#i already sent the text btw. this one isn't me procrastinating it's me processing

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the thing is that actually the literal only solution to anxiety wrt uncertainty in social situations (sorry in advance if this sounds obvious to anyone who didn't spend many years Totally Insane About This And Related Topics Above All Else, Which Is Saying A Lot Because I Can Be Pretty Crazy About Some Other Shit Too) is in fact just that you have to have your own set of principles and you have to live by them and you have to decide as one of those principles that if those principles aren't enough for other people either those people are not compatible with you or they are but maybe you gotta have an uncomfortable convo first, which is unpleasant but actually means they are cool and well adjusted and also that they like you enough to initiate an uncomfortable convo. like it actually cannot be about other people at all, it has to be about trusting your own beliefs and judgment and capacity to survive a situation in which you and someone else disagree about your conduct. and like i know that. BUT IT'S HARRRRRRRRRD.