all he could describe it as.

But he quickly backed out once he caught wind of the blood trickling down his arm.

He might allow a second attempt, but not anytime soon. 

Sully, however, is a different story. He would let you drink this body dry, and force Liu forward in the middle of it just to be a sadistic asshole. 

Either way, they're both willing to try at least once.

Eyeless Jack

Jack doesn't think that you would enjoy his blood very much.

Much like the liquid that seeps from his eye sockets, his blood has a tar-like consistency. 

It wouldn't go down easy, and if your body rejects it since it's not truly 'blood', it won't come back up easy either.

Ultimately, Jack says no due to your safety. It just too big of a risk for Jack to feel comfortable letting you take a bite out of him.

Jelly donuts are better, anyway. Especially at 3am while everyone else is asleep.

BEN

BEN will act tough and dominant up until it's actually time for you to bite him.

He'll get squirmy and find excuses to delay the inevitable now that he's talked the big talk and agreed to do it.

You'll of course call him out on it, and will nervously sit down and away from his stack of DS games that he wanted to organize alphabetically. 

"Are you sure you want to do this?" You ask him, with a comforting hand on his knee.

"Yeah.." Ben sighs and rubs the back of his neck with a nervous tic. " I'm just afraid it'll hurt or I make a weird noise or something." He chuckles lightly.

"We can start, and if you want to stop we can and I won't judge you for it." You reassure. "Or we can do blood lettings which doesn't involve biting."

"It's that like plague doctor shit, though?"

"Well yeah but it doesn't invol-"

"Just take a bite, babe."

He trusts you with all of his heart. And he lets you take a bite.

And yes, he does make a weird sound.

Jeff

Oh hell yeah, fucking go for it.

No questions asked.

Jeff thinks it's hardcore, and frankly, he's not experienced enough to know the dangers of blood letting or blood biting. He just thinks your hot and that you wanna bite him.

And honestly? Go for it. He's probably got a few diseases lurking in there but you're immortal so it doesn't affect you.

He would urge you to keep going even after he feels light headed, just ot see how long he can stay awake.

Jeff can be an extremely convincing individual, but do not trust him.

He can and will pass out and then you will have to call Eyeless Jack and explain everything to him.

He will not be happy.

Jeff will try to kiss him thinking that he's you.

And then Jeff will get swatted away and start crying out of rejection 

[bathypelagicbutch]

the first time i was treated even remotely respectfully in public when i first transitioned was at 3am in a 24 hour pizza place while high out of my mind on shrooms. i was in full drag with a full face and it was the first and only time i was ever gendered correctly and respectfully in a public place while presenting femme. i pass now, and I'm thankful that i do, but the amount of effort I've had to put into making my body as acceptable as possible for people just so i don't get harassed for more reasons than being Black in places i don't belong (super white grad school lmao) is wild. i shouldn't have to make myself look like you want me to fuck you for you to respect me, and it really shouldn't be that hard for queer people to realise that that is literally what most of society, including white queers, forces us to do. there's a weird intersection with Blackness and masculinity for both Black men and women that i feel gets pointed out a lot, but i feel like the hypermasculinisation of Black women unless they present sufficiently slutty is something that only gets talked about at length for cis Black women and queer Black women in general. mainly because whenever the dolls try to bring it up the only response is immediate horniness or complete denial. it's also interesting that when i started presenting more masc i started passing, but since then the amount of horny white people who've been unable to remove the rupaulified fucktoy version of me in their brain for long enough to listen to me when i try to talk about how much it sucks being butch and trans has increased. exponentially. you all have too many issues with Black men to even notice how your racism affects every part of how you view Blackness in general.

speaking of! follow up to that earlier thing i said about not being able to be masc and trans without ppl needing to remind you that they only support you for your ability to fuck them ‐ it's worse when you're Black, and you white queens do it too. and i really don't think you realise you do! because I've talked about this with almost every person I've been with (if I've even been allowed to before being dismissed without a hint of concern) and most of them just admitted to doing this at some point in our relationship. so instead of being philosophical I'll just use a few examples from the past 3 years (because they get worse if you go earlier and also i. do not have to)

you don't get to call me sir in bed because I'm masc and you said you want to treat me like a guy in bed (you're gay please stop confusing Black masculinity for being a man and work on your issues before fucking me) and you especially don't get to use this as leverage against me whenever i discuss how racist the relationship dynamic is despite your incredibly vocal support of my activism. you don't get to use my body or the right to demand that i use your body because you have a fetish for Black men, and you aren't allowed to get upset when i point out that this is the most supportive attitude you've had towards any part of me the entire time we've been together. you don't get to take out your frustration against Black people or Black men by making me fuck you, and again you don't get to get upset when i point out how fucked up that is that you call yourself an ally and then only use that allyship to get dicked down. you don't get to assume that because I'm Black and masc i'm the most aggressive top you've ever come across and you don't get to white woman tears your way out of it by using your own transness as a pass. you aren't allowed to enjoy Black bodies if we're only a commodity to you (which you openly admit) and you similarly don't get to white woman tears your eay out of it by using your confused sexuality as a pass.

i think I've made my point so I'm gonna stop! but yeah can you all be normal about Black people thanks a million blushes sweetly

kinda uncomfortable how ppl cant celebrate black trans women unless they are superduperhyperfeminine with 19 layers of makeup + expensive surgeries/weaves/dresses and looking like theyre going to walk the red carpet every day

[i-think-sometimes]

A handful of hot takes from someone who stock walmart shelves at night:

Pink sauce keeps coming in an assortment of colours. I would reccomend acting as if it is poison. Last time I had to stock it it was a weird greyish orange.

The diet isle is full of lies. The only thing there that is proven to work as intended is the caffiene stuff (why 5 hour energy is considered diet I don't know) and the protein stuff (made for weight gain, muscle mass etc. Used for medical supplements, is not on my shit list). If it has an asterisk, it has not been proven at all. Don't listen to the diet isle anyway, its just trying to make you feel bad about yourself.

Please stop opening the deodorant. If it doesn't have a lid (the inner seal being gone also makes this apply) we cannot sell it. At that point you may as well steal it because then I won't have to touch it.

If you find domething moldy or gross randomly (stuff gets holes in the packages sometimes, we will not blame you) please tell an associate. Some of us are allergic to mold or have asthma. I would rather not hear an abulance at 3am ever again, thank you.

Please do not open the lotion or soaps. They are messy. We legally cannot sell them if they are open. I do not like the allergies they give me later. Muscinex sucks to take.

Just. Just go with an associate's pronouns. Please stop calling me sir. Half of us that you are trying to "gotcha" the gender of are just tall or short people. It is also none of your buisness. Knock it off.

Please stop yelling at me for spelling colours like that. I know it is america. I just read a lot of old literature as a kid. I am trying to help you find your prefered colour of towel using walmart google, I am not here to make you think I'm an invader from great britain(why is this something I have had to say more than once?).

Please stop mashing the help button after we have closed.

If I am stocking the toilet paper, why do you assume I have the electronic keys?

Closed means leave. If you are in line for the register that is fine. I hate it but I get it. It is not wander around hour. It it finally we can pull what we are stocking into the isle without worrying about being in the way of customers hour.

If I am wearing earplugs because it is loud nearby, please do not shout. I promise the only reason I am allowed to wear them is because I have proven I can still hear people whispering in my direction with them in. I do not need hearing damage because you think I'm ignoring you.

If I do not turn around at sir that is not a viable reason to touch me. I have barely broken the elbow back at first contact reflex. (Kind of. It appears occasionally) I do not want to explain to anyone that I got startled and launched my bony arm into someone's gut. I had enough of that in high school where my teachers knew about the stalkers.

Employees are people. If you do not want to be interacted with like that I can guarantee that we will not be offended if you do not interact with us like that.

Most of the time, when we explain something to you, it is not because we think your dumb. It is because we wish someone had told us. Or because we are trying to fill silence.

I lisp. I fumble words. Let me count down or witness the unholy hell of trying to say 20 words in one syllable. It is 5 seconds of brain reset. Chill.

If an employee says we are out. We are out. Our backroom is not currently working properly. So even if we did have it we would not be able to find it.

If an employee is in the backroom, you are not allowed in there. That is tresspassing. It is punishable.

I am only a man for the purpose of walking people to cars. That is it. Please stop your male children from following me into the bathroom. Several people are uncomfortable. Myself included.

Please do not put infant supplies or anything edible in chemical. Infants chew on everything and if it is a health hazard to an adult it will kill a small child (pets are also included, but I have not to this day seen a pet item that was not already destroyed beyond usability on a chemical shelf.) Dropped in the oops puddle is not what I am mad about. Please stop leaving teething toys in the ferbreeze.

If. If you drop and break something. Please tell someone. Anyone. If you want to guard it until an employee comes by thats fine. But dont just assume we immediately know about a spill the second it happens. That's how people get hurt.

Blocking the emergency exits is a crime. Stop that. It is one thing to be there with the cart. It is another entirely to park a scissor lift there. (This one is more for my coworkers and the construction guys, but still.) Also stop blocking/stealing the fire extinguishers. We need those. They need to be accessible.

If there is a severe, immediate problem, tell someone. It may require either a lockdown or evacuation depending on what happened. Missing children and accidentally mixed chemicals are deadly if handled improperly. Same with medical issues.

If someone drops I will abandon you to get someone who may be able to help. This is not a personal against you. This is a first aid oh shit moment. (Thank you customer who told me when someone passed out behind me and distracted people away from them and the fact that no body was helping them. You are a godsend. As far as I know they made a full recovery.)

I am not a medical professional. All I know is what works for me. Please actually see a doctor for your major injury. I just know how to handle my scholiosis specifically.

I do not have every brand name memorised. Please. Clarify what it does when I ask instead of repeating the brand name. I can at least get you to the area.

Please do not ever work me to hypothermia again. Once was bad enough. If someone hadn't caught me starting to take the coat off I likely would have died. (Bad manager, pretty sure she is in some significant legal trouble because this is not the worst thing she did.)

Thank you, to everyone who agrees that they hate the beeping cameras. If enough people complain on the website they might get turned off. Keep it up.

Thank you, to everyone who is just there to be a reasonable customer. I appreciate you.

Bonus note: none of us care what you are buying. Buy condoms if you want. Giggle at the condoms if you want. Just as long as you aren't a jerk and don't make a mess we won't make a fuss about what you do.

[wbwoqlqxoxxms]

Yishun Revengers Episode 1 "Time to commit Yishun"

"Staff, no offense, but older people, die faster!"

-sergeant to staff

"They say that Yishun is the heart of all...uh...interesting, events, to happen, in Singapore...ehehe...AHEM. Despite this, many Singaporeans still choose to stay in Yishun, seemingly disregarding all the risks of *gets pounced on by cat* OW I SWEAR TO GOD YISHUN IS CURSED! ANYWAY. AS I WAS SAYING. Yishun is-*gets pounced on by 4728928228 cats at once* ALRIGHT THAT'S IT I'M NOT COMING BACK TO YISHUN ANYMORE THIS PLACE IS BEYOND HOPE, NOT EVEN THE PRESIDENT CAN SAVE THIS CURSED LAND" *reporter removes his headphones and walks away*

"EY WAIT WAIT WAIT PLEASE DON'T GO YOU'RE THE ONLY REPORTER WILLING TO DO THIS PLEASE DON'T GO STEVEN CHIA" Assistant...whatever the assisant of the documentary people are called remarked.

"AND FOR THE LAST TIME, I'M NOT STEVEN CHIA, MY NAME IS STEFEN HUA!" Steven Chia-er, I mean, Stefen Hua said very angrily.

And then he took a deep breath to calm down like the chers always say to do except it works like -1 out of 10 of the times.

So after he's all calmed down and relaxed and able to think things through rationally, he announced, "Hey you know what, Yishun may be cursed, but so too is my wallet by the end of this month if I don't get my salary and my allowance to spend on hentai...AHEM. LET'S GET TO INTERVIEWING THESE PEOPLE."

So Stefen Hua and the assistant I'm too lazy to name went around in the void deck interviewing people on why they stay at Yishun. First they approached this weird looking auntie everyone is sure is a pontianak in disguise, and asked her, "Greetings, lady, would you mind answering a few of our questions?"

"Yeah yeah yeah whatever," Was her answer, so it's technically a yes.

"Alright, lady, so, despite knowing all the dangers of Yishun, why do you still choose to stay here?" He posed the question as the assistant positioned the camera.

"Well...what dangers?" She asked back in return.

"Dangers of the curses of Yishun, you know, pontianak, ghost, random cat moaning sounds at 3am when you're trying to sleep?"

"Ah, pontianak ah? Aiya, that ok, I am also pontianak anyway," She reply before vanishing into air and pontianak form.

Stefen Hua threw up his script paper in exasperation. "Yep, Yishun is cursed."

*takes another deep breath*

"Oook, how about we go ask that boy there? Surely he's not a pontianak..." He gestured to the assistant girl, then they tried to approach this boy more nicely.

"Hello there, boy, we're making a documentary on Yishun, care to answer a few questions? He asked in the same tone as the child pedo who keeps trying to stalk and kidnap the ginger ang moh exchange student kid.

Then the boy turned his head to face them, looking up from gaming, and said his profound words, "Simi?"

"I'll take that as a yes. So, why do you want to stay in Yishun even though it's so dangerous?"

The boy just got back to gaming, and then after a while of waiting, he just said, "Don't know, don't care, don't wanna know, don't wanna care, L+skill issue+ratio,"

At this point Stefen Hua was visibly frustrated. "At least it's not a pontianak this time..."

"Well, let's go ask those people playing chess there, idk what they're doing, I don't care, I just want to get this done to leave this cursed place already," He sighed.

They approached the group of people engaged in their chess game as carefully as they could.

"Uh, hi, would you mind answering a few of our questions-" Stefen Hua spoke but was then rudely interrupted by a random guy in black, "Whatever lah, don't care lah,"

On second look, he's one of the people actually playing chess, playing with that weird guy in something that looks like a suit but is not actually a suit?

"So, uh, since you know Yishun is dangerous, why do you still want to stay here-" Stefen Hua had continued to talk, before being interrupted again, but for the reasons he wanted.

At this point everyone was staring at him. The two people playing chess, the other four normal-looking people, and then there's the 3 weird furries with rabbit ears and yellow overcoats (this is Yishun, normal one), and the record-breakingly short guy with plain-looking clothes but actual horns sprouting out of his head, all staring at him.

Then finally the man in black spoke, "You want to know why we stay in Yishun, right? Well, I'm afraid that's a long story now..."

[kryptonitejelly]

For the Jake blurb!!

I'm a sucker for a good ol' hurt/comfort, pls don't blame me there isn't many out there w Jake 🤨.

Anyways, how would he react to finding u asleep on the couch with his hoodie ? Not only bcs it had always been ur source of comfort, but also bcs Jake wasn't around atm. You were having a bad day and u couldn't sleep, so his beloved hoodie will do.

Could be platonic or romantic it's up to u :)

VERY SPECIFIC IK BUT PLS I HAD A VERY WEIRD DREAM ABOUT THIS AND I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT IT

Thanks!! <3

i hope this is what you had in mind <3 i long to dream about this stuff <3

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Jake hadn’t expected to find you asleep on the couch, dressed only in his hoodie and a pair of socks, legs curled up into your chest, hands tucked under your head as a makeshift pillow, when he had slipped into the house at 3am in the morning.

He drops his bags quietly onto the floor, before moving silently, picking his way past a few cushions that you had pushed off the couch in your sleep to come to a crouch beside your sleeping form. He takes you in, watches as your chest rises and falls with each breath you take, content to just watch you for a while, because god he has missed you, before he reaches out gently to brush a knuckle against the side of your face.

“Baby,” he says softly, carefully as you stir, wanting to rouse you gently instead of all at once.

“Jake?” Your eyes flutter open as consiousness starts to overtake your senses. You pull your hands from under your head, reaching them forward to fumble for Jake. He moves from his crouch to slot himself, seated on the couch beside you and catches you in his arms as you struggle to a seated position to throw your arms around his neck.

“I’ve got you,” you hear his voice in your ear, as you bury your face in his shoulder. Jake slots his arms firmly around your body. He allows you to settle into his arm, lets his lips brush against the top of your head. “Is that my hoodie?” His fingers skim down your back, rubbing across the soft fabric.

You respond only with a hum into his shoulder, and Jake is content to let you stay silent until you are ready.

“I missed you,” is what you finally say as you turn your head, resting your cheek on his shoulder. Jake can feel the soft flutter of your eyelashes against his neck. “Couldn’t sleep, wanted something that smells like you.” You continue, and Jake feels a tug on the strings of his heart.

“I’m here now.” He murmurs, feeling the soft sag in your body as you calm, and the soft exhale of your breath against his neck as you still, letting sleep claim you.

[adhd-adept]

I have self diagnosed adhd and i was wondering if you could provide some advice regarding reading. I used to be able to just pick up a book and read when i was younger, but now that I'm older it's a bit difficult to just pick up a book and read for the sake of reading. I love reading, but i just can't seem to motivate myself to.

Any advice? I'd really love to get back into reading, but I'm trying to find a way to do it easier

Hello! I’m sorry this took me so long to answer, I’ve been mostly off Tumblr for a little while. I saw this some time ago at 3AM and thought “this deserves a more coherent response than I can give right now” and then forgot that this blog existed for several days.

That said, I absolutely have some advice for reading! I was a big reader as a kid, too, and I’ve recently had to re-discover reading after a long gap in any time spent sitting down with an honest-to-goodness book. There are a number of things you might consider!

DISTRACTIONS

First and foremost, recognize the reason it is difficult to read! For me, it is because reading isn’t the most interesting thing available. That doesn’t mean I don’t love reading! If I can manage to sit down and read a book, it is immensely satisfying - but it’s the satisfaction of the effort you put into something paying off. My favorite hobbies - drawing, writing, reading - are my favorite because of that sense of accomplishment that they give me. 

I love the feeling of holding a book and watching my bookmark move through the pages each time I set it down. However, it doesn’t give me the same instant gratification of reading wikipedia, or tvtropes, or scrolling Tumblr, or checking notifications on social media; even when I am unsatisfied, or even frustrated, with the internet, it can be very hard to put down. I know that people will tell you all the time “You need to put your phone down more!!” It gets old. But they have a point. What people don’t tell you is how to do that. 

For me, that tends to be about making it inconvenient for myself to get online, or do whatever is distracting me. This doesn’t necessarily mean making it completely unavailable. The distraction just needs to be less available than the task I want to do. I am the kind of person who gets online out of muscle memory, and then gets stuck there. Thus, many of my tricks rely on disrupting the muscle memory that lets you pick up distractions. I will put my laptop charger in another room, so that my screen time is limited to its battery life. I might tie a string around my laptop, or tape it closed, so when I go to open it I will be reminded “Oh yeah, I don’t want to do this right now.” I will occasionally rearrange the apps on my phone, so when I try to open Instagram and end up with the weather app instead, the thought of “wait, how did i get here” will snap me out of the thoughtless habits that led me to pick up my phone in the first place. I’ve even gone so far as to tape my phone to the ceiling. Whatever works.

If the weather permits, I might also walk a little ways down the block and find somewhere to sit and read. This can come with its own distractions, but it gets me away from my laptop, and I get a tiny bit more exercise and sunshine than I would have otherwise! This depends, of course, on whether you have transportation and whether you feel safe. But getting yourself out of the house can be a great way to get away from the things that would otherwise draw you away from reading. If you have a local cafe or library that permits you to sit and stay, those are also great options! I will bring my phone when I leave the house, but I might put it at the bottom of my bag, or put a bit of scotch tape over the power button, so that I have my phone in case of emergency but it’s just slightly inconvenient to get to without thinking about it.

It may not be the internet distracting you. But whatever the distraction is, it doesn’t need to be less compelling than reading. It just needs to be less readily available than your book is!

ENTHUSIASM

Another thing that prevents me from reading is that it often doesn’t have the same sense of urgency that other tasks might, whether that urgency is real or not. Give yourself a time limit! I may own books I haven’t read yet, but I will get to a book sooner if I have borrowed it from the library, because I know there is a deadline to return it! 

You can also get other people involved. If you have a friend who wants to read the same book, commit to a chapter or two a week and then call to discuss it. 

Or, if you have a friend who would be interested, and you are comfortable with your reading voice, you could read to someone! It might feel weird to offer, but you’d be surprised how many people really do enjoy being read to. If you both have time in your schedules, you could try to set up a regular call to get through a few chapters at a time. 

Generally, having a friend who likes the book is great for maintaining enthusiasm, even if they’re not reading it with you - I get to books faster if someone with similar taste says “This is one of my favorites! You would love it!” If you have a friend who has read the book you plan on reading, announce to them that you intend on reading it. Their enthusiasm might help you feel more compelled to read it, and there’s a good chance that if you don’t sit down and read it, they will remind you by asking “Have you read it yet? What do you think?” the next time you talk to them.

PREPARATION

Another great way to make reading easier is to set up a reading space beforehand. It’s one thing to pick up a book and say “I’ve been meaning to read this.” It’s another thing to put on some pajama pants, make a cup of tea, and curl a soft blanket around your shoulders before you settle down to read. For one thing, it’s just nice. But more importantly, it can function as a signal that tells your brain “it is Reading Time now. We are in the Reading Zone.”

Do you ever watch a TV show or listen to a podcast, and you let the theme song play on the first episode, and then skip it for the rest? Even if I’ve watched a show before, I will play the theme song on the first episode I watch that day. It’s the same principle - it serves as a transition, an intro that says “this is where I am now, and this is what I’m doing.” Give yourself an intro for reading! Have a certain spot that you like to sit when you read. Have a certain snack you eat beforehand.

I have all kinds of tasks with little “rituals” before them that help me focus on that task, or certain items that I interact with which I associate with it. I call them “declarations of intent,” and once I’ve made a declaration it’s easier to commit to it. Sometimes that means simply saying out loud, “I am going to do the laundry now.” Sometimes it means I wear a certain shirt if I’m planning to go for a walk that day, or drink from a certain mug at breakfast if I want to get some homework done. I have a specific hat that I put on when I want to write a certain character. Try to find something you can do to act as a cue that says “When I do this, then I will read a book.” Because of this, it can help to really lean into whatever the “aesthetic” of reading is, in your mind. Embrace a reading atmosphere!

It may also help to recognize that reading is something you can work your way up to! There is no shame in being out of practice with a hobby. I took my reading proficiency for granted for a long time because it was just a part of my life. It may help to think of reading as a skill! Start with something smaller and work your way up. Pick up a book of short stories or folktales before you tackle that six-book series you’ve heard good things about! Set achievable��goals for yourself when you’re setting out. An early success can make a huge difference to morale, and it’s much better to start “too easy” and accomplish something than to jump in at the deep end and be frustrated by an early setback.

FORGIVENESS

On the topic of working your way up to things, I would like to say a word about mindset. It is easy to feel self-critical about things. Things that you think should come more easily to you. Things that you feel like you have no reason not to be able to do. One of the biggest things I’ve done for my ADHD is recognizing that there is always a reason why I behave a certain way. Accepting that allows me to actually address my struggles, rather than just feeling ashamed of them. I’ve had to accept that I won’t always do things that I set out to do the way I set out to do them.

I bring this up because not all of my advice here may work for you. In fact, some of it doesn’t work for me every time - a technique may work once, but I might fail to make a regular habit of it. I may make a regular habit of something, only to have it become less effective as the novelty of it, or my enthusiasm for it, wears off. I may eventually talk myself out of implementing an effective strategy because there is some part of it that I find unpleasant; or an intentional unpleasantness I once found motivating may eventually become intolerable.

That’s okay. I’m telling you now, it’s okay if that happens. It’s okay if the first method you try doesn’t work. Don’t set yourself up to feel frustrated. If you become frustrated, take a step back. If you borrow a library book and you still haven’t read it by the due date, just give it back. If you don’t actually enjoy the first book you pick up, put it down and try a different one. If you feel badly about not reading something your friend wants you to read, be honest and tell them you have a hard time sitting down, and that you don’t want to disappoint them if they keep asking, but that you will let them know once you have started it!

It can be easy to convince myself that feeling badly about something means it’s important to me, and that maybe if I feel bad about not doing something, it  motivate me to do it. There is a balance between making commitments, and not committing to anything that is just going to distress me. Sometimes there is a benefit to a sense of pressure, but I have to recognize when the pressure I create turns into frustration. That’s a fine line to walk! For all I speak of inconveniencing yourself, or holding yourself accountable, your strategies should ultimately feel satisfying, and show results fairly quickly! You may not see immediate results, but if it has been several days and your strategy isn’t working out, change tactics! And the moment you feel apologetic or ashamed about the thing you are trying to do, drop that strategy. Again, this can be easier said than done, but it is so worthwhile to learn how to allow yourself to “give up” on things that aren’t actually helping you, without feeling like you’re giving up entirely.

You want to get back into reading again because you want to enjoy reading again. If you set it up to feel like homework, or a chore, or an obligation, you may make it more difficult for yourself! Getting back into reading is about focusing on what you love about reading.

And hey, I’m always happy to help! I do only check Tumblr every couple weeks right now, but I’ll do what I can to be supportive. If you’ve tried these suggestions and they don’t work out, no worries! Everyone is different, and it’s no insult to me if things that work for me don’t work for you. But feel free to reach out again, let me know anything you have learned about how you function best in the meantime, and we can reevaluate your strategies!

I hope that helps! Happy reading!

[where-are-jimins-jams]

BTS scenario: youngest female 8th member

SEOKJIN

Would baby the shit out of you whether you like it or not

Shoving food in your face 24/7

"You're not getting up from this table until you finish everything on that plate young lady"

Would lowkey buy you pads or tampons without thinking twice about it

Constantly making dad jokes around you because they always make you laugh

Would hug you all the freaking time

You'd be his sweet little baby and nothing you do could ever be wrong in his eyes

YOONGI

He'd have the biggest soft spot for you

You're the only one allowed to go in his studio when you need some peace and quiet

Would always take your side during playful arguments between the maknaes

"Hyung doesn't what I'm saying make more sense?" "Nothing you say ever makes sense"

Cares deeply for your mental health and does little things to take care of you along with the boys

HOSEOK

Screaming together 24/7

ARMYs starting a petition for free hearing aids

The first part of your hype squad and probably your biggest fan

Doesn't get mad when you mess up the coreo or are having trouble learning it

"You're doing better than you think just keep practicing it"

Wouldn't settle for anything less than a grin on your face at all times

Get ready to get tickled every 3 seconds because he's obsessed with your laugh

ARMYs loving how loud you get when you're together

NAMJOON

As a leader he feels very protective and responsible over you

Not getting annoyed when you poke his dimples

Making sure you're heathy and don't overwork yourself

"Slow down don't push yourself too hard!"

Having his endless support in everything you do

Basically your dad

JIMIN

Will cuddle you non stop

Not only accepting but encouraging the fact that you're the cutest member

Aegyo to the max with you two

Helping eachother through the hate and being very supoortive of one another

Late night chats usually ending in you two falling asleep from exhaustion

Comforting eachother when one has a nightmare

TAEHYUNG

Him being the second part od your hype squad

Being weird together and not giving a shit about it

Might seem like a sweet little angel but if anyone ever says anything bad about you he'll cut a bitch and not bat an eyelash

Being eachother's shopping buddies

Smothers you with gifts

Being his Gucci princess

Planning outfits together when one or the other is having trouble

"This would look so good on you come on try it"

JUNGKOOK

Was a bit jelous at first beacuse you now had the maknae title instead of him and it took him a while to get used to you

Warmed up to you on the third day he just didn't want to admit it

Being so close with age you're as close as ever now

Getting told off by the older members for not sleeping and playing video games all night

Would make it his life long mission to tease you all the time and play pranks on you

On rare occasions you'd join him on the fun and mess around with the boys

Always down to have deep chats at 3am

Members finding you and jimin passed out in Kookie's room from staying up too late

Threw a slipper at you once for waking him up from his slumber

"I'm not saying you deserved it but you so deserved it"

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Disagreements:

Who is more likely to raise their voice? Selina, Dick’s pretty level headedWho threatens to leave but never actually does? Selina always threatens to leave, usually does for short periods of timeWho actually keeps their word and leaves? Selina, she’s usually back pretty soonWho trashes the house? Selina, Dick is pretty organizedDo either of them get physical? Selina is more likely to, but it’s not oftenHow often do they argue/disagree? Pretty often, Dick doesn’t approve of the stealingWho is the first to apologise? Usually Dick

Sex:

Who is on top? Probably DickWho is on the bottom? Well, that only leaves Selina left so herWho has the strangest desires? Probably Selina.. idkAny kinks? Not that I can think about without rping thisWho’s dominant in bed? Lets be real, it’s totally SelinaIs head ever in the equation? Probably, but not when they’re regularly doing it, they probably just get ambitious while the other’s watch TV and then off they goIf so, who is better at performing it? Neither are bad, probably Selina thoEver had sex in public? I have a feeling rooftop sex has happenedWho moans the most? Probably Dick tbhWho leaves the most marks? Selina probably has a thing for leaving marks in places for people to seeWho screams the loudest? I imagine Selina would if either of them actually doWho is the more experienced of the two? Selina, she’s older after allDo they ‘fuck’ or ‘make love’? Probably fuck unless they got hella worried about the other not coming home or something seriousRough or soft? Being Selina it’s probably usually rough unless it’s said serious situationHow long do they usually last? I imagine she’s rather demanding, so probably upwards of 20 minutes after she’s done finding ways to get it out of himIs protection used? Probably unless it’s a spur of the moment thingDoes it ever get boring? I’d imagine notWhere is the strangest place they’d have sex? Probably strange places on rooftops

Family:

Do your muses plan on having children/or have children? I think Dick wants kids but Selina probably doesn’t If so, how many children do your muses want/have? Dick only wants one or two anywayWho is the favorite parent? Probably Dick, he’s too nice for his own goodWho is the authoritative parent? SelinaWho is more likely to allow the children to have a day off school? Probably Dick, tho he shouldn’tWho lets the children indulge in sweets and junk food when the other isn’t around? Probably Dick againWho turns up to extra curricular activities to support their children? Dick is at literally everythingWho goes to parent teacher interviews? Dick does and tries to drag SelinaWho changes the diaper? Probably DickWho gets up in the middle of the night to feed the baby? Dick usually offersWho spends the most time with the children? Again, DickWho packs their lunch boxes? Usually Dick, Selina probably tries to get them to do it themselvesWho gives their children ‘the talk’? Definitely SelinaWho cleans up after the kids? DickWho worries the most? DickWho are the children more likely to learn their first swear word from? Probably Selina

Affection:

Who likes to cuddle? DickWho is the little spoon? SelinaWho gets naughty in the most inappropriate of places? SelinaWho struggles to keep their hands to themself? SelinaHow long can they cuddle until one becomes uncomfortable? Selina gets uncomfortable first, but it’s usually quite a whileWho gives the most kisses? DickWhat is their favourite non-sexual activity? Probably kicking ass or something weird like thatWhere is their favourite place to cuddle? Probably bedWho is more likely to playfully grope the SelinaHow often do they get time to themselves? Like always, they don’t exactly have day jobs

Sleeping:

Who snores? Probably Dick if anyoneIf both do, who snores the loudest? It’s probably quietDo they share a bed or sleep separately? They share a bed, they aren’t some dysfunctional mid 60s coupleIf they sleep together, do they cozy up together or lay far apart? Dick is the cuddliest sleeperWho talks in their sleep? Dick, only during nightmares thoWhat do they wear to bed? Dick wears just his underwear if anything and I don’t imagine Selina wears much more than he doesAre either of your muses insomniacs? Dick usually starts to avoid sleep if his nightmares are badCan sleeping pills be found by the bedside? NoDo they wrap their limbs around each other or just lay side by side? They kinda loosely cuddle I imagineWho wakes up with bed hair? Tbh, it’s probably Dick and his pretty boy hairWho wakes up first? DickWho prepares breakfast in bed for the other? Dick is that nice guy who brings her pancakes in bedWhat is their favourite sleeping position? I imagine they sleep while spooning the mostWho hogs the sheets? Probably SelinaDo they set an alarm each night? Nah, no job to wake up forCan a television be found in their bedroom? Most likelyWho has nightmares? Both? Dick for sureWho has ridiculous dreams? Probably both, they have strange livesWho sprawls out and takes up most of the bed? Probably Selina, Dick thinks it’s cuteWho makes the bed? DickWhat time is bed time? Whenever they’re done kicking assAny routines/rituals before bed? Dick likes to make sure he hangs up his NIghtwing costume, but that’s itWho’s the grumpiest when they wake up? Probably Selina

Work:

Who is the busiest? Probably Dick, he’s got a whole dysfunctional bat familyWho rakes in the highest income? Well, Dick is funded by Bruce, so him?Are any of your muses unemployed? Both technicallyWho takes the most sick days? Selina probably plays sick to get him to take care of herWho is more likely to turn up late to work? what work?Who sucks up to their boss? Well, does Bruce count as a boss?What are their jobs? Unemployed vigilante?Who stresses the most? DICK!!Do your muses enjoy or despise their careers/occupations? Dick loves what he does, I imagine Selina is somewhat similarAre your muses financially stable? With Bruce’s cash they are

Home:

Who does the washing? Probably DickWho takes out the trash? also DickWho does the ironing? No one?Who does the cooking? Selina maybe? They probably order pizza a lotWho is more likely to burn the house down just trying? Neither?Who is SelinaWho leaves the toilet roll empty? SelinaWho leaves their dirty clothes on the floor? SelinaWho forgets to flush the toilet? Dick, but only in the middle of the nightWho is the prankster around the house? Both of them mess with the otherWho loses the car keys when it comes time to go somewhere? Probably Selina, Dick has a hook on the wall for themWho mows the lawn? DickWho answers the telephone? They don’t have a house phoneWho does the vacuuming? Selina maybe?Who does the groceries? They probably both goWho takes the longest to shower? Probably Dick, the longest showers are when one hops in with the other thoWho spends the most time in the bathroom? Selina maybe? It’s probably close tho

Miscellaneous:

Is money a problem? Not with BruceHow many cars do they own? Probably just oneDo they own their home or do they rent? They probably own itDo they live near the coast or deep in the countryside? In the middle of the city in some apartment I would imagineDo they live in the city or in the country? CityDo they enjoy their surroundings? ProbablyWhat’s their song? Dick probably tries to say every sappy song is them but Selina never agreesWhat do they do when they’re away from each other? Selina probably wears shoes in the house and leaves garbage around, Dick just doesn’t wear clothesWhere did they first meet? Gotham somewhere? I don’t know what they’re official first meeting wasHow did they first meet? Being all costumy and vigilante likeWho spends the most money when out shopping? SelinaWho’s more likely to flash their assets? SelinaWho finds it amusing when the other trips over?  Selina, Dick worries too muchAny mental issues? They probably both have some form of PTSDWho’s terrified of bugs? NeitherWho kills the spiders around the house? Probably the cats?Their favourite place? BedWho pays the bills? BruceDo they have any fears for their future? Probably parentingWho’s more likely to surprise the other with a fancy dinner? DickWho uses up all of the hot water?  Probably only happens when they’re both in thereWho’s the tallest? Dick, by an inchWho’s more likely to just randomly hop into the shower with the other? Probably Selina, but Dick does it tooWho wanders around in their underwear? SelinaWho sings the loudest when singing along to the radio? Dick? Both of them? idk..What do they tease each other about? Dick’s horrid fashion choicesWho is more likely to cringe at the other’s fashion sense at times? Selina never forgets the 80s Nightwing outfitDo they have mutual friends? All them superheroesWho crushed first? Dick had one of those weird kid crushesAny alcohol or substance related problems? I imagine Selina has more of a drinking tendency than DickWho is more likely to stumble home, drunk, at 3am? Selina?Who swears the most? Both?