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[barryogg]

I think that it's a case of young people listening to the message being broadcast.

Not the message which people think they're broadcasting, mind you, the one that is actually being said.

And what is said is "sexually explicit media are Evil". Almost everyone is of this opinion, most of the right, most of the left! They disagree to death over the reasons for why it's evil, but they agree on the endpoint.

There are ~two exceptions to "almost everyone". One are the normies that were used to be called beer-and-tits liberals. These days this kind of vulgarity is coded center-right even more than when Kontext wrote that post (see e.g. Hulk Hogan at the republican convention). But they don't matter for this conversation, they're not online, and we're all mad extremely online in here. You, me, and the subset of zoomers we're talking about.

The other exceptions are queers who are pro-porn because consuming and producing smut and porn is an important part of Queer Culture. E.g. spotted at this year's Worldcon, contemporary sff literature fandom dot jpeg:

Which again, hardly matters for this conversation because the people in question broadly support Queer porn specifically, and usually take a hardline stance against straight porn, with varying degrees of thought-out justification. Which means more negative messaging for the majority of zoomers who are straight, and also lots of collateral damage.

And you got that stew going for over a decade, and you get people who internalize the message that something is bad but not why. Sometimes it gets funny results, other times less so. In this case, you get people who internalized that being horny is bad, and perceiving other people in a sexual manner is super duper bad.

(But also conservatives being against horniness is also bad! Don't think about the contradictions too hard. A good example is Bayonetta. In the mid-2010s she was declared a Bad type of woman protagonist by Feminist Frequency, then she was "reclaimed" as Queer All Along, and now the prevailing line seems to be that it was the evil religious conservatives that tried to oppose characters like her. Whereas the whatshername from Stellar Blade is a Bad type of woman protagonist. Give it a few years.)

Like in the case of media diet, I mostly feel sorry for the young. We're not South Korea yet, but we keep moving in that direction.

Also I'm confused about your confusion - you've written numerous times about being embedded in the culture that broadcasts a message of hetero dating being inherently exploitative, dangerous and disrespectful, and people acting surprised about you taking the message literally?

As I understand it the term "gooner" is synonymous with "wanker" but instead of being a generic insult is meant to specifically indicate that the recipient does, in fact, masturbate, possibly to pornography.

Usually youth culture doesn't confuse me but this one is a real head scratcher.

[kingcardan-archive]

azula in the day of the black sun 

[chickwiththepurpleguitar]

Hiiiii! Victoria, peony, homophobia please!

Two prompts to go my friends! (Sorry they've been so off schedule lol, I'm hoping to have the last one up tonight as well). Since my brain needed an even number and I've now posted 7 Julie POV fics, 7 Rose POV fics, 7 Flynn POV fics, and 7 Carrie POV fics, I decided to round off the last two with some special guests. Thanks to @a-tomb-with-a-view and @joyandthephantoms for rigging my inbox <3

This prompt takes place in a new au @joyandthephantoms and I have affectionately dubbed "homophobia." WARNING: HOMOPHOBIA. The gist is-- Ray Molina deserves to be an imperfect parent Sometimes and that means he needs to make mistakes and unlearn some things after he's hurt his children with them. Don't worry, he'll get there. Enjoy!

When Victoria gets home from a long day at the office, her niece is crying on the front porch.

“Ay, querida!” Victoria cries, getting out of the car immediately to rush over to her. “Julie, what’s wrong? What are you doing here?”

A quick once-over does nothing to clear up the situation. Julie doesn’t appear to be hurt— she’s wearing shorts and a t-shirt with a butterfly on it, and there’s no sign of blood on any of her exposed skin, no scraped knees or obviously broken bones. Just tears streaming down her face as she sits between the two patches of Victoria’s peony garden and a slight tremor to her hands as she tries to swipe them away.

“Julie, nena,” Victoria pleads, sitting down on the porch next to her so she can pull her niece into a hug. “Dime qué te pasa. Should I call your papi?”

“No,” Julie hiccups, shaking her head. “No, please, don’t— I told him I was going to the library to study, I— I don’t want him to know I’m here.”

Something sour burns in Victoria’s chest. She holds Julie tighter, even as her tone turns serious. “Julie, if you expect me to lie to your father, you better have a good reason.”

Julie sobs, clutching tightly to Victoria’s blouse, and then she says, “I told him I’m gay, Tía.”

Victoria goes very still. Her mind races with things to say— trying desperately to think of the right thing to say— because clearly however Ray reacted wasn’t what Julie needed to hear. “Okay,” she says finally. “That’s news, ¿sí?”

Julie sniffles, tense in Victoria’s embrace. “There’s this girl in my class… Dad kept asking me if there was a boy I wanted to take to the Freshman Social, but there isn’t a boy, and I— I know that’s not really something we’d ever talked about as an option for me, but I didn’t think he’d—”

She cuts herself off with a fresh round of tears, and Victoria doesn’t know what to do, so she just keeps holding her, shushing her gently, praying to God and Rose for patience and strength.

She tries not to hold any anger for Ray in her heart, not until she knows the whole story, anyway. He’s a good man and a good father. He’s also Catholic, from a smaller town and with older parents than Victoria and Rose’s. He’s not perfect. She can’t expect him to be.

“What did he say, mija?” she whispers, pressing her lips into Julie’s curls.

Julie takes a shaky breath. “He said what I was feeling was unnatural. Th-That I needed to stop thinking that way, that I shouldn’t tell anybody, that as soon as a nice boy came into my life, I’d change my mind. He said… He said Mami always wanted me to be safe and happy and I couldn’t be either if I chose that lifestyle.”

“Ay, Dios mío,” Victoria breathes, and gives up on patience. She and Ray Molina are going to have words.

“Tía,” Julie says, sniffling. “Would Mom be upset if she were still alive?”

“No,” Victoria promises. “No, nena, she’d be so proud of you. I’m certain of that. I’m so proud of you. You didn’t do anything wrong. And your papi will come around, too, okay? I’ll make sure of it.”

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