#i understand deeply the intricacy of 'what about cishet people taking over gay bars' and honestly my response is like

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the thing that severely fucks me up about the "no cishets at pride" argument is it's in COMPLETE dismissal of how major pride events have run for decades now.

as far back as i can remember, our local pride org had had cishet ally parents running the youth sections at pride events. you can EASILY find countless images of other cishet ally parents at pride parades marching either with their family or in MEMORY of their family. pride events with "free parent hugs" stops. it's just like how so many of those who contributed to the AIDS quilt were cishet family members honoring those who they lost.

cishet allys are, historically, part of our community as we know it today,

like. this is beyond "maybe touch grass". this is "learn your history" level kind of conversation, imo

There are two basic arguments for shutting the fuck up about cishets at Pride.

First: What if a trans kid asks their parents to show their support by attending Pride with them? What if a lesbian can only attend pride if she gets a ride from someone and the only person willing and able to drive her is her straight brother? What if a bi disabled person can't attend a large outdoor event without hands-on assistance from their straight partner? What if someone just wants to bring their fucking friends? What if, contrary to popular tumblr discourse, most queers don't inhabit perfectly pure social bubbles populated only by other queers?

Second and perhaps more important: If you think you can tell that someone is CIS, let alone HET, by LOOKING at them, you are a cop and an idiot.