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[creaturecomplications]

Hello! I know I don't really have an audience since I haven't really posted, and I haven't been reblogging or liking for a while due to anxiety stuff I'm dealing with, but this felt important enough to me to post. If you are attacking Jewish people over the war against Hamas you should block me and continue on your way. If you are Jewish you are welcome on my blog, you are welcome to message me and educate me on the conflict, your culture, your current fixation, WHATEVER. Admittedly, I probably won't be able to message back or do much interaction with other blogs again for a while yet, but I DO plan on trying to post some fandom content on here since I like to write and want to work on my anxiety issues and I would like to hear from people while I do so even if I can't reply right now. So there you go, treaty inbox like the void and shout about whatever at me. That said, antisemites and others being intentionally bigoted will be blocked and reported.

[findmeinthefallair]

It's me again. The therapist/illustrator who can't stop squeaking and screaming about her beloved son Hunter.

I've been thinking nonstop about him finding the terrible grimwalker graveyard, imagining what would be going through my mind if I were him. Sifting through whatever moments, dialogue and frames that I can find from the existing material, along with references outside of the show, to formulate what an offscreen scene would've been like.. (And seeing if I can find editable and salvageable enough backgrounds so I could perhaps even depict this scene one day)

A soul like him who not only wants to help others, but also acquire knowledge:

heading back here to see the graveyard:

You can't tell me that this wouldn't still be on his mind, and he's even anxious while saying this below, scratching his face a little:

Whether he follows up on this or not, also depends on how he looks back on being shown this:

And is he just going to go cold turkey and totally drop these leads he was pursuing in the episodes before the finale? :

Three things prompted me to finally write this post:

@polyhexian's and @ashanimus's analyses of Hunter's fight scenes in Hunting Palismen and Eclipse Lake (links here and here, they're really cool to read!!), based on their years of experience with martial arts. Reading those was a revelation to me because learning about how high Hunter's skill level is, how in touch with his body he is by default, portrayed so well thanks to the crew...that allows me to make far more educated guesses about his mental health in the early stages of the pre-epilogue gap of about 4 years. Because he is so used to high activity and being on high alert, no thanks to having C-PTSD.

Observing how light and free Hunter's expressions are, and how transformed his demeanor became, in the epilogue sequence. That transformation is an indication to me of the magnitude of grief which had to be transformed within him. To be put back together, in order to be so radiant, generous and self-actualized in the epilogue...imagine how much had to be deconstructed and further broken beforehand. He wouldn't have room to fill his life up with all that amazing newness if the old isn't emptied out first.

This psychoeducational video by my fave author, also a practicing therapist, who specializes in traumatic grief: link. Hearing her address the topic of entering the second year after a bereavement vs. the first year, was interesting. Definitely confirms to me that Hunter wouldn't have carved Waffles until past the 2nd year of navigating his bereavement.

In the years that pass before the epilogue, Hunter will not be able to understand why the efforts he puts into all the rebuilding work, coordinating and leading others, and trying to have fun - only cycle back to him experiencing a mix of a restlessness and emptiness in the deepest layer of his mind. It'll exhaust his energy bit by bit. I bet he's going to generally look as tired as depressed Luz does below, even if he's had an acceptable hours of sleep per night:

That restlessness will be an awful psychological itch that he'll be unable to scratch, caused by losing Flapjack and now also Belos. This is the same as what happened with his anger in For the Future, except Belos was still alive back then. It will be harder to understand and messier to navigate the bereavement this time round. It'll be something gnawing into his soul which I really think only professional help can heal, especially since the show promotes that it's okay to not be okay, and more than okay to seek professional help (Steve and Lilith's conversation in Edge of the World).

He will be trying to claw his way out of that C-PTSD pit, but he'll be aware deep down that he simply cannot reach any emotional high points for long, and something will be blocking his feelings of connection with his loved ones. He won't feel nearly as free and easy the way he used to be in the human realm:

Having a routine like he used to in the Castle, and moving around a lot, was what helped him survive. However, he won't have the awareness that the shift resulting from Belos passing away has been at such a fundamental level: to the point that those old, supposedly tried-and-true methods no longer serve him in any positive way. At least, not until his mental health will be back in better shape.

As he puts in more and more effort to escape that restless emptiness, getting annoyed at himself because he doesn't know what's going on...he'll use up the rest of his strength and eventually crash. That itch won't be solved by going back to overworking tendencies, and like how it is with addiction cycles, he would need some kind of fix for the deep restlessness within. The answer? Productivity to feel useful, which we have seen even in his efforts to fix damaged clothing and well, making stuff in general.

Where the grimwalker graveyard comes in is...once he hears news about its existence, he will stubbornly insist to want to help in investigating it, saying he has already read a bunch of books about them, and can be useful, etc. Worse, if his offer to help to investigate is refused, he will do what he did in Eclipse Lake. Go to the location anyway, to fill that deep void within.

Old habits die hard.

I don't know if he may hear from King (who he'll be seeing fairly often, I think!), The Collector or even Kikimora about it. Since they were the three characters who went all the way down there in King's Tide, and The Collector already knew about these horrors for literal centuries. King and The Collector are also still young kids! Will they have the sensitivity and awareness about breaking this news to Hunter?!

On the other hand, I don't know how the timing will be with Darius, Raine and Eberwolf..Darius will want to get serious about investigating his mentor's disappearance. Once the searching and scouring extends to the location of the Head of the Titan, they will find the evidence staring them in the face. If they want to scour every inch of the Isles, there's also a high chance they'll find the godforsaken grimwalker lab.

Worst of all, Darius would be aware by then of how much Hunter loves to help out in operations like this to be productive. At the same time, Darius's own grief will surface even more, I'm not sure he'll be able to hide that, and Hunter is highly observant. If Darius is trying to hide his own priority of finding closure re: his mentor, I think Hunter will sense that.

Therefore I wonder if this will happen except it's Hunter with Darius:

and then this poor beloved skrunkly son of mine, who so famously said these words at the beginning of his arc:

is probably going to get reckless, and endanger his mental health...not unlike moments like this:

by venturing to the graveyard, whether stealthily or accompanying the grownups, because he'll rationalize it as "getting closure" and once again "being useful". Remember how used he is to moving around so much and being active, combined with growing up isolated so that asking for help can still be a foreign concept to him. He would be anxious about grinding to a halt, and he'd want to be on the move instead.

He may demand to see the graveyard, and holy Titan I'm not sure any dilemma will be as tricky for Camila and Darius to navigate as this one. Because preventing him from seeing something he already knows exists is, in a very twisted way, also an unhelpful form of avoidance. Avoidance is a hallmark criterion for diagnosing both PTSD and C-PTSD.

How far do they go in protecting him from himself? Where do they draw that line? They might reach a compromise where Camila and Darius accompany him there. Once he sees it, it'll hit harder than this:

Letting him see it means his new parents would have to fall with him, in the sense that they follow him to that emotional place: but while he figuratively does not have a safety harness when falling into this deep dark hole, Camila and Darius are equipped with harnesses a.k.a. higher maturity, less of a trauma history, and some tools to help him get better, navigate the trauma, and manage his symptoms.

Camila will have the warmth and sensitivity to catch and meet him as he falls (she interacts with animals in her profession, who don't have the capacity for human language, in a similar way to how serious trauma can't even be put into words at times: it makes you voiceless). Darius's shared past living in the Castle and grieving over his mentor will help Hunter not feel as alone once he has seen these horrors.

And because his heart generally became more open to receiving love and support,

I doubt he'll close himself off almost completely, the way he did in the first two-thirds of For the Future (god, remember these deleted storyboards??):

It wouldn't surprise me if he weeps and panics as soon as he sees the graveyard, and his parents give him maximum support through that breakdown. As complicated as it would be for Camila and Darius to give in to his desire to see the graveyard, a response like this from him - a child seeking attachment with proper timing - is a good sign of growing into healthy attachment with parental figures.

It is an arguably better response than one of the hardest aspects of C-PTSD: where the outpouring of grief only happens after a delay, sometimes a significant delay, at very inconvenient or strange times. Hell...if I were Hunter, I'd probably want Camila and Darius to just hold me close in wordless silence for half an hour until my initial distress and shock passes.

If I use King - a child who is securely attached to Eda, who's definitely had a more stable upbringing - as a control experiment here, he could have the appropriate response immediately in Echoes of the Past and expressed his emotional needs clearly enough:

Whereas this is what Hunter has to now learn, at twice King's age, as he settles in with new parents who take care of him instead of mistreating him the way Belos did. Hell, I can't imagine what kind of Belos punishment awaited him if he cried to demand attachment.

(I need to use more King scenes as a comparison to Hunter's upbringing in my next metas! I realize this can make my explanations clearer)

Anyway, what may happen next after he can't unsee the graveyard is...Hunter will then swing to the other extreme of high activity. I.e. being passive, physically inactive and psychologically crashing into depression, which may translate into habits such as oversleeping (catching up on all that lost sleep...but at what cost?). Supposedly sliding deeper into the C-PTSD pit. A place from which he has to express the desire to seek the forms of help he needs.

Remember that this kid has only known extremes for most of his life. Until he settles in properly with his found family and attends therapy, he has no clear reference point for more balanced approaches in living.

The trauma he went through is a quadruple whammy for a 16-year-old who just survived growing up in a cult. It would be so much. I can't see him not falling into months of deep dark depression, as unfortunate as this sounds.

Grieving over Flapjack, grieving over Belos, over his childhood/upbringing, and now a grisly memory of his predecessors who didn't make it (to add to what he saw in Belos's mindscape). I simply cannot see him handling a load like this without a highly-equipped and sensitive professional, paired with his support network of family, friends and even possibly the wider community at times. Especially now that we've seen him in action during the epilogue.

The epilogue sequence would've had a different feel (and in my opinion, a not-so-good feel) for me if Dana had established that the grimwalker graveyard was still untouched after those 3.5-4 years and if Hunter never found out about it. Something like that is different compared to Dana mentioning in the recent Post-Hoot that in the he does not know about Caleb and Evelyn, or that he is related to the Clawthornes. Mysteries like the Clawthorne heritage can remain an eerie secret that only us in the audience know about, but I wouldn't feel comfy if this were the case for the graveyard as well.

To quote @idlescree's video essay about Hunter's death (link), the show's writers didn't pull any punches when it came to Hunter's development arc. Which means they had to take his story to the "categorically appropriate place for him to overcome" his greatest challenges.

Something tells me that with respect to the grimwalker graveyard and the avoidance theme in C-PTSD recovery, Hunter would've had to put in more work to confront a number of terrifying foes even beyond his Thanks to Them speech. One of which was the graveyard containing the remains of his predecessors.

PS: This is a spontaneous post which branches out from my giant post-finale meta (link) that I pinned to my blog, I suppose.

[destinyc1020]

Destiny I need your opinion 😭

I stopped being a timothee fan after he made that tasteless joke a few months ago (I was slowly losing interest in him anyways but that was the icing on the cake), and I don’t really care to see anything with him in it. Also, I’ve been VERY vocal about Palestine and the genocide going on is Gaza/Rafah, so I’m very much pro-Palestine. However, between my love for zendaya/florence (& lowkey infatuation with Austin) and all the flodaya press interviews/outfits, I’ve been interested in maybe giving dune 2 a chance. I’ve been seeing thousands of people for months on twitter saying they’re boycotting dune 2 given its appropriating nature and timothee’s lowkey zionistic antics, and I do agree those are valid points. But I’m starting to get an itch to get a dune 2 ticket 😭 internally I feel heavily conflicted and also kind of fraudulent because I’ve been a heavy boycott advocate but now I’m starting to reflect and questioning whether boycotting the movie is even the correct route. I know it’ll ultimately be up to me, but I’d love to hear your thoughts cause I’m fighting a battle with myself on this.

Hey Anon! 👋🏾

I almost feel like your ask is a "Confession Sunday" ask hahaha. 😅

There are a lot of conflicting emotions in this post of yours lol. 🤭

Anyway, I'll be honest, I'm very HESTITANT in even breaching this topic again because I really don't like discussing political issues on my blog. It can be very contentious, divisive, and get people very heated. Not only that, but I feel like no matter what side of the fence you sit on, I always end up getting attacked in my inbox by someone who passionately feels differently from me.

I can't speak on certain issues because I just don't feel comfortable enough with knowing both sides to weigh in on them. So, my disclaimer is that I'm not coming at your question with an "educated" or "well-rounded" political historical viewpoint. I'm just an average person. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I don't like conflict, and I don't like drama. I try to stay out of it as much as possible.

With that said...... TL;DL Version: Anon, you have my permission to watch this movie lol, or not. Basically, do whatever you want lol 😅

The LONG Version: Below 👇

My Honest Opinion?

Like I've said before, people are FREE to do whatever they want with regards to this "Dune: Part 2" movie (and ANY movie for that matter). What bothers one person might not bother another. Ykwim? I just feel like no matter what decision a person makes, they shouldn't be judged for it either way. It's THEIR choice.

Spare yourself the inner turmoil Anon lol. It's JUST a movie. It's not like it's a Governmental declaration, or a formal political statement. As much as Timothee was insensitive and messed up with that SNL skit.... I'm sorry, but he is NOT the only cast member in this film. Nor is he the only individual that worked on it (cast, crew, director, stunt people, etc) And if you have a genuine interest in, or are a fan of some of the OTHER cast members in the film (i.e. Zendaya, Florence, Austin, Rebecca, Christopher Walken, etc.) then why should the rest of the cast be punished just because of the stupid/silly insensitive actions of their ONE cast member?? 🥴

Is that really fair to the rest of the cast, crew, and others who worked tirelessly HARD on this movie? 🤔 I don't care for what Jonathan Majors did to his gf, but that doesn't mean that I'm personally never going to watch the movie "Creed 3" again. That movie was hard work, and Michael B. Jordan's directorial debut. It was a GOOD film. Why should Michael be punished just cuz his co-star is an a**hole?? 🥴

Another thing.... This movie is going to make BANK regardless of if you or others decide to see it or NOT. 👀

I think if the FILM itself were preaching anti-Palestine rhetoric, or it was a formal declaration of political views on the Gaza/Palestine and Israel conflict, then I think I would feel very differently about this film.

Another thing I wonder: Has Timmy himself come out and said that he is against Gaza/Palestine?? 🤔 (Serious question) Has he provided his stance on the conflict? His "Hamas" skit (which wasn't the entire joke btw) was insensitive, yes, but do we REALLY know his real stance on this issue? Or, did he just underestimate how insensitive that skit was (that he didn't even write btw)?

I also look at how the cast has treated him. The cast KNOWS him personally. If they really had an issue with him, we would know it. You can only hide your disgust for a person for so long....no matter if you're an "actor" or not. It will come out in small ways eventually (i.e. body language, little glances, facial expressions, etc). The fact that the cast seems not only fine with Timmy, but genuinely HAPPY with him is pretty telling to ME.

Like I said, they know him way better than we do. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Lastly, The film is being praised as one of the best films of all time (kind of a stretch if you ask me, but hey, WB loves this type of marketing lol).... It actually seems like it's going to be GOOD film. Are you going to skip it just because of one person? That's just a question for inner reflection. I could see if the movie SUCKED or is getting horrid reviews lol, but it actually seems like the film is being enjoyed tremendously by most people. Many are saying it's even better than Part 1. 👀

With all of that said.....

If it really bothers your conscience that you support Gaza but might want to see this movie that stars Timothee in the lead role, then just do whatever YOU feel is best for YOU Anon. 😊 Imo, nobody should judge you either way, and people online (who don't even know you personally btw) shouldn't have a say on YOUR life. But if it bothers you that deeply, then simply don't watch! It's just as simple as that lol. 😊 Nobody is forcing you to watch, just like nobody should be forcing you to NOT watch.

I'll be curious to see what decision you make Anon lol. You should come back here and tell us. Either way, you won't get any judgement on it from me. If it means anything, you have my "permission" Anon (not that you needed it lol) to go and watch this movie lol. 🤭 Like I said before, it's JUST a movie, it's JUST a piece of art. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[lastwave]

Hello, if you have the energy, time and will, would you expand on the recent post you made on how people in fandom talk about the skills and how harry feels about them? Like, what kind of things people say are hurtful/inaccurate/uncomfortable, in relation to disco elysium?

I do not mean to pressure you to educate me on this topic, as it is not the responsibility of the affected to educate unknowing people just because they are affected, of course. I just have not found many sources discussing the microaggression regarding the way some people talk about the skillset in disco elysium and the way that they might differ from the general microsaggression about psychosis and systems.

I ask this because I am curious about the way other people experience the world (though I know I will not always get my curiosity sated and this might be a selfish reason) and I want to know what not to do or say in talks about the skillset or in depictions of the skillset in art or writing. I want to be able to discuss and use the skillset as a game mechanic, narrative device and characters in a way that minimizes harm to marginalized groups. I also know that venting or talking about frustrations can sometimes help make one feel better, (but I also know that that depends on the person, problem and the relationship between the venter and the person listening) so maybe this can help relieve some feelings? Those are my intentions with this ask.

I apologize if my careful wording is too overly careful or if this question in other ways causes you unnecessary strife. I just try to be a careful person when it comes to these topics. If you'd rather only respond to me personally instead of the ask, feel free to message me. Whatever way you wanna handle this, if it be publicly as a post, a private message or if you do not feel like you want to answer at all.

Whatever you choose, I wish you the best day that you can have today. Kind regards, Chromatophorium

hiii thank u for asking!

im gonna preface the system bit with whether or not harry & his skills are a system is never explicitly stated, so take this all with a grain of salt

the rest is under the readmore so i don't clog up peoples dashboards

so what gets me is a lot of works imply the skills are less as people than Harry. i understand where the assumption comes from tho, because a lot of media likes to purport the idea of an "original" alter, which isn't how the disorder works. harry is the current host, and he identifies with the body, but the host isn't any more or less person than the other alters.

& we know the skills have independent thought from harry and their own, even if some (or a lot) of them share similar goals (see electrochemistry and volition, two very different personalities w/ different thoughts on how to go about things, but share a goal of keeping the system experiencing joy, though echem has considerably worse coping mechanisms). hell, they even have different political affiliations (see different routes) and a method of coming to a consensus on information (thought cabinet.)

and, as implied in the name, the skills have different talents from harry. *harry's* talent is connecting with people. i interpret the red checks with other skills as trying to let another alter front. i know ive had moments where i've had to let a way more socially adept alter take over. this would be a slightly different conversation if he was implied to be polyfragmented, but hes not soo.

that's why im less inclined to believe theyre a delusion or supernatural thing (shivers excluded, shes definitely supernatural), bc on the most part the skills just act like people, and all display signs of did/osdd (amnesia, distinct personalities, dissociation, etc.) if u want i can make a separate post going into individual skills and how i think they fit how certain alters form, but thats off topic

ANYWAY. it irks me when people boil the skills down to "this is the one that wants good things and this is the one that wants silly things and this is the one that wants bad things" bc it really falls easily into the negative stereotypes applied to systems & by extension psychotic people

[studentinpursuitofclouds]

Lance appreciation post!

it's something I saw about Sebastian and I thought it was a cute idea so feel free to add more (I didn't have a lot of ideas)

- he loves monsters and researching more about them, he is pretty respectful when he does so (14 heart event)

- overall he is super respectful and such a gentleman as seen in many of his interactions

- a nerd <3

Oh, I've been itching to write something about Lance for a long time, and you gave me a reason to add a little more headcanon for my favorite character 😃 I added comments to your headcanons because they are great ❤️❤️❤️

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- he loves monsters and researching more about them, he is pretty respectful when he does so (14 heart event) - absolutely (but it was 12❤️ event 😅). I really like how respectful and responsible he was in studying the monster. In my mind, in the circle of magicians and adventurers, people mainly study monsters to understand how it is easier to kill them for the valuable monster loot or simply exterminating them as parasites. Lance mentions more than once in his dialogues (both in normal ones and in his spouse’s dialogues) that monsters are “something more than a set of fangs and claws trying to kill all living things”, therefore he treats all living things with respect, and will pull out a sword against monsters only when absolutely necessary.

- overall he is super respectful and such a gentleman as seen in many of his interactions - here his parents/guardians are real really the best. Of course, Lance may have such a character in view of his self-education, but I am more inclined to the version that he was instilled with the golden rule "good manners are the key to everything" as a child. They did everything possible to bring up a good person in Lance.

- a nerd <3 - you are absolutely right, and no one will convince me that Lance is not a nerd. I wrote more than one headcanon that he is a secret board game lover and often talks with Jadu on all sorts of different nerdy topics.

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I have a few ideas about Lance headcanon 😃 These ideas are mostly general, but maybe I'll discover something new in them and be able to write more headcanons:

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gossip (respectful) - if I'm not mistaken, @nimillaarts first mentioned this Lance headcanon. I did a couple of studies on this, and this headcanon has every right to exist. But while Lance may be a gossip, I think he will not overstep the bounds in discussing recent events due to his good upbringing.

collector - he's sentimental about his small collection, whether it's enchanted rings and artifacts or just seashells he finds while on patrol.

he is ambidextrous - given that Lance, at his rather young age for a magician (I give somewhere up to 26-27 years old), is a talented combat magician, I believe his magic gift and innate abilities contributed to this. He learns quickly, solves difficult problems quickly, writes his book with both hands with equal efficiency, etc.

big fan of chivalric novels - although I mentioned earlier that in my headcanon, it is the parents that are the main reason for Lance's well-bred upbringing, I also believe that our gallant adventurer still gained some experience of communicating with people from such novels. Let's be honest, Lance in the game talks and acts like a noble knight. Of course, unlike the heroes of all these books, he is prudent and not overflowing with pathos. But still, there is a resemblance in Lance to the heroes of chivalric novels in books that Lance likes to read in his spare time.

[kaija-rayne-author]

To say this is a touchy topic for me is the world's biggest understatement. I have massive trauma issues because of people accusing me of meaning something that isn't even close to what I wrote/said.

I've had people tell me, the person who wrote the thing, that I mean the exact opposite of what I communicated. Shouldn't I, the person who wrote the thing, know best what I mean? It's infantilizing and gross. It's beyond disrespectful. It's ableist.

NT people loooove to pin communication problems on Autistic & ADHD people. And frankly? We're the only ones who communicate clearly. I can always tell if someone I'm talking to is NT or not by how they react to things I say, especially if there's been a misunderstanding. An autistic or ADHD person will usually want clarification, they won't usually get upset, they just want to know how it happened and whether they can avoid doing it in the future. Because, by and large, we're hard wired to avoid hurting people. Most of us really hate it even if we cause accidental harm. Then once we've talked about it, they're happy to apologize and move on. NTs start by slinging accusations, usually from the get go, and it gets worse from there.

Using accusatory language with someone you disagree with is shitty behavior, people. Do better.

Autistic & ADHD people are always accused of all sorts of nasty things by people who assume things about our words. I'm so beyond sick of it that I'm not going to show any grace or understanding about it anymore.

We're around 1/20 people now. That's 1 autistic or ADHD or combo to every neurotypical person. It's long past time for NTs to learn how to communicate with us.

What will NTs do when they're in the minority and all the rest of the world communicates in ways that are logical and based on facts? When they're the ones who are socially penalized for how they communicate? I doubt they'll do any better with it than we do.

It's one of the worst things NTs do to us. And to be fair, many baby/unhatched NDs do it too, because they mistakenly think that they'll be accepted if they pretend hard enough. They won't be, but they haven't come to understand that yet. So they harm other NDs to gain faux acceptance. And it's a daily experience.

Autistic & ADHD people, generally, are very careful about the words we use. To make sure that what we're communicating is what we mean, and only what we mean. Your insecurities and issues are yours! You need to deal with it! Not push the blame for whatever you're experiencing because of our words onto us!

Our pathological caution is a trauma response from people misunderstanding, assuming, and filling in things that do not exist in things we say for most of our lives.

If you're talking to an autistic or ADHD person, the words written are exactly what they mean. There's no hidden meaning, there's no accusation, it's just the fucking words on the page/screen. That's it.

If you read anything further into it, that's completely on you, not the autistic or ADHD person. That underhanded method of communication is strictly an NT thing. It's shit communication.

Communication rule 1. Don't assume.

Rule 2. Listen without planning your response.

Rule 3. Think about what you mean before you say it.

I learned those as part of therapy, and whoo boy do NT people really need to learn them. There're more, but that's not the point of this post.

If I've written something, it is well researched, has all of my ridiculous amount of education behind it, and it's my thoughts, my opinion, on my blog. It should be taken that way. I have had far more than enough of people accusing me of saying or meaning things I have not said. Don't like something I say? Feel free to block me. Especially on tumblr. This is my space. I'm not sugar coating or softening what I say here at all. This is as unfiltered as I get. And I like it that way. You don't? There's the door, don't let it hit you on the way out.

It really makes me question peoples reading comprehension. Most people seem to have the reading comprehension of a carrot. Which is probably an unfair comparison for the carrot. If it were just a communication issue, whatever, but it’s not.

Do you have any idea of the cost Autistic & ADHD people pay? To be so careful and worried about our language usage? Imagine having to weigh every single word you ever say or write. Imagine having to twist and turn every single word, then every sentence, then every paragraph to try to see how someone could misinterprete it. Imagine living in traumatized fear of being misunderstood, again. Even if we're not harassed off social media or summarily rejected from social groups, most of us have this trauma long before we leave elementary school. And it's cumulative.

It's fact that most of us die before we're 36. I'm 46, almost 47. I'm past my expiration date. I'm fed the fuck up with shitty communication. I'm old, and cranky, and I've had it.

This isn't a light issue. It's life threatening. You are killing us with your assumptions. Stop. It.

[raes-writing-space]

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Tags I Use For Mature Writings Are: "Lemon", "NSFW", "NSFT", or "Smut" blacklist if necessary. (Especially anyone under 18)

Topics I will NOT write about or engage in conversation about:

Anything non-consensual

Specific power dynamics, for instance: - Teacher/student (even if student is of legal age) - Boss/employee (unless both adults are consenting) - Huge human age gaps like... 6+ years or more... This is dependent on how old the characters are, 30/36 is okay, but I will not talk about 17/23 or even 19/25 or even 21/27. (Monster age gaps however, are kinda different in my brain don’t ask me why.)

DDLG (Just.... can’t do it...)

Fandom Ships, I refuse to get into ship discourse when I legitimately could not care.

Incest, Pedophilia, etc.

(Possibly More Will Be Added)

NOTES ABOUT MY WRITING:

I want to remind everyone that these characters are fictional/fake, and so while I WILL NOT write about characters who are portrayed as very childish or mentally of more child-like age (For instance, like Ortho from TWST, or Luke from Obey Me) in mature things, and their prompts will ONLY be PLATONIC. I WILL write about the other characters in mature themes. Whether you want to imagine the characters/readers in the story are the same age, or of legal age is up to you. I WILL NEVER condone ever writing about pedophilia in any capacity, so, for instance, I've seen people who intentionally have the reader be of legal age, with a younger character, or vice versa. I will NEVER do that.

If I write something problematic, PLEASE let me know so I can fix it!! I want this to be a safe space for everybody. If you explain it to me why it’s problematic, I really don’t mind changing it or deleting it, I’d rather be educated than blindly keep making the same mistakes when I don’t realize what it is I’m actually doing wrong.

If you recognize some of my writings, please look at this post explaining: "Update"

As always, stay safe, if you have any questions or comments, feel free to send in an "Ask", Thank you!

[aviswriting]

Navigation

Okay, instead of just making a list of all the topics I'd like to write articles for, I decided I'd make a massive navigation post. It can be tiresome to scroll through a whole blog to find the right chapter, so here's links for all the stories, the titles of articles (well it's just the one for right now) I've completed, and a list of questions/subjects I will write about. :)) This will be edited as that information actually becomes relevant. I don't have much on this blog yet.

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The Curious Cases of Caddel

Prologue . . .

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Articles I've completed!

1st Corinthians, 6:12

Creation vs. Evolution (not technically an article but I don't plan on expanding past what is said here)

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Dragon Borne/Morana (sorry if the title is confusing, the tag is #morana, who is the oc for that story)

Prologue

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List of Subjects I Will (or Want to) Write About

Predestination Vs. Free Will (oh boy. I won't be doing this any time soon xD)

What does "humanist" mean? And how is it used?

What does "totalitarian" mean? And how is it used?

What does "Arminian" mean?

Review for [x] book

Why aren't Mormons Christians? (I don't mean to alienate anyone with this one, but whether or not tumblr likes it does not matter. It's an important question)

Why Unity in the Church is of the upmost importance (speaking of... I will probably/hopefully read Bede's history before I answer this :)) I have it somewhere, it's a matter of finding it in my... millions of books.. I don't have a bookshelf.....)

[Bible chapter, verse(s)]

How should modesty be handled in the modern age?

Should we reference books outside of the Bible for Biblical guidance/answers?

Nakedness in art (I will be reading Francis Shaeffer before answering this)

Salvation (I should maybe work on this article next. It's to be decided though)

Can/should women be in positions of worldly power and/or leadership? (I'm either gonna piss a lot of people off with this or tumblr will be surprisingly normal about it)

Why women shouldn't be pastors or hold positions of authority in the church (all based out of the Bible baby)

On Catholicism (yet another thing that might alienate me from some of tumblr, but it's an important subject within the Christian realm)

How should Christians interact with other cultures and religions?

How should Christians interact with cuss words?

The Medieval dragon vs. the modern

What does being "Reformed" mean?

What is an "Evangelist?"

Is subjectivity a Biblical concept? Or: Can we interpret God's guiding words to apply different to different people? (A bit of a weirder or more nuanced concept?)

On meditation

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PLEASE NOTE: The articles are for my own education and to teach me about the world. You might notice the "what does [x] mean" subjects. I like defining my terms.

I'm not here to argue or stir up controversy. I'm here to learn. If you want to interact and discuss, (with overall friendly tones), please feel free to do so! I love seeing other people's ideas and thoughts. I however have some anger issues so if you want to argue or debate... I will either lose motivation really quickly or won't engage. It's not good for my health to argue with strangers online (wow imagine that) and it just causes me to be extremely negative. Please understand; I apologize if my weakness irritates you or you think I'm a "snowflake" for being like this, but no amount of exposure therapy seems to "fix" this. It's just how I am and it's not conducive to my learning. If you want to discuss, however, and simply present what you think, please don't think it falls on deaf ears even if I tell you I disagree. I don't imagine I would respond to you in a cavalier manner, (I mean, for Lord's sake I can't seem to shut up), but even if I do just please be aware that this is the internet and you can't see my face or the time I'm spending sitting around thinking about stuff.

That being said, I love sharing ideas! It's my high. :)) I mean, I want to be a journalist with an interest in culture and theology, so .... checks out. And please do correct me if something is factually and objectively wrong (though if it's simply a difference in theology... You'll have to prove it). I want this blog to be very friendly but dealing with serious ideas. It's for my own personal enjoyment and I will put myself first when it comes to how I operate my blog; but it's a blog for all to see and I really do hope you enjoy. :))

Sincerely, Avis 🐌🦇

[hey-color-palettes]

📌 Hey! 🌴 Welcome to my color palette blog! 💙🧡💚💜💛

Inbox Size: inbox: ~350 (last updated: Nov 13)

(Wait Time: I'm so sorry guys, I'll do what I can and I love you all very much genuinely but I'm already sacrificing a great deal of sleep to keep up with everything in my life for the past two months and the foreseeable rest of the year, so I'll do what I can when I can, but I can't provide any proper estimates 😔.)

(Posts are tagged with sent-on dates so you can see where I'm at in the backlog!)

Requests are always open! Basic request etiquette:

One palette request per ask, but unlimited asks!

Don't send me a request that's a choice between 2+ things. I will do both/all, so it's functionally the same as a multi-request ask. Just send them separately please.

If you want multiple palettes, send requests for them one ask at a time!!

Requests can be anything! It doesn't have to be names!

Feel free to be as specific as you'd like in your request!

DMs are only for special requests or questions.

Special requests constitute: anything time-sensitive, anything that requires communication with me, anything private that you don't want to post, and anything that otherwise can't fit in an ask.

If you have any questions whatsoever please don't hesitate to DM me! It's really not a bother!

Feel free to send me messages about the status of a request! Please don't send me the same request every few weeks if I haven't made a palette for it yet. I will make a palette for every single one of those asks whether you want me to or not. Just talk to me 😭

That being said, I'm more than willing to make multiple palettes for the same request. However, if you'd rather skip the wait, you can check if I've done something by just searching that name up on my blog!

Please do not send requests for sensitive topics and mature subjects. If a request would require a certain cultural background to create properly, please assume I don't have it!! I will fill requests at my own discretion.

Other:

I do requests in first-come-first-serve order. The time it usually takes for a request to be filled is about a month. If you need a palette more urgently, PLEASE DM ME. I check requests as they come in, but I miss a lot.

I try my absolute very best to make this a good experience for everyone, but please know that I'm extremely busy and constantly under a lot of stress. Please be patient with me.

Given how many people follow this blog, it's effectively a given that people will take issue with me at one point or another. Going forward, I will not humor anonymous asks that take anything I do here in bad faith. I WILL delete them. If I'm due for an education, my DMs and ears are open and I'm more than willing to listen and learn.

If you sent me a nice ask that was not a request, I received it!! I like to keep those so I can look at them while I'm working on new color palettes! I appreciate them a lot!!

Usage facts:

Free to use without credit! Though maybe don't claim the base palettes as is without any modification, but I won't stop you.

Feel free to tag me if you post art, though it's not a requirement! I just love seeing what you guys do!

There's a little more info on the full about page! (use a browser! Tumblr Mobile doesn't like blog pages 💔) It's a little outdated and not fully proofread, but I'll see if I can put this all on a carrd when I have time. (I'm very busy!)

[aleatoryw]

late night niche posting but let's all make fun of ben smith again for old times sake <3

nyt columnist and man I have personal beef with ben smith announced today he's leaving the nyt to make a new media organization. one that will cater to the "200 million people who are college educated, who read in English, but who no one is really treating like an audience". ah yes. of course. that well-known highly underserved market: middle to upper class English speakers

when asked more about what kind of organization this would be, he couldn't clarify whether this would be more akin to a magazine or a newspaper, what sort of news topics they would cover, or what organizations they would be competing with. when asked about the target demographic he said "I think there a lot of people who want to be treated with respect." unlike the rest of us schmucks, who want news organizations to spit directly in our faces before letting us read the headlines I guess.

the one thing the former buzzfeed editor and current buzzfeed stock holder despite the nyt telling him to divest could say is that the new media venture will not be partisan, and the vibes of this comment lead me to believe he's one of the "conservatives have fox, the left has cnn, but where are us big brain free thinking centrists going to get our news?" types.

he also added some vague bullshit about elevating individual journalists' profiles and helping audiences feel connected to them, which large institutions struggle to do. I find that fascinating as he managed to whatever-the-opposite-of-endear himself to wide swaths of people last year by sloppily and in bad faith criticizing one of the most widely liked and respected individual journalists writing today.

lots of white men named brett are wishing him well on the venture on twitter. most women I've seen are not. if you somehow know ben smith you can feel free to tell him queers on tumblr are continuing to make fun of him in the lowest brow, pettiest way imaginable and yes it's about the ronan thing. obviously.

[isthisitbytaylornicole]

"is this it?" BLOG POST #1: hey, you! meet adulthood. the ghetto, if you will...

Author's Note:

First of all, welcome to my blog! It feels so surreal to be saying that because this is something I have wanted to do for so long, but fear, laziness, and "plans" kept me from doing so. I am so happy that you have decided to take time out of your day to sit and read my post. I'm so excited to be able to share these stories with you all about my dirty little cousin, Adulthood. She doesn't mean any harm, she just doesn't know any better. Trust me. I hope you are intrigued by what I have to say and I would love to chat with you in the comments about these topics. Enjoy!

"Don't you find it odd, that when you're a kid, everyone, all the world, encourages you to follow your dreams. But when you're older, somehow they act offended if you even try."

-Unknown (The Hottest State)

I can say, without hesitation, that I was not fully prepared for what adulthood had to offer. She came without remorse, but made sure to bring all sorts of debt, the occasional iffy encounter, and topped it all off with a micro-aggression or two (or ten). In these instances where I was thrown into situations dealing with money, racism, self-identity, relationships, etc., how did I handle these episodes with minimal detrimental impact on my inner psyche? The answer; I didn't because I didn't know how to.

I vividly remember the process of applying to colleges, final senior presentations, deciding what school I wanted to go to, all while being molded in the belief that college was the best option, if not the only option, for young, black, teenagers, like myself, who wanted to be successful. Please don't misunderstand me when I say this. I definitely agree with the fact that as young adults we should be able to take advantage of all the opportunities given to us including continuing an education at a four-year institution and experiencing all that college has to offer like social engagements and freshmen fifteen. However, I do not believe that is the only way to solidify success in a society where situations like going to a four year conventional university have become the norm. While we are molded into believing a four-year college is one of only three options for teenagers of color [the other options being pregnancy or prison as stereotype culture has taught us] we are limited in the knowledge of only knowing how to make it TO college, and not how to be successful THROUGHOUT and beyond college and I am a prime example.

Due to the stigma of black high school dropouts, often times, high schools in cities like Detroit (who primarily house students of African decent) strive for one-hundred percent high school graduation and college acceptance rates ,as apposed to, one-hundred percent college fulfillment and graduation rates. In other words, they don't care how you get home from the party, as long as you were invited. And I mean who can blame them?! While primarily white high schools with students trying to decide if they want to attend either Harvard or Yale are spitting out graduates left and right, primarily black high schools can't even get scantron sheets on time for their junior students to take the SAT, which is it supposed to be an equal opportunity test for all students, accept those with brown skin of course. (This happened at my high school btw.)

Then I get to college only to see that all of my professors are old, white, dirty men, which is not in fact the demographic I grew up within. Is this it? Is this what my parents are paying almost forty-thousand dollars a year for? Is this your King?! 👨🏼‍🏫Well, I'm here now and I guess I need to stick this out. Never mind being one of only four black students in an intro to political science class of almost forty-five. Never mind having a black roommate who didn't know if she wanted to be Ebony or Ivory that day. Her white boyfriend did tell me I had nice skin one day which was nice of him. Never mind me working at the McDonald's right across the street from my dorm my freshman year where almost everyday somebody I knew would come and try to get free food from me. (That didn't really have anything to do with my hardships during my time at college, but it was irritating trying not to get caught smuggling cookies and McFlurries out of the store every other day. I was too nice obviously.) Never mind having to refrain from using any kind of ebonics in order to fit into conversations and/or lectures about political science topics in order to sound more professional and educated to my white peers and professors (A.K.A code switching😶‍🌫�� 🎛). Overall, the majority of my time spent inside the college classroom setting was often done in ways that involved me faking it until I made it, until I didn't make it.

I dropped out of college at the end of my sophomore year and at the time it seemed like my biggest failure. Not only did I feel like I failed myself, I felt like I failed my family and closest friends and quite literally I failed most of my classes😬. Not to mention the thousands of dollars in student loans left for me to pay back which was bound to happen anyways but that is a totally different conversation for another post. (Sallie Mae better hope she don't catch these hands.) I felt like, as do most young adults my age, there was a timeline on my success. If I didn't get that college degree in four years, and have a car and apartment by twenty, my life had no worth. This narrative was brought on not only by my school environment growing up, but it was brought on by the climate that we live in today. As young people, we are so easily influenced by pop culture, social media, YouTube, sports media, our peers, music and so many other ideals constantly bombarding our everyday lives. We're shown these unrealistic almost fantasy-like scenarios in which all you have to do it make a prank video in order to make money and once you have money, fame, and a VLONE shirt, boom, you have worth! Why am I rushing to fulfill these egregious standards set by these dull influencers who can't even spell egregious. Success does not have only one definition. To me, success is defined by your own standards and not society's. And college is not a one stop shop!

The picture of adulthood has been painted so monochromatically that I have at times lost my ability to dare to dream bigger than what has been laid before me with society's crusty hands. Yes I plan on finishing my education at a four year college, but at the time, my college experience would not have allotted me the opportunity to discover the world of Cyber Security and the many job opportunities and networks I've been exposed to.

All in all, take advantage of ALL the opportunities you encounter whether they are laid out in front of you or even if you have to network to find them.

This was just a piece of the perspectives I am excited to offer as I continue to share my stories in this world of blogging and rediscovery. I hope I didn't scare any of you off already because in my next blog piece I will be diving into more aspects of adulthood and the whole notion of relationships(romantic and non); do we really need them tho? and how do we weed out the bad ones and water the fruitful ones?

PLEASE TUNE IN ON TUESDAY FOR MY NEXT INSTALLMENT OF "IS THIS IT?" BY TAYLOR NICOLE AND THANK YOU FOR READING!💛

By: Taylor Nicole

LEAVE YOUR THOUGHTS AND COMMENTS BELOW! I WOULD LOVE TO CHAT.💛

[sinfulspencer]

Hello! I recently found out that one of my friends loves CM and I was wondering if you had any fics, or were planning to do any, with some supper strange criteria lol. Like having a recently post bottom surgery trans-mask y/n, Hotch(?) as a father figure with no connection to the horny, y/n being a kinky bottom for Spencer, something with lots of emotional father son bonding as well as trans comfort stuff... that kind of thing lol. Like just a whole lot of angst with a happy ending smut sort of thing.

P.s. Just in case you didn't know and were curious: The bottom surgery bits wouldn't produce any cum so unless they make some with slime to joke around with there wouldn't be any.

Hello anon, thank you for your request. I've been thinking about this since I received it this morning (here it's almost 1 pm!), because I'm debating whether I should try and write something like you asked or just appreciate the request and respectfully reject it.

I'm cis, so I don't know anything about the trans-community beside the basic stuff a friend of mine told me. I don't think I would do your request justice as a cis person who doesn't know anything, and it would hurt me if I'd end up hurting you with my writings.

I need to be more educated on this topic.

I don't want to offend you, I don't want to hurt anybody's sensitivy and even though I like to challenge myself with different situations, I don't think this is the right topic to start with.

I would love to have a chat with you in my dms about this, because I've been trying to read articles or talk to people from the community here in Italy, but it's tough because I don't know any.

The only person who was trying to educate me on this, ended up deactivating their account and vanishing completely.

I'm sorry to reject your request and unfortunately I don't know any fic like the one you asked.

I'm really sorry.

Please, feel free to DM me whenever you can! I would really like to talk to you. :)

[usertoxicyaoi]

hey faiza!!! i hope you've been having a good day so far 💕 i was scrolling through your replies tag (which i do every other week when i have free time bc you have a beautiful way with words and it helps put my mind at ease for a while) and i thought it was already past the time where i come here and express my gratitude to you (which i tried doing once before but i felt awkward and didn't want to be a nuisance (haha get it?)). ever since i began following, i've learned so so SO much. not only +

+ about the islam and all desi matters (that i had so little knowledge about, shame on me! it's a beautiful culture and i'm so glad i'm able to see a slice of and learn about it through your blog!!), but also about so many other things, whether it be lgbtqia+ topics, just perks of life and even how to be more conscious and educated about the things and pieces of media i consume. i'm just a teenager u kno, whereas you are already a grown woman, so i couldn't possibly compare us as equal, as you certainly have more life experiences and knowledge than i do, and we come from drastically different places; my view of the world is still so limited to my surroundings and where i come from, but it's within the internet that i find a place to learn more about others and make that view of the world be wider, richer and more mindful. god i feel like im derailing, sorry shdhajd, but my point is: i didn't expect to be able to learn so much when i began watching bls again this year, i thought i would watch the shows, follow some blogs for pretty gifs, and that's all. but i was wrong, because tumblr gave me the opportunity to meet and befriend so many incredible people and i was so lucky that you were one of them. i've said this before but, my tumblr experience is so much better whenever i see you on my dash talking about whatever it is, and i look up to you so so so much. i'm not a religious person but the way you talk about the islam, the Qur'an or Allah makes me feel so emotional and it's beautiful to see this deep and passionate connection you have with this religion. and just how incredibly articulated you are when talking about any topic, it always makes me stop scrolling and read all the things you write. i adore reading your thoughts, your opinions and your take on things because they always come from a place of reflection, appreciation and respect, and i admire that a lot. you have such a wonderful and kind soul, it's so inspiring to me to see how you always try to be positive, optimistic and respectful no matter what is in front of you. of course, we don't //really// know each other that well, but the little of you that you pour out and show us is already so beautiful and welcoming 💓 i'm gonna stop now i'm sorry that this is so long goddd i just.... i wanted to thank you for all that you do for those who follow you and how impactful your presence on my tumblr experience has been. (i swear to you, when you followed me back on this blog before i made the sideblog, i legit freaked out lmao my mind was "WHAT??? SHE, WHO'S SO CLEVER AND AMAZING AND TALENTED, JUST FOLLOWED ME? WHEN I HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER?? SJDHSJSJ WHAT" and tbh i still don't know What made you want to be mutuals but i'm glad for whatever it was 💞) i hope all the parts go and im so sorry it's so long shdnksjdj

dawn!!! hello my sunshine!!!!!!!!! i hope you've had a lovely week, and i hope this weekend you take some time off and relax! i hope you're doing well!!!

oh my goodness me i- what have i done to deserve this I DO NOT DESERVE this. thank you so so much for just. being so loving and you are so so wise, i READ your tags, i READ your posts. and i think, despite however old or young people are, there's something to learn from everyone. there's something to appreciate and pick up on and implement and become more aware of and about from everyone's story of life. so don't ever think you may not have much to offer!

this year's been hard. a lot has happened. and i think everything has been a lesson to learn from, and for us to really truly understand what it is that really matters the most to us, and to show gratitude for what we have, all the blessings we have. and its hard to stay positive all the time, and thats okay. sometimes, our sadness needs room and space also where its telling us to just ... take a moment and reflect on why the sadness is there. but i've become so .... adamant that i choose to go back and think positively again. bc although it feels like we've been stripped away from being physically social, i've seen how much goodness and humanity there is still left within people on here, within all my mutuals - and i realised that, as long as there is goodness in this world, there's no reason to give up on hope. people together can make so many things happen.

and part of, i feel, what people should be proud of, is being proud of who they are. not in the arrogant sense, but in terms of WHO you are. what makes you, you. and now more than ever we need to know about one another. about different backgrounds and cultures and religions and beliefs etc. we can become ambassadors of those things, and being an authentic source of knowledge for people. of course, not everyone may like that, but thats okay. knowledge is power and there's so much knowledge out there for us to dip into. by learning from another, we can truly enrich ourselves, find out about commonalities and similarities and differences and contrasts. and ultimately realise that every single one of us has the right to life and the right to live. we can share our sorrow and pain, and also share our moments of joy and happiness too. we may not all agree on the same thing, but that should not sway us from wanting to befriend someone and missing out on an opportunity to get to know someone, just because you may not agree on one thing. there could be 10 things you do agree on vs that 1 that you dont. and that doesnt stop you from being any less you, nor them being any less them. we all deserve respect and kindness, despite our similarities and despite our differences from one place, culture, religion or belief, to the next.

there is just. there is so much good in this world, in nature, in people. we need to celebrate that. we need to appreciate goodness and just. be thankful for everything we have, and anything we get on top of what we have, is a blessing.

thank you so so so much!!! i love youuuuu!!!! 🧡🧡🧡

[loulougoingsolo]

Dang, these memes are dank

I'm, yet again, a day late with my GMM comments. I had a very active day yesterday, considering the fact that I never left my home - but more about that in another post. I also admit, I figured since there's no new GMM today, and I was a little tired last night, I'd take advantage of the "free day".

Yesterday's GMM was one recorded during the quarantine, so that topic is unavoidable in this post, but let's not allow that impact the fact that this was a brilliant, hilarious episode, and a prime example of the resoursefulness and creativity of the Mythical team. But now, let's talk about memes!

I should probably tell you from the start that this post will include quite a few memes. Not sure if they qualify as dank. Probably not. I'm not a meme expert, or even a dank dad. I'm just a girl with a questionable sense of humour and too much time on my hands.

But, lucky for us, someone at Mythical came up with the brilliant idea of educating both us, the viewers, and Rhett and Link in the fine art of memes. Stevie introduces the guys with some classic meme images, and asks them to add the texts to these pictures. The funnier dad meme gets the points, which escalate each round. The loser gets a unflattering meme of himself posted all over the internet.

I haven't quite finished the internet yet, despite the quarantine, but I do appreciate a good meme when I see one. But can two middle-aged guys come up with innovative memes, and most importantly, will Stevie find them funny?

In the first round, the blank meme to use is the confession bear. I laughed way too hard on Stevie's version of this, probably because I just watched a Buzzfeed (😬) video where people tried to guess blindfolded, which scented candle was the Gwyneth one.

I actually think Link's confession about vaping his own burps was pretty hilarious, but somehow, the bear's sad face fits so well with the idea Rhett wears a beard not because he wants to, but because he doesn't want to scare the kids. Also, the more I think about it, the more I feel Link's confession was a bit too gross even for a meme.

I wasn't familiar with the This is how I win meme, probably because I haven't seen the movie, and I don't like Adam Sandler. I love how Link feels it necessary to explain that the meme is actually about how you lose, not win. Such a dad thing to do. But his actual meme is funny. You can hear the frustration in Stevie's voice when she says she has experienced Link being late in real life. Rhett putting a nature doc on for Barbara isn't nearly as plausible.

It's actually very educating to hear the background stories of these pictures. The next meme is Me explaining to my mom. Link saying good night to his shoes reminds me of when I talk to the spiders which cohabit my house. They are just as responsive. But Rhett really went sophisticated with his version. I'm sure he got lots of laughs in the wood community for that one.

In the last round, the meme to use is "Change my mind". Now, I had no clue about who Steven Crowder was, but Stevie calling him a piece of s**t send me to google things, and what I found explains the comment. (I haven't watched that video yet, and I may not be able to. I'm also not sure if I want to.)

Anyways, let's talk about how Link actually feels about Adam Driver. Why would he even care about whether Adam Driver is hot or not? (If you ask me, not.) I question sometimes, if Link is actually a teenaged girl, and not a dad (pulling out an American Girl Doll in More didn't help)- why else would he ask Lily for an opinion about Adam Driver's hotness? I love Link and his strange mind.

But, despite Link's unexpected revelation, he fails to impress Stevie by using hair as floss - and let's be real, it's hard to top anything involving Rhett's wenis. Rhett wins the game, and the meme of Link with the snake is already in circulating the world wide web.

In More, we get an excercise session with Emily. Link loses the coin flip, and has to endure Jade licking peanut butter off of his lips (which really isn't that much of a punishment). I love how everyone in this video call finds the sight of Link and Jade adorable. I mean, look at Rhett, and Emily just went aww.

I love watching these video calls, even if this probably wasn't the most effective excercise video I've seen (but it was the most entertaining). I love Emily's Alf plushie, and I'm a little creeped out by the One-Eyed Tammy. I am slightly concerned by how impressed Rhett is by the hand trick he learned on TikTok - and even more convinced that TikTok is not good for people's intelligence.

But it's good to see that everyone is doing ok. This More made me feel warm in the heart region, too. 💗 (At least until Link brought up Tammy's eye-socket.)

I'm planning to post a little story about my diy hair situation together with comments on how R&L did Alex's hair on GMM tomorrow. There will be pictures of my hair. It is pretty bold, not completely bald, and probably the coolest it's ever been. But until then, stay safe!

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Hi there! I don't know if you have seen it, but if you have, what are your thoughts on the tvshow Euphoria? It stars a trans girl, who is also played by a trans actress, and all the reviews I've read/seen so far are pretty positive. I'm getting into it slowly, cause the show touches on some very dark topics, and sometimes I feel it'll be too much for me. But I'm curious to know what you think of it, since many of your posts have educated me a lot re: the trans community. Thank you

It’s something I want to check out, I’ve got it on my “to watch” list. I just haven’t had much time to watch much of anything lately, but I’m hoping that I can get around to it soon. I’ve tried to keep spoiler-free, but I’ve been told the trans character’s pretty sexual, so I’m curious as to whether it’ll be good rep or fetishistic. The lack of messages I’ve gotten about it so far have me leaning towards it probably being closer to good than bad, but time will tell

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I've decided I will utilize my "definitely 18+" tag a lot more I'm this account considering how big a role sex and drugs (both medical and recreational) play in my life. If you're a minor following me please filter this tag specifically as these posts will be nsfw and involve explicit language or extremely adult topics. I am a grown half-woman (lol I don't think I've ever really explained my personal identity or anything like that since reviving this blog) and I honestly just want to be able to be honest and as open as I can be while still maintaining my privacy and safety. I have a thriving sex life and a unique perspective on a lot of things and I regularly use and discuss the use (and abuse) of substances and I believe wholeheartedly in minors being safe, but I also believe in letting teenagers who are in high school and already have exposure to sexual topics or are already having sex/exploring sexuality, themselves, judge for themselves whether or not something is safe to view or triggering for them. I believe teenagers are often mocked and dismissed as being ignorant and "thinking they know everything when they know nothing" and hormonal. Teenagers are often kept from knowledge because nobody really listens when they speak on mature topics. And generally I believe minors should hold off on exploring BDSM until they are adults, but I don't believe in keeping knowledge from people, even teens, no matter the context. I think if you're old enough to learn about sex or to feel arousal and understand it, you're old enough to learn about more extreme things you can explore once you reach maturity and gain an understanding of the laws, nuances, etiquette, and general rules or misconceptions around sex and sexuality and kink. There's a lack of supportive sex ed for teens (especially teens who aren't necessarily into vanilla things) and I have always believed in education and sharing of knowledge. If you ever have a question about anything I post about, feel free to pitch it no matter your age, but please keep things strictly to education on the topics. It's not appropriate for me to talk about my sex life with a minor as I would an adult. It's not appropriate to expose a minor to sex before they explore the topic themselves or experience it or have questions about it based on learning.

If you see something in porn and want to ask if that's real or accurate or whatever ill happily inform you but I will not be personal with you.

Anyway, that little tangent and offer for help out of the way... Onto instructions!

If you don't know how to filter tags so they don't show up or so that posts with the tag are censored/warn about said tag: the option can be found in your general blog settings for your main blog. It will be labeled as "filtering".

On mobile it looks like this:

And on desktop it looks like this:

To get to this page from the action bar you go into the tab labeled "Account" under "Settings". Then just type the tag you specifically want to filter and voila! You will now see less posts with the tag and all posts involving it will warn you that the post has a filtered tag attached. For ease, the tag to filter is

Definitely 18+

And if you're super worried or in middle school also filter the tag

Maybe 18+??

As those posts are for the YA audience from like 16 to 18+ and are generally just my stoner posts or innuendos tbh. Basically anything I'm not comfortable tagging as definitely 18+ but also that I'm no comfortable leaving untagged lol

I also do have an nsfw blog but I got really paranoid and insecure one day and kind of shut it down for a while lol