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actuallyrandomperson · 4 years ago

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I wanna ramble about how I experience dysphoria as a genderfluid person for a bit, and my identity in general, so I figured Tumblr was a good place to do it.

So, for starters, I should probably clarify how I'm fluid, as all of us are a little different in how we experience gender. I was assigned female at birth, and, to be completely honest, I wish I was amab. This shocks some people, especially as I tend to sit on the female/demigirl/nonbinary side of things, but it's true. Realistically, I know my life would be a lot different if I had been, and I would have experienced a different set of struggles, but in an idealistic world, where nothing would change about me except the way my body looked and what pronouns were used for me, I'd want to be assigned male. I could not care less what genitals I have, especially since I'm ace so it has no real effect on how I'm gonna live my life, this relates back to the two other most obvious issues with being afab: Periods, and boobs.

I hate getting my period. As most people do. I don't even have particularly painful ones, just some semi-bad cramps on the first day or two, but I hate it anyway. 9 times out of 10 I'm non-binary on the first day of my period. Whether that's related to hormone levels or some subconscious part of my brain whispering "hey periods suck being a girl sucks why were u born a girl", I do not know. I just know it happens.

I also hate my boobs whenever I'm not female. Including when I'm demigirl. I don't hate the idea of boobs in general when I'm demigirl, and don’t think I need to be completely flat-chested to feel happy when I’m non-binary (but that could come back to me doubting I’ll get fully flat without surgery), I just hate my boobs. That is because I am incredibly busty, especially for someone who is 5'1/155 cm tall. I'm an Aus 10G/US 32I, I have small shoulders (my straps slip down no matter how tight we pull them), and a large part of what made figuring out my gender identity hell was the constant question of whether me hating my boobs was an ace thing (not wanting to be constantly sexualised) or a gender thing. My best fitting bra actually helped me figure that out, as reportedly it made me look smaller (i.e. technically less likely to be sexualised) but it had the side benefit of making my boobs, well, actually look like boobs, and when I looked at myself in the mirror I wanted to claw my eyes out. So. 90% of the time I hate my boobs because they're so big, and 100% of the time I hate my period.

You might be sitting here, reading this, and going "but Em, are you sure you're genderfluid? Not just demigirl or nonbinary or agender or any of the other non-binary identities?" My answer to that is, well, sorta no. And sorta yes. No, in the fact that I've never been sure about anything in my life. Maybe time will go on, and I'll begin to identify with some other label, or no labels at all. Yes, in the fact that genderfluid feels right right now, and that's all that matters. Humans change. In turn, labels can change too. Hell, as a genderfluid person, my labels technically change on almost a day to day basis! That doesn't make my feelings and my identity at any single moment any less valid. It also doesn't mean that long term, I'll wake up one day and realise that I actually just identify with x gender. It just means that it could happen, and that’s ok, just as it's okay that my identity is changing constantly at the moment. Side note, while we're talking about labels- you also don't need to identify with one! I personally like to use them, as they bring me comfort, but everyone is different, and y'all who choose not to use labels for whatever reasons are entirely valid.

I have 4 main types of day, gender-wise. Days where I feel like a girl, days where I feel kinda like a girl, days where I feel non-binary, and days where my gender is that 'women' shrugging emoji (that I use all the time because long hair babeyyyy also their shirt is purple on iOS and purple rules). Day 4 I mostly lump under demigirl, as with day 2. Day 3 could probably be most accurately described with agender, or a similar identity label, but I find it personally easiest to just refer to myself as non-binary on said days.

In a hard to explain way, I feel as though I experience less dysphoria on days where I am demigirl than on days where I am fully female. This is not entirely accurate, and is almost certainly as a result of me having unintentionally put in place coping mechanisms for said days in terms of how I present myself for years now, and probably isn’t the right terms for me to use, but it's true.

You see, I dress in a fairly gender-neutral way. My presentation has still always come off as feminine, as I love my long hair and enjoy nail polish, but I've always hated shaving, and I avoid wearing dresses and skirts as much as possible in my day-to-day. I don't mind wearing dresses etc when I'm demigirl, I just don't gravitate towards them, and when I'm demigirl I generally present as a not-overly feminine girl whose a little uncomfortable with their body shape and likes to be comfy, and wears heels in an effort to be taller rather than as a fashion statement.

But when I'm fully a girl, I often love being feminine. I usually want to wear dresses/skirts, and jewellery, and lipstick (not any other makeup though, years of dance and stage makeup ruined me- if someone puts it on for me and it's not heavy/powdery I'm not actively adverse, though), and have my hair braided, and generally just to Get Prettied Up. But that’s not 'me' to other people. That’s not the person I've presented myself as for years. I've spent my entire life catering to my demigirl and non-binary days because they're more common, and whenever I do lean into my feminine self on girl days my family and a lot of my friends are kinda surprised. I wore lipstick and nice clothes to two separate movie hangouts with two different friends, and one of them (who I hadn't seen in a while, to be fair) commented on how it was unusual for me while the other looked visibly surprised. It's not a coincidence that the two irl people I'm out to outside of my schools lgbt+ club are my brother and my best friend- both of whom complimented me (in a non-creepy way with my brother slvjfk) when they saw me wear lipstick for simple things last year, without making a big deal out of it. My mum still acts shocked and gets excited about me being feminine when I express an interest into buying clothes from a particular brand (Princess Highway/Dangerfield in general, for my fellow Aussies, as I don’t think they exist in the US) even though I've been getting presents from there for a few years now. She's talked about slowly starting to replace my clothes with 'fashionable stuff' from places like Dangerfield as the years go on now that I've 'expressed an interest in nice clothes' and I feel anxiety start to ball up in my stomach, because I don't want to wear fashionable clothes all the time, because fashionable for me, closeted and big-chested as I am, means feminine. When I present or show interest in presenting in a more feminine way on my female days, my mother and a few people I'm surrounded by unintentionally make me feel guilty about not wishing to present like that all the time, make my dysphoric for my future and past self, and make me doubt myself as a genderfluid person because I wish to present as my birth gender on one day.

So rather than dealing with all that, I don't present in a more feminine way unless I'm going out, and even then, avoid wearing lipstick if my mum is home, or coming with me. If I can, I'll stick a tube into my bag to apply when I get to wherever I'm going, but it's not always possible. I have Safiya Nygaard’s colourpop collection hidden away in my room. I continue to present myself in a way that aligns more closely in my mind to my demigirl days, with the slight change of being able to actually look at myself in the mirror for extended periods of time, being ok with my slightly more tight-fitting tops, and being chill with wearing my best bra. And I feel, as a whole, dysphoric on these days. I am not happy with how my gender presentation is, because it does not reflect how I want to present. Dysphoria is probably not the exact right term to use to describe these feelings, given I'm afab but it is the easiest way for me to put it, as it most closely reflects the unhappiness I feel with my presentation on my non-binary days, it's just my non-binary days come with a whole lot more body-related dysphoria piled on top. A song I like to listen to on female days is Platform Ballerinas, by MIKA, as it helps remind me that I am a girl, and the way I'm presenting as a girl is valid even if it's not exactly how I want to (it doesn't actually fully come back to societal expectations placed on women because I might shave my armpits but my leg hair still stays, and I genuinely want to get prettied up rather than feeling like I should to be seen as a girl, it's just something I want to do and not being able to makes me feel whack, but the song is definitely more focused on the whole 'societal expectations suck y'all are all valid' thing).

Non-binary days suck in the same way I've heard a lot of trans people of all varieties discuss. I hate walking past mirrors, if I have to wear feminine clothing for whatever reason I feel like I'm going to cry, she/her pronouns kinda make me want to die (generally I'm chill with she/they, and on female days they/them is okay, but she/her on nonbinary days makes my dysphoric as hell), and I generally Do Not Have A Great Time dysphoria wise. But hey, one day I’ll have enough money for a binder. Eventually. I always feel weird about entering giveaways given there are people who experience extreme dysphoria around their chest every day, I can deal on my demigirl days and survive on my non-binary ones.

So, that’s been me rambling into the void about gender for almost 2000 words, how are y��all doing? Also, if anyone actually read all of this I’d appreciate like,,, a like. Or something. I kinda want to know if people have actually seen and read this.

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buildarocketboys · 7 years ago

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Hi, Im sorry If this is a weird question but I'm trying to write a story and my mc is gender fluid. As I'm cis gender myself, could you maybe explain the things ppl get wrong about non binary people? I really want to get it right and it only seems fair to ask someone who's actually non binary.

Hi! Not a weird question at all, it’s good that you’re asking about it. The first thing I will say is that I’m not genderfluid (and it’s spelled without a space, as is cisgender btw) so you might be better off finding someone who is for genderfluid-specific questions.

That said, stuff that people get wrong/that you want to avoid:

-assuming all nb people have the same experience with gender (even within one nb gender, there are a myriad of different experiences, and that’s definitely true with genderfluid. Are they fluid between male and female? male and nb? female and agender? demigirl, male and androgyne? There are countless combinations, it’s not just one experience).-presentation doesn’t equal gender. This would be especially relevant to a genderfluid protag, I’d think. While some nb people sometimes dress/present themselves in a particular way to be perceived as x gender (wearing a dress if they feel more feminine/want to be perceived as more feminine, for example) but at the end of the day, clothes are just clothes, hair is just hair etc. Your protag could be wearing a dress while feeling male/masc. It just depends how they’re feeling-if you’re cis, I would suggest /not/ writing specifically about your protag discovering/coming to terms with/figuring out their gender. You can have a genderfluid protagonist without doing this, and if you’re cis, you’re never gonna fully understand nb experiences, so it’s best not to write about them (or if you do, get a genderfluid sensitivity reader). Also, probably the majority of the few stories with nb protagonists out there are about discovering their gender/coming out. Which is fine, but (like just about everyone in the queer community) we want stories about being space pirates and detectives and romances too.

This is just some basic advice, so anyone who wants to add more can do. And obviously, nb people aren’t a monolith, so different people will get annoyed with different things. Honestly the best thing to do if you’re a cis writer writing an nb character is to focus on writing their story, their actions, and not focus too much on their internal understanding of their gender, because it’s just going to come across as false/forced much of the time. It should be mentioned, for sure, but don’t focus on it too much.

Followers, feel free to add on! (especially if you’re genderfluid and have anything to say about that particular experience)

#softandpersistent #gender stuff #genderfluid #nb #writing advice #asks

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thelightfluxtastic · 7 years ago

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The 3D Model of Gender

Hey, so I’ve seen a lot of attempts at ways to depict various genders (sliders, scales, etc). All have their strengths and weaknesses. I’ve come up with a model, described here, that I think could be used to depict and talk about gender, whether binary or not, fluid or not. It is based on a three-dimensional coordinate plane.

Basic Principles

X-axis is woman/female. Y-axis is man/male. Z axis is third genders not related to those two (e.g. maverique, ambonec). The matching of axes-> gender is arbitrary.

Number indicates intensity, with closer to 0 being less attachment to that gender, and 10 being the maximum, full attachment. This is also arbitrary and for convenience.

Examples: Single Genders

A single, consistent gender (always felt and with all parts felt at the same time) is expressed as a point in the coordinate plane.

Agender: (0, 0, 0)

Girl: (10, 0, 0)

Boy: (0, 10, 0)

Ambonec: (0, 0, 10)

Demigirl: (3, 0, 0), (5, 0, 0), (8, 0 0), etc.

Bigender (always feel bigender): (10, 10, 0), (3, 0, 7), (0, 2, 2), etc.

Trigender (always feel trigender): (10, 10, 10), (8, 3, 2), (7, 4, 9), etc.

etc.

Multigenders, Fluid and Static

A bigender person that feels (0, 7, 3) does not suit them might use (0, 7, 0) and (0, 0, 3) to describe themselves instead.

Genderflux = a line. Goes from (0,0,0) and follows an axis (girlflux, boyflux, nbflux). The other axes are always 0.

Genderfluid: If switch between distinct genders, describe as multiple points. If flows between genders and feels “in between”, this can be described as the polygon/area formed by any relevant boundaries.

Personal Example: I identify as fluidflux. I feel masculinity and femininity in varying degrees, but never a third gender. My gender is the area contained by (0,0,0), (10, 0, 0), (0, 10, 0) and (10, 10, 0) (Essentially, the XY plane with Z = 0). On any given day, I can be anywhere on this plane, from (7, 2, 0) (bigender) to (0, 10 0) (boy) to (3, 0, 0) (demigirl).

#gender #nonbinary #nb #enby #trans #mine #3d #model

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nerdyginger2307 · 8 years ago

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Here is an accessible, interactive version of this flowchart!

Need something visual, or at least less confusing? Here you go!

1. Do you always identify with the gender you were assigned at birth?

A. No. (Continue to #2) B. Sometimes. (Continue to #2) C. Yes. (You’re cis! What are you doing here, silly?)

2. How many genders is your identity made up of? In other words, is it fluid?

A. Just one. (Continue to #3) B. Two. (Continue to #4) C. Three. (Go to #5) D. Two or more. (Go to #13) E. I don’t know - help! (Continue to #10)

3. Is that one gender binary?

A. Yes. (You’re probably BINARY TRANSGENDER!) B. No. (Continue to #10) C. It’s sort of…well…uh…I don’t know? (Go to #6) D. Sort of, but not entirely. (Go to #8)

4. Can those genders coexist?

A. No, I don’t think so. (Go to #13) B. No, they’re polar opposites, and I mean that in more than a gender-binary way. (Go to #7) C. Yes, and they do, often! (Go to #9) D. Yes…well…maybe? (Go to #14)

5. You might be TRIGENDER! Trigender people experience three genders (not necessarily the binary ones). Sometimes it’s just one gender, sometimes it’s two, sometimes it’s all three and sometimes it’s none at all. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info!

6. You might be POLYGENDER! This identity is like a melting pot of several different gender expressions all at once, mixed so well that sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between all of them. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info! Note: two of these resources describe pangender, which has similar intent but is a problematic term - discussed here.

7. You might be GENDERFLUX (also known as GENDERFLEX)! This identity is a fluid one, going between genderlessness and genderedness. What that gendered part is, only you can tell, but for now, if you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info!

8. You might be a DEMIGIRL or DEMIBOY! These folks feel they are partially, but not wholly, female or male, whether or not it’s the gender they were assigned at birth. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info! (This tumblr is a particularly positive resource!) [Note: there are also DEMI-NONBINARY people, and I would advise checking out the last link for more info on this.]

9. You might be BIGENDER! Bigender people experience two genders (not necessarily the binary ones), sometimes just one, sometimes both, sometimes none at all. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info! (And here’s a positive tumblr resource.) (Close but not quite? Check out #17).

10. Do you feel like you have a gender?

A. Yes, of course! (Go to #15) B. No. (Go to #11) C. Sometimes. (Go to #7) D. Not really, but I’d still like to be able to present myself the way I want when I want. (Go to #12) E. Nothing you’ve said so far has fit! (Go to #16)

11. You might be AGENDER (also known as GENDERLESS)! Agender literally means ‘no gender’, and most people who associate with it just don’t want any gender ascribed to them at all. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info!

12. You might be NEUTROIS! The concept of neutrois is similar to agender (see #11), but has one key difference: the ideal situation for most neutrois people would be the ability to add or remove gender identifiers at will, in order to play with their gender presentation. That doesn’t necessarily mean they identify with that gender, of course - they still usually feel either gender-neutral or genderless entirely. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for some more info (or talk to mod Ren, since se is neutrois)!

13. You might be GENDERFLUID! Some genderfluid folks identify between the binary genders, but others can go from female to neutrois, or agender to male, or anywhere that they feel they fit at that point in time. Sometimes they even go between more than two genders. These genders can happen at the same time, or apart. Shifts in gender can happen at any time, sometimes within days, sometimes within minutes, sometimes within years - although some people have noticed correlations between their hormonal cycles and shifting genders. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info (or talk to mod Ren, who IDs as genderfluid)! (Close but not quite? Check out #17.)

14. You might be MIXED GENDER! Mixed gender people sometimes describe themselves similarly to polygender people (see #6): their genders are a sort of melting pot between binary or other non-binary genders. Sometimes they all happen at once, and sometimes they just mix together. If you think this may describe you, check out the resources listed under polygender (#6) or scroll down to check out aliagender and aporagender. Note: previously listed as intergender, but that term is only okay to use for yourself if you are intersex!

15. You might be GENDERQUEER! Often genderqueer is used as a blanket term for multiple nonbinary identities, but can also be used as a more specific term that describes someone whose gender is, well, queer. It’s similar to describing a difficult-to-explain sexuality as queer, and so it gives genderqueer people a lot more freedom to identify a certain way while still using a commonly-known term. If you think this might describe you, check out these resources for more info! (Mod Emery is also genderqueer!)

16. Don’t worry - there are more options!

You might be ANDROGYNE - a state of gender between the two binary genders.

You could simply be GENDER NEUTRAL, which is fairly self-evident.

Perhaps you like the idea of not being part of the binary, but still sort of present as part of it - you could be NONBINARY BUTCH, or NONBINARY FEMME (mod Emery IDs as nonbinary femme).

Maybe you’re GENDERPUNK (also known as GENDERF*CK), which is behavior specifically designed to mess with people’s interpretation of your gender. Features of genderpunk can also mix into other nonbinary identities!

If you’re looking for a third gender that does not appropriate from cultures that you don’t belong to, check out ALIAGENDER or APORAGENDER, I have also heard ambigender be used.

17. You might be DEMIFLUX! This term is used to describe the intersection of genderfluid and bigender identities, in which one of the genders remains ‘static’ while the second gender fluctuates. (x)

…But none of these describe me! What do I do?

Don’t worry - there’s plenty of other nonbinary identities out there, and some probably haven’t even been invented yet! Look around a little, or ask us some questions about the way you feel. Know that you aren’t alone just because you’re just a rare specimen. Find words that you like, and make them fit you. That’s what being nonbinary is all about: reshaping the world and its words in order to better fit yourself!

Further resources: Genderqueeries, Genderqueerid, AVEN’s gender subforums or their lexicon or this other lexicon, or the Queer Dictionary.

#slight repost #helpful things #gender identities #resources

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pinkpeccary · 8 years ago

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all the trans ask game asks !!!!!!!!!!! or any five, if that's too many !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ^-^

under the cut bc long

1. How did you choose your name?i still use my birth name irl, because it’s familiar and i like it, but i use ollie on here bc it’s the name i would change to if i changed. i like it because it’s gender neutral, leaning masc, but could easily not be. it actually started as a name for characters i made up, and eventually i realized i liked it enough to use it for myself.

2. What gives you the most dysphoria? (Acknowledging that not all trans people experience dysphoria)probably when people assume me to be a girl and refer to me as such. like it bothers me less if the person knows it’s not totally accurate, and it depends on the circumstances and the person and the word they use (i’m pretty okay with girlfriend or sister), but that’s the big one.

3. Do you have more physical dysphoria or more social dysphoria?i’d say more social, the physical stuff comes and goes and i can control for a lot of it with clothing

4. What do you do to perform self-care when you’re feeling dysphoric?idk really, i think i just try to distract myself by being around people i trust and just doing something else to get my mind off it. if it’s a physical thing i might change clothes to something that makes it a little less strong.

5. What was the first time you suspected you were transgender?junior year of high school, when my trans male friend was talking to our theater teacher about the complications of passing and being out and shit and mentioned demigenders as a complicating factor in that it’s not as black and white binary as people think

6. When did you realize you were transgender?probably a few months after i started thinking about it, the process was a little weird because i went from “i’m a girl” to “i’m a demigirl” to “i’m agender” and so on, but yeah

7. What is your favorite part of being transgender?this isn’t true of every trans person, but personally i find it very freeing from gender roles and biases. because i’m fluid and have difficulty conceptualizing gender in the first place, i can kind of just respond to any “x gender does this” thing with either “that applies to me” or that it doesn’t, regardless of the gender they name.

8. How would you explain your gender identity to others?i think i’d self-describe as genderfluid. idk what between, but i think it is fluid and it feels different from day to day. i can’t easily conceptualize how gender works, so most of my descriptions are based of vague feelings. lately i’ve been leaning masc (gender-wise, not necessarily presentation-wise).

9. How did you come out? If you didn’t come out, why do you stay in the closet? Or what happened when you were outed?i talked to my mom about it a bunch during the process and that was fine. i didn’t really tell anyone in high school because it never came up and i didn’t know how to bring it up. at college it’s fairly straightforward, it’s customary to share pronouns when you meet people here, so i say i use whatever pronouns and that’s that. i’ve only really gotten into the details of it with [k tag].

10. What have your experiences with packing or wearing breast forms been?haven’t really tried it, i don’t really get bottom dysphoria

11. What are your experiences with binding or tucking?binding works somewhat. i don’t like that i have to wear a shirt over the binder to really get flat; if i just wear the binder it doesn’t look as smooth.

12. Do you pass?i mean the obvious response to this is “as what?” i don’t read male bc i’m smol, have a round face and a girl’s name, etc. in terms of dress i think i’m probably read as queer in some way, because of short hair and occasional “boy” clothes, but idk what people think my gender is by looking.

13. What (if any) steps do you want to take to medically transition?i want top surgery. idk how that’ll work, because i’ve been trying to get it arranged for this summer but being home is a bad experience so idk how that’s going to work. also i haven’t looked into this much but getting rid of the ability to be pregnant would be A+.

14. How long have you been out?since i got to college pretty much, so about 8 months or so

15. What labels have you used before you’ve settled on your current set?so the ones i can remember off the top of my head, in no particular order: demigirl, caedogirl, commogirl, agender, agenderflux, nonbinary girl, stargender

16. Have you ever experienced transphobia?only microaggressions, like people using overly binary language or assuming me to be a girl, etc.

17. What do you do when you have to go to the bathroom in public?my college has all gender neutral bathrooms. elsewise it depends on where i am, if i feel safe doing so i’ll use whichever bathroom is free/closer because i feel like i can identify with both binary genders to the same extent in that case

18. How does your family feel about your trans identity?my mom’s supportive, so’s my dad as far as i can tell, idk if my sister knows and i don’t care, my brother definitely does not know bc i’ve never really explained it to him (and it would be hard bc he’s got some cognitive issues and is still kinda young so it would take a while) but he’s wonderful and i’m sure he would be fine with it

19. Would you ever go stealth, and if you are stealth, why do you choose to be stealth?i wouldn’t. i don’t want to read as binary in either direction.

20. What do you wish you could have shared with your younger self about being trans?i wish i could’ve figured this out when i was like 10. i had major dysphoria all through puberty and ignored it on the basis that it was “probably just body image issues” and that i had “more important things to worry about.” i wish i could’ve known this was a possibility then so i maybe could’ve done something earlier.

21. Why do you use the pronouns you use?i use it pronouns. i don’t like binary pronouns bc i’m not binary, and i don’t like neopronouns bc they’re too weird for me (not that they’re bad, i just don’t personally like them). singular they sits weird in my head because it uses verbs in plural tense, even as a singular word. it is my compromise for that, as a singular gender neutral pronoun. it also has the added benefit of feeling right for when i want to distance myself from personhood, which i do as a mentally ill / autistic thing sometimes.

22. Do your neurodivergencies affect your gender?absofuckinglutely. i can’t conceptualize it. i really like things to make sense bc #autism, and gender doesn’t make any fucking sense.

23. What’s your biggest trans-related fear?i don’t really know. i guess maybe people not letting me be who i am? idk. i’m in a pretty good place wrt physical danger, bc i pass as my agab, live in a pretty liberal place, and am v white. so idk.

24. What medical, social, or personal steps have you already taken to start your transition?ignoring gendered clothing, stopped having periods, telling people i use any pronouns

25. What do you wish cis people understood?i want them to know what it’s like to not be certain in your gender. i can’t understand what that certainty feels like, but it seems really strong in most cis people (and some trans people as well) and i want them to understand that not everyone has that.

26. What impact has being trans affected your life?i mean it’s a major part of my identity, so probably a lot, but idk specifics.

27. What do you do to validate yourself?i really like the phrase “i’m the prettiest boy.” i’ll usually say that in my head when i’m having a good day, or like when i’m getting dressed in the morning and i like my outfit (even if it’s a girly outfit). it’s not technically accurate, bc i’m not really a boy, but i would prefer to be read as a boy than a girl.

28. How do you feel about trans representation in media?it’s pretty shit. there’s a couple good reps, but mostly you don’t really see it. also nonbinary rep is absolutely terrible.

29. Who is your favorite trans celebrity?ngl the only one i know is laverne cox

30. Who is the transgender person who has influenced you the most?idk

31. How are you involved with the trans community, IRL or online?last semester i went to my college’s trans affinity space (this semester it conflicted with a class i’m taking). online i just kinda talk about my gender sometimes, i’m not really that involved.

32. How do you see yourself identifying and presenting in 5 years?probably the same (autistic genderfluid), presenting boy-ish, etc.

33. What trans issue are you most passionate about?i have no passions

(this is a lie i have many SpIns)

34. What advice would you give to other trans people, or what message would you like to share with them?whatever you id as and whatever you feel comfortable sharing is totally cool and you are rad

35. How do you feel your gender interacts with your race, disability, class, weight, etc. from the perspective of intersectionality?i mean i’d honestly say my gender identity is probably a symptom of my disability. aside from that i’ve got the thin white kid privilege in that i look like the stereotypical nonbinary. i’m fairly privileged in terms of trans stuff based on location, circumstances, appearance, etc, so yeah.

36. What, if any, is the difference between your gender identity and your gender expression?i wear what i feel like for the day. i like sundresses, and usually think of myself as more “boy in a dress” though it definitely doesn’t read that way. sometimes i wear more boys clothes, and i think i just read kind of butch rather than “boy”.

37. Do you feel more masculine, feminine, or neither?i lean masc on the basis of i’d rather err on that end of the spectrum. it’s like a balance between how i’m seen and how i feel, and the “girl” end already has a whole bunch of stuff, so i’m balancing it out by being more “boy”

38. What is your sexual and romantic orientation, and what are your thoughts on it?in big words it’s grayromantic acespike. it’s connected to my gender in the sense that it’s probably also a result of being autistic. i’ve only really been attracted to one person (my current bf), and i guess the only comment i’ll make is sometimes there’s an implication that i’m not gay enough, not because of being a-spec but bc the only person i’ve demonstrated attraction towards is the opposite binary gender from my agab. so. that’s a thing.

39. Is your ideal partner also trans, or do you not have a preference?i really don’t care. [d tag] isn’t, and he’s wonderful, so i don’t think it matters to me.

40. How did/do you manage waiting to transition?i just kind of distract myself. there’s only really one thing i want to do, and i’ve been living with dysphoria for long enough that i can kinda just wait it out until it happens.

41. What is the place (blog, website, forum, IRL space) you get most of your info on being trans or on trans related things?tumblr

42. Do you interact with other trans people IRL?i have a bunch of trans friends (not so much in my immediate friend group) but yeah

43. Are you involved in any trans-related activism?no

44. Free space! Answer any question you want, or make up your own question to answer.i don’t have the spoons to come up with a question rn but this was fun

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