#i have...... Mixed emotions towards baal

[sanguine-tenshi]

I just finished Inazuma and I have words

TL;DR: Hate the story, mixed on characters, love the design and tired of being treated like a 4-year-old with a learning disability.

SPOILERS UNDER THE CUT

Let’s start with what I like.

Inazuma is absolutely beautiful. I’ll admit Inazuma hits a lot of aesthetic points for me. All the islands are different enough to feel unique but they still look like they are a part of the same land. There are a lot of secrets to discover through just exploring. Each island has a world quest to help it (make it less hostile towards you) so it very much feels like you are saving Inazuma from itself.

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The puzzles are alright.

I like the cubes that rotate, I always put in the effort to figure them out properly.

Hate the ones that don’t rotate, they just aren’t engaging enough for me, so I just hit them at random and hope for the best.

The glowing floor tiles were fun, once you actually realized what they wanted you to do. A little bit too easy if I’m honest.

The electro compass isn’t really much of a puzzle, more of a fetch the nearest electrograna quest.

Those little pillars that require an electro connection are kinda boring to me, again not much of a puzzle, the hardest part is finding both pillars.

I love the new electro seelie, kinda hard to follow the jittery thing in certain parts but they make a nice contrast to the regular seelies.

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I’m very much mixed on characters.

Yoimiya is adorable. She is so bright and bubbly. What little game play we had with her was fun and I love her over the top style of fighting. Kinda disappointed she’s another pyro archer but I do admit it fits her character well. It was also wonderful seeing her just settle down and be quiet, just be a part of that moment that obviously meant a lot to her. It’s always nice to see that bubbly, energetic character have that one quiet thing, ya know. Kinda funny it’s fireworks, of all things, for her.

Gorou I like, from what little we’ve seen of him. My man killed a dude with his thighs so I’m down. I do find it kinda ridiculous that a resistance general has his whole damn belly exposed. There is also something about his voice that just does not fit. I cannot for the life of me put my finger on what exactly it is. Could be the tone itself, could be just voice acting. It sort of feels like the VA is trying to sound deeper than he actually does.

Sangonomiya Kokomi, mixed. I like her design, she looks like some sort of mystical priestess. Again something about the voice is jarring. I expected her to sound sort of airy, like she isn’t 100% present, like she’s seeing something we can’t. TBH she reminds me of Luna from HP for some reason. 

Yae Miko, I was interested because of her design. She sounds very arrogant and up her own ass, which would have been fine...if she hadn’t given us that god-awful line. “...I have high hopes for you, child. Don’t disappoint me.” Dear lord I wanted to punt her off the mountain. Or fucking what! Also she’s some bigshot priestess of the Sacred Sakura and yet she can’t do her damn job properly. Why couldn’t her arrogant ass come down from her high perch and cleanse the stupid roots? Why did the traveler have to do that shit?

Baal looks dead inside. Booba sword is overrated, get a life. I want a remach! And no cutscene shenanigans this time!

Kujou Sara seems like one of those ‘honor above all else’ characters. Those are either hit or miss with me. You have my attention for now. Also what are those shoes woman?! I’d rather you wear those leg-killing, needle point stilettoes instead of those Wish gag shoes. How in the name of all that is holy can you run in those?!

Thoma, I like him. At first I thought we were gonna get another Childe incident, but Thoma is too much of a innocent puppy to pull anything that horrible. To me he fits a fox a lot better than Childe does. Childe is a dingo and I stand behind that.

Kamisato Ayaka...hate her. At first I was neutral on her. Nothing about her design really spoke to me, but I was willing to wait and see. But then miHoYo started to violently push her friendship at us. We are totally friends now, this is the first time you see my face, but we are so totally friends now. And during her story quest everyone was like “Ah, you are so good Ayaka. You are so nice Ayaka. You are so perfect Ayaka. We all love you so much Ayaka. And oh, how could a mere merchant like myself...” Ew, go away. This is the first time I’m actively not pulling on a character banner. Normally I pull even if I’m not particularly interested in a character, because you never know how good their gameplay is until you take them out in the map. But I think I’ll be skipping this one. No thanks.

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And now, the worst part, the story.

We’ve been hearing about the situation in Inazuma for a long time. There has been also a lot of talk about how hard it is to get there. About the wall of thunderclouds that surround the islands. So to have it cut to black and then voila Inazuma, feel just so cheap.

I was expecting something. An animation. A struggle. A quest. A minigame. At least show us the horrible weather! Something! Anything!

Hell if they wanted to be assholes about it they could have made it so that if the player fails at this point the ship is damaged, you return to Liyue and have to wait until tomorrow for the ship to be repaired. No Inazuma for today. That sure as hell would have raised the stakes.

The next complaint I have is with Yurika, the 2 milion mora processing fee girl. Later on Thoma mentions that the agency people see the fees as easy money, so her attitude doesn’t make much sense. After all someone like her would want to extract as much money as she can, but you still want the people to be able to pay that.

So it would make more sense to me if she was overly friendly and asked way too many questions. She’d need to get a much information as she can and after all the previous hostility people would be very open with her. So she’d be able to quickly find out why someone is here, what they are selling and roughly how much money they’d be able to pay. A merchant selling expensive silk would have more many than a regular ore merchant. So she’d be able to extract as much money as she could.

“I know this is a lot of money, especially for something so simple, but there is nothing I can do about it. I’m so very sorry.” And people wouldn’t say anything bad to her because she’s the first friendly face they see in Inazuma.

The stealth mission was just god-awful and I hope we never have to do that nonsense again.

Getting off of Ritou was a bit janky at the end, Chisato should have had a better reason for coming along. But I’m honestly just glad we didn’t get out the usual way...getting stuffed in a crate and smuggled out.

As a side note, I’m getting really tired of characters overexplaining things to me, especially Paimon. Dear lord, not everything has to be said, you can leave me to come to my own conclusions and solutions. Just please, who cares if a few player struggle for a bit, you don’t have to hold my hand through the whole thing.

Ayaka’s three were...ugh. It was basic emotional manipulation. Oh no this guy forgot about the love of his life and he’s been waiting for decades. And oh how sad this guy was so good and he helped these people so much but now he can’t remember. And oh the tragedy this guy forgot his life goal and is now hunted by the demons of the past. Oh the humanity! 

And it did not work. Know why? Because I have no emotional investment in any of these people, in this land. What is happening to the vision bearers in Inazuma is tragic, true, but that doesn’t make me want to overthrow the government. I don’t live here. I just got here. I wanna ask a question or two and then move on. None of this concerns me.

I was so happy when the traveler just flat out refused to start a revolution. And then we had to go and meet some people and immediately I knew this was going to be some oh noes the tragedy moments and then we would agree to help them.

It’s so forced.

Wanna know what would have been better?

Just as we are leaving the Kamisato estate Thoma catches up with us. And he tells us he gets it. We are an outsider and this doesn’t concern us. He was hopeful but he expected the denial. We shouldn’t hold it against Ayaka.

He joins us as a guide because he knows of the people we have to meet.

And so as we help these three we also get to know Thoma. We find out he was an outsider too. He got in just before the worst of it started and then he was stuck in Inazuma. He lost someone to the Vision Hunt. They slowly lost their mind after loosing their vision, their ambition too closely tied to their personality to continue without it (what is happening to Domon hits a little too close to home and he has to walk away, this is where we hear the story of the one he lost). And the same would have happened to him if the Kamisatos hadn't taken him in. He owes them his vision, his sanity and his life.

So this rebellion is personal for him.

At the end of the three wishes the atmosphere is somber. We tell him we understand why Ayaka fights, why he fights. We know that this is all wrong, that it should be stopped...but not by us. We came here to get a lead on our brother. And rebellion isn’t an overnight affaire and we can’t loose so much time in Inazuma.

And yeah, he expected as much. He just asks that we let Ayaka down gently. It’d be a shame if someone as idealistic and hopeful as her lost their spark.

And so we are gentle but firm with Ayaka. She looks like she wants to argue with us but Thoma shakes his head at her. So she sighs and tells us that a promise is a promise. We should come to the Komore Teahouse in a few days and she’ll have a plan for us to meet with the Shogun.

Now we can still have a character story quest with Yoimiya and we can still somehow get involved with helping Master Masakatsu, but it’s through Yoimiya instead of Ayaka.

And instead of a character story quest with Ayaka we have one with Thoma. Hell, give him a whole damn hangout event even.

You can probably guess why I’m pushing the friendship with Thoma so much.

Because. He. Gets. Kidnapped. For. The. 100th. Vision. Ceremony. 

And that would have been the perfect emotional in to get us involved in the rebellion. After all we just saw what happens to people who have their visions taken away and we are not letting that happen to Thoma, someone we just got close to.

So Baal makes it personal for us as well.

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I have a few more minor complaints.

Aoi is stupid for asking for compensation after she tells us everything we needed to know because, ya know, we could have just walked away. We should have.

The whole stupid misunderstanding about the value Kurosawa’s sword holds. Kinda obvious he meant emotional value instead of monetary.

The suspicious amount of visionless NPCs and by that I mean this is the first time we have NPCs with vision. This wouldn’t have been a problem if we’ve seen NPCs with visions in Mond and Liyue.

The whole rebellion camp bit feels incredibly rushed. We just sort of lollygag over there and then there is a fight (against Sara and her stupid shoes).

Don’t make us fight Baal just to force us to lose. It would have been better if we were forced to retreat, because Thoma was injured, because there are too many soldiers for us to handle on our own. Hell, you can have a funny scene where we straight up jump off a cliff with Thoma clinging onto us and screaming bloody murder until he realizes we are slowly gliding away and he’s not about to plummet to his death.

The Sakura cleansing quest should have been voice acted.

The Mirror Maiden and Pyro Agent are totally on a date, I will not be told otherwise.

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Coaching Model: Wheel, Values, and Vision model (WVV)

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Coaching Model: Wheel, Values, and Vision model (WVV)

A Coaching Model Created by Floor van Baal (Life Coach, NETHERLANDS)

Introduction

The client who comes to coaching, in general, is not fully satisfied and comes to coaching to change the current situation. My client, in particular, is an employee on sick leave for a longer period and needs to work in his or her reintegration back to work. Reintegration [in Dutch re-integratie] means working towards full recovery (if possible) and is the main objective during the Sickness Absence.

This process of reintegration back into the workforce is often not easy. The employee was not able to work for a longer period because of work-related or non-work-related issues or causes. Often also a combination of these two. Back to work implies to work on yourself first! Coaching can be of great support for this matter to make clear what you want or need and what the obstacles are to look at to move forward (and back……to work! J).

When referring to her or her this could also be he or him.

My model is based on the principles I learned at ICA and mixed with my favorite coaching tools. In this way, my Model was created. I call my model the WVV model which means the Wheel, Values, and Vision model. I love to work with the wheel of life for goal setting and also exploring values are for me an important step in the process. I experience great awareness with clients by focussing on values and also on their strengths. When the client likes to be creative, I will have the client create their vision board. Or we will work on visualization differently. In the next few paragraphs, I will explain the model.

Journaling

At the beginning of the coaching relationship, I will ask the client to keep a reflection journal. A regular progress and reflection journal helps to develop and gain self-awareness. Write down emotions, experiences, observations, challenges, success, thoughts, and feelings. Writing down your plans and goals is also the first step towards making them a reality. It commits you to take action. Especially when they are shared with someone else (like with their coach). Writing is perfect to slow down the process and help clients recognize their progress and to express feelings or thoughts. Milestones become visible and an inner dialogue gets initiated. It is of course up to the client to share with the coach whatever she likes.

Step 1: Goal setting (long and short term)

First, we speak about what the main objective of coaching is and what the client wants to achieve. The overarching goals or I like to call it the bigger picture, need to be clear to have a sense of direction (long term goal). In this stage creating clear coaching, the agreement is important. The wheel of life is an excellent tool to use for goal setting.

TOOL: Wheel of Life

Questions the coach may ask after the Wheel of Life exercise:

Are there any surprises for you?

How do you feel about your life as you look at your Wheel?

How do you currently spend time in these areas? How would you like to spend time in these areas?

What would make that a score of 10?

What would a score of 10 look like?

Which of these categories would you most like to improve?

How could you make space for these changes in your life?

What help and support might you need to make changes and be more satisfied with your life?

If there was one key action you could take that would begin to bring everything into balance, what would it be?

We will also work together to identify the desired outcome of each session. These short-term goals will all be related to the overarching long- term goals or the big picture. Ask questions to get the coaching agreement crystal clear.

More questions to ask could be:

How do you currently feel about your situation?

What would you like to work on (area of life)?

What is it you would like to achieve from this session?

What is important about this goal?

What is it going to give you? Or what will be different?

Once you have reached your goal, what does it look like? What does it feel like?

What do you need to address or resolve to achieve this?

What is the biggest challenge? Or what is stopping you?

Step 2: Creating Awareness

To start working on yourself and moving forwards towards your goal, we now focus on the second important step in the process. I support the client to gain awareness and understanding of the current situation and very important to create self-awareness. Creating a safe space while having empathy and respect for the client is important for the coach. And by listening actively I will tell the client what I hear and notice and ask powerful questions around this. The client might discover something about herself which she was not even aware of.

Trough the wheel of life, the awareness process has already started but it is now time to dig deeper.

The client investigates thoughts and feelings about herself and the situation. And how she feels her current situation is impacting her life. She recognizes what she would like to change and why. She identifies what might be coming in the way. The client has gained awareness about where she is, where she wants to be, and what is coming in the way of reaching the goal.

Questions to ask around creating awareness:

What have you learned about your situation?

What have you learned about yourself?

What happens when you put your learnings into practice?

How will you use this awareness?

Exploring Values and Strengths

The next step in creating self-awareness is to explore values, beliefs, and strengths. Values and beliefs are two important concepts that influence our behavior and attitudes. Focusing on our values and strengths is important to our wellbeing and our sense of being our best selves. If we build our decisions on these foundations, we can flourish and make our unique contributions1.

Exploring your Values – exercises

An exercise helps to find out what your values and strengths are. Knowing your values helps understand what motivates you, uncover resistance to change, and take action that is congruent with what is important to you.

The client discovers that some values and beliefs have not been consciously owned. It is also important to see if these values are your values or someone else’s. The client examines whether these beliefs serve her cause any longer. The client also examines the causality between her values, beliefs, and behavior. She can identify the causality between her behaviors and the dynamics of what is happening or not happening and how others are reacting. We will explore alternative mindsets and behaviors and explore what different effects these would have.

If the values are aligned with what the client is wanting to achieve, she is likely to be happier. In this way, we feel content, confident, and satisfied. A person’s life will be less stressful and more productive.

A coach can help a client to dig deep and find their values by asking powerful questions:

What is most important to you in life?

What makes things valuable for you?

Where do you spend the best of your time and energy? Why?

What are your deep concerns? Why?

What most excites you in life? Why?

What guiding principles or standards do you live by that create the choices you make?

Think about your actions. What decisions have you made to get you to where you are today?

What personal values resonate most with you to live a great life?

TOOL: Values Identification

Questions to ask after the value exercise:

Do your values resonate with what you thought you wanted to achieve?

Do you live your life in alignment with your values?

How are your values reflected in your daily life?

Are you spending your time on things that matter to you?

What is the connection between your values and your goals?

What impact has this value on your life or goal?

Are you living your values or are these values of someone else?

What would you like to change around your values?

Or would you change your actions or decisions to better match your values?

Where are you now in terms of your goals?

Finding your Strengths- exercises

One of my favorite tools to help the client find out what their strengths are is the ten-minute VIA Survey2. Created by a team of leading social scientists, the VIA Survey identifies your character strengths. These positive personality traits reflect what is good (moral), practical (valued outcomes), and authentic (existential) about you. The 24 strengths fall under six broad virtues including:

Wisdom (strength of head): Creativity, Curiosity, Judgment, Love of Learning & Perspective

Courage (strength of heart): Bravery, Perseverance, Honesty & Zest

Humanity (strength of others): Love, Kindness & Social Intelligence

Citizenship (strength of community): Teamwork, Leadership & Fairness

Temperance (strength of self): Forgiveness, Humility, Prudence & Self-Regulation

Transcendence (strength of spirit): Appreciation of Beauty &

Excellence, Gratitude, Hope, Humor & Spirituality.

Ask some people who know you well, to name the 5 strengths that characterize you. Most often, there is a great overlap between the strengths that others believe you possess and your main strengths as you have assessed yourself.

Another way to get to know your strengths is by answering the following questions3.

Childhood memories: What do you remember doing as a child that you still do now – but most likely much better? Strengths often have deep roots in our early lives.

Energy: What activities give you an energetic buzz when you are doing them? These activities are very likely to call on your strengths.

Authenticity: When do you feel most like the “real you”? The chances are that you’re using your strengths in some way.

Ease: Which activities come naturally to you? The ones you tend to excel in without a lot of effort are likely to use your strengths.

Attention: See where you naturally pay attention. You are most likely to focus on things that are playing to your strengths.

Rapid learning: What are the things that you have picked up quickly, learning them almost effortlessly? Rapid learning often indicates an underlying strength.

“To Do” lists: Notice the things that never make it on your “to-do” list. The things that always seem to get done often reveal an underlying strength that means we never need to be asked twice.

Step 3: Picture your goal

Now the client is moving forward to her goal and gained more awareness about her situation and herself, the goal becomes more clear, realistic, and attainable. A powerful third step in the process now is to visualize how the goal or change will look like. Visualization is the practice of affecting the outside world by changing your thoughts and using imagination to experience new behaviors and new events. You are creating awareness about your ideal situation. It is a powerful mental tool that you can use to help achieve your goals.

What is it you see, hear, or feel? I ask the client to close her eyes and imagine as if she has what she wants to achieve (goal). I ask the client to imagine she is in a new situation. Let the client imagination work and ask powerful questions like:

What do you see?

What are the most important things you see?

What have you accomplished?

What did you do to reach that?

What do you hear?

What do you feel?

What clarity do you have?

What is learning?

What has come up for you?

Another exercise that is more active, creative, and time-consuming is to support the client to create a vision board. It is very powerful and one of my favorite coaching tools.

TOOL: vision board

Step 4:Actions

Now it is clear what to change, we will continue to explore specific actions to reach this outcome. We will also consider what might come in the way and how to resolve it. Is there any support that she needs? And make the action SMART(specific, measurable, accurate, realistic, and timely). When will the client complete the action?

All actions should be motivational enough that the client will strive and work towards them. All actions should have realistic deadlines so that she is motivated to work and has points at which she can measure progress. An example of action could be signing up for a training course. Any support that may be required during the process should be identified. Questions to ask are:

What current options for action are available to you?

If you thought outside the box what could you do?

Which one would you like to pursue?

How might that help you?

What is telling you this is a good idea?

How would that support you towards your goal?

What might get in the way?

What would encourage you to do this?

What type of process may help you?

What resources could you use?

What exactly will you do by when?

How will you hold yourself accountable?

What immediate actions will you take?

When are you going to take those actions?

Who is going to provide the support for you throughout the process?

How motivated are you to take these actions?

References and resources

https://forum.icoachacademy.com/discussion/146720/power-tool-the-power-behind-knowing-our-values#latest

www.via.character.org

PositivePsychology.com – Helping You Help Others

https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2018/01/22/best-tests-to-help-you-understand-your-strengths-and-weaknesses/#5e943bfe495a

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Coaching Model: Wheel, Values, and Vision model (WVV)

New Post has been published on https://personalcoachingcenter.com/coaching-model-wheel-values-and-vision-model-wvv/

Coaching Model: Wheel, Values, and Vision model (WVV)

A Coaching Model Created by Floor van Baal (Life Coach, NETHERLANDS)

Introduction

The client who comes to coaching, in general, is not fully satisfied and comes to coaching to change the current situation. My client, in particular, is an employee on sick leave for a longer period and needs to work in his or her reintegration back to work. Reintegration [in Dutch re-integratie] means working towards full recovery (if possible) and is the main objective during the Sickness Absence.

This process of reintegration back into the workforce is often not easy. The employee was not able to work for a longer period because of work-related or non-work-related issues or causes. Often also a combination of these two. Back to work implies to work on yourself first! Coaching can be of great support for this matter to make clear what you want or need and what the obstacles are to look at to move forward (and back……to work! J).

When referring to her or her this could also be he or him.

My model is based on the principles I learned at ICA and mixed with my favorite coaching tools. In this way, my Model was created. I call my model the WVV model which means the Wheel, Values, and Vision model. I love to work with the wheel of life for goal setting and also exploring values are for me an important step in the process. I experience great awareness with clients by focussing on values and also on their strengths. When the client likes to be creative, I will have the client create their vision board. Or we will work on visualization differently. In the next few paragraphs, I will explain the model.

Journaling

At the beginning of the coaching relationship, I will ask the client to keep a reflection journal. A regular progress and reflection journal helps to develop and gain self-awareness. Write down emotions, experiences, observations, challenges, success, thoughts, and feelings. Writing down your plans and goals is also the first step towards making them a reality. It commits you to take action. Especially when they are shared with someone else (like with their coach). Writing is perfect to slow down the process and help clients recognize their progress and to express feelings or thoughts. Milestones become visible and an inner dialogue gets initiated. It is of course up to the client to share with the coach whatever she likes.

Step 1: Goal setting (long and short term)

First, we speak about what the main objective of coaching is and what the client wants to achieve. The overarching goals or I like to call it the bigger picture, need to be clear to have a sense of direction (long term goal). In this stage creating clear coaching, the agreement is important. The wheel of life is an excellent tool to use for goal setting.

TOOL: Wheel of Life

Questions the coach may ask after the Wheel of Life exercise:

Are there any surprises for you?

How do you feel about your life as you look at your Wheel?

How do you currently spend time in these areas? How would you like to spend time in these areas?

What would make that a score of 10?

What would a score of 10 look like?

Which of these categories would you most like to improve?

How could you make space for these changes in your life?

What help and support might you need to make changes and be more satisfied with your life?

If there was one key action you could take that would begin to bring everything into balance, what would it be?

We will also work together to identify the desired outcome of each session. These short-term goals will all be related to the overarching long- term goals or the big picture. Ask questions to get the coaching agreement crystal clear.

More questions to ask could be:

How do you currently feel about your situation?

What would you like to work on (area of life)?

What is it you would like to achieve from this session?

What is important about this goal?

What is it going to give you? Or what will be different?

Once you have reached your goal, what does it look like? What does it feel like?

What do you need to address or resolve to achieve this?

What is the biggest challenge? Or what is stopping you?

Step 2: Creating Awareness

To start working on yourself and moving forwards towards your goal, we now focus on the second important step in the process. I support the client to gain awareness and understanding of the current situation and very important to create self-awareness. Creating a safe space while having empathy and respect for the client is important for the coach. And by listening actively I will tell the client what I hear and notice and ask powerful questions around this. The client might discover something about herself which she was not even aware of.

Trough the wheel of life, the awareness process has already started but it is now time to dig deeper.

The client investigates thoughts and feelings about herself and the situation. And how she feels her current situation is impacting her life. She recognizes what she would like to change and why. She identifies what might be coming in the way. The client has gained awareness about where she is, where she wants to be, and what is coming in the way of reaching the goal.

Questions to ask around creating awareness:

What have you learned about your situation?

What have you learned about yourself?

What happens when you put your learnings into practice?

How will you use this awareness?

Exploring Values and Strengths

The next step in creating self-awareness is to explore values, beliefs, and strengths. Values and beliefs are two important concepts that influence our behavior and attitudes. Focusing on our values and strengths is important to our wellbeing and our sense of being our best selves. If we build our decisions on these foundations, we can flourish and make our unique contributions1.

Exploring your Values – exercises

An exercise helps to find out what your values and strengths are. Knowing your values helps understand what motivates you, uncover resistance to change, and take action that is congruent with what is important to you.

The client discovers that some values and beliefs have not been consciously owned. It is also important to see if these values are your values or someone else’s. The client examines whether these beliefs serve her cause any longer. The client also examines the causality between her values, beliefs, and behavior. She can identify the causality between her behaviors and the dynamics of what is happening or not happening and how others are reacting. We will explore alternative mindsets and behaviors and explore what different effects these would have.

If the values are aligned with what the client is wanting to achieve, she is likely to be happier. In this way, we feel content, confident, and satisfied. A person’s life will be less stressful and more productive.

A coach can help a client to dig deep and find their values by asking powerful questions:

What is most important to you in life?

What makes things valuable for you?

Where do you spend the best of your time and energy? Why?

What are your deep concerns? Why?

What most excites you in life? Why?

What guiding principles or standards do you live by that create the choices you make?

Think about your actions. What decisions have you made to get you to where you are today?

What personal values resonate most with you to live a great life?

TOOL: Values Identification

Questions to ask after the value exercise:

Do your values resonate with what you thought you wanted to achieve?

Do you live your life in alignment with your values?

How are your values reflected in your daily life?

Are you spending your time on things that matter to you?

What is the connection between your values and your goals?

What impact has this value on your life or goal?

Are you living your values or are these values of someone else?

What would you like to change around your values?

Or would you change your actions or decisions to better match your values?

Where are you now in terms of your goals?

Finding your Strengths- exercises

One of my favorite tools to help the client find out what their strengths are is the ten-minute VIA Survey2. Created by a team of leading social scientists, the VIA Survey identifies your character strengths. These positive personality traits reflect what is good (moral), practical (valued outcomes), and authentic (existential) about you. The 24 strengths fall under six broad virtues including:

Wisdom (strength of head): Creativity, Curiosity, Judgment, Love of Learning & Perspective

Courage (strength of heart): Bravery, Perseverance, Honesty & Zest

Humanity (strength of others): Love, Kindness & Social Intelligence

Citizenship (strength of community): Teamwork, Leadership & Fairness

Temperance (strength of self): Forgiveness, Humility, Prudence & Self-Regulation

Transcendence (strength of spirit): Appreciation of Beauty &

Excellence, Gratitude, Hope, Humor & Spirituality.

Ask some people who know you well, to name the 5 strengths that characterize you. Most often, there is a great overlap between the strengths that others believe you possess and your main strengths as you have assessed yourself.

Another way to get to know your strengths is by answering the following questions3.

Childhood memories: What do you remember doing as a child that you still do now – but most likely much better? Strengths often have deep roots in our early lives.

Energy: What activities give you an energetic buzz when you are doing them? These activities are very likely to call on your strengths.

Authenticity: When do you feel most like the “real you”? The chances are that you’re using your strengths in some way.

Ease: Which activities come naturally to you? The ones you tend to excel in without a lot of effort are likely to use your strengths.

Attention: See where you naturally pay attention. You are most likely to focus on things that are playing to your strengths.

Rapid learning: What are the things that you have picked up quickly, learning them almost effortlessly? Rapid learning often indicates an underlying strength.

“To Do” lists: Notice the things that never make it on your “to-do” list. The things that always seem to get done often reveal an underlying strength that means we never need to be asked twice.

Step 3: Picture your goal

Now the client is moving forward to her goal and gained more awareness about her situation and herself, the goal becomes more clear, realistic, and attainable. A powerful third step in the process now is to visualize how the goal or change will look like. Visualization is the practice of affecting the outside world by changing your thoughts and using imagination to experience new behaviors and new events. You are creating awareness about your ideal situation. It is a powerful mental tool that you can use to help achieve your goals.

What is it you see, hear, or feel? I ask the client to close her eyes and imagine as if she has what she wants to achieve (goal). I ask the client to imagine she is in a new situation. Let the client imagination work and ask powerful questions like:

What do you see?

What are the most important things you see?

What have you accomplished?

What did you do to reach that?

What do you hear?

What do you feel?

What clarity do you have?

What is learning?

What has come up for you?

Another exercise that is more active, creative, and time-consuming is to support the client to create a vision board. It is very powerful and one of my favorite coaching tools.

TOOL: vision board

Step 4:Actions

Now it is clear what to change, we will continue to explore specific actions to reach this outcome. We will also consider what might come in the way and how to resolve it. Is there any support that she needs? And make the action SMART(specific, measurable, accurate, realistic, and timely). When will the client complete the action?

All actions should be motivational enough that the client will strive and work towards them. All actions should have realistic deadlines so that she is motivated to work and has points at which she can measure progress. An example of action could be signing up for a training course. Any support that may be required during the process should be identified. Questions to ask are:

What current options for action are available to you?

If you thought outside the box what could you do?

Which one would you like to pursue?

How might that help you?

What is telling you this is a good idea?

How would that support you towards your goal?

What might get in the way?

What would encourage you to do this?

What type of process may help you?

What resources could you use?

What exactly will you do by when?

How will you hold yourself accountable?

What immediate actions will you take?

When are you going to take those actions?

Who is going to provide the support for you throughout the process?

How motivated are you to take these actions?

References and resources

https://forum.icoachacademy.com/discussion/146720/power-tool-the-power-behind-knowing-our-values#latest

www.via.character.org

PositivePsychology.com – Helping You Help Others

https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2018/01/22/best-tests-to-help-you-understand-your-strengths-and-weaknesses/#5e943bfe495a

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