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starkidlabs · 7 months

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Men over 40 please stop trying to be my friend.

#it’s this sort of situation where I see these people on ocassion irl and I will talk to them - I’m fine talking to them - then they’ve #started messaging - and like I’m fine messaging them once or twice a week - but I don’t want anything to go further #it’s like one of them is now messaging me 5+ times a day and the other is kinda asking me out for a coffee and I do not want to do that #they’re both perfectly nice people - and are sort of friends with my sister and her bf - but I also don’t want them to be anything other #than sort of acuaintances - I’m like 24 so I’m really wary of being friends with people who are quite a bit older than me when they aren’t #properly work colleagues #especially when they are single men #like please do not take advantage of my niceness I do not want you to do that

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langernameohnebedeutung · 1 year

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ngl, I'm beginning to take issue with how in conversations about anti-intellectualism almost automatically, the face of girls and women will be slapped on the problem.

#'all those tiktok girls who only like marvel films and' - why do you always say girls and women? are the guys filling opera halls instead?#'women in their mid 20s who still only read YA novels' okay sure that's an example and relevant discussions can be had #but it reminds me of the mocking tone in which people speak of 'chick-lit' to use women's interest as an indicator of lower value #while in fact women are reading more than men in EVERY single genre of fiction. Women are doing a lot of (often unpaid) labour #supporting libaries supporting theatres supporting cultural events #meanwhile there is a pretty big overlap between toxic masculinity and anti-intellectualism #(especially misogyny and homophobia)#especially when it comes to things like ballet or opera or musical or generally dance #in fact it is often the female investment in specific things that makes them less 'valuable' in general consciousness #for thousands of years the theatre was well-respected and a high form of art - and now it's a 'wife-thing'#the father who will teach his son that theatre and dance are for girls - how is that never an example for anti-intellectualism

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uncanny-tranny · 11 months

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Men, it's fucking normal to have stretch marks and even cellulite. It's normal to not have a flat stomach, to have body acne (especially because of hormones/puberty), to have unbalanced hair distribution along all parts of your body. It's normal to have deep hair lines, to have thin hair, for hair to regrow odd.

Very, very few of us will live in this world unscathed. You owe nobody the conformity of man. So many problems that are seen as "womens-only" occur in men, too, because it is a part of the human condition to have weird bodies.

#positivity #body positivity #body neutrality #it's especially weird when people think things like stretch marks can ONLY occur in women* like.#men* you are NAUGHT allowed to have skin (sarcasm)#this isn't even about positivity for trans men* and trans male* bodies either because this is just... a human thing #it occurs in trans men* and cis men* and people who are across every single country #male/female and man/woman aren't like... seperate species of animal

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damn-iwantedtobecalledmystique · 23 days

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The Same by Medical Pilot is such a good ship song and it can be applied to all the best X-Men ships

#it's especially a good Cherik song #“you and i are the same”#“without you my lungs wont fill ill grow frail and become ill”#“i dreamed that i was brave enough to tell you how i feel someday”#“when you laugh i come undone”#“im terrified youre the one”#idk the vibes my guy the vibes #it's also a good poolverine song too #poolverine #cherik #scogan #havshee #halex #mcsummers #havwin #literally cant think of a single other x-men ship #anyway this has all been a ploy to get more people to listen to Medical Pilot /j #they're so good and deserve more fans

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sciderman · 5 months

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Sometimes i remember a comics moment i randomly came across somewhere, where Sam Wilson mentiones a musical and Steve Rodgers says he doesn't like musicals, to whitch Sam goes "Guess that means you really are straight" and even tho i don't care about Cap America or the Avengers, the moment stuck in me for that quote by Sam. And like....Sci, any ideas if straight men actually don't like musicals or is that bullshit?

actually i think i know more gay men who hate musicals than i know straight men who hate musicals. i've had a drag queen stop me point blank when i was about to sing a barbra streisand song, and i know so many gays who pointedly hate abba. so based on my experience i think the inverse is true. most of the straight men i know are kind of impartial about musicals, but gay men? hate.

my theory is that a lot of gay men don't want to fall into stereotypes, maybe. but thaaaaat's just a theory! a gay theory.

#sci speaks #i'm trying to understand the gays. they are a mystery to me.#i've seen a lot more toxic masculinity coming from gay men than i have from straight men.#i think it makes sense. they have less women in their lives. so they reckon with a lot more masculinity. more dick measuring.#also gay men have some of THE most unhealthy romantic relationships i've ever seen in my life.#this isn't a blanket statement on everyone but just from what i've seen. it's such a strange pattern i've observed.#lesbians? healthy. straights? usually healthy. gay men? universally a tire fire that makes me say “if you hate each other so much ??”#“why are you together??????????”#i have never met a cis gay mlm couple in real life that was healthy. every single one of them made my eyes widen in horror.#i want them to be healthy. please treat each other better.#the number of bitchy bitchy fights i've seen between mlm couples in public that make me so terrified #but i know mlm relationships in general are usually less... affectionate than wlw relationships. even and especially friendships.#just an observation.#i hate to say that there is a definite difference between amab vs afab experiences when it comes to relationship dynamics but.#of course there is. there is. as much as i want to say gender and sex do not matter. it really does.#it makes a difference. it does.#which is kind of why i'm glad i was born in the body i was. when people say “trans means you feel you were born in the wrong body”#im like.. i don't think that's true. i don't think that's true for me.#i wouldn't be me if i wasn't born the way i was. and i want to be me. but i'm a boy. i'm a boy but in the body that i have.#my body is still a boy's body. because i live in here.#sorry this went off on a tangent.#but yeah i know my brain would be different if i was amab. and i don't want all those other issues.#i think the only reason i'm so peaceful and serene is because i'm afab. and afabulous.#i see cis guys and im like.. yeah i don't want what you got.#once again! lucky to be me! i'm lucky. im lucky i have a vargooba. thank fuck for that!#couldve been so much worse off. could've been born with a dick and would be fighting for my life right now.

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bringslife · 3 months

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so tired of seeing ppl (non rp fandom) complaining about the doctor crying whenever he’s in an emotionally traumatizing situation.

#out.#one ncuti is amazing at it & its natural & not that dumb masculin one single tear so why wouldn’t we encourage talent #two enough of this toxic masculinity of not allowing men to feel their emotions and cry during situations that are emotionally traumatizing #three its very telling to me that the ppl are complaining about a black man crying its very similar to how trek & xpants fandom respond to #michael & naomi for having emotions #its also annoying bcs fandom didnt like how little jodie’s doctor displayed emotion but now arent happy bcs ncuti’s doctor is displaying #emotion which is it you want ? emotionally repressed or not #not to mention if we look at how 13 avoided any negative emotions & if we are going by canon that 15 is the healthier doctor aha #do ppl not realize what happens after you repress your feelings for so long & what happens when you are moving towards healing & facing #those emotions ?#to me it makes sense narratively for the doctor to be dealing with his emotions at a hightened state considering how much 13/14 couldnt #deal with their trauma & emotions #aside from the fact this doctor is still traumatized / not dealing with his emotions lol but thats not really relevant here #negative /#especially when the majority of the time we do see him cry hes either in an emotionally traumatizing situation like stepping on a LANDMINE #or maybe the various times he thought he had lost ruby & she was DEAD #or how about the time the space racists didnt want to be saved by him because they were racist

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born-to-lose · 3 days

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Why the uglier the boyfriends the bigger the ego of the girlfriends like honey I would not be proud of having pulled That 💀

#one of the besties got a really ugly bf twice her age and internally i'm like noooooo #apparently he treats her well but i'm waiting for the tea to be spilled bit by bit and tell her i told her so lmao #but other than that i mean when i see random girls outside with the ugliest rat creatures i've ever seen and they feel the need to #publicly 'claim' them and make out with them and stare down other women i just think i am not jealous at all babes please keep him 😭😭😭#I KNOW looks aren't everything and i hate people who think that way and I KNOW i'm not conventionally attractive either #but a lot of people who made me feel like less of a person because i'm fat were men so i'll take any chance to roast men back #especially since so many of them insist on having a hot partner when they're the polar opposite and look like someone i'd only divorce #call me picky or some shit idc i really just wanna be left alone and pretty much enjoy being single most of the time #mel talks

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magstorrn · 1 year

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about to leave a scathing review for a historical fiction book on goodreads (felt so strongly about it i made an account for the first time) then chickening out once i realised i'd put down my full name and i dont want to offend the author TOO much in case we end up working in the same field as historians

#missives #i admire her a lot too which sucks but holy shit. this book is bad its SO bad #maybe i'll post my review here just to get it out of my system #in essence its a book about a real historical figure but shes written in this way where literally all she ever does is serve men #and have babies continuously #and we're meant to believe she's fallen in love with her dropkick of a husband who does fuck all and is constantly abroad #and like. of course i can believe that's how some women were especially given their religious inclinations #but i could feel the feminism leaving my body the longer i read the book like it is that bad i felt like i was being brainwashed #it starts good like it goes into her childhood and relationship with her siblings #but then she just turns into her husband's mother essentially and its so revolting. and it doesnt even feel authentic? like #none of these people feel like real people. they dont fight they dont have nasty thoughts they are so fucking sanitised #i dont know what i expected.jpeg #and this woman is a historian!! she has a phd!!#yet she gets basic things wrong to an immersion-breaking degree #the whole thing is set during the civil wars but she NEVER talks about there being surgeons i have not seen a single mention of a surgeon #shes always referring to doctors and physicians but it's becoming apparent to me that when she says physician #shes just using it as an old timey word for doctor not because she properly understands the 17th century medical hierarchy #fucking hell. im so mad

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rainbowonice · 4 months

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uhm wonder what the difference between all the couples on the show vs buck and tommy is mhm

#they never had a single sit down type of interview ever #and for an episode that is very much NOT about them two is a choice.#bathena madney and henren never got interviews like that MHMMM #it’s legit so. ruined my while mood and my night i was about to go to sleep happy but now im just :) ye….#the racism the misogyny the lesbianphobia where suddenly when its about lesbians no one cares but its its MEN especially White Men then!#911 #911 on abc

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musical-chick-13 · 10 months

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Fandom be normal about bi women challenge (impossible. apparently.)

#look. I too am tired of (white) men getting praised for the bare minimum #but you all do realize that sometimes women do genuinely fall in love with men right #that women are capable of making their own decisions about who they date right #this is one of the reasons that I hate the 'genuinely I hate every single individual man' rhetoric #because so many times it goes hand in hand with this infantilization of women who are attracted to men #it's like 'oh these poor girls trapped in their attraction to men' and then like...treating them as if they are incapable of making informe #choices? like they're just inherently doomed to gravitate toward awful men because they Don't Know Any Better and are #Brainwashed By Society??? please tell me you understand why treating women as if they are too stupid to make their own decisions #is just misogyny again. you understand that right. RIGHT.#'why would you CHOOSE to date a man instead of doing the RESPONSIBLE and PROGRESSIVE and REVOLUTIONARY thing and date a woman!'#because sometimes. women fall in love with men. you can't. you can't will love into existence. you can't control who you fall in love with.#and people-if it's feasible-tend to want to commit to someone they have actual feelings for. what's not clicking here.#(and yes obviously this is a niche-queer-spaces-specific problem people don't have discourse about this in this way irl like the #general population isn't telling me I should only ever be attracted to women and date one solely For The Cause they don't want me #to be interested in women at all. that doesn't stop me from being annoyed every time I see said niche-space-specific ''''take'''')#it's especially confusing to me when BISEXUAL PEOPLE are like this about other bisexual people. like you of all people. should know #how maligned we are from multiple conflicting angles #In the Vents #biphobia #like I know I talk SO much about women and how I want to marry one but that genuinely is just because historically I have been more #attracted to women than men. if I meet a man I click with and fall in love with then hell yeah I'm gonna date him and be happy about it.#I'm not opposed to that outcome at all. but heaven forbid I ever say that lmao

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godtears · 6 months

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There's not enough love or rep of trans men who are feminine, trans men with bigger breasts, trans men that are fat, trans men that have PCOS, trans men that have skin conditions, trans men that have longer hair, trans men that wear dresses, trans men that are also nonbinary, trans men who aren't white, etc... So this one is for all the trans men out there that are under appreciated and under represented. I'm kissing you on the forehead and I'm also your mom/dad/parent now.

#Trans #Trans men #Nonbinary #Queer #As a nonbinary trans masc/trans man #Especially one who is fatter and has breasts #It actually lowers my self esteem when I cannot find a single thing of rep for us #I only find people saying awful things about us 😞

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crimeronan · 2 years

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honestly if i'd read dreamer trilogy first and you then told me that the trc character i'd relate to most would be adam........ i would straight-up hit u with a truck.

#men who are somehow me but do literally nothing i would ever do ever #if i'd read dreamer trilogy alone i'd be like wow. when can we push him off the roof #when do i get a gun and shoot him. when do i drop kick him into the boston harbor #he's enchantingly unlikable. there's not a single thing about him that i would like or get attached to #and because i read trc first it's very fun. yass go off king be a miserable useless shell of yourself. Slay #negative character development it up my good bitch!!#is this a risky post. it shouldnt be. you all read the same books right. you saw what hes like right #trc #cdth #greywaren spoilers #????#maybe. but this feeling wouldve started in cdth and just continued #i'm biased against ivy league bitches i'm ESPECIALLY biased against ivy league bitches who think theyre too good to be rural hicks #my rural uneducated dropout ass that could demolish you in a debate about libertarianism like. Literally Die.#Just Literally Die Dude.#this isnt hate. as i said. it's enchanting.

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iman-92 · 1 year

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ngl telling me you like me but not being obsessed with me is a major character flaw :/

#I don’t care if I’m too grown for this lmao #i cannot maintain interest in nonchalant people to save my life #especially when men don’t slap like that to begin with lol #but I’m also the same person who gets the ick when someone is up under me so take what I say with a pinch of salt lol #basically I’m just gonna be single forever

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hoss-bonaventure · 2 years

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bitches will see a sapphic ship and act like their miranda rights are being taken from them