#hlkjfksd people are annoying. 'this one trans man is a lesbian so clearly he thinks ALL trans people are terrible and should die'

[gay-otlc]

Trans men might identify as lesbian because...

They are multigender and therefore wlw or nblw

They are closeted in most contexts and refer to themself as a lesbian rather than a straight man so they don't out themself as trans

They don't pass and are generally assumed to be a lesbian/in a lesbian relationship, so they use this label to describe their experience with that

They spent a long time (often decades) identifying as a lesbian before discovering they were trans, and they don't want to leave the lesbian community that in some cases has become their family

They identify as female but use masculine terms such as man and/or he/him pronouns as a way of expressing gender nonconformity or butchness

It's their identity and they can describe it however they like

Trans men don't identify as lesbian because...

They want to make cis lesbians feel unsafe

They want to force cis lesbians to date or sleep with men

They think trans men aren't really men

They think all trans men who like women are lesbians and want to misgender straight trans men

They think trans women can't be lesbians

They hate lesbians

So like. The sooner yall can recognize that our identity is simply us trying to live our lives in the way that feels most accurate for us, and not a personal attack on you, the happier everyone will be and then we can focus on problems that actually matter.