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just-aro · 2 years ago

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y'all have no idea how much effort goes into trying to interpret and respond to some of the questions we get about aromanticism lol.

like kee does so much tonal phrasing to be nice about this, but. please. "what is aromantic?" i am not google. "i don't know if i feel romantic attraction." cool, i'm not gonna be able to tell you what it feels like either. "hi, what if I am a person and not one of the major aro stereotypes?" then you are a person who is aro and doesn't fit that stereotype.

and like, whatever, we deal with those fine. but the worst. the absolute worst. is the ones where the ask is more or less requesting me to speak for aromantic people as a whole, or - worse and more commonly - a specific subset of aro people who i may not identify with, and almost always insist they aren't trying to be bad, but have such a questionable mindset behind it that i feel like i need to start with "how to identify that you haven't unlearned shit, you just realized you have an identity and stuck your tongue out at the people who taught you that shit"

#aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #i am trying. so hard. to answer things nicely #but also i am not google i am not representing every aro person and sometimes... you should research something #sometimes. if you listen to the group you have questions about and research questions via searches or asking for simple resources.#you will find out information without our system struggling with feeling obligated to respond nicely because we know the avg user is young #and we want to model that asking questions is good and that you can kindly say 'i'm not part of this group but here's what they've said'#and things like that #but. sometimes i get asks that make me want to delete aro-culture-is or archive it and just never open it again #and they're not even the bigots or anything #it's just that we're plural but one disabled body #and it's fucking exhausting.#but also we don't really want to go through the process of vetting new mods or anything like that #it sounds exhausting and frankly we've had enough experiences while running that blog to know #that people will find a way to be terrible and demanding #oh this is alexander btw #if you see salty takes it's probs me. protective fuckery is phoenix or axel tho #just... like bro please. please consider that i'm not hear to guide you through the baby steps of realizing you aren't actually #the anti-fascist rebel you think you are ur just queer and online. i am here because i wanted a space for aro people to be silly.#and everyone looked at my silly 'haha this is meant to be claiming silly things like games as ours' page #and was like 'oh! time to seriously discuss every experience of aromanticism i have :)'#but especially the ones against the rules :)

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