#how did I figure out I liked this set of pronouns you ask? well.i wrote a fanfic once. and was like. 'wow. so me core'

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I was wondering what made you choose it/it's probouns. As someone who's pretty apathetic about their own pronouns, I'm curious about what makes people click with pronouns outside the "typical" ones.

I think it started as an ideology thing for me. I'm aware not everybody who uses it/its is on board with the non-human thing, but for me it's definitely a draw.

You've seen me talk about it in the tags of that one furry post, but I just don't feel a sense of connection to vague idea of 'humanity' like most other people do. With the weird way you see people use it to justify everything from outright horrible ideas (animal abuse, racism) to more insidious biases like amanormativity (love is what makes us human blah blah blah) and the concept of intelligence? It's always seemed like a way for me to avoid coming to terms with your place in a terrifying universe and/or ignore your own status as like. A biological being. And instead just use our species' simply existing as an excuse to believe whatever you want. Because it's self-evident. It's human.

(except it's not. it's neurotypical. it's allo. it's the belief of rich british guys from the victorian era)

I'd compare it to people who never really question the religious ideas they absorbed growing up (whether they're now atheist or Christian or Buddhist or whatever). Recently I've also thought it's kind of similar to what I've learned from the loveless community? It's a unhelpfully broad and suffocating concept that we'd be better off cooling down on a little.

Outside of that, I like how it/its has an actually 'empty' connotation of gender, moreso than they/them. They/them is still ultimately the pronoun you use for people you're *unsure* about or as 'not one of two'. And while I like that, I also would rather people regard my gender as 'None.' full stop.

Also I work a lot with made up concepts in both the things I study formally and my hobbies. I've got a big imagination and I refer to a lot of concepts with it/its, so I don't really see it as like. A big deal? To be as relevant to someone as the idea of like, the wind, or an emotion, or some laws of physics.

Admittedly it's a bit of a privilege that I haven't had this pronoun used on me without my consent as other (trans) people have. I feel a bit of dissonance about that, but I can't really change the fact that this is just what I feel fits me best in everyday life, with the experiences I've had. I suppose it's what people who go by 'queer' or like other slurs (for themselves only) might feel like.