#i wont tag as p@nsëxü@l so it doesnt appear in the tag

[wis-teria3]

Hi i wanted to ask you something that has been bugging me a lot, do you think pansexuals are biphobic? A while ago a blog was blasting that pansexuals are transphobic homophobic and biphobic :( and idk it just really hurt me a lot ??

Hi anon! Imma keep it real with ya, pansexuals themselves are not biphobic, however the label itself is engraved with a biphobic and transphobic history. But that is to say modern pansexuality! There's actually multiple types, objectum (I believed thats spelt right) is one of them. But that's another post (if ever) that I'd have to do a lot of research on lol.

While the history of the word does start in the early 1900s thanks to Freud (which idk why anyone would want to rely on his bs for stuff), the modern term and definition began here

This right here? Heavily biphobic and transphobic. To define trans men and women as something other than just men and women, is disgusting. They arent some third one. Androgynous isn't some other third gender. Non binary is literally...anything not on the binary. And in our manifesto, we demanded that people not assume we were binary to begin with.

It was a label born from biphobic individuals. It stole our terms, like "hearts not parts" which were from the AIDS crisis. A thing we were getting blamed for spreading because to heterosexuals we were sexual deviants!

Future definitions from saying "pan means genderblind" which kinda sounds like people who say they're colorblind and don't see race before saying something...well racist. It just never has sit well with me even when I used to identify as pan. "We love personality not the gender you are" sounds incredibly lgbphobic. Why is this the only sexuality that cares about personality and makes the rest sound like sexual deviants? Why does it appeal so well to how homophobes have talks about the lgbt community for years? Because it literally implies the same thing. "I'm pansexual because I would date nonbinary and trans people" which doesn't make sense since nonbinary is lack of gender like...gender gone fam. But like if you say men and women, trans men and women better already be implied.

Then in 2008 published article Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity: Dynamic Links Over Time had an interview of a pansexual trans woman Lori who claimed:

“Bisexual relies on two genders, and I don’t really believe in that anymore… it makes it very problematic …”

Lori’s solution was to adopt alternative labels, such as “queer,” “pansexual,” or “omnisexual,” and her preference for these terms was directly influenced by her increasing familiarity and experience with the transgender community (…)

“So I think [identifying as pansexual/omnisexual] is more about saying it doesn’t really make a difference what their gender is, it’s more about who you’re attracted to.”

This is disgustingly biphobic. We have been here since the beginning and this was a call of replacing??

Then in 2010, the flag emerged with...basically looking like the bi flag with slightly toned different colors and yellow. Which...the purple in the bi flag represented the every thing outside of binary man and woman on our flag.

But as a reminder, this was and still is what the bisexual manifesto says about our own definition.

“Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.”

So no pansexuals aren't biphobic or transphobic or homophobic....but it is disgustingly deeply engraved in your labels history. It is rampant with bi erasure, trans chaser sounding phrases, and a history of trying to sound superior and more woke.

I also want to address why people might feel uncomfortable labeling themselves as bi. And I can tell you from experience its probably internalized biphobia and that is a bitch to try and square out. I refused to come out as bi for a while because of fear. Pansexual was a new term when I was in high school and it gave me time to get out if situations if maybe they were just confused. Then I learned bi history and just...realized how biphobic I sounded.

It hurts to have that type of realization and moment of yourself, but its okay to still not know what you are and what you label as. But I do encourage pansexuals to learn bi history and terminology as well as our phrases and impacts, and instead of speaking over us, listen to us, and to look into themselves and take the time to think "why am I so uncomfortable with a harmless term?". Because we acknowledge that homophobia and lesbophobia and transphobia is bad...but why is biphobia just discourse? Instead of defining ourselves for ourselves, both hetero and others have defined us for us.

There's a reason people say "oh so bi?" When some come out as pan...its because what you're describing is what bisexuals have been screaming for people to understand about us for years.