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kakashihasibs · 5 months ago

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Ive had control of our (my husband's and my) finances for only 2 months and things are already so much better i cannot believe it. Other than my student loans we have no debt, we actually have money in our savings account, we can finally donate regularly, and all of our bills are paid with no worry! This is the 1st time in my life that I'm living like this!

I said this to my husband and he's like ~i guess >:[~ so i asked what the hell he meant by that and he's like we dont have any spending money and im just ಠ_ಠ r u fucking serious. I literally just bought him a fairly expensive dnd book.

I'm losing my mind over here x_x once we reach our saving goal I'm going to make him open a roth IRA. We WILL be financially healthy and responsible i dont care if it means he can't spend money on every little bit of detritus that crosses his path.

Listen if ur not the "breadwinner" in the household you need to be involved with the budget. Do NOT just trust the earning partner. You need to KNOW were your money is going.

#before i took over he had a ridiculous amount of subscriptions just chipping away at our money #he would spend without consulting me regardless of the cost #he wouldn't show me the bank statements (bc he was ashamed)#now we know exactly where our money is going #complete transparency on both sides #plus he's still spending 80 a month on patron stuff 🙄#if he wants more spending money then he make lower his costs else where #this is a vent so i dont get annoyed at my husband #he's adjusting to not getting to over spend #and actually having to save #he'll get to spend again once we have a fully funded emergency fund and a down-payment for a house #and we'll need to save up for having a kid too >.>

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