#i don't have a better word besides cis gaze because it objectifies mystifises and seperates the trans experience from Everybody Else | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

uncanny-tranny · 1 year ago

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Honestly, I do think it's kind of funny when cis people talk about how Big Trans is forcing them to date, bed, or be friends with trans people because, truly, most of us wouldn't have wanted to be around them, anyway.

If you don't want to be seen as transphobic, there are ways to state your desires without being seen as transphobic. However, you can't have it both ways: treating trans people as second-class people while also not being seen as a bigot while doing so. You need to make your peace with that if you are going to go about this in a transphobic way.

#ally advice #lgbt #lgbtq #transphobia #transphobia tw #like i get how complex the conversation can be for some people...#...but sometimes i wonder if it's a matter of the conversation being complex...#...or because people want so desperately to be bigoted without being treated any worse because of it...#...in short they don't want to be reminded about how shitty it is to treat PEOPLE like things or like parasites...#...because then you have two options...#...option one is to embrace that bigotry openly no matter the cost...#...and option two would be to actually reflect on WHY it is that bigotry - and specifically their - bigotry is wrong actually #like whenever i have talked to other trans people about this we ruminate and laugh about our own experiences with it because it's ridiculou #and it just seems like the Cis Gaze into transness and what they assume it looks like.#i don't have a better word besides cis gaze because it objectifies mystifises and seperates the trans experience from Everybody Else #anyway it is sometimes amusing to see but it is ultimately not trans people's fault if you aren't ~into~ us to any capacity #so i am critical of the idea that trans people need to Remeber How Hated We Are to the point of our own detriment #anyway we will simply move on without you and we will yet live (and ball all the while)

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