#i guess i could take hysterectomy or top from the 'sometime in the future maybe' pile to the 'solid timeframe to aim for' pile
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gibbearish ¡ 11 months ago
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eugh ive never done new years resolutions before but ig if there ever was a year to do it itd be this one
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transgenderteensurvivalguide ¡ 5 years ago
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4 ryn: thnx so much for your beautifully worded explication of non binary transition. I’m about to start mine with the same concept of a goal of total androgyny in mind. I’m wondering what your experiences on low dose t gel was like? Did it move you toward an androgyny you liked? Did your relationship to your body and to gender change dramatically? Thnx!
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Lee says:
I think you misunderstood the answer! Ryn hasn’t taken low-dose t gel. Ryn wrote “I consider myself non-binary trans feminine […] an amab person, I am taking estrogen.”
However, I was on low-dose testosterone gel for about 10 months, so I can try to answer about T. Ryn will/might add on with their experience with E.
As far as how testosterone impacted my gender feels- I guess I went from feeling more transneutral to transmasculine, but I still don’t identify as male-aligned.
Low-dose testosterone didn’t change my body very much, and top surgery was a much bigger game changer for my relationship with my body.
Being on low-dose T didn’t change how often I passed very much, so it was more of a mental change for me. I don’t think that low-dose T changed my relationship to my body or my gender drastically- the biggest change was an improvement in my mental health due to a decrease in dysphoria, and an increase in confidence I guess.
I had originally wanted “confuse cis strangers on the street” androgyny, but it wasn’t exactly what I ended up getting. I had wanted people to not gender me at all, but instead I ended up getting gendered as male 50% of the time and gendered as female 50% of the time.
It’s really hard to pass as non-binary- I’ve found that strangers who can’t tell what gender you are sometimes refer to you with (maybe randomly chosen) gendered pronouns and gendered terms anyway because they’re stuck in a binary mindset and don’t know what else to do, or they become hostile and you find yourself getting shouted at when you enter the women’s locker room so you go to the men’s locker room and then they tell you to leave there too. 
I didn’t really like that- while being gendered as female and male in equal parts might be as close to androgyny as I could get, I was dysphoric when people saw me as a girl. Some people’s ideal presentation is being able to switch between passing as male or female, but it just wasn’t right for me.
In the end, I decided that I would rather be seen as male most of the time than get misgendered as a girl, even though in an ideal world I’d be able to have people automatically use gender neutral terms for me and pass as non-binary.
So I changed my dose from low-dose T to a “standard dose” after a little less than a year on low-dose T, and now I’ve been on T for about 2 years in total, one year on low-dose and one year on standard-dose. I’ve documented more on my medical transition here.
Now I’m getting gendered as male mostly, which isn’t euphoria-causing but it doesn’t make me dysphoric either. Strangers still gender me as female maybe a quarter of the time, give or take, so I’m not 100% male-passing, but they also tend to give me the benefit of the doubt in men’s bathrooms now so I don’t get shouted at these days (knock on wood).
I know that right now, if I changed my presentation/gender expression (like growing out my hair, or even just wearing a pink women’s shirt) I’d be able to go back to being seen as a woman pretty easily despite my 2 years on (varying doses of) T.
Strangers now tend to see me as a feminine guy instead of as masculine woman, but being gendered as female bothers me less these days because I have less dysphoria now as a result of my medical transition.
Forgoing the ability to easily pass as a woman is kind of scary, and it sort of makes me feel like I’m giving something up or losing something that was a part of me. It’s a weird feeling, especially considering that I don’t actually want to be gendered as female.
It hasn’t happened yet, but as I continue on T, I think that doing something like wearing a dress is going to stop making strangers think I’m a cis woman and will start making them think I’m a man in a dress.
Right now, I’m not drawn to feminine things (presentation-wise), but if it stops being associated with being misgendered maybe I’ll find it more appealing than I do now. I don’t know if that would make me feel more comfortable shifting to a feminine gender expression so I’d continue to be seen as androgynous/gender non-conforming as my body becomes more masculine- only the future knows. 
While I don’t regret taking T at all, this isn’t really what I anticipated happening when I started hormones. But I do feel much more comfortable in my own body now, and even though I’m often gendered as male I still see myself as androgynous when I look in the mirror.
Right now, I feel content with my body & where I’m going, but I don’t know if I’ll continue on T forever. I had a hysterectomy about a year ago, but I chose to keep my ovaries in case I decide to stop T at some point in the future.
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Ryn says:
Like Lee says, passing as non-binary is hard. I’m now taking a dose of estrogen that is in line with what most binary trans women are given. I was started on low dose in part because I was non-binary and in part because I was leaving the country for four months promptly after starting and couldn’t do any followup tests during that time.
Honestly overall I haven’t moved so much towards “androgyny” per se. My body and presentation have feminized, and I tend to get gendered as a woman more often now, which I realized I was okay with and sometimes I kinda like. Society does not like androgyny. They will shove you in a box as hard as they can. I realized being out and non-binary in the world is really hard, like Lee said above. Honestly, they explained a lot of things I feel really well. While I could be gendered equally as a man or as a woman, I don’t like being gendered as a man– it makes me very dysphoric. My relationship to my body has changed. I’m not as dysphoric about it in general anymore. My transition of course is ongoing, as is my journey of self-discovery around my gender. I’ve been realizing more and more that I am, while not a woman, a very femme-aligned non-binary person. Like I said in the original ask, as a nonbinary person, my transition is my own. My psychiatrist, who prescribes my estrogen, is very willing to work with me to adjust my doses if I need to achieve what I’m looking for. He recognizes that the trans journey is not a “one-size-fits-all” situation. I think your best options, as far as shooting for total androgyny, is to figure out once you start your transition what makes you the happiest, and shoot for that. That might change, and your presentation and hormone regimen can change with it. Keep up with your doctor and your therapist, and just keep sort of an eye on your own thoughts and feelings. Figure out what makes you feel what way. Figure out what presentation, what clothing, gets you gendered certain ways and how that makes you feel. I wish you the best of luck.
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Lee says:
Oh! It looks like we both started on low-dose hormones then decided to go up to a higher dose for similar reasons which is interesting.
Transfeminine resources
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Non-binary resources
Non-binary medical transition & hormones
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newyorktheater ¡ 5 years ago
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  Taylor Blackman as Emett Till, in the musical “Till”
The three shows reviewed below from this year’s New York Musical Festival are all, each in its own way, naïve…or one of the near synonyms for the word naïve, each of which offers a different spin — a different judgment — on the same quality: innocent, fresh, childlike, simple, unsophisticated, ignorant.
  Leaving Eden
‘Leaving Eden” tells the Adam and Eve story with a twist – two twists.
First,  the couple has been expanded to a threesome, adding in the character Lilith. Lilith is not in the Bible, but the Lilith legend was so popular that her image is included both in the Sistine Chapel and Notre Dame Cathedral. Lilith is said to have been Adam’s original wife, born of the same earth as he, but she refused to be subservient, so she was banished, and a far more pliant Eve was created out of Adam’s rib.
As this story unfolds, “Leaving Eden” pairs it with a parallel modern-day story of Adam and Lilith, who are a couple, and Eve, who is their lesbian friend. If I understood correctly, modern Lilith recently had a miscarriage, followed by a hysterectomy. Now, after a period of mourning and looking into adoption, Lily and Adam enlist Eve to be a surrogate mother.
The promise of the added Lilith was intriguing enough for me to see a show I normally would have avoided.  To be upfront about it: I could live a happy life free of regrets if I never again saw a new show inspired by the stories of Peter Pan, Frankenstein, or Adam and Eve. Each coincidentally – or maybe not coincidentally – focuses on naïve/innocent/ignorant characters.
I wish I could report that “Leaving Eden,” with a competent score by Ben Page and book and lyrics by Jenny Waxman, made me overcome my aversion. But the script has some awful writing — forced rhymes, unintentional howlers, awkward couplets like
  Why are man and woman in two different factions? Why are naughty bits more critical than the spirit of our actions?
And the presence of Lilith did nothing  to reduce the faux-naïve coyness that afflicts so many of these “In The Beginning” stories. Their Nautilus bods discreetly draped in Tarzan and Jane attire, Adam and Lilith sing as if they’re Dick and Jane:
And I saw some good, and I saw some bad and I met creatures that made me feel happy and sad
Together they discover rain, and fire  (“It is good… but sometimes… fire is bad. So is it good or bad?”/”It is…well, I guess it is both?”), and learn the meaning of death. For the first time, they experience dreams at night…and sex. Lillith realizes she doesn’t like being on the bottom all the time, and sings some double-entendres that are less clever than crude:
  I wanna try it on top
I’ll till your share of the crops
I’ll use your tool if you’ll drop it
You’ll beg me never to stop…
The modern-day scenes, which more or less alternate with the ancient ones, at first held my attention. I wanted to know what would happen next, and it struck me that “The Joys of Parenthood,” an ironic song in which the characters imagine their future bratty kids,  suggested what the musical could be like if the modern story were more developed. But the creative team seemed to tire of the story they were telling, and “Leading Eden” dissolves into the musical equivalent of speechifying by Ancient and Modern together, facing the audience and looking grimly triumphant.
Leaving Eden ended its run July 21.
  Till
I saw “Till” on the day that Emmett Till would have celebrated his 78thbirthday. Instead, he was murdered at the age of 14,  the victim of inarguably the most famous lynching in the history of the United States.
A six-member all-black cast sings the gospel-inflected score by Leo Schwartz, with a book by Schwartz and DC Cathro that tells the story of Emmett Till starting shortly before his visit to his relatives in Money, Mississippi.   We first see Emmett (impressively portrayed by Taylor A. Blackman) in Chicago as a church-going, fun-loving teen, something of a clotheshorse and a prankster, but devoted to his mother Mamie (Denielle Marie Gray.)
Meanwhile, Carolyn Bryant,  introduced in her husband’s General Store in Money, Mississippi, is shown talking about the Marilyn Monroe movie “The Seven Year Itch” with her sister-in-law. Later we meet her husband Roy, who’s gruff and adulterous  (All three wear odd half-masks and white gloves to indicate that their characters are Caucasian, a costume choice that feels like a mistake.)
It’s only in the last 20 minutes of the 90 minute musical that we see a version of the events (the details of which are still much disputed 64 years later) that led to his death. Emmett buys gum from Carolyn Bryant in her store, putting the money in her hand rather than on the counter, and then goes back outside to hang out with his cousins, who are playing a game of checkers. Unnerved, Carolyn goes out to her car to fetch her gun, at the same time that Emmett lets out a whistle. The other black teens panic.
“You whistled at a white woman, Emmett! “ his cousin Maurice says.
“I did not,” Emmett replies. “I whistled at the game. Besides, what does it
matter? What if I did whistle at her? She never been whistled at?”
“Not by a colored boy! It matters down here, Emmett. “
Roy eventually finds out, and, enraged, goes to Emmett’s uncle’s house, and drags Emmett away, hands bound.
Back in Chicago, Mamie gets a phone call, and collapses.
The musical ends with rousing back-to-back numbers, Mamie singing “I Want Him Back,” where she insists on an open casket to show his brutalized body, and then “Come and Follow Me,” accompanied by the ensemble in choir robes, in front of a series of projections – portraits of  Rosa Parks, Medger Evers, Martin Luther King Jr., and Barack Obama. Cast members briefly portraying each of these real-life figures recite quotes about Emmett Till. (MLK: “The
death of that child had a profound impact on my life…” )
Why is Emmett Till so important? Why does his lynching so stand out from the reportedly more than four thousand in the country over some 60 years before his?
The answer to that question strikes me as the heart of the Emmett Till story, and the reason why a stronger and more sophisticated musical could surely have been written that begins with his lynching rather than ends with it, replacing some of the mundane scenes and songs of the Tills’ everyday life (which can feel like filler) with the rich details of the aftermath.  We don’t learn in “Till,” for example, that his two killers actually went on trial – not usual for a lynching in the South — but were then acquitted by an all-white jury….and then a year later, they sold their story to Look Magazine, confessing to the killing.   We don’t see what is evident in old video footage of Mamie Till in Civil Rights documentaries — her strength, dignity and resolve as she attends the trial, and calmly, straightforwardly answers questions from unsympathetic Southern interviewers. The story of Emmett Till is really as much the story of Mamie Till as it is of her son.
Till will be performed one more time, today, Sunday, July 28 at 9 p.m. at Signature Theater Center
  Flying Lessons
Isabella, a bored, smart eighth grader, is assigned a final paper for the school year – write about an inspiring figure from history.
”Like, how am I supposed to choose someone who inspires me when I don’t even know who I want to be or what I want to do?”
Suddenly, two choices appear before her, as in a dream – Amelia Earhart and Frederick Douglass. Over the course of “Flying Lessons,” the two narrate and re-enact their respective stories, interspersed with scenes of Isabella’s fights with her mother  and her life at school with her classmates and teacher Ms. Young.
There is much that is wonderful in this show, including a soaring, eclectic score by Donald Rupe and Cesar De La Rosa delivered by a terrific nine-member cast.  I hope and expect that “Flying Lessons” will take flight in the future, in one form or another. But it needs to be rethought.
Book writer, lyricist and co-composer Donald Rupe began “Flying Lessons” in response to a grant to produce a show for the eighth grade students of Osceolo County, Florida. This is how I know that Isabella is supposed to be in eighth grade. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be clear.  The dynamics of Isabella’s tensions with her mother, as well as the hopes, fears and (G-rated) sexual awakenings of her three solidly etched classmates make the show seem geared for high school or older. But sometimes the characters are so naïve and the tone so childlike that it feels a better fit for elementary school.  At the performance I attended, I talked to the parents of a six-year-old, who loved the show so much she was there for a second time.
Similarly, the show is divided into three distinct storylines, maybe four, that are sometimes an uneasy fit. It seems just odd that the stories of Earhart and Douglass are shoehorned together. In a musical called “Flying Lessons,” wouldn’t it make more sense to pair Earhart with, for example, the real-life women from the movie “Hidden Figures” who worked for NASA, or other female aviation pioneers?   And the stories of the historical figures can feel like an interruption to the scenes in the classroom,  which are funny and touching and don’t focus on Isabella.
The best solution may be to split up “Flying Lessons” into separate musicals – one telling the story of Amelia Earhart (and possibly other aviation pioneers), another Frederick Douglass, both 30 minutes long and aimed at young children; a third about Isabella, her mother, her teacher and her classmates, aiming for a higher age group.
Flying Lessons will be performed one more time, today, Sunday July 28 at 5 p.m., at Signature Theater Center.
NYMF Reviews: Leaving Eden. Till. Flying Lessons. The three shows reviewed below from this year’s New York Musical Festival are all, each in its own way, naïve…or one of the near synonyms for the word naïve, each of which offers a different spin -- a different judgment -- on the same quality: innocent, fresh, childlike, simple, unsophisticated, ignorant.
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