#genuinely inexcusable

[ruthofrhythm]

I cannot believe there are people in this fandom that like Karen Wheeler

[storywestistrash]

watched mouthwashing finally. the fact that i saw people be more aggressive towards curly than jimmy is kinda strange. kinda real weird

[basicallykiyotaka]

My favourite thing to do: talk about Endeavor

My least favourite thing to do: explain why I like Endeavor

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

tbh I think a large amount of the reason people got away with being weird as shit towards minors in the mcyt fandom is like just homophobia. like with tommy, if a sixteen year old girl had a twenty one year old guy she met online “joke” about her dating her adult friend, masturbating, and having oral sex, having her say that she loved him in private chats, and repeatedly mentioning how she’s technically legal like he'd get the fucking cops called on him, but bc tommy was a guy it was just haha funny bc gay! they wouldn’t actually be creepy bc they’re not gay that’s silly! ignoring the fact that sexual harassment can happen regardless of orientation. like genuinely i'm honestly surprised there’s less creeps there considering how accepted it was to borderline state you wanted to fuck a sixteen year old with a massive power gap who's inherently incentivised to keep friendly relations with you and play it off as a joke. like do i think anything bad happened? no, but the fact that actual predators could have done literal grooming tactics and get brushed off by both ccs and audience- bc all of these things Can be a part of grooming, they’re not here bc grooming also requires Intention and the scary part is that it’s a matter of luck no one Had That Intention- bc haha they’re both boys isn’t that funny it can’t be anything serious or concerning they’re just joking bc they wouldn’t really be creeps they’re both boys! like if there was a predator in that situation the children in those groups were already being sexualised constantly as a “joke” the space was and still is ridiculously unsafe for underage content creators as well as fans. all it could have took was one creep and no one would even bat an eye.

[boypussydilf]

god i do love princess bubblegum so much. she’s great. she is the best. she does TRULY, GENUINELY, VERY MESSED UP THINGS sometimes and isn’t that AWESOME! and she considers herself in the right while also knowing things she’s doing are wrong! she cares not about Doing The Right Thing, but about Doing The Right Thing For Her People. she feels justified in going to any lengths as long as it is in service of caring for and protecting her citizens. and she has a messed up idea of what is even right for them! it’s not like she interferes in every little part of their lives, but she has based the way she makes candy people off the Magically Lobotomized Versions Of Her Family, so that they won’t go against her or try to undermine what she wants! she loves them as her people, and she loves them as her children, and she makes them “subservient dummies” and laughs at them when they take issue with how she runs things.

and of course she’s like that. if i was the sole caretaker of my little brother since i was basically a baby and had to raise myself until i got so lonely and tired of having no one i could connect with in the way i needed that i made myself a family and then that family basically tried to kill me while i was basically ten and i had to go back to raising myself alone without them for the rest of my life. i would also probably have kind of a weird and messed up outlook and approach to, like, everything

[taibhsearachd]

If you were scientifically concocting it in a lab, I don't think you could trigger me more than I am right now. I don't know why I'm surprised my body decided I'm just not allowed to stand for a few days, because when I look at it.... yeah, the disability that is exacerbated by stress is going to make things bad.

Wilbur Soot, who I wasn't a super fan of but kind of liked, being an abusive asshole, minor stressor on its own. But then my living situation got threatened, and I flew into panic mode. The only thing I want in the world is to live in a place I never have to leave, and the idea of leaving a place with less than a year's notice literally makes me nauseous. And James Somerton faking suicide when I was already mildly suicidal was another blow. Some fucking drama Youtuber posted a video about the first time I was sexually assaulted, cast my story into doubt, and then deleted my comment about it on said video. And another of Wilbur's exes coming out with a story that mirrors both of the times I was sexually assaulted was another.

I'm not in danger, from myself or anyone else. I'm not. I'm just... man, the shit keeps coming in, and when I'm already in crisis I keep being hit with some of the worst moments in my life. I'm not doing okay. I'm not surprised my body just fucking gave up on me. Now that I'm laying it out like this, I'm surprised it's not worse. Jesus fuck.

[placeinthisworld]

Mila kunis and Ashton Kutcher really uhhhh really fucked up huh

[vounoura]

I’ve been thinking abt this for a bit

If you can get past all the very explicit and shameless anti-indigenous racism and narrative (like it’s. actually extremely offensive and has otherwise ruined my ability to replay it which is a shame), Pillars of Eternity is good. I don’t think it’s absolutely amazing (it is VERY clunky, and the writing is…well, it was written by people who like to describe things in the longest ways possible) or anything, but if you go in with the context that Pillars 1 was made for people who are REALLY nostalgic abt the OG Baldur’s Gate’s then it’s a fairly enjoyable experience.

Deadfire’s writing isn’t as good as the first’s (and tbh, I wasn’t inclined to trust Obsidian’s take on a narrative abt the horrors of colonialism after the unmitigated disaster that was the Glanfathans) imo but if the gameplay of the first is an issue for it try skipping to Deadfire, it’s massively improved and way less clunky.

[mar64ds]

I want to scream and talk about the flawed characters of spiritfarer because god it was interesting but also god do i not excuse any of their actions and i'm so worried to come across that way

[vampirehizzies]

so i googled rachel gatina's fate and.. fuck that? my girl deserves so much more

[bruciewayne]

the single greatest defence for fanfiction writing outside of creating for the sake of art and passion and such is that now im in a stem university in a stem course and consistently my section has been the best written in a group report

[sonicpoorlittlemeowmeowshowdown]

Um, I’m gonna be completely honest (and this might sound a little unnecessary, but I’m gonna put this out there anyway): I’m much LESS upset Starline lost (it doesn’t really matter at the end of the day and I’ll get over it 3 seconds from now ☠️) and MORE upset people can fling CRAZY accusations at us just for the heck of it and still win at the end of the day 😭

Like- who said we hate lesbians and apologize for abusers again??? 😭

Obviously it isn’t everyone but it’s enough to suck all the fun out of everything 😭

^^^

[lighthouseborn]

i think a lot about how his character introduction is so strong for like. the first entire half and then. later moments work really hard to undermine it by being waaaay more focused on the movie's humor style than the actual interactions. like honestly. 12 year old who ties rocks to his ankles -> young sailor who speaks out of turn to superiors trying to save everyone's necks (/who is scared but doesn't back down from the ghosts) -> sticks to his guns in the infirmary while being accused of cowardice and insubordination (which is. well, half true) and "in each language they were written" and the! smirk!! at carina -> sneaking into the prison!! to gather and warn jack -> gathering the crew (which is offscreen but spoken about) -> rescuing! fucking everyone!!!! with a length of rope and backup with a canon and No Sword -> "then we'll find out (together)" on the gull!!!!!!! ...... i'm. i was going to keep going but i'm like. this is more than halfway huh.

....actually maybe it's more than half of the movie maybe it really is just like. him entirely if you just sort of scrape off the foam on the top where they were like "lol it'd be funny if-" and it. wasn't funny. which is like. fuck the "I saw her ankles" line and the entire port/stern business at the square and certain little bits of the 'are all pirates this stupid' scene which really isn't even him i'm just mad he's basically silent for that whole exchange so the script can make jokes at carina's expense. also this one's not even him it's just @ him and frick that particular slap, dude. like i love that carina would slap an inerdimensional being with the power to end the world if it said somthing she disliked you know but that particular slap for that particular reason (just checking it's still you) is my worst enemy.

man he's so good. he's such a good little dude and they didn't even know that they were doing that, i don't think. it's really hard to tell because so much of it is so close and so good and their other movies i know of are similarly largely so good it's like. raaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh.

[tiercel]

It is kind of nice to get to a point where you can feel yourself callousing up against people saying weird or awful shit to you. Like a year ago i wouldve read this and literally given myself acid reflux with rage but at this point this isnt even the worst thing ive heard all day

[kaboom--bitch]

Considering you started this with "you don't actually have the disorder you wish you had and professionals tell you this. So, you're anti-psych. But.", stating that we're prof dx'd with DID first even though that should be irrelevant, but it seems like an important point to you.

Psych-abuse is real, and it harms so, SO many people. People with trauma, and vulnerable young people too--the people you're very concerned about here. But not just them, anyone who doesn't fit into their boxes can get harmed. If you don't go along with the majority of psychologists/psychiatrists and how they want to treat you, you get dismissed and discharged from their care and left in the dust at best, or you get medication or psych wards forced on you.

It's not about endos feeling sad that they can't get a diagnosis (which they don't even WANT--unless they have other DID symptoms in which case then they... have DID, who would've thought--because they KNOW they're non disordered), it's about real, actual dehumanization and abuse. They deny your ability to not take medication, or to change meds even if you're getting side effects. They involuntarily lock you in a psych ward, take your belongings and restrict your ability to even have the ability to return home. They dismiss your feelings about the way you're being treated because they are the ones with the textbook, so they don't care if it hurts you. They don't treat you like a person, they treat you like a client they have to fix. They don't want to listen about what you want out of your treatment, they do it how they want--and that is not how someone's personal medical treatment should go.

And sure, a lot of individual psychologists can be kind, caring, and understanding. They can help a whole lot! It's people's choice to try therapy and if they get something good out of it, that's amazing. But having a bad psychologist who sends you to a psych ward can absolutely destroy your whole life, that simple. Therapy can be good, but it can also end absolutely horribly, because that's how the psych system works. They care about diagnosing you and then "fixing" you, whatever that means to THEM, distinctly NOT what you want to be fixed.

Claiming that generational trauma "at its core" is caused by people not seeking therapy is also ridiculous. Can therapy help? Absolutely, for some or even possibly a lot of cases. But in the end, not being an abusive jackass is a decision the person themselves has to make. People who don't go to therapy can choose not to be abusive. They can choose not to hurt their kids independant of therapy. It's honestly an insult to be so generalising and simplifying with it. Abusers sometimes are unknowing in their own abusive tendencies, and therapy can help them see what actions are harmful. But acting like people are just lost and need to be guided by a therapist to not be abusive in a majority of cases is ridiculous and insulting. Abuse happens even when people are seeing a psychologist. You might feel that way about your experience, but do NOT generalise the experience of living in a family with generational trauma just because you see it one way.

It's harmful to be visibly anti-psych online because "think about the young traumatized people!!"? Well maybe think about the victims of abuse that are speaking up against what the psychiatry system is fundamentally. And maybe don't try to silence literal trauma victims if you claim to care about them so much. You just seem to want to cover up the abuse, maybe think on that a bit before claiming that we're doing damage by simply speaking up.

i see anti-psych getting thrown around a lot in endogenic spaces.

I get it. You don't actually have the disorder you wish you had and professionals tell you this. So, you're anti-psych. But.

Being Anti-Psych and perpetuating that online is Not Okay.

You see there's this thing called generational trauma, and that at its core usually is a scenario where someone has trauma and mental health issues and instead of going to therapy, they have children. And then the cycle just continues and continues.

The only way to break this cycle is therapy, and because generational trauma THRIVES on anti-psych mentalities, many of the people who want to break the cycle struggle.

To give a personal anecdote, my mother hates therapy - she has never been to therapy and she will never. she also questions anyone who seeks out therapy (including myself) and tries to convince them they are better off without it. my mother also has extensive trauma and mental health issues and as a result my mother has been one of my main abusers throughout my life.

Therapy is NOT always easy or straightforward I GET IT

there is really good therapists, but there still is therapists that aren't good. by the time i realized that i needed a proper therapist i had gone through extensive trauma and my therapist was severely under qualified to deal with me and ended up crying in front of me after a particular rough session.

i was put off from therapy for a really long while after that and probably would have called myself "anti-psych"

but then my mental health issues got so bad i ended up in a psych ward and i was forced to have a therapist. and through her, i have healed SO incredibly much. i can see now how incredibly important therapy is to individuals with trauma but also to the loved ones of those with trauma. i can see how therapy really does stop the cycle of generational trauma and abuse.

Encouraging others online to be anti-psych especially in a space with vulnerable young people with trauma is inexcusable.

it is so fucking harmful and i hate you all who do it i hate you SO FUCKING MUCH

[librarycards]

something about most of the americans who post about the 'shitty educational system making them think there are no cities in mexico' or something is that, on a deep level, they enjoy & revel in their ignorance, their incuriosity. they share the same bombastic and self-congratulatory anti-intellectualism as any trump-voting uncle, except enjoy couching it in the auspices of [white] queerness & disability.

i am white (more or less) and queer and disabled & attended shitty schools in de facto segregated areas, i have encountered these ppl all my life, and what has always struck me as bizarre and embarrassing is the sheer ease with which alternate forms of info were accessible. all you needed was an internet connection, which we almost uniformly had. i found information about whiteness & intersectionality & colonialism & empire as a preteen through blogs and tumblr and other social media, and when i got older, followed my curiosity to actual books on these topics and more. it did not require anything exceptional, or even a higher education.

people know these resources are there. they know how to find them, in no more clicks than it takes to get to their favorite show or fanfic or whatever. but the discomfort that encountering new info requires, the embrace of the unknown, the genuine intellectual & emotional engagement with difference and friction, is something that they deep down know that "we" (in the global north/west) have the privilege to refuse. and there is a horrible "pleasure" in that refusal, that knowledge that one is permited to know nothing and still have the world at one's feet. it is despicable and inexcusable, and i'm glad it is getting vocally called out.