#for clarification I'm using the word 'abusive' in the classic literal sense | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

ouroboobos · 6 months ago

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If you were abused (especially in childhood) your ability to navigate relationships and interpersonal conflicts is most likely stunted because your social skills and attitudes were molded around a highly irrational traumatic environment that does not translate effectively into everyday life. Subsequent uncomfortable truth is that you almost definitely developed abusive patterns of behavior to survive and you can't victim your way out of it. And it sucks really bad because it's literally not your fault that you were placed in an environment where those behaviors made sense. You have to confront those patterns and be very real with yourself about it otherwise it simply will not get better and then the cycle will continue on.

#♥︎#for clarification I'm using the word 'abusive' in the classic literal sense #not necessarily to describe an actual chronic abuser with consistent abusive behavior #although you could definitely also be that. regardless its your job to fix it #sorry its 2 am and im thanking about recovery because it SUCKS‼️‼️‼️ but this is one of those elements a lot of people desperatelt avoid #and i get why i really really do. its really uncomfortable for anyone #but especially survivors because we dont want to admit to anything that might liken us to our abusers. its really fucking upsetting #but 1) ultimately doesnt matter its still your responsibility and youre the only one who can do it #2) taking on certain behaviors to survive does not necessarily make you anything like your abuser #or ''just as bad as them''#but idk i think also a lot of people are like ''oh well im scared of being abusive so i could never be abusive!'' which is just not true #anyway whatevaaar i have to go to sleep... 🫶💤#abuse #ask to tag #abuse recovery #actually cptsd #actually traumatized

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