#he's not very empathetic and while he isn't an idiot he just. doesn't get stuff

[siriuslysatorusimping]

I just read your response to my ask and dude, I really like your reasoning for the open ending.

Hi, I’m Rai and imma trauma dump real quick if that’s chill.

I ended an engagement this year. It was a shaky engagement anyways, but I was in love and genuinely thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with this guy. And then he stole my credit card. He lied about a bunch of stuff related to money and illness. He lied to his friends about me- said I cheated on him, told people we were married and had a kid, stole money from other people.

I don’t expect an apology or reconciliation from him and at this point I want nothing to do with him. If he pulled a Gojo and showed back up begging to explain, I’d probably fight the urge to spit in his face and tell him to fuck off. And then I’d leave an never look back.

I’ve had relationships that had bad moments that I’d have given anything to try and work out, but if it wasn’t mutual than nothing was gonna come of it.

So your ending on this one resonated a hell of a lot. Rinko’s hesitation and closed off demeanor in the beginning hit a nerve that I’ve still been processing. So while part of me wants happy endings for these idiots always, I really really love this take. I keep saying how real your writing feels, and I think this and your OG works really showcase what a versatile fucking author you are, Kiko 💚

First of all, Rai, WOW. Just, wow. You are incredibly strong and I am so sorry you had to go through all of that.

I hate that you went through all of that because it's so incredibly fucked up.

ANOTHER RANT BELOW THE CUT BECAUSE I GUESS I'M IN A RANTING MOOD TODAY 🙃

I hate that, for the sake of the pain you went through, you were hurt so deeply that it was irreparable. I hate that you had to endure that pain.

Emotions, or really humans, are so complex and messy. We love so deeply, even when it's someone who doesn't deserve it, because that's just not how love and emotions work. They aren't logical. Our minds and hearts can't just look at someone we love and immediately flip a switch just because they hurt us. It's part of being human. It's part of living. So, I understand where you're coming from on all counts.

Something I also struggle with is the distinction between someone's actions versus who they are. A good person doing a bad thing and vice versa. My mind fights with itself because I am a very empathetic person. I can usually look at a situation from the other person's perspective and understand what led them there. BUT I still struggle with the idea of "you did a horrible thing, so you're now a horrible person." or "you did a good thing, so you must be a good person." because that just isn't true. People are not perfect. They make mistakes. They fuck up royally, and sometimes it's too much to be forgiven, and sometimes it isn't. But people are people. They're messy and damaged and beautiful and sometimes they're literally just assholes who don't deserve the time it would take to discard them (like your ex. Is it too soon for me to say that? He sounds like a pile of garbage, but I feel like that's more of an insult to the garbage)

I'm glad that you were able to get away, to get out, and I hope you're able to find a better happiness without that toxicity in your life 🩷

Thank you for sharing your perspective and experiences! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day 💕💕😊

[evilkitten3]

i think one thing i hated about thor 3 that i never see getting discussed in thor’s response to loki’s reappearance on asgard post-sakaar.

ignoring the extremely weird behavior loki’s been displaying throughout the movie (especially the whole “your savior is here” thing which. makes me miss tdw’s “ta-da” line), the last time thor and loki interacted in the film was thor leaving loki to be electrocuted on the floor with no way of freeing himself while telling him that they probably shouldn’t ever see each other again.

thor arrives on asgard with val and bruce. and that’s it. he’s taking on the goddess of death in the realm where she’s at her most powerful, her giant zombie wolf, and her horde of undead warriors (and skurge but like. this isn’t the comics; skurge isn’t a threat here) with two other people. not that the three of them aren’t pretty fucking dangerous, but there’s no way they can win this; they’re outnumbered and outmatched. oh, and the ship they’re on (the commodore) is fucking tiny.

loki literally shows up with a small army and a ship big enough to fit all of the survivors on. and thor’s response? “you’re late”

this isn’t fucking lord of the rings you actual sack of shit this is the absolute last person in the universe who owes you anything showing up to save your reckless ass. fucking heimdall at least gives him a “welcome home” and is overall pretty damn friendly given everything that’s happened between the two of them. which i personally find hilarious given that in the actual ragnarok loki and heimdallr are supposed to kill each other.

but anyway, i think that particular interaction between thor and loki showcases everything ragnarok did wrong with their relationship specifically. namely, it was one of the worst possible conclusions to the arc started in thor 1. in t1, loki is struggling to feel like his existence means anything next to thor’s, and thor is so hotheaded and generally oblivious that he’s completely unaware of how deeply loki is affected by his casual remarks. obviously a1 and t2 have things significantly worse, for fairly understandable reasons, but the overall connection between them was still easy to see - brothers who cared for each other at one point but were caught up in such a toxic family dynamic that they were incapable of even properly communicating with each other.

come thor 3, though, thor’s not even pretending to care. he’s entirely indifferent to the guy who has been by his side for over a thousand years. i’d say he treats loki like a dog, but honestly, he treats loki more like a boomerang - just an object you throw at your problems and if it doesn’t come back then it’s probably broken and you should just throw it away.

loki and thor didn’t “reconcile” in ragnarok. thor stopped caring about anyone else (don’t get me started on how he treated bruce/the hulk) and loki gave up on ever being treated like a person. i’m not sure if loki sacrificed himself in infinity war to save thor or to get away from him. and honestly i don’t know if loki was sure either.