#fuck t/rfs and transphobes i hate all of you so fucking much

[salmonsnakerune]

that being said i do have to wonder how much of the uptick in T*RFs has to do with outrage addiction and cancel culture and whatnot becoming so prevalent.

a lot of privileged people (look at how many TERFs are white women) are so badly wanting something to be outraged at but aren’t willing to look at the social structures that already oppress them (sexism from cis men, for an example) or are mis-equating it (believing that trans folk hold privilege over them for whatever reason, or that trans folk are a bigger threat than cis men) and instead find it easier to punch down onto a group they already hold privilege over- in this case transgender people, transgender women specifically- because it’s socially acceptable to do so.

it’s not socially acceptable to challenge the way cis men mistreat cis women and trans folk, especially for tradwife types. and even self-confessed “man hating feminists” join in on this, because they know that they will get social support from nearly every other demographic, because you know what is socially acceptable, and has been happening for decades? shitting on trans folk. and as trans acceptance becomes more mainstream, as we start to push more for legal rights and protections? as outrage addiction becomes more of a cornerstone of our digital society? how people have begun to crave conflict and reasons to be outraged, any reason at all (because outside of outrage addiction and cancel culture, going off at a gay man calling himself “submissive and breedable” because it’s “co-oping the female experience [of breeding]” is fucking ridiculous)?

we see more TERFs coming out of the woodwork gently nudging people in the direction of their rhetoric to engage with their outrage addiction in a way that TERFs specifically find acceptable. they utilise cancel culture to point out trans folk who have done shit (for an older example, think caitlyn jenner, but there are always non-famous examples, because trans folk are not a monolith or a hivemind and there are always going to be shitty people in every demographic) as a reason why trans people are dangerous, or predatory, or “taking away the rights of women”. they prey on the fears of cis women and misdirect them (think of the natural fear cis women experience surrounding sexual assault, and how TERFs manage to misdirect that fear away from cis men and towards those nasty scary transes). and as a result we end up with a mass hysteria of transphobia that has always been there, society has been transphobic for decades, but is now fanned and inflamed by scores of TERFs worming their way into collective psyches because the internet is so far-reaching, because our opinions can hit more people than ever before if you utilise your platform in just the right (or wrong) way, because society as a whole is moving towards shock headlines and cancel culture and outrage addiction.

i don’t know, there’s no massive, poignant point to this, other than that the internet is spreading TERF rhetoric faster than ever before, and i don’t think anyone really knows what the answer to it is other than calling out TERF dogwhistles and not giving them platforms. they’re a hate group, sure, and in some cases domestic terrorists- look at the UK- but aside from pushing harder for awareness and acceptance, and teaching people about those dogwhistles and deplatforming TERFs, it does feel like there’s not much of a way to push back any meaningful amount. and i don’t think i’m the only trans person that feels hopeless in the face of it.

[eldritchtouched]

I relate very heavily to Mohg and Miquella both in very, very different ways, so I always find it very frustrating that people act like one can only like one or the other and generally demonizing the other in some way. 

(This demonization is notable. There are Miquella fans who go with the “creepy rapist stalker in love with someone gay” trope for Mohg as if that isn’t laden in a mix of not understanding that rapists do not love the people who they rape otherwise they wouldn’t rape them and old tropes and assumptions about gayness as some malignant perversion and that gay people are more prone to rape (not so), and Mohg fans who go with the “Miquella basically brainwashes people into loving him all the time” instead of the possibility that Miquella is compelling to most without his magic because he is a good person who realizes the Golden Order’s completely fucked up and offers refuge and safety for outcasts.)

I relate to Miquella is because of the issue with his apparent youth and a lot of the shit there. I am transitioning over a decade after I’ve figured out my shit and so it is very strange to essentially go through (my proper) puberty in my late twenties. On top of that, I’ve always had a babyface, so I was already seen as younger than I was, so this just exacerbates it because I’m only recently having my voice drop and my facial hair is a patchy mess. 

Then you add in the general infantilization of transmasculinity, the “our daughters are being brainwashed into chopping off their breasts!” and so on and so forth, and there’s a lot I find relatable about it. It’s also why I find the discourse surrounding Miquella’s relationships and how, despite him being an adult that he shouldn’t have relationships because he looks young, noxious. I’ve dead-ass seen transphobic and homophobic takes about how gay men who are attracted to trans men are all secretly pedophiles because somehow top surgery makes one’s chest “prepubescent” and because of how earlier in transition one’s features look younger than average to many. It’s straight up a T*RF talking point and a chunk of the Elden Ring fandom has latched onto it so readily, even supposedly progressive fans as if that isn’t deeply close to something obviously fucked up.

I relate to Mohg because of the rejection and hatred, being outcast, and turning toward anger at having been hurt by a fucked up system. This is also why I ultimately pity Morgott and find him in a weird nebulous place, incidentally, because Morgott is basically trying to make himself palatable to the people who hate him, while Mohg’s whole thing is “be gay, do crime.” Which just proves a point that many who say “be gay, do crime” really don’t get that it’s not just a slogan. Even a fictional character doing fucked up shit after being fucked over by a regime that commits genocide and threw him in the sewers as a baby is apparently too much for them.

(There’s also some stuff surrounding religious stuff I will not get into in depth because I see it as deeply private, but the idea that a deity associated with blood and darkness is necessarily malicious, and the notion that the Formless Mother is a “corruption” leave deeply sour tastes in my mouth for that reason. And, as Miriel points out “all things can be conjoined.” The idea of corruption and purity are made up and actively seek to separate instead of conjoin.)

[givelifetoaworld]

i stopped binding for months because i thought it was hurting my chances of top surgery. found out later that was a t/er*f thing and i was so fucking mad because i was just suffering with dysphoria for no reason.

i’ve been told personally that “radical feminism is always waiting for me” by someone hoping to get transmascs to “return to womanhood”.

i have seen self proclaimed te*rf*s specifically target trans men and slowly poison them with lies about transitioning to the point where they became afraid of identifying as transmasc.

you cannot be fucking serious by thinking that they aren’t targeting us. are they transmisogynistic? of course? do YOU a know what that means though, or is it just a buzzword to you? because you people are fucking transmisogynists. is “tme” something to slap in your bio if you’re not a transfem? do you actually understand the terms that you’re using? do you understand that transmascs are read as women on the daily because society hates us so much, meaning that we experience misogyny?? or do you think we all look like white hypermasc cis men. because you value us “passing”, because you’re a piece of shit who think we need to look or act a certain way to “prove” our identities?

oh and before you even think it: transmascs can be transmisogynists. there’s a popular tiktok transmasc lesbian who was recently revealed to be a violent transmisogynist for example! we are not exempt from being transmisogynistic, as no one is. even transfems can be. you need to understand and i mean really understand that t/e/r/*f ideology is not solely transmisogyny, though.

there are simply too many people who genuinely believe transmisogyny is the only “valid” transphobic experience, and at the same time, hold trans women to such high, unbelievable standards that apparently it’s okay to bombard them with violence the second they have a take you don’t agree with.

idk i’m just fucking exhausted of watching trans women be incredibly smart and insightful and so compassionate toward the trans community as a whole then y’all stupid motherfuckers be like “SHES A TERRRRFFFFF” because she suggested trans men have issues too. you hold us to such high fucking standards because you’re an insecure internet leftist and have no clue what you’re fucking saying at any given time.

y’all ACTUALLY think t/e*rf/s constantly spreading false info about hormones to get us to detransition, spreading false info about binding dangers to get us to stop, literally actively infiltrating transmasc spaces to spread false information to make us self hating for “being men” and “abandoning womanhood”... you ACTUALLY think that means they LIKE us??? WHAT????