#i hope tjis makes sense and it's ok if you don't agree but man. Man that last chapter

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unpopular opinion i guess?

but i feel like it isn't fair that denji has to raise nayuta fulltime by himself without ever having a single moment to just take care of himself. not to mention he probably doesn't get any financial support m and isn't allowed to work + has to go to school

like i AGREE denji's doing a phenomenal job @ raising nayuta, all things considered. and thematically, it's fitting for denji - the person who actually saw makima for what she was and decided to love her in the end, in spite of that - to be the one to care for her reincarnation

but also... he's just a kid himself. a really traumatized one. and honestly, both of them need to be adopted lol

i've been seeing so many takes praising their dynamic & denji's parenting but it's... not exactly ideal or fair, imo. this isn't to say nayuta wants to hurt denji or anything (she doesn't have a sense of the consequences of the things she does yet, because she's a kid just like him). it just feels like once again denji's digging a hole for himself. is he doing way better than he did before? of course. but he still seems conflict-avoidant and puts his loved ones before himself

(WHICH IS FINE, INHERENTLY. but in this context, he could learn to be more selfish. but being a teenage dad doesn't really let you do that. rip)

and understandably people are Not Having it with people calling nayuta abusive and i hope i don't come across that way when i say this, whether here or the tweets i made yesterday. LOL. nayu's not abusive. she's just... a spoiled brat. i'm happy she gets to be the things makima couldn't. but denji spoiled her way too much, and now this kid is way out of control😭😭 i do not blame nayuta for this. she IS the control devil. it's in her nature to be bossy. also she's like, 10-12

but the way i see it, denji's fallen into another dynamic where he has very little control of the situation no matter what he really wants:

caring for a child when he shouldn't have to and isn't ready to either

said child in question sometimes seem to burden denji because again. he is Not ready to be a parent

denji is falling into yet another passive role, though now more self-aware. which is, i think, something we all go through when we try to get better. it sucks denji isn't privileged enough to go to therapy or again, NOT have to care for someone else. because like i said, parenting is a huge responsibility that oftentimes means sacrificing your own needs for the wellbeing of the child

damn i hate how i can't say shit like this without having to over-explain that i am Not Calling The Child An Abuser. but i'm gonna be so real... nayuta's not really the "possessive little sister" i see some people saying she is. but she and denji aren't "the ideal sibling dynamic" either

in retrospect, comparing nayuta to a "helicopter parent" probably was an over-exaggeration of what's going on, but it really, really worries me seeing denji try to compromise (as he should), only for her to spit it back out in his face and basically say "because i said so" "it's for your own good"

because nayuta will not be a cute little child forever! and at the rate she's aging, she'll probably be around denji's age and older in a few more years. that behavior is cute now, but i promise it won't be so cute later🙃🙃

(i do agree with nayuta that getting close to asa is nothing but trouble for denji. but she needs to be taught how to communicate that instead of straight up getting the final say in the situation & not explaining why. because denji, she is like 12. follow your heart. yes, even if it's dangerous)

i just hope denji continues to get better at parenting and overall not assuming the passive role