#honestly being a community all about inclusivity only to exclude people who don't match cliches is embarrassing

[cilil]

I'm once again highly considering attending a pride parade in my city or elsewhere or just any pride event because I really, really want to meet people like me irl too... but I'm afraid that I won't be welcome there. It's not even the bigots, it's that my past experiences made me feel uncomfortable and unwelcome in my own community.

I don't match what people think a bi woman should be like. Not to mention the biphobia that already exists. Nobody ever takes it seriously when I reveal my identity to them and acts like I'm some straight actor just faking it or something.

I also don't match what people think queer women in general should be like due to being demiro/aro. Not to mention I haven't been able to figure out which label fits either... yeah, official coming out moment or something, woohoo, whatever. I know I'm arospec, never having understood certain things people do and feel (if you know, you know), but in my personal case there's also a layer of past abuse so... I can't judge it.

...it's likely that this will be yet another year where I just... avoid.