#i'm sorry i spiraled into a little rant....... i heart butchfemme.............

[philomenacunt]

hi guide since you're a butch i come to ask you. what do you think makes a butch a butch. sorry if this is a stupid question i am sleep deprived as always

hiiii i actually love this question it's not stupid....

i think it's important to say that what makes ME butch. isn't what makes everyone else butch. everyone's different everyone experiences their identity in their own way etc etc etc

butchness is more than what most people think, like just having short hair and wearing dumb jeans. it's a way of being, something i express through all aspects of my identity, including the way i dress and behave.

i see some people saying we're reinforcing stereotypes by saying "i behave in a masculine way" because there's no "masculine" way to behave which like. okay i see where you're coming from. i do i really do but in our society it still very much is established how men are supposed to act, masculine, and how women are supposed to act, feminine.

now, being a lesbian (or queer in general) already inherently goes against this idea, but being butch is like a. double. to me.

a woman behaving the way a man does, looking like a man, loving women (in whatever way, romantically, sexually, platonically, just bc of lesbian connection <3, or wtv else), is rebellion. gender transgression. revolution!

i dress pretty masculine (as well i can with the clothing taste of a 15 year old emo girl (im wearing my black sweater with jason from friday the 13th thats has red stripes on the sleeves)) but i will grow out of that. i have long ish hair. my hair's an important part of me & despite it being long, it still ties to my butch identity.

i think. a big part is the way i interact with other women, especially lesbians. traditionally, especially (but not only) when the butchfemme community was first prominent (about 40s-60s). men did things for women because they had to. they were the man. i do things for women because i want to. do you know what i mean this sounds so silly. i treat women better than men did (& well. do) is what i'm saying. butch is sort of, partly, the traditional idea of chivalry to me. you know.