#gender doesn't and shouldn't matter basically its just linked to ur sex and whether they match up or not!!

[catboyfeli]

very interesting. honestly i feel like anyone who experiences discomfort from being gendered is valid, and that’s what it takes to actually be nonbinary, not just “feeling” genderless or anything. that’s where being nonbinary is a CHOICE. if you experience no discomfort but just id as nonbinary because it “feels right” then thats where my support immediately ends. trans people aren’t trans because it “feels right.” it’s because they experience discomfort strong enough to warrant them wanting to transition. so yeah, if someone feels discomfort from being seen as male or female, then i’d support them, though it is most likely just fluctuating dysphoria given the nature of how the neurosex works.

i view it as this: if the person identifies as nonbinary due to reasons other than gender roles, gender norms, heteronormativity, or anything similar, then it’s probably valid. so like, a bisexual who feels ~different~ when they date girls wouldn’t be nonbinary. that’s not how gender works and it’s normal for bisexuals to feel different depending on who they date. but, for another example, someone who feels uncomfortable being seen as male or female even if you take away gender norms, is probably the real deal. many people view their ‘gender” as the roles assigned to us by society, which is where my problem lies. not identifying with that role doesn’t make you trans. like, i don’t care whether people see me as female, male, or neither, but that doesn’t make me trans. identifying as trans would be a CHOICE, that’s why i’m not trans.

anyway, as for you, you could be experiencing fluctuating dysphoria, possibly caused by self doubt, or of course the obvious atypical dysphoria. gender can’t fluctuate, but you could possibly have an intersex brain, similar to how intersex people are inbetween sexes? there’s no proof for it yet, and it’s not the most likely given that trans people already have intersex brains (due to how the neurosex and biological sex don’t match up, and the biological sex sends certain chemicals to the brain, causing it to form inbetween genders over time), but it’s not disproven, either.

in my opinion, it’s most likely that atypical dysphoria is caused by the neurosex being sent too many of the opposite gender’s chemicals, causing it to morph into a more intersex brain, and thus feeling weird being seen as either gender. so for example, a trans man is born with a male neurosex and a female biological sex. over the years, his body sends estrogen to his neurosex, causing it to morph from male to an intersex brain with a male base.

alternatively, an intersex person has their body mixing up what chemicals to send, again leading to an intersex gender. as a side note, i do wish they’d change “nonbinary” to “intergender” as it makes more sense imo and keeps things consistent.

i’m gonna shut up now. sorry this is so rambly, it’s just a weird special interest of mine and i never get to yell about it at people dkjdjkldlkj tho i do agree about the whole “gender being how your brain is wired” thing. gender is the connection to one’s sex, for the most part, and social dysphoria is a trigger for biological dysphoria. i feel like people make gender this big, dumb thing and we’d be better off abolishing gender, as a social thing, in its entirety. it should all be about sex and gender just, you know... Doesn’t Exist

also sorry op for yelling on ur post

hmmmmm, how do I say this without being called an evil neurotypical terf who wants enby blood on her hands....but, I want to protect young autistic girls from the gender nonsense convincing so many of them that they’re not girls