#idc what you have to say if you aren't indigenous yourself

[chaos-in-one]

“If you aren’t at least -insert percentage- indigenous you can’t say you’re indigenous”

Shut up forever and stop re-enforcing the exact shit colonizers wanted to happen to indigenous people!!! They WANTED to thin us out so they could separate us from each other and our identities and culture as much as possible! Don’t fucking help them do that! Same with if you treat indigenous people who are disconnected from or know very little about their heritage and/or culture as less indigenous or not indigenous at all! This was done to us on purpose, you are spreading the exact same mindset and wishes of colonists!

[neonstatic]

you say masculinity and femininity are social constructs so they mean nothing concretely, and that it's different for gender identity... but masculinity and femininity are what influences and define someone's gender identity. you can be one or the other, or somewhere in between or neither. and the use of masculine or feminine pronouns is part of what ppl use to establish their gender identity or expression. some ppl shop in the male section of shops to feel masculine and some ppl like masculine pronouns. they're accessories. they're not meant for only one type of people to wear. there are boys who like dresses and girls who like snapbacks and ppl like me who just don't like certain gendered terms and that's all. it can be tricky to navigate but you only have to ask and that's all.

on the subject of third genders, i'm only familiar w two-spirit, which is a label for indigenous ppl who are inhabited by both masculine and feminine energies. as far as i know there's no rule for what pronouns these ppl can use. tru there are third genders born out of homophobia but there are plenty that aren't and are instead held to a honourable position.

and i haven't said i use they/them bc i'm gnc. idk where you got this idea from? i'm nb and wlw and i use they/them. that's all you need to know. the point is pronouns have little to no physical reality, purpose or order; they are a personal matter and it's up to the individual to decide which set fits best, whether feminine, masculine, neutral or neopronouns. you should respect someone's pronouns regardless of the reason behind them. any assumption based on someone's pronouns are your deal. gay men call each other she and sisters and queens and it doesn't make them women unless they want it to mean so. a cis person could use neutral pronouns and i wouldn't bat an eyelash. idc, it's not my business! you might think it trivializes the trans experience but could it not bring comfort, the idea that ppl could respect you w/o a justification for how you call yourself, how you want to be called and how you express yourself? i think this is a better mindset in many ways.

big offense but if a person connects w womanhood and exclusively loves women, this person is a lesbian and can call themself a lesbian. doesn’t matter how much or how little they id as a woman. i’d understand the outrage if someone went “i’m a dude and i love women therefore i’m a lesbian” but it’s not what he/him lesbians are. a disconnect from womanhood is v common in lesbians bc society tends to define women thru their attraction and alliance to men. why shame lesbians for a discomfort they have no control over? the detachment from stereotypical womanhood (including the use of feminine pronouns) doesn’t mean they’re suddenly men. toss away your outdated binary mindset and understand that gender is a fkg social construct. there are no real rules. so there’s no one way to be a woman or a lesbian. whether cis or trans/nb, lesbians are allowed to alleviate their dysphoria w/o being dissected and having their lesbianism gauged on whether or not they fit the Lesbian Mould you have in mind. their experience w womanhood and gender expression is absolutely none of your business. let lesbians be.