#excuse me while I'm experiencing something with this character and I am not a primarily a human artist so all you get is sketches

[juleteon]

Cyrus hands you a glass of Team Galactic Nutritional Protein Shake™

[promptsforyourwhumpfic]

Confession:

kind of bitter with the whump community sometimes because. with my extensive trauma, if my life were a fiction I absolutely could/would be considered a whumpee, and people hate me for it. People don't like how I can't talk about my past bc apparently 'I don't care about them if I don't tell them', but if I ever bring up even the vaguest bits of my past - even just saying "I have trauma" is too much for them and makes people uncomfortable, avoid me, or accuse me of trying to use them as a therapist (when I didn't want to bring it up to begin with)

it just feels so unfair to me that people will love these characters so much for the same reasons that people get deemed inherently unlovable for irl. I'm never going to live a normal life, I may never have lasting relationships or someone who loves me, and I'll probably never live a day where I'm not afraid. I may never have a real 'place' in this world Because of what other, horrible, people did to me. For things that I didn't choose and were out of my control. And I'm outcast for it.

now, I don't have anything against whump in general. I read & write it myself (namely the stuff with comfort at the end, but still). I feel a big kinship with the characters, and usually it soothes my heart seeing that someone like me could still be cared for. could still be considered worthy of love despite their experiences. while their victimhood is the proof that evil exists in the world, something which people Hate knowing, and that they've committed the great sin of not dying from it.

but sometimes I get bitter, maybe in a jealous kind of way? or maybe just salty because I know that so many people who love these characters would hate them if they were real. & this feels like a stupid thing to say, but it's not fair

I’m very sorry you feel this way, anon. Though I’ll be honest, I’m not entirely sure what to say as I can’t speak for the rest of the Whump community - this is primarily because from what I have seen (though my exposure is limited) the Whump community is one of the nicest communities on tumblr.

That being said, I agree with the notion that whump tropes in real life are undesirable - as I am someone who has experienced being socially outcast due to my own issues. Though, I find that a lot of the Whump community are comprised of people with their own traumas and I think that Whump is a cathartic way for them to work through it with fictional characters. I’m not trying to excuse the behaviour that you have experienced, but it may shes a light on why people act the way they do.

But I agree, nonetheless. To a degree I think that people would dislike some fictional characters if they were real, as the emotional and physical toll of looking after them would sink in - when they’re fictional you don’t have to do anything for them: the whumpee is trapped behind a screen and you can choose if you want to ‘deal’ or ‘Interact’ with them whenever you want.

To a point, I think that sometimes people forget that the ailments they write about are real - hell, I even do it. But it takes a certain level of maturity to be able to distinguish your whumpee from a living breathing person that needs more compassion than a text post or a fix it fic. You’re right, it’s not fair that a factional character can get a deeper level of understanding than a real person.

Remember anon, you will always be worthy of love and care.

I hope this is coherent and anyone feel free to add to this discussion in the reblogs/replies.

[asterisquebloomed]

☀ What's your rp pet peeve?

Honestly, WHERE DO I EVEN BEGIN!?

First off, godmodding. Instant way to tick me off. Fortunately it's been rather pleasant here on tumblr ( surprising, I know! ) and only one individual has broken that rule. Said person was also problematic in general. It's a good thing they're gone now.

Second, policing. I haven't experienced this myself thankfully, the lot I associate with are very chill and very accepting people. I've been quite fortunate to avoid the kinds of people who think it's their business to tell others how to write characters. Being a primarily fandomless blog, I don't see people telling me things like "Your portrayal is wrong" or "That's out of character", simply because they're MY characters. I am the authority for what is and what is not in-character for them, and no one can contest that. Despite not being a victim of it myself, I've heard stories from my partners about them receiving such treatment. Can't say I'm a fan. Let people write characters the way they want. It's not going to hurt you any, stop acting like the world is going to end just because someone writes a character a way you don't agree with—or writes something you don't agree with. It's fiction. Calm down.

Third, not tagging stuff. Like, at all. It's painful trying to find stuff on blogs that never tag anything, but more than that, some people have certain things blacklisted for a reason—for their own comfort and mental well being, more often than not.

Fourth, when someone has quite clearly not read your rules or even anything about your muses. I understand forgetting or getting confused, or not reading every single detail related to a character and just skimming their profile to get the gist of a character before throwing one's muse to the proverbial wolves, but if you don't even know the name of the character you're interacting with, then you've proven that you have no respect for the other writer in the slightest. Another thing that regrettably happens far too often is blogs approaching someone seeking explicit content when the person they approached has it very clearly in their rules that they do not write NSFW content. I have unfortunately had to deal with this at least once. Fortunately, I shut it down rather quickly without much complaint other than a rude comment of “why is your muse even talking about lewd things if you’re not going to write lewd things?”, but I’ve heard plenty of horror stories and even witnessed some occur upon the dash. There’s no excuse for not reading someone’s rules. It’s common decency and basic etiquette. If you can’t even show the other person that bare minimum of consideration, then please, just don’t interact with them.

Fifth and final, neglecting and leading your RP partners on. This is straight up manipulation and abuse. While it’s understandable to have muses and motivation wane, and sometimes you’re just not feeling a particular thread or interaction, it’s another thing entirely to make promises you have no intention of keeping. Life is hard at times, and we don’t always have the time or energy to devote to writing. There should never be an expectation of “you have to do this immediately, you owe this person something”. Roleplaying is something we do for fun. We’re here to enjoy ourselves, to make friends and build relationships between our characters, to create a story together. That said, the second that dishonesty takes hold and you begin neglecting your partner and actively avoiding interaction with them is the moment that you start abusing your partner, whether you’re aware you’re doing so or not. If you are not interested in interacting, say so. If you’re no longer feeling a ship, tell your partner. If you’re not comfortable or able to continue a particular thread, talk to the other writer. It’s become too commonplace for people on this site to refuse to communicate on the basis of inflated self-importance. Yes, you need to take care of your own needs first, but there’s a difference between putting yourself first, and treating only yourself as important. There’s a real person behind those blogs, who deserve the same respect you do. Please don’t treat them as machines that are there to serve your needs and nothing more. Communication and understanding are integral for a healthy relationship, and RPing is no different. You don’t have to defend your choices in front of the court, but not saying a word to someone and cutting them off is not only an extreme escalation, but it hurts the person on the other side of the screen. Would you want to be treated that way? I know I wouldn’t. Sadly, I have been treated that way, and I speak from experience, it is never pleasant. Be honest, communicate your needs and boundaries. Don’t tell people “everything is fine” when it isn’t. That’s just lying. A lot of people seem to be deathly afraid of confrontation, to the point they’d rather lie and mistreat people than say no to them, and that is something very saddening. In particular, regarding shipping, please. Please. PLEASE! Do not lead people on. That is one of the worst things you can do. By doing so, you’re letting people invest in something that you have no intention of delivering. I have witnessed this happen, and it was dreadful to watch. This is manipulation, no exceptions.