#god fucking forbid i point out the damage being done to communities that i care about because they're human fucking beings.

[vulpinesaint]

i appreciate how fierce you are in your slander against blood libel the game. costing peace of mind to lead this battle, defending jewish and trans people along the way. you're doing amazing <3

anon i love you for real. this is very sweet, thank you 🖤 happy to delete stupid transphobic shit from my inbox for at least the sake of making sure my blog is a safe space for my trans and jewish mutuals if they didn't know that already. i'm carrying such an indescribable amount of anger over this so if you see me devolve into incoherent violence in the next few days just try and be niceys to me for a little bit haha <3

[morgana-ren]

utterly lack critical thinking or comprehension and couldn't understand nuance or perspective if you gave them baby's first homework assignment on it

This. This so hard. And its always us that are wrong for blocking them or even god forbid trying to explain. I'm 34, my blog is full of dark content and it's so creepy and worrying to having kids following! I end up going through a blog check every week

I want to say thank you to everyone who has messaged me and pointed out the minors in my follows when I might've missed them. Some of them try to hide, others are unabashed, but all of them get blocked.

The ones that see this and snidely think I have missed them, the damage is on your head. I'm sorry, but that's the reality of it. If you lie to me, or hide yourself, there is quite literally nothing I can do. My responsibility over your life ends there.

Thing is, I remember being that age. I remember being a child and trying to worm my way into adult spaces. All my life, I had been told I was so mature for my age, and that I was an 'old soul.' I was "different" from other children; I could handle it. I understood 'more than they did.' I was smart and clever and everyone around me made a point to impress that on me, and I believed it.

I thought I could handle it, and I didn't learn for many years until after the damage had already been done.

Children are headstrong and stubborn, but they are also foolish and unlearned and have no experience. They haven't been alive long enough to realize this yet, though, and it isn't their fault. That is something that comes with age. They do not understand the depths of damage that they can cause to themselves or others. They do not understand that most people who tell you how 'smart you are' or how you're 'mature' for your age are usually out to manipulate you. They do not know how to engage in these spaces in a safe manner because it simply isn't possible.

They do not understand, and they do not care to. Children are selfish. It's not meant as an insult. Really. It's just part of growing up. It's why they invite themselves into adult spaces despite being told they are not wanted. Their viewpoints are correct and true and they are right and you're just a boomer. You don't get it.

They are still developing. Still learning. Still growing. They literally do not understand because they have no way to. They think that they can handle it because they have no reason to believe that they cannot. They do not have the life experience or wisdom that comes with that experience.

They do not know how to engage these fandoms, which is why you will find them arguing their viewpoints when no one has asked or starting fights over different characters or plotlines they don't like. They don't have the experience to be able to understand nuance or storytelling and a great many other things. It's usually children that are spearheading the 'fiction equals reality' movement because they are, and forgive me for saying this, but too foolish to fully grasp what they are saying and the long reaching implications and consequences of it. They are children in mind and body, no matter how desperately they don't want to be.

They demand to be accepted into adult spaces, and then demand to be protected by the adults in those fandoms who do not want them there (which, in my experience, is a relatively new phenomenon) despite the fact that it is not possible because the source fucking material was not made with you in mind. They engage in smut writing and violence and other themes that their brains cannot fully comprehend beyond an initial understanding of what the content is. They do not understand that they are causing damage with their presence. They are causing damage to themselves and others and the community at large.

They don't care. They have no reason to.

They don't care if they are putting you in danger. They do not care if they are putting themselves in danger. They do not care.

At the end of the day, there is only so much that we can do. We can try and explain it. We can tell them. We can try to appeal to the little bit of empathy they have developed. We can explain things as nicely as possible and hope that they see reason in our words. We can give them our personal experiences and our hardships and plead with them not to tread the same path. But most of the time, they will not listen. They believe they are different and special, and they won't learn for many, many years that they are not.

They cannot grasp this concept, so needless to say, it is entirely pointless to try and explain to them why they might be a bit too naive to engage with certain fiction. Why their ideas on characters and stories might be a bit underdeveloped and ridiculous. They get angry and lash out. They demand respect but do not give it. They demand protection and yet put everyone at risk.

It's not their fault, in a way. They don't understand. They can't. It's why we do what we can to keep them out.

I am genuinely sorry that their parents and the world around them has failed them. I am sorry that they are freely allowed to attempt to engage in things they do not have the ability to understand yet. I am. It's not their fault. They don't understand. How could they?

They can be angry at us all they'd like. They can lash out and throw tantrums, because it's all they know how to do. They can say how wrong we are and that we're old and the other arsenal of insults they like to throw out. They can set out to prove us wrong while ultimately proving our point.

I'm not trying to be an ass, here. I'm really not.

That being said, it's not fair to us either. Like you said, we end up in catfights with kids and we're the bad guys for engaging, we're the bad guys for blocking, we're the bad guys and get dogpiled even though what in the hells would you have us do? We cannot ignore them, clearly. But in their eyes, they're right and we're wrong and that's that. They don't understand. They can't.

We can put warnings and DNIs, we can actively block children that meander into our spaces thoughtlessly, we can try to protect ourselves. Being the bad guy to a thirteen-year-old is a small price to pay for trying to keep them safe, even as they hate it.

But again, there is only so much we can do.

I feel horrible for the creators that are experiencing the deaths of their creations because of this. Influxes of children in their space that make them feel like bad people for simply creating because there is nothing they can do. It's miserable and frustrating and ultimately, you have no choice but to either kill your own creation or be called a horrible person for persisting even though you have no control over who engages. To be called a bad person for engaging in fiction because children don't understand it or the reasons one might do so. I feel horrible for children who are ruining their future psyche and mental state because they don't understand. It's a horrible situation all around.

We do what we can. And we'll keep doing what we can. We will protect them even as they hate it. But there is literally only so much you can do. What do you want an adult creator to do when someone else posts their content on tiktok and attracts hordes of teenagers who are naive? What do you want them to do when children ignore the warnings on AO3? What do you want them to do when children follow them and they lie about their age?

It sucks. It's a genuinely miserable situation all around. All we can hope for is that children, in their own little way, will grow up and stay out of spaces not meant for them. It won't happen, most of the time. But we can dream.

[pokeheros-drama]

As someone who grew up on pokeheroes and is still friends with a lot of people from there, I feel the need to say how horrible of a community pokeheroes is and how it's run by people who don't actually care about the users. The site has only served as a breeding ground for traumatised adults due to the absolute incompetence of moderation from the staff or from the community itself. I would even go as far as to say that this blog is doing a lot of damage to the current generation of new users but I can't confidently say that due to not having looked too deep into it. My reason for this is simply looking at what has become of my friend group who was either harassed on pokeheroes or in the previous dramablog. My partner at the time has internalised how they are a horrible person because they had a failed relationship on pokeheroes and for whatever reason their partner faked suicide just to spite them(we only found out it was fake years later). Getting harassed by 30 different people and labelled as human scum and as a murder for just not being a good partner at the age of 16 is a lot for any child to have to go through. It took them fucking YEARS to get over that whole ordeal and what punishment did their harassers receive? Absolutely nothing??? I had to convince not only them but like half of my, at the time, close group of friends not the end it all because of how pokeheroes WILLINGLY HOUSES MENTALLY ILL TEENS THAT ONLY SPREAD THEIR NEGATIVITY TO THEIR IMPRESSIONABLE FIRENDS. This is not the only incident I've witnessed during my time on this hell site but I feel like this is the worst I can name. Blogs like the drama blog only serve to platform fighting between the community which leads to unsupervised 10-17 year olds harassing eachother and normalising that its okay to be a dick to others as long as everyone around you is also doing it. Honestly the website shouldn't be even marketed for children if it's willing to house pedophiles and harassment and do literally nothing about it. I can't even imagine the damage that letting an unsupervised child on this website will do to them. But that's only the community, the staff team manages to be even worse(for the most part), with Riako being INCAPABLE of accepting any criticism on the performance of his "Game"(more so a cheap cash grab using a pre existing IP to attract children), his immature and power hungry staff that are willing to over look ACTUAL RULE BREAKING from friends of theirs but are more than happy to ban a person for outing their problematic actions or god forbid POINT OUT AN ACTUALLY DANGEROUS USER. The one time Riako SUPPOSEDLY did something about the mod team turned out to be an absolute lie that was only done to get away with his inaction and masterfully evade solving the problem. You would think that maybe after what? 8 years of me being here, things would change eventually but NO. Sure the names change, new faces joined and left yet the same problems arise over and over again. If this does get submitted, to whoever is reading this PLEASE DO ME A SOLID and stay away from the "drama" ESPECIALLY if you are a minor. Sure you may think "oh but I am so mature for my age so this is clearly aimed at the more innocent and childish minors in the community" NO ITS NOT, I used to think i was such a smart little shit that was unaffected by this and could handle serious situations, only know that I am almost an adult did I realize that I REALLY shouldn't have been talking my friends and romantic partner out of suicide at the age of 14. THATS NOT NORMAL KIDS, YOU AREN'T THERAPISTS. If your parents didn't tell you I will. Don't interact with sexual content, even if you "are mature enough" you are still a kid, best case scenario you will end up cringing at it years later, worst case scenario you get exploited by the horny adults that PH houses which actively lurk for children that think they know more than they actually do. Additionally if you get in a drama that stresses you out, if a hoard or whatever is calling you a shit person, log off. Straight up log off for a

week, think about your actions objectively, if you feel like you are in the wrong then apologize, if not straight up just don't log in again until the rage dies down. Don't put your mental health at risk and don't hang around with people that make you feel bad. If possible talk to older friends who have gone through the ringer or even a parent every time your friend does anything questionable to make sure if its a red flag or not. Stay safe yall!

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