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slippery-minghus · 1 month ago

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mother has now escalated to calling me 🙃

unfortunately for her, i know how this sort of thing works, and i have no intention of giving her what she wants. i DON'T want a relationship with her, it is a waste of my time to have her in my life.

it is not my responsibility to teach her how to behave. it is not my responsibility to coddle her so that she does not ever have to feel bad. she is an adult, and is fully capable of doing these things on her own. she started working on herself only a few years after i did, but there is very little work to show for it at the end of the day. and that she put in any effort at all doesn't give her a right to have access to me—and certainly not when her behavior still sucks.

in the past five years, i can't a remember having a visit with my mother that didn't leave a bad taste in my mouth. i know what she's like and frankly, i'm just done.

#unclear or decided yet if i will have a conversation with her telling her i need space #we'll see how long this 'extinction burst' lasts before she gives up #it feels cruel to just start ignoring her but i'm really not? i've responded to each of her texts. just in the most boring way possible #and without caving to her need for me to be immediately available at all times #and it's not like she takes a fucking interest in my life anyway!! so why the fuck shouldn't i be boring as hell!!#for all she knows i'm out with my fucking friends right now and don't have my phone handy. but would she care? no. bc it's all about her #so i'm going to prioritize myself and not drop everything the moment she comes calling #this is no different than my childhood where i'd be playing in one room (blessedly unsupervised) and accidentally Make A Noise(TM)#and immediately get yelled at from across the house #and i'm just minding my own fucking business over here #she needs to fucking grow up. get a fucking life. and leave me alone.#i'll send her a fucking christmas card if she can manage that mucj #personal

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