#i don't know enough about ableist thinking and rhetoric to say outright

[catherea]

Roommate posted this on fb and it literally felt like an insult and an invalidation of what I'm currently trying to work through

Is this ableist thinking(???) that "Oh just start being happy for yourself!¡!¡ Your actions define you 👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️🙂🙃" don't even get me started on the comments section on fb being "Yeah I fucking told you @ random friend/family member" or "My ex had problems.... I cut them out entirely... #nodramahere lol"

Oh you know I'd to just turn a fucking switch on in my brain and be like "LOOK AT ME BEING BETTER OOOOOOOOOO THE BREATH OF LIFE IS SO FUCKING INTENSE AFFJCGJCJKBHDGSD" and just drop all of the trauma I experienced not only as a kid, but the experience that continues as an adult to show me that those people above are likely instigators, abusive, and manipulative in the very same way that their parents, and grand parents, were raising children.

NO ONE TALKS ABOUT THE TOOLS THAT WOULD BE SUPER BENEFICIAL TO ACTUALLY WORK ON ALLOWING TRAUMATIZED PEOPLE ENOUGH RECOVERY THAT CAN LEAD TO GROWTH AND HAPPINESS THAT DOESN'T FEEL LIKE IT IS DISINGENUOUS TO THE INDIVIDUAL THEMSELF.

Wish I had access to a real living wage job, healthcare, and access to a therapist. But according to my roommate I "just need to pick myself up by my bootstraps and be better" because it is all about "just think happy thoughts and be happy 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃 "