#i'm not putting anything past anyone on the internet anymore tho

[bobbinalong]

why did i just read somebody theorizing? headcanoning? i don't even know? that jay is a substitute for damian in superman: son of kal-el. proof: they're the same height and john timms has same face syndrome. soke is about the liberation of jay's home. he's the story's deuteragonist. there's no way he was supposed to be or even inspired by damian. damian doesn't have a patent on playful ribbing and being snarky. please use your heads.

[falltothesun]

helloooo taking you up on that hook up advice offer !! especially since im also a trans guy & ive been considering grindr bcos i have been insanely needy the past week it's literally making it hard for me to function so yes!! please!!!!

Hi omg! So I definitely joined Grindr for the same reason, I needed to get dicked down so bad it was starting to affect my work lmfao. Huge disclaimer: this is all a bunch of stuff that works for me, from my experiences. There's no handbook, I'm figuring this out myself. If anyone wants to correct me/add on, please do.

First and foremost- don't settle. Grindr is a bit of a hellscape. In the moment it definitely seems like anyone willing to fulfill your needs is worth it. I'm speaking as a total sub/bottom so there were definitely guys on Grindr who 'spoke my language', offered what sounded like a good time, but didn't have my best interests at heart. You can't put much trust in any stranger on a hookup app, but here are some good indicators of things to watch out for and avoid:

- blank profiles/no pics. You're going to get a ton of them. Dick pics do not count. Make sure you have a good image of the person you're meeting. Make sure they're clean (both hygiene and std wise). Just- the more info you have on them, the better.

- being pushy. They're going to whine and whine about meeting up, and they are also going to say nasty things if you ignore them/turn them down. Do not let this guilt you. If this is how they receive boundaries over text- you can't trust them during a hookup. You don't owe anyone anything, not even a text back. A huge green flag is when you can have a no-pressure conversation, and sometimes even a pre-meetup to discuss boundaries and kinks.

Do not get stingy on your own boundaries! You are meant to enjoy this time, too. Tell them exactly what you want, your hard nos and hell yesses. Clear communication beforehand can lead to a fantastic night. Don't worry about blocking or turning down if you're getting bad vibes- there's literally dozens of guys waiting in your DMs, one of them has to be good.

Now, I have huge trust issues so bear with me here- you can't always count on your hookup, even if you found one that checks all the aforementioned boxes. So have some contingencies. Here are some of mine:

- two (or three) of my friends get a text as soon as I leave my house. Yes, it's awkward to mention to someone that you're about to fuck, but prior conversations have been had and usually I just say "I'm going out for x hours, call me if I don't get back to you by then". I send my location if possible (harder to do with carplay), and just like that, there are people waiting for my word. Hell, you can DM me your location and a timeframe and I will call the police in your area if I don't hear back from you.

- I never host. Is this controversial? I don't care. I'm a sub, bottom, afab, tiny human. I'm super susceptible to stalking and kidnapping (and not in the fun way), so I keep myself safe by making sure my hookups don't know where I live. I like to drive to their place, because then I have myself a getaway vehicle, or we meet in the middle somewhere. Regardless, my home is a secret and shall stay that way.

- don't bring anything valuable. Other than my phone and my wallet (which I sometimes just leave in my car), I bring nothing with me. This is less about personal safety and more about theft tho lol

-bring protection. Rawdogging is fun but STDs and pregnancy scares are not.

-this is Grindr specific but be careful with your photos. Grindr has a neat function called 'albums', and you can retract any sent albums at anytime so they can't be seen anymore. You also can't screenshot anything in the Grindr app. This protects you- to a point. But like anywhere else on the internet, be very, very careful with who you send your pics to.

Takes you by the shoulders. Listen to me. It is always okay to say no. You could be in someone's bed, naked, and you can say no. This sounds like common sense, but sometimes you're with a stranger in the moment and things aren't firing right in your brain, but your well-being is 100% a bigger priority than pleasing the guy you met on Grindr. They can bitch and moan all they want, but if you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it, and you don't owe sex to anyone. You can say no at any time. And anyone who fights you on it or disregards it is not someone you want to associate with.

Ok now that all the parental lecture-y stuff is out of the way- some general tips to show your hookup partner some respect! They're also in a place of vulnerability, so while it's good to be careful, it's also good to be gracious.

-protection. I said this already! But you can bring more than just a condom. Looking into PrEP, getting yourself tested(!!!!) after every encounter, and not having sex when you're sick is generally good etiquette. Getting tested is not only being a decent human for your hookup partner, but it's important to do for yourself as well. Idk what country you live in and what the healthcare is like so hopefully it's as easy as walking in to a clinic like it is here. Post-sec institutes (colleges/universities) usually have fantastic sexual health programs as well so I'd check there if you're in that demographic!

- clean up. Please. Shower, brush your teeth, put on some deodorant and a clean change of clothes. It goes a long way! My best hookups have been with a guy who smelled good, and I enjoyed it as much as I did the actual pounding in his backseat. Also clean up after the hookup! Shower, pee, etc. Hygiene. (I'm a germaphobe ok)

- boundaries! You've set yours, now stick to theirs. I've slept with guys who really didn't like blowjobs- so I didn't give any, we kept it junk to junk. I might've been the sub in the situation, but that doesn't mean the guy dominating was a sex machine who liked everything, so I accommodated that! Sometimes it's as simple as listening to the sounds they're making, reading the body language, and acting accordingly. If they aren't being enthusiastic about what's happening, then maybe it's time to check in.

- text back. Hey man, if it was a good fuck, it was a good fuck. NSA is usually my style, but there's nothing wrong with hooking up again with the same mf if it was a damn good time. Give 'em some feedback, tell them you had a fantastic night, ask about doing it again. Everyone needs the confidence boost.

Goddamn this got long. I hope some of this helps, I hope I didn't miss anything, and I hope I didn't say something that sounds completely fucking bananas. Good luck and hope you have some good, safe hookups!!

[pcgamer157]

Welp, I got nothing to lose if I posted all my rants from my phone onto here, so internet enjoy my rage!

Sorry for any spelling mistakes!

I'm the one who causes problems even though I don't mean too.

When I'm referred to as "special" in my mind that's another word for stupid or retarded

Memory problems are a bitch

A is the smart one of the friendship

Makes me feel like I can't rant to my own family even though she rants to hers without repocution

When I'm sick I'm still expected to go out and work but when A is sick she stays home and lays in bed all day

When I'm talking to my friends online A dosnt see how happy it makes me and says their fake

Says that i like girls even tho I don't, she says it makes more sense because I seem to be a masculine lesbian

Talks shit with everyone around me but when I do it God forbid

I know I'm bad with money but I'm trying

Makes me feel like I'm less of a person compared to her

Makes me rethink the friendship alot

Tries to keep my best friend O away from me saying she's toxic and a bad friend

Keeps on saying she'll win in a fight against me, and threatens that she'll beat me if I tell anyone a piece of info she doesn't want being known

When I tell her I'm depressed her imitate reaction is "everyone has depression, your just saying that for attention."

When I cut she says I can go to her but when I do she says I don't have anything to cut for and doing it for attention even though I'm not

My depression has gotten worse since she's been my roommate

Thinks that she's all mighty and shit but she's only human too

She always gets front seat even though I'm in the back trying not to get sick

She asks me what I want but makes it to her preferences and not mine and when I say something I'm immediately ignored

Says I am more interested in girls because I have a hard time talking to guys, she dosnt have a say on who I like

When I'm sick I'm still supposed to do shit but when she's sick everyone feels bad for her and let her be lazy all day, double standard

Says the app I talk to my friends with is just a stupid fantasy game and says their fake friends

You always blame your problems on Me because you say it's easier to put it the blame on me

She throws me under the bus pretty much any chance she gets

Says everything stressed her out but when I get stressed I'm being annoying or too exited

She says moms driving is bad when she drives the same way

She's allowed to bring up the past but when I do it its the worst thing in the world

She shouldn't have a say in my sexuality if it makes more since then not I don't like girls I can find them attractive but not pursue them romanicly

Sooo I have no say on how long we do door dash with jeri and she says "we have nothing going on" You may have nothing going on but I do

Says I shouldn't be on my phone as much ok im sorry that most of the stuff you talk about is ether a You problem or not interesting at all

When I Show her I have an issue with my phone she thinks in just being stupid and wasting time, I don't want to dash with her anymore if she keeps this shit up.

She knows my phones fucked up

When I try to explain to her something she dosnt listen at all but I'm supposed to listen to her like that nah she can go screw herself

I'm not allowed to explain why I did something because she keeps on saying "stop talking"

Stop Being in charge of everything in my life and get out of it

Apparently I'm not allowed to talk maybe I should go mute or something because all I do is cause issues

When I have to do something I have to do it right away but when she has to do something she's able to take her time because she's in a bad mood.

A is so bad with road rage she almost caused an accident when K and I both told her to slow down

I'm a bad driver if I miss a turn but if she dose it its fine Even if she dose it multiple times in a row

She said she'll take me home at 830 but I'm not sure if she's telling the truth

Gets mad at me for the dasher app being stupid and bitches me out for it

I get blamed for all the disgusting sounds even though I have no idea what they are and A makes me cry alone in a dark bathroom because she can't sleep

A makes me the villen in every situation even with O.

At least I have respect to tell people discreetly instead of making them feel bad for what I hear,

She didn't even let me explain myself but if it was her she expects me to be respectful

She has a major victim complex

I'm supposed to deal with her being bitchy but I'm supposed to stop right away if I'm being bitchy

Double fucken standards

Stop telling me that you think I'm a lesbian because i give off the vibes

You don't have a say in my sexuality

Mom and dad favoring A over their own daughter

Mom always being on A side for everything

Telling our mutual friends that I have a p*rn addiction even though I don't, why would you say that? If I was in you shoes I would keep my mouth shut with that kind of shit.

Why would you show my own mother a tictok about me biting my lip, I didn't even know it was seductive I just found that out today.

I wish you weren't coming with us to the new house.

You say I'm not paying attention but your the same way you bitch your ignoring me when I try and tell you something then yell at me when I do the same thing.

Your such a bitch to me today for the same shit we did last year but when it comes to me it's the worst thing in the world

You can talk about anything that I'm uncomfortable with but as soon as I say a word your not comfortable with I'm the bad guy

In stressful situations she laughs but when we almost got hit I laugh but I get yelled at by her

Calls me odd for talking in a mirror fucken bitch

Most of not all of the money we make gos to her own wallet and stuff she needs to pay for not shared but when I forget stuff I'm told to remember stuff that she should take care of. She keeps calling rosey HER cat and MY car HERS I'm done with her she can dash on her own

How was I supposed to know telling the truth was going to lead to an argument

Everyone is saying it's my fault

No one wants to hear my side of the story only hers

She's causing more problems then there needs to be, she's the issue not me

She is blackmailing me

I don't want to alive anymore because of her she acts just like her parents

I'm do close to telling mom everything but knowing her she'll make herself to be the victim

Says I'm addicted to my phone when she's in the same boat I'd not worse, she also text while driving.

The music is so loud I can barely hear myself think but when I try to turn it down I get yelled at. It's not my fault that she's deaph

Tried to tell mom and dad whats going on but as soon as angel came out I'm called crazy, I already know as soon as we're alone I'm goin to be bitched out by her. She can go to hell

Makes fun of me when I accidentally cut myself and say "why don't you ask for help?" I did you just chose to ignore me and instead talk shit about me to my own parents.

It honestly feels like they much rather have you as a daughter then me.

I get blamed for everything even if I wasn't involved anyway shape or form

Mom and dad are more leaninant with her then me I want to spend 30 dollers she wants to spend 60 but I get told no

Say all my online friends are fake but mom and A are the same way their hipacrets

A Ecen admits that I get bitched at for no reason but still switches sides constantly choose a side

She tells me I'm lazy and everyone has depression but if I say anything to her I'm an asshole

Her needs and wants are always put before mine even if it's a day about me

She calls me spoiled but she grew up in money

When talking about the past she says she was abused but in different ways so was I but I I try to say anything I'm insensitive to her and get yelled at.

When I try and talk to you about the work schedule and you say ya sure we can change it only to immediately keep it the same before the conversion because you don't want to get up earlier in the day

You say is a me problem but you involve me in your problems but as soon as I try and back out I'm the ass hole.

I constantly get questioned from everyone in the family why I'm in a bad mood, I'm sorry I didn't realize I had to be happy all the time.

When I cry I get yelled at and told "that didn't work out for you did it?" As soon as you do it and I say the same thing I'm the asshole

She tells me I'm just like dad even in bad situations because I'm always the last one to be told things.

Church gives me bad juju

I want to talk to sister about the list but if I do that I'll be called out about everything I think about A.

Your music isn't as good as you think it is.

I apparently have to tell A when I get new headphones because I can't be trusted with them

Mom, sister and probably dad are on my side and A got butched out by mom, and now she's pissed that she got bitched out more then I did.

It's your way or the highway your alot like mom and dad, your no better then they are.

If you make us lose our job because you bitched out anyone I will never forgive you

I sigh one time and you bitch me out like I've heen doing it all day, leave me be God dammit

If you think I'm fat just say so don't beat around the bush

Why would you tell me to get rid of my vr headset and stop vr, it's like me telling you, you can't go to movies or watch TV because you watch merder shows and that's weird.

Stop bitching me out like I'm a child dad didn't ask for help from me so it's not my problem, so shut the fuck up and go suck a dick or something

When I was in the shower you were calling for me to ask me a question but I didn't answer you because I was in the shower a d couldn't hear you over the water and fans going then tou knocked on the door and yelled "Do you know where the glaze is for the ham!?" I said 'no, I don't,' and you proceeded to say,"I called your name three times. What the heel were you doing!?" And I told you," I was in the shower?" with a towl wrapped around my head. So before you yell make sure I'm in the shower or not before you get bitchy

And let's not forget only one of us kissed multiple girls multiple times so it would make since if you were bi and I wasn't but that's only me since God forbid you be a little fruity. But you can repeatedly tell me that "it makes sense if you're bi and not ace. Because if you're not 100% on the label, then it doesn't apply to you." Just say your homophobic and be done with it, and it's not the first time either.

[gayfabrayforlittleberry]

What's the difference between a Stan and a fan because for me I feel like she can't ever win with either side it doesn't matter what she does it seems to pissed off both parties. And I for the love of God can't interpreted that interview the way you guys are seeing it maybe I'm stupid but I don't really see the wrong in it but it seems like both the stans and the fans are upset with something she said or didn't say. I'm not here to attack I'm just trying to understand

Under cut because long answer is long…

Well both fans and stans are supporters of a celebrity or famous person in general. A fan is someone that appreciates a celebrity’s work and the persona that that celebrity decides to show to the public but at the same time a fan can not agree with everything the celebrity does because they consider an action, word or gesture that that celebrity did either offensive not ethical or just plain wrong and that imo is a good way of being a supporter within certain borders of course like not attacking that celebrity the people within their close group and or the fans that don’t agree with the people that think that specific celebrity did something wrong, I think tho that talking on determinated spaces like I do here on tumblr or other threads can be a good thing always in the limits of respect towards the others that decide to ingage in this exchange of opinions. 

A stan on the contrary is someone that blindly follows and agrees with everything and anything the celebrity does even if that celebrity kills someone (be aware that I’m bringing an extreme example here just for the sake of understanding) the stans 9 times out of 10 will verbally attack anyone that made the choice to express a conflicting opinion to one of the celebrity and by default their own opinion and or choices. (I and other people that share my same thoughts or just different opinions than those stans have been verbally attacked more and more times during the past years)

In that interview what makes me, not mad but disappointed was not the fact that she in a wide round of words said something that could be interpreted as her blaming the fans on the internet for her decision of taking a long break from working because in a way I can understand her not wanting to see the hate that unfortunately a lot of haters spread on various social media that she uses to communicate with her fans, what got me mad and sad at the same time was her talking about her relationship when she could’ve talked about the few work projects she has planned in the future or just promoting the movie she’s in right now that will be out in a few days, but what got me even more mad is that in a full interview where I’m more than sure she did talk about her projects the media decided to put out the only piece of interview where she talks about the thing she always boasted about keeping private and that’s her romantic relationship, now correct me if I’m wrong but to me her bringing up the fact that she got married, even if public news by now, to answer an ask that had nothing to do with her relationship whatsoever is not exactly keeping her relationship private.

If I want to keep something of my life private I don’t talk about it, less so if I’m in the middle of an interview that everyone will see like she was. What I’m upset about is that it looks like that for the media, her team and her it’s more important talking about her relationship than talking about her work projects. I don’t know what’s the stans problem with her right now because I’m not part of them  at this point and time but as a fan that at this point doesn’t care anymore about her relationship (I won’t lie one time I did care too much about that but after growing up as a person and after realizing a bunch of stuff I realized it was not ok and kinda pointless) but only cares about her work it’s disappointing to see that the already few interviews she has are more about her love life than her work. Or at least that the bits where she talks about her love life are more promoted than the ones about her job.

I hope that my answer explained everything in a way that you can understand and thanks for being polite about it anon, the world needs more people like you that don’t immediately go at the throat of people they don’t share the same opinon as you :)