#if you're reading this I'm at a con rn and am busy doing con shit

[thewallshaveeyes]

BOO Kallamb jumpscare (yes I can ship kallamb and narilamb at the same time. Lazelle has two hands)

[fandom-hoarder]

Hi! Big fan of your blog! I saw a post of yours about the feeling of vague anxiety regarding this weekend - the 5th, the con - and I really related to that - I feel the same way. Like, I've just got no stomach for drama, but I feel this bizarre need to know what's going on and what everyone's opinions are. Made even more ridiculous by how busy I am offline right now, lol. I don't want to put you on the spot, but do you have any ways of dealing with it? Just curious. And I hope you're well

Hi!! Thank you, I'm glad you're enjoying my blog!! I'm pretty good right now. I hope you're well, too.

Some ways I deal with the stress of contentious fandom events are:

* have a well-curated dash

* I don't use Twitter, so I only get the drama that trickles down into tumblr

* never go into the main tags

* take more breaks from scrolling between con events

* try to focus more on the positives than the negatives

* CREATE positive posts

* message or send asks to positive people in the fandom--uplift to be uplifted

* don't read the comments

Other things:

* if you follow some blogs that tend to focus on the negative drama, temporarily unfollow them or at least scroll past their posts this weekend and maybe even through Monday (i wish there was a mute for this; i hate temporary unfollows cuz my memory is shit)

* blacklist key tags like: nov. 5, destiel, 15.18, destielection, fandom wank, etc (sorry my brain won't give me more suggestions rn; this would be a pretty lowkey healthy thing all around but i don't blacklist anything rn)

* if reducing exposure to the heller side and/or the extreme anti-heller side isn't helping enough, it might be a good time for an actual break from scrolling--I usually have to delete the app widget from my home screen to make it harder to log on

* if you need a replacement for scrolling dopamine, try some fanfiction or rewatching old con highlights

* do something irl

Previous accidental solution:

* live blog your own con reactions and hit post limit so that being on tumblr is almost pointless (works best if you don't have sideblogs lol)

Good luck, nonnie! I hope your weekend is as stress-free as possible and you're able to enjoy all the J2 goodies we're sure to be fed! 💜