#he's the only heterosexual cis man in 9319. and he is a true ally.

[sciderman]

Sci in the short time Uncle Ben was around -- or even if he'd lived longer -- would he have known that Peter is Spiderman?

this is such a delight of a question! what a delightful little thought experiment. thinking about a scenario where uncle ben was still around when aunt may finds out peter is spider-man – when she finds peter's tights, when he was seventeen.

i think there's no way at all that aunt may wouldn't have told uncle ben. she definitely would have told him. i don't think uncle ben would've been observant enough to figure it out by himself, but – aunt may, she's smart. she figures it out.

may and ben have such entirely different ways of handling peter

[x]

ben's old-fashioned, a bit square (like peter), and not very well-informed. he worries a lot about peter. worries about him getting into trouble. sees his unusual behaviour, and meets it with soft concern. he doesn't understand it all, he doesn't understand the youth. but he has a desire to embrace peter and attempt to understand him. he worries about him a lot.

may - may's always been the cool parent. she's encouraging, and very easy about this sort of thing. i think she has a lot of trust in peter. maybe more than she should. she is well-informed, and smart, and she recognises behaviours in peter and kind of feels like it's nothing to worry about. she knows peter's doing all the important exploration that he needs to do, and he'll do it at his own time. she thinks peter can handle it.

(of course peter could not handle it.)

i think that's why aunt may didn't confront peter about spider-man. i think she's of the feeling that peter would come out to her when he's ready to. but - she'd definitely tell ben. and if uncle ben knew - well, oh. he would be worried out of his mind.

god bless, it would come out of such a place of concern. and he'd talk to peter. in the most awkward way a father could give his son the talk.

[sciderman]

*slides up next to sci at the bar* so sci *knocks 3x on the wood* Uncle Ben. Trans man?

Like it would be cool if he were, but tbh I'm tired of crimes against trans people

sure! why not! all trans headcanons are good and excellent in the eyes of the lord and i think it adds a fun little extra layer to ben and may not having had kids of their own and being so eager to take in peter

but also i'm all over uncle ben being the ONE solitary token cis het white guy in 9319. he is the ONLY heterosexual in the universe (but so, so supportive. true ally.)

i think uncle ben would've been nothing but supportive over all of peter's self-discovery and self-expression - no matter what.

i think for peter's whole uncle ben sort of set the barometer of manhood for him - especially after his death, when peter felt a need to fill ben's shoes and take on his responsibilities in the household.

i think that might have contributed a lot of peter's idolisation of this traditional, hard-working, good-christian masculinity that uncle ben embodied for him. even though that model does not fit peter. he's not traditional. he's not even christian.

maybe wade had a point (i hate when wade has a point. he always has a point.) peter always trying so hard to match up to the model of masculinity that uncle ben set, instead of being the man he is.