#if you're ever unsure what somebody is comfortable with there's no shame in asking

[lasnevadaslaborunion]

hey there! ^_^ what are the rules if we want to join the rp?

I mean, I'm not really in charge of the RP or anything? It just sort of sprung up naturally. Anyone can hop in if they feel like it.

So I guess... just follow basic RP etiquette. Set and respect boundaries, don't dictate other people's characters for them, and so on.

My only "special" request would be to keep genuine dsmp lore discourse to a lighthearted context. Like, making a joke about exiling everyone who ships X is fine, but a serious talk about why X is wrong and bad would be out of place. And if a topic truly upsets or angers you, you should probably avoid bringing it up in RP altogether.

Just use your common sense and remember this is all meant to be good fun between friends.

[marshmallowprotection]

I've always wanted to ask you, but what do you depict Jumin as..? I've seen several headcanons where people depict Jumin as a possessive, stone hearted person who cannot feel emotions or struggles to differentiate different feelings. Most hcs show him being unable to comfort MC the way he wants to.

And for the most part, yeah. I do agree he will struggle with being able to comfort people, especially if they're emotional, but other than that, I don't really see him as someone being possessive or mono-faced after the good ending.

If anything, he's incredibly protective and loves MC wholeheartedly, it's actually really wholesome.

- S.flower

Misunderstood. I don't think anybody truly knows him the way that he is. He doesn't let a lot of people get close to him like that, but for the ones that he does, even they have a limited idea of what it's like to be close to him. He is not a robot. He is not incapable of human emotion. Anytime somebody insinuates that it's because they do not care about getting to know the real person.

Sometimes he struggles to relate to other people because of his upbringing, and he has a hard time knowing what he's supposed to do in the moment. He closed off his emotions when he was a child to some extent, but not in the way that people think that he did. It's very subtle.

 You can tell a lot about him from the way that he talks about traumatic experiences offhandedly like they were nothing. He doesn't consider some of his experiences to be out of the ordinary for somebody in his position. Think about the way that he talks about being kidnapped or being harassed. He's clearly uncomfortable, but he talks about it as if he's supposed to be resigned to that happening or the possibility of that happening.

He keeps a level head in the middle of a crisis because he wants to keep everybody that he cares about safe. He could be crumbling on the inside and remain unsure of how to express that feeling because he has to be the one that takes care of everything. You see this happening in different timelines where she is the rock that keeps everyone together but you would never expect that he is breaking down on the inside. He doesn't want people to see that. 

He knows that it would detract from the situation and somebody has to be level-headed. He takes away from his own experiences because he feels like he has to ensure that things go right. He would do anything to protect the people that he cares about. It's a shame that people don't understand just how big his heart is.

I think what he struggles with the most is the fact that he's lacking in experience. It's not that he doesn't know how love works. It's just that he's never been in a relationship and he doesn't know what he's supposed to do next. He adapts and he learns rather quickly, but you're the first person that he's ever loved. You're the first person that he's loved like this. 

Sometimes he's not sure what he's supposed to do in a relationship, and that can make it difficult for him to navigate the waters. When he's trying to make the first move, when he's trying to come for you, when he's trying to do this or that. It isn't that he doesn't have emotions, it's just that he is very methodical and he wants to process what he should do. He likes to check every possible Avenue before he does something. He gets into his head about things and that's where the difficulty remains.

He can be a little clueless sometimes but it's hard to pick that because some people get a little lost in translation. I definitely don't care for the ones that depict him as possessive, because it leans into that bad ending that I don't like to talk about. So, I do not agree with anybody who calls him possessive. 

That's just my personal opinion on the matter, and it's fine if other people think differently. But I just cannot see him pushing someone around and trying to control them in his good ending. The only reason why he was pushy during the events of his route was because he was afraid of losing you. It brought out things that he's not proud of, but he admits to them and he wants to work on them with you.