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dimonds456 · 1 year ago

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It is not okay to speculate whether or not someone is suicidal. If they claim to be, you should 100% take that shit seriously and give them the benefit of the doubt.

That said, if someone is using their own suicidality as a weapon to gain sympathy, emotionally manipulate someone, or to push other people down, GENUINELY fuck that person. While it's not okay for us to doubt that statement just because they're weaponizing it, that also doesn't mean we need to ALLOW that manipulation to convince us of something.

If you feel the need to use your terrible mental health as a step-stool in a conversation to make your side more heard than the other, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate yourself. And I am saying this as someone who ALSO has shit mental health and has been in the trenches with it before. I get it. I understand. But also STOP.

It's tempting to want to save your own ass over recognizing where you've gone wrong, but just a word of advise: recognizing where you've gone wrong WILL save your ass and give you better mental health and wisdom down the line.

However, emotionally manipulating people absolutely will not.

#suicide mention #tw sui ment #tw suicide #suicide tw #tw sui #tw sui talk #james somerton #k with all that out of the way i do wanna say that this is a response to james' apology #im honestly glad he deleted the vid and also that he's going to genuinely get into a better place #that is GOOD #i mean this genuinely i hope he gets better #but also the fact that he opened the video with an emotional guilt-trip is something i have just been wanting to talk about for a long time #it's manipulation 101 #if you wanna tell your audience you're struggling with mental health that's one thing but not in a fucking apology video #and if you do need to mention it DONT MAKE IT THE VERY FIRST THING YOU SAY #that's such a shitty thing to do #what you need to do is apologize to everyone FIRST and say everything you need to say #and THEN bring that up #but even then i'd disclaim the shit out of it and make sure everyone knows it's not a guilt trip it's just true #but like. at the end of the day dragging your own mental health into an apology is a double-edged sword #tjhat really just depends on the situation #like i said i genuinely hope he gets better #but it's not just him doing this shit. i've seen like 3 cases of this shit in just the past few months #i guess james is just my excuse to finally say something about it

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